I work as a Customer Laison Complaints Case Officer at a major insurance company, where I have worked for 3 years. I left school when I was 17, as I had some very bad experiences at school and wanted to see what the real world had to offer.
I now live with my boyfriend of 3 years and spend my spare time reading, writing, socialising with friends or just watching some TV.
Times are still hard and I'm trying to cope with various health problems on a daily basis but I'm working my way through things and really want to stop it from getting me down.
I dream of some day going to America and watching a real baseball game (we don't have that at all in the UK) and perhaps finding a job I find creatively fulfilling. Until then, I'm happy trying to be me and making the best of what I have.
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When ever my boyfriend and I become "mutually excited", I get really into it for the first hour to 45 minutes but then I just lose interest. This has happened with all of my previous boyfriends. The reason I ask now is that my sudden change in enthusiasm seems to upset my current partner, and I really care about him. What can I do to keep myself from losing interest (this happens no matter how much pleasure i am in)? what is wrong with me?
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I doubt that there is anything wrong with you, especially if the same thing has happened throughout your sexual history.
It sounds to me more as though you just have a low boredom threshold. So no matter what you are doing, you can only sustain interest in it for so long. Some people are just like this, so I really wouldn't worry about it. I once had a friend who could really enjoy sex and keep one eye on the TV at the same time!! I think it's more of a woman thing. This is just a theory of mine but statistics show women multitask more often and more efficiently than men and I expect that this constant doing-two-things-at-once contributes to problems such as your own. You're so used to doing a lot all at the same time, that even when you're highly aroused and in the middle of something intimate, you begin to lose interest.
That's really just a theory but what I would suggest is that you really need to talk to your partner about it. Explain that it isn't that you don't enjoy it but more than you just can't do it for great lengths of time because you lose interest in things too fast. Be VERY careful how you phrase this because if you it comes out wrong, it will put a huge dent in his ego.
Perhaps you could try introducing new things into the bedroom, whether it's paraphenalia or just new positions but try to make sure you only introduce them when you feel yourself begin to lose interest. Hopefully, this will put a little spark back in. Otherwise, you and your partner will just have to accept that while it feels very nice, you can't do it for longer than an hour (which, by the way, is more time than the average lovemaking session by over 20minutes).
Most importantly, just make the most of the time you are sharing in the bedroom, rather than worrying how long it takes.
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alright so im (15/f) and all of my friends have done stuff with boys. i havent. is that wierd? i think im just scared because once i find someone i really like i dont wanna be like hey yeah i dont know what the heck im doing! lol soo what should i do. (link)
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Oh my goodness, it definitely is not weird! It's fantastic!! Put it this way, in years to come, all your friends are going to look back and say "Oh my GOD!! WHY did I do that with HIM?! I wish I'd waited..." and you will be able to lean back, smile and say "I did!"
The problem is that young people today are in such a hurry to grow up and sometimes that isn't a bad thing but when it comes to anything of a sexual nature, it is almost always very bad. The problem is that anything sexual means being vulnerable and open and honest with another person and at 15, you are too young to behave that way with another person. I know that might sound patronising, and if so, I apologise. However, there are such great benefits to waiting.
For starters, can you imagine having baby at 15/16/17? Some of your friends might not have a choice imagining it, with the massive rise in teenage pregnancies and the majority of couples that have children at that age split up within 3 years of the child's birth. Waiting means you have a greater chance of ensuring that if such a fate did befall you, it would be at a time when you are in a happy, healty and secure relationship and are of an age where you could cope with being solely responsible for another life.
Please don't worry about what everyone else is doing because at the end of the day, none of that will have any long term effect on you. Acutally following what all your friends are doing could have huge long term consequences to you. In this life, you only get one shot at a first time and it only takes one mistake for things to go horribley wrong. In other words, it's great that you have a smart head on those shoulders of yours and I really don't think you should worry about this. You are doing the right thing. When in time, a guy comes along that you think is truly worth it, you will be so glad you waited before doing anything with a guy.
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I have a large mole which is larger than any other on my body. It is located near the vagina just above my thigh. It is oval shape and sticks out the skin. I am worried this is cancerous. But i've had it for years. I'm just not sure if it has grown in size.
Is it canerous? or am I worrying over nothing? (link)
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If it has not clearly grown in size or changed colour, become itchy or sore in any way, then the chances anything is wrong with it are very slim. However, the rule of thumb with these sorts of matters are that you should always get any concerns checked out.
What I would recommend is that if you are particularly concerned about this mole, you could speak to your doctor about having it removed anyway, as a preventative method. This is fairly common practise and as far as I am aware, not a painful procedure so if you are worried, see if you can have this done.
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I'm feeling bad about something. Well last night after work one of my friends asked me if I'd like to go out to the bar to meet one of her single guy friends. She said he was really nice but he had a handicap- he walks with two canes. Well I met him and he was a nice guy- he kept engaging me in converstation. What I didn't like was he seemed a little pushy- he was already asking what I was doing on my day off and wanted my number. I gave it to him out of guilt. Honestly I was not attracted to him- his handicap had nothing to do with it. Anyways I told my friend afterwards that he was a nice guy but I didnt want to date him- she said "why"? He would treat you like gold- and thinks it's because of his handicap. I told her I just didnt feel a chemitsry. She said she understands. Anyways- what am I going to do when this guy phones me? (link)
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When he phones, you just need to tell him the truth. The fact is that you don't view him as really being any different to any other guy so act the same way you would with any other guy. Explain he's really lovely and you would like to be friends but there just isn't any chemistry. That way, he knows that his handicap isn't what bothers you at all, because you are still happy to see him as a friend.
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how come when people get menopause they are moody? (link)
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Basically, the hormones that your body produces which affect your moods are slightly less balanced when you go through puberty and menopause. This is why there are what people call 'moody teenagers' and 'crabby old women'! It's not something that can be controlled easily, although when going through the menopause, you can be supplied with HRT medication to help balance the oestrogen levels. A lot of women choose not to take HRT, however, as it has been said to increase the likelihood of breast cancer.
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I have red dots all over my skin (its not razor burn) I have them on my arms and legs mainly. I have tried many types of creams including olay quench (that has worked the best) and i use moisterizing body wash (I have also tried many brands of bady wash) The thing is whenever I use the cream my skin feels really soft and smooth but I still see red dots. I was wondering what i could do to make them go away.
Thanks in advance! (link)
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It does sound a lot to me like dry skin, as I get exactly the same problem on my upper arms and all up and down my legs.
Like you, I tried many different moisturising creams and none worked. Then, one day I ran out and I used a moisturising foot cream from Boots. I used it in the morning when I got up and before I went to bed at night and within 3 days, the red spots had totally disappeared on my legs and almost gone on my arms.
I would suggest that rather than sticking to the normal moisturisers, go for a foot moisturiser. Mine was from Boots but I don't know if you are in the UK or US. If you are from the US, try to find a good foot moisturiser, preferably with seaweed proteins, as I think this may be what helped. If you live in the UK, it's Boots own Foot Moisturiser. A sort of turquoise colour in a clear plastic round tub.
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i recently began shaving my bikini area. so im itchy, but there are no red marks. also now ive been discharging extra (i dont think that has anything to do with it, but maybe) and that only makes it more irritated down there.
why am i so itchy? (link)
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It sounds like the discharge is probably just a coincidence. Sometimes the body just produces more than normal. However, if it starts to produce an offensive odour or becomes discoloured at all, make sure you see a doctor.
The itching is perfectly normal, with or without the red marks, as it is caused by the hair growing back. Because that part of the body is sensitive and the hair is very course, the regrowth can badly irritate the area, causing a terrible itching. There is not a lot to do about this unfortunately, but you should make sure you use an unfragranced moisturising lotion twice a day when the hair is growing back, which may help to ease it a little.
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What are some brands of mascara that make eyelashes REALLY long? I have an okay mascara by Clinique, but it gets kind of gloppy. So could you write if you have any preferable types that fit the description? (link)
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The best mascara I have found is the Rimmel Volume Flash Mascara. I only know that in the UK it is around £4.00, depending on what shop you buy it in. In the US, this should make it within your price range.
You say the mascara from Clinique gets 'gloppy', so I thought I would share this with you. If you place the mascara in warm to hot water for a minute before applying it, it should make it a little softer and less 'gloppy'. Also, try not to pump the wand in and out of the bottom part, as it is the introduction of air into the mascara that makes it dry up.
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hey everyone! this may sound gross but im 13/f and my arm hairs are like very dark brown and almost black. its not like its a little hair, its a ton! it looks gross and its very dark. i do not want to take on waxing/shaving or any type of hair removal. i just was wondeirng if i bleached it blonde would yu still be able to see teh large amount of hair? also it is worth my time? what are the pros and cons of it? this question is especially directed to this who have experience wiht this type of thing. cait♥ (link)
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It may be that you suffer from a condition (of which I'm afraid I can't remember the name), whereby the body produces an overgrowth of hair. As far as I am aware, there is no real treatment for this. On the other hand, it may be that you just have inherited genetics that mean you produce more hair in areas than others.
Whatever the reason, your best bet if you are uncomfortable with it would be to use a hair lightening cream. There is a cream by Johnsons, I believe, which makes the hair appear lighter and thinner and this would probably be very beneficial to you. Next time you are near a shop that sells cosmetics and toiletries, have a look in the depilatory section, which should prove a number of items that may be suitable for you. If you cannot find anything that seems adequate, try speaking to a pharmacist and see if they can recommend anything.
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whats wrong with me its like i always have a boner and everything i do to try to get rid of it doesnt work it wont go away
please help rate high (link)
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Are you in your early to mid teens and going through puberty? If so, this would be why this is happening to you. I know that it is probably very embarrassing but it is perfectly normal and a phase that will pass with time.
Unfortunately, there really is no way to kill it when it's 'up' without forcing yourself to think of something very unappealing. If you can't do that, the only thing you can do is wait for it to go away.
Try to make sure that you wear thick trousers or jeans for a while, as this will help to conceal these embarrassing moments. However, if it carried on for more than a month or if it becomes painful and won't go down at all, you should speak to your Doctor to ensure there is nothing wrong. You can never be too careful.
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ok yea that was corney but I have a question...At nights when I can be at home with my husband I like to straighten my hair, wear cute pajamas and NO make~up... Problem is I have extremley dark circles around my eyes it looks like I am seriously malnourished but im not! What can I do to make them go away? I've heard of cucumbers but exactly what's there purpose? I'll rate high as the sky (22/female) (link)
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People apply a cucumber slice to each eye because it has properties which mean they work as a good moisturiser and the fact they are so cold means they can reduce puffiness in eyes.
However, for reducing black circles under the eyes, the best thing is a good under eye cream that is made specifically for the job. Unfortuantely, I don't know the names of any of these creams. However, as I understand Oil of Olay, L'oreal and Clinique all manufacture such creams so if you go to your local cosmetics store, they should be able to get you what you need.
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do you think its bad that ive never had a boyfriend or have never kissed someone when im 14 getting ready to be 15? (link)
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Not at all! In fact, I think it's brilliant! You know, I was 17 when I had my first kiss and I don't regret it at all because half of my friends got their first kiss with some pre-pubescant boy at a school disco, who they never saw again. As it was, my first kiss was with a guy I am still with more than 3 years down the line and am living with!
The fact is you only get one first kiss and you should never do it for the sake of it. Make it a good one, make it special and make it with someone you really like.
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my mom got a phone call she doesnt know from who but she says it was some white guy(i dont talk to any white guys so idk who it even was) that told her that i wasnt a virgin and that i had sex my bf at his house and that i thought i was pregnant and that i am on birth control. more then half of that was a lie thank god she believed me but now she wants to get me checked out. she took away one pack of my birth control and told me i shouldnt be takin them. (against my religion to have sex be4 gettin married) and i was almost done wit that pack so idk f it wil fuck my body up. and since i couldnt tell her i got them from planned parent hood i told her some person at school gave us them as a sample. now she wants to go to my school and find out who gave it to me. she thought i had school today when i really didnt. i wrote a note sayin i was goin to go to school instead got on the buss meet up with my boyfriend went to the beach and after when he had to go back to school i went to my best friends house. i am scared for my life right now. i throw away ALL condoms,birth control pills(a whole years worth), and the day after pill ( i am amd about that because i wanted to keep them just in case. ANY ADVICE?? (link)
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I'm sorry because I know this isn't what you want to hear but your Mum is just trying to look out for you. Regardless of whether this person was lying to your Mum, the fact is that you are having underage sex which is also against your religion. Not only are you breaking the law but you're contradicting the beliefs your Mother raised you to have and she is every bit entitled to react this way.
Now, the best thing you can do to try to fix this situation is the one thing you will not want to do. You need to talk to her about it and be completely straight with her. Say "Mum, yes, I have been having sex. I know I'm underage and I know it's against our religion but I wanted to do it and I did. I'm sorry if I hurt you at all." If you really want my advice, you should really tell her that you skipped school as well because if someone really is out there keeping an eye on you like this, you need to tell her before someone else does.
Yes, Planned Parenthood will most likely be able to supply you with some more birth control pills but I would STRONGLY recommend that you abstain from sex until you are old enough to do it legally now. It's good to hear that you have been responsible about it, as a lot of young girls don't put themselves on the Pill. However, the fact still remains that you are only 15 and by lying to your Mother and doing these things, you're making life very difficult for yourself. You say that you are scared for your life right now. Would you have been in this position if you had held off from having sex until you were older? Or if you had talked to your Mother about it? The truth of the matter is that this is the sort of situation that arises when you break the law and lie to people snd skip school.
The best thing you can do now is to try to sort the situation out. Don't have sex at least until you are 16, talk to your Mother and apologise for what you have put her through and tell her you skipped school. Also, make sure that you catch up on anything you missed at school because I promise you that if you fall behind now, you will regret it for years to come. Sadly, I am saying this from experience, so try to work it all out like this and everything will calm down.
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Since my ex and I broke up less than a year ago, all of my closest friends remained on speaking terms with him. Only one of my close friends (and roommate!) remains on speaking terms with us both.
I have been baffled as to why they havent called me in almost a year, why they are pretending I no longer exist. I fear its because they are "weirded out" by my new relationship with a guy friend of us all. But, hey, its not like I have ever liked all the skanks they dated-I didnt let it affect our friendships.
Additionally, I recently found out my ex is marrying some foreign woman and this has been a wierd time for me. I do not desire a relationship with him but I definitely feel weird and sad about it in a way-and that ties into my lost friendships, which I lost to him. Sometimes I couldnt give a damn and other times, I am wracked with sadness.
I feel really abandoned and I've made new friendships and made a new life but why does he get to have MINE? I respectfully parted ways with him never thinking I'd lose life as I knew it. I'm just feeling very resentful and sad sometimes and I'm unsure how to cope. Do I confront, or has too much time passed? Part of me just wants to stand in front of them and go, "Hey, I didnt die! Its OK to be friends with us both, esp. considering I've been friends with you guys for years upon years before him!" And the other part absolutely does not want their friendship because when the chips were down, they headed for the hills.
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You poor thing!!! You have every reason to be upset. It sounds as though you have a lot on your plate right now and with it all going on at the same time, it sounds like you are actually coping very well.
You are probably upset about your ex marrying this girl because he is moving on and finding a successful relationship elsewhere and perhaps you're upset because you don't feel yourself headed in the same direction? You're not jealous of her because you don't want her back but you're jealous of what they have and that he was able to find it so easily. If this sounds right, please don't worry. I know things seem bad right now but they will pick up as soon as you have worked out how to deal with everything that is going on and put some of the spring back in your step.
Your friends (or not such friends) are a major factor in what is going on at the moment. There you were with some people that you thought would always stand by you and they've up and left you. To be totally honest with you (and I am always honest), you really can't blame your ex for the manner in which they have cut you off. The fact is that it was their decision and not his. If they had wanted nothing to do with him, they couldn't have been persuaded away. I know you possibly want a reason to really hate him right now but don't pick the lack of loyalty of your friends because I truly don't think he is to blame for this. They are the ones who abandoned you, not him.
I get the impression from your message that you don't want them back but you want closure on the situation. You just want to know WHY they disappeared. It is perfectly okay to want this and if you ask me, it's reasonable to ask for this but be warned. It's risky territory. You may find out things you don't want to hear and it may make the situation worse. I had a similar problem and when i confronted my friends about it, they said they had never meant to exclude me but I was never around or available. If you ask an honest question, you have to expect an honest answer and be able to cope with it, whatever it is. Whether it's "I'm sorry but I just can't stand you!" or "You just have REALLY bad breath!" or "Of COURSE I still like you and want to see you! Why would you think otherwise!?"
I would recommend you try to arrange one mass get together with all the friends in question and see how it goes. Perhaps it will negate all your fears but if it doesn't then you need to say something to them about it after the event. Just calmly ask one of them something along the lines of "I got the impression that you weren't really having fun the other night. Are things okay between us?" After that, whatever the answer, try to let it go and don't dwell on it. If they really have abandoned you and it's not a case of crossed wires, you can definitely do better and the chances are you will when you manage to scrape back some of your confidence, which I know is shaken right now.
Try to walk with your shoulders back, your head held high and remind yourself that you are a good person, worthy of all that is good in life. Things could pick up for you sooner than you think.
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look my sister emailed my guyfriend and said i hated him but thought he was hot! and said it was from me!!!!!!! even though thats not the way i fell!he always ignores me and won't talk to me even though i've explained a 17870 times that it was form my sis!!!! were going on hoil together and worried it's going to be weird! what can i do so thinks are back to normal!!!!
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I know this won't be what you want to hear but the truth is there is very little you should do. More to the point, why should you try to do more? I understand that he thinks something about you that isn't true but you've done everything you can by trying to explain the situation to him. If you keep on about it, it might make the situation worse so the best thing to do now would be to back off completely.
At the end of the day, if he wants to believe you, he will and if he doesn't then he won't and there is really nothing you or anyone else can say to change that. As you go through life, people say things about you a LOT when they aren't true and you just have to try to rise above it. I know that it sounds like a load of rubbish to say that but the truth of the matter is you have NOTHING to explain because you didn't do anything wrong. Anyone who knows you will believe you and anyone who is willing to believe something that you have denied is true to such an extent is really not worth knowing anyway.
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I am divorced and my son spends most of his time with his mother. I asked my son if he wanted to go to a Mets game with me (we both love baseball). At first he said yes, then a few days later he asked me if one of his friends could come along. My problem: I don't get to spend a lot of time with my son, and I was looking forward to the game as a chance for us to spend time together. I know that if his friend comes along I will feel like a "fifth wheel". My son spends a lot of time with his friends, and I don't think it is necessary for him to bring his friend along. What should I do? (link)
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I understand your position. If you don't get to spend much time with him, the little time you have is precious. It's not that you want to stop him from seeing his friends, it's more that this is your quality time together that is being encroached on.
To be honest with you, although all children need to understand they can't always have their way, this might be one occasion where you will need to say yes. I know it's the unfavourable option but my reasoning behind it is simple. Children are always selfish until they reach a certain age. I say that with no disrespect to your son but the way he has thought about this is "Great! Dad's taking me to a ball game! I wonder if .... can come too?!" The very idea that you might have wanted to spend the time with him alone probably has never even occurred to him.
The problem with this is that there is really no way to approach this subject with him and say that his friend can't come without ending up the bad guy. There are too many times in life where this happens to the parents so you need to minimise them and pick your battles wisely so that when a bigger issue comes along (dating/breaking curfew/etc), you can look like the bad guy without such a risk of any permanent damage being done to the relationship.
So my suggestion is simple. Let him bring his friend to the ball game and try to have fun. Yes, I do realise this means your time with him is compromised but look at it this way. You show him you are happy for him to have his friends round, his friend thinks you're a great guy for letting him come and your son has more desire to see you and spend time with you as a result. That gives you the perfect opportunity to slip in a day together where you can make a firm point of the words "Just you and me". Perhaps you can even negotiate with his Mother and see if you can go on a short trip together.
You should always make the most of your time together but also realise that he has friends he wants to see all the time and unfortunately, that will sometimes get in the way of his spending time with you. The chances are that some day, he will thank you for all the sacrifices you have made.
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i straighten my hair every day, so it's pretty dry at the ends especially near the front.i use panteve pro v daily moisture renual conditioner and shampoo but it doesnt help. once my hair dries, its gets frizzy and poofy. i want to get leave in conditioner, but near my scalp gets greasy pretty easily(like if i skip washing my hair for a day or 2) so would leave in conditioner help my hair and not make it greasy? (link)
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The only way you will be able to prevent your hair from getting greasy so quickly is to wash it less. I know that greasy hair feels disgusting but the fact is that washing and straightening it every day means your body produces more of the oil onto your scalp to maintain the moisture levels.
If you really want to prevent your hair from suffering bad damage, you need to try to straighten your hair less. Believe me, I know that's not as easy as it sounds because my hair is VERY frizzy and unmanageable. I used to straighten it twice a week at least and after 2 and a half years, it was so bad that I had the worst split ends. Now I haven't used straighteners since November and my hair is smoother, shinier, less frizzy and much better condition.
Grin and bear the grease and try to get to washing your hair twice a week. You'll find your hair gets less greasy and less quickly and you might just find the condition of your hair improves immensley.
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Alright, Im going to preface this by saying, Im not your average asshole guy who thinks the world loves him, so temper your responses as if youre talking to someone who is reasonable and who approaches things with a relatively open mind.
So, Im in this relationship. One in a long line of similar ones, I have a tendancy to get into the serious kind, and my girlfriends tend to stick around for the better side of a year. My current and I are just about at the 18 month mark.
We have hit this point where I am comfy. I like talking to her, and having her around, and doing the cute little couple things,but I also like my space, and try to communicate that to her in a non hostile or not "get off my back" toned way. I try to just let her know gently when I need to just chill out and not be sitting on the couch with her in my lap.
But she, on the other hand, just cant seem to get enough. She wants me to hold her from the second I get home until the second I leave for work the next day, and generally suffocates me.
Now, Im pointing out what she does, but this behaviour has led to EVERY SINGLE BREAK UP Ive had in the last 8 years. 6 ltrs and a few month - 2 month beginnings. Girls hit this point where they want you around them 24/7, and excuse me if I like my partners to be _part_ of my life and not the entire focus of it.
So as I said, Im not an uncaring person. I cuddle after sex, I like laying together and watching a movie, I give her a massage nearly every night, but I dont want to be wrapped around ANYONE every second that Im not at work. I hate my job, and at times I enjoy going to get a respite from her. Its fucking ridiculous!
So, what the hell should I do? I mean, Im not going to say theres something wrong with me. Hell, I would say that Im more affectionate on a regular basis than the average guy I know, but I like a few hours a day to sit at the computer and play games, or to take a hot shower _alone_ or maybe, just maybe, fall asleep in a position thats comfortable to me, not that makes her feel like my teddy bear.
I cant figure it out. Are all girls like this? Or do I just have some wierd attraction to girls who do this and havent figured it out? I dont know. But its the reason I keep having to end relationships, and I like this girl, I dont want to break up with her because shes suffocating me.
Angry women responding saying Im a pig, or that I dont deserve her, or anything else of an un-thought out and abrasive nature will get a one and an angry riposte. (link)
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Okay, I can tell you from first hand experience what is going on here because for the first two years roughly, I was exactly the same with my boyfriend!! Things have evened out now and I'm mostly a lot better but occasionally, I still have my moments.
As far as I am concerned, it seems that this sort of behaviour is rooted in insecurity. When you first start going out with them, everything is nice and even though you might not realise it, you're probably more affectionate towards them to begin with. After a period of time, the affection peters out a little and although when you get past the insecurities you realise why, almost every girls immediate reaction is "He's going off me! What do I do?!!?!"
Basically, the girls automatic reaction at the slightest prospect of losing you is to cling tighter! Even if you explain this to her, she might still have some difficulty getting her emotions under control and the truth is, it can take a long time for the insecurities to fade away and as much as you might hate it, you do end up having to have the same conversations over and over again!!
The thing that made me realise that I had to control my paranoia was one particularly dramatic argument, instigated by me when my other half said he would have to take me home, rather than have me stay over because he was tired and needed to have a good night's sleep. I immediately took this to mean "I don't want you round me cos you'll get on my nerves and I'll never be able to relax. Get away from me now, demon child!" Of course, what he actually meant was "There are two of us trying to squeeze into a single bed and you fidget in your sleep and CONSTANTLY wake me up! Let me sleep tonight and I'll make it up to you." No, instead, I started crying and getting irrational, saying he wanted to break up with me. Eventually, he reasoned that he loved me very much but if he was to break up with me, it would be a direct result of my constant paranoia when there was a rational explanation for everything!!
After that, I made myself stop and think when he did something like this and think about his reasons for it and I became far more rational and considerate and things are far better now.
What I think you need to do, if you haven't already, is really put it into perspective with your girlfriend. Tell her that you DO care about her but she needs to be less clingy because it's making you less inclined to be with her. All she has to do is back off when you ask her to and let you have some space, because most men need space more than women do. If this doesn't work and time doesn't make it better, you may have to consider more drastic action and try again next time.
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What are some of your favorite books that you would recommend? thanks! (link)
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P.s I Love You, by Celia Ahern (for when you want to cry, because it's really sad at the beginning)
The Pursuit of Happiness, by Douglas Kennedy (the most amazingly written book I have ever read. Will make you laugh, cry and you will never want to put it down!)
The entire Shopoholic series by Sophie Kinsella. (For a damned good laugh!)
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okay well for about 3 or 4 months i have been having real bad problems with my knees. when i walk or stretch they sound and feel like my bones are just grinding together. i am always having really bad pains in both knees. i am a cheerleader so i am scared to go to the doctor and find out something is actually wrong with them and be out for the season. does anyone know what this could be and do u think it is neccessary for me to see a doctor? (link)
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When I was about 12/13, I suffered from something called Condra Malasia Patelli. (I think that it how it is spelt). The symptoms were very similar to those you have described.
Put simply, there are two bones in your knee that are separated by cartilidge. However, as I understand it, occasionally something can happen where that cartilidge is softened or damaged and this causes the two bones to rub together, causing the pain and grinding sensation.
It can be resolved with physiotherapy but as I am not a doctor, I would recommend that you should most certainly see a doctor for a professional diagnosis before embarking upon any treatment.
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