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in those one bathroom bathrooms, what do you say when youre in there and someone knocks on the door?
I usually say "Excuse me, I'll be right out" or "Sorry, one moment please."
My mom and I are visiting my Aunt as well as my cousins.Any way today after I had breakfast with just my mom and my aunt I went shopping on my own and then my aunt and my mom went back to my Aunts Apartment at her Assisted Living Place. About a half hour into my shopping my zipper to my purse broke. I went to a store and purchased a new purse (a bigger one to hold everything). This one does not have a zipper but a magnetic snap. Anyway I transferred all my stuff from my old purse into the new one, checked the old one to see if I missed anything and then threw the old one out at the mall when I saw I transferred everything into the new purse.When I came back to the apartment my mom saw my new purse and I told her what happened. When I told her I did not keep the old purse (that I threw it out after transferring everything from the old purse to the new purse) she asked me was I sure I took everything out of the old purse. I told her I did and she asked me three more times was I sure that I did take everything out of the old purse. I then told her that I needed to buy the new one and I asked her what she would have done and she said you know me I would have brought the old purse back to the apartment and checked the old purse a few more times. However, when she said the above to me what went through my mind is that she was implying I should have still used the old one.MY QUESTION: Am I thinking stupidly and how would you have interpreted what my mom said if she said it to you?
I would have done the same thing you did. If the old purse was broken, why keep it? And I bet your mom would've done the same thing, too. But I think she was just trying to make the point that you can still use things, even if they aren't in perfect condition.
Her reaction might have had something to do with the fact that your aunt was there. I'm guessing from where your aunt lives, that she doesn't have a whole lot of money, and needs to be pretty thrifty. So your mom probably didn't want your aunt to think that she's raising you to be frivilous and careless with money. I bet if your aunt wasn't there, your mom wouldn't have made such a big deal about it.
I'm 16. Every time I go out, all the kids I see look chubby or overweight. I haven't seen a "healthy" looking kid in a long time. When I was younger, I remember that most kids were average weight.. but now.. it's changed. Is it because their parents don't care enough to give them a proper diet or what? Did computers/video games take over little kids?
Yes, it's true... a lot more kids are overweight these days. There have been a bazillion studies about what has caused it, and you are exactly right: it's all about diet and exercise.
Most Teenagers don't get much exercise, unless they're really involved in a sport. Little kids, of course, are almost always in some sort of sport, so they get lots of exercise. But a lot of kids quit sports around age 12-13, either because they're burned out, or because they've realized that they aren't going to be the superstar that they or their parents dreamed of. That's why you see people your age starting to get chubby, when they were pretty fit a few years ago. And it happens even faster for girls, because they have stopped exercising at the same time their bodies naturally begin to have more fat.
As for the diet - it's not that parents don't care. It's mainly because everyone is sooooo busy these days, they don't have time to prepare healthy meals on a regular basis. So they grab fast food or toss something in the microwave, and these foods are almost always high in fat and calories.
I have a guy friend(jay) he is nice and caring. But ONLY when he wants to be. He will say hi in the hallway at school then when class is over he will walk by me and trip me. Then at lunch line he smacks me in the head. But when we sit down to eat he has a polite convorsation w/ me. in classes he acts like an @$$ and throws anything(and i mean ANYTHING *i.e book*) then after wards he will be all like "oh i am soooo sorry i threw that at you......"
It is just to much for me now. He treats me(and my other friends witch are girls) like a guy. IT IS really REALLY anoying.
What do i do? dump him as a friend? (((I have told him to stop but he doesn't take what i say seriously.))) or stay his friend and deal?
It sounds like your friend is just a little immature when it comes to dealing with girls. He probably has a bit of a crush on you and/or your friends, but doesn't know what to do about it or how to act around you. So this is his attempt at flirting. Eventually he'll grow up and figure it all out! But in the meantime, just keep being nice to him. Who knows, a couple years from now he may be the most charming guy around!
this is going to be very long, im sorry! thank you in advance if you read this.
Okay, My friend Christie liked this lifeguard Jason, i always thought he was an asshole, even by the look of him. She likes him, he LIKED her. they went out to dinner and like kissed i guess. and then today, on facebook, it said "In an realtionship" with no name! So i called christie and she was like "WHAT?!" [shes not allowed to use the internet becuase her step dad is very over protective.] and he friend meaghan was like "yeah i saw that too, i was thinking about it a few minutes ago." And then, I imed jason and he was like yeah blah, sup and this stuff [i dont get along with him.. i apologized becuase i was such a bitch] (by the way, im a freshman and hes a junior). And then i asked him about the relationship i said "so, are you in a realtionship with christie budd?" he said "no..." i said "well, on facebook it says you are, with whoo are you then?" he said "someone...." And then he was like
"this is what im talking about, you always have to get into our buisness! that is why i was mad at you"
I said "well, christie is my best friend, i should know everything, and i tell her everything you say to me, becuase you know, im on the phone with her right now."
and he said "i dont care, fuck this."
and christie was like is he being two faced? i was liek yup, i told you, he was an asshole, i always knew her was, i wish you listened to me about him.
and she said omg and she started crying.
(christie is also a freshman).
and then he was like "I FUCKING HATE FRESHMAN!" then he left for the hospital because he needs surgery.
What should she do? i feel horribal for her, shes so sad and depressed.
Just be there for her. Remind her that there are lots of other guys out there, and she'll find one who will treat her the way she deserves to be treated. But whatever you do, DONT tell her "I told you so" or "You should've listened to me." That's not going to make her feel any better, and it will probably only make her mad at you. Just be her friend and let her cry on your shoulder.
When you view someone's pictures on myspace, do the profile views go up? or does it only count when you go the the person's main page?
I think it only counts when you visit their main page. And even then, it only counts once each time you've logged in. So like if you visit someone's page, and go back to it 100 times in the same sitting, it will still only count once. In order for it to count again, you'd have to sign off, log in again, and re-visit their page.
this guy asked me if i was prude.. and i dont know how to answer.. please help me! ASAP!
thanks!!
According to the dictionary, a prude is "a person who is excessively concerned with being proper, modest, or righteous." Guys like to use this word to insult girls who wont do stuff with them, whether it's kissing, having sex, or anything in between.
Okay the reason why people really hate school is because of the people. It's never the work and of course school is a constant thing that seems like it's never going to end at all!!! Anyways I'm 13 and I'm in 8th grade. Can't wait to get the hell outta there. Anyways back to me. My ex friend as I call her. Well she came up to me today and told me that all these guys that she knew said I looked better on myspace then in real life. I personally think I look better in real life than in pictures. but I don't see how those guys can judge my looks when I haven't seen them in almost 3 years. I was 11 the last time I saw the guys she's talking about. I don't even remember what they look like. Anyways I think my friend is trying to piss me off because when I did meet those guys they said they wanted me to stay with them because they said I was waaaay hotter than my friend. And this made her really mad and she didnt talk to me for days. But that was 3 years ago. My question is though is my friend jealous or did those guys really mean that??? People dont say I'm beautiful or anything but they say I'm pretty and I don't think I'm thaaat ugly.
Well, if I understood you correctly... these guys last saw you when you were 11. And now they've seen recent pictures of you on myspace. And they think you look better in these pictures than you looked (in person) three years ago. Soooo... basically, they're saying that you look better now than you did when you were 11. And that's a good thing! So I wouldn't really worry about that too much.
But anyway... when your ex-friend told you that, she probably was trying to make you feel bad. And yes, it's probably because she's jealous of you, for one reason or another. And that, my friend, is what all middle school and high school drama is about -- Jealousy!!
Girls are horribly jealous of each other for everything... friendships, boyfriends, clothes, hair, success in school or athletics... anything that gets a girl attention is going to make other girls jealous. And their reaction is to be mean and catty. They may come up with other reasons for being mean or mad at someone, but it almost always boils down to the same thing... they're jealous of something. Unfortunately, there's not a lot you can do about that. But knowing what causes all the drama can sometimes make it a little easier to deal with.
Actually, maybe there IS something you can do about it. Let me tell you about Ruthy, this girl I went to school with. She was "perfect" -- gorgeous, beautiful long blonde hair, smart, an awesome artist, star gymnast, cheerleader, and had a really hot boyfriend who worshiped the ground she walked on. If she had been like a lot of other girls, everyone would have hated her guts! And people reallyy "wanted" to hate her... but they couldn't! Because she was the sweetest person you could ever meet. She was nice to everyone, never said anything bad about anyone, was always cheerful and helpful and considerate of other people's feelings.
Soooo... maybe if you can be something like Ruthy, and don't give people any reason to turn on you (even when they're jealous), it might help protect you from some of the drama.
My brothers leaving me. He joined the army and left yesturday. He's leaving.. and I can't stop him. When I was growing I always got in fights with my Mother and I'd almost always go to bed hungry and late at night he would come in with Odles and Noodles or some icecream to me feel better. And we'd always talk and he promissed me he would never leave me its dumb because it happened when I was 9 but I still remember and he broke it.. and Instead of hugging him and saying how much i love him and miss him already I reminded him and yelled at him, and he left anyway. And im soo afraid that he's going die and Id never be able to tell him how much I love him. I don't want that to happen... I cry constantly now I actually havent stopped, and everyones trying to confrort me while greaving themselves, and theyre ashamed of me. MY OWN BROTHER and I leave him the last time i may ever be able ot see him calling him a liar and running away. Why am I such a bitch and attention craving? And why can't I stop crying Im gunna like go back to school and be brought to the Guidance Conselour or something dumb. I dont want him too leave it isnt far.
Well, like everyone else has said... you're definitely NOT a bitch or craving attention. You love your brother and you're scared of losing him. Everyone reacts differently in times of stress, and that just happens to be the way you reacted. And I'm sure your brother knows that!
But don't worry... you can still tell him you love him! You can write him a letter, and it will get to him quicker than you might think. Just let him know that you feel bad about the way you acted when he left; that it was just because you love him so much and are going to miss him so much and are so worried about him. Tell him all the things you've told us... how much he's helped you and how much he means to you. Trust me, it will really mean a LOT to him! And it will make you feel a lot better, too.
I have a relationship going with this guy who's great. we met mid-summer and ended up talking alot, and bottom line, we've got to know each other well. we kiss a lot, hold hands, we just all around act like a couple. when I'm with him the rest of the world seriously drowns out, and I'm ecstatic everyime I talk to him. (cliche, I know)
here comes the bad part- he has a girlfriend. now,I know I'm gonna get scolded for this probably, but I can't help it. he's the one making the moves on me, and I've had a crush on him since I met him. I know, in terms of good morals I should not do this, but he's driving me crazy, and he's the first guy I genuinely want to be with. He's insanely sweet... & I know realistically if he REALLY wanted to be with me he would break up with her (trust me, I'm not oblivious to the truth), but I honestly like where we're at right now. What should I do?
Well, let's say he does break up with his girlfriend and starts going out with you. And everything is wonderful and you have the perfect relationship and you're soooo happy. And all the while he's making the moves on another girl who's crazy about him, holding hands, kissing her, and acting like a couple. How would you feel?
I'm sure you've thought about how his girlfriend would feel if she knew what was going on. And I'm really not trying to scold you, but maybe you should give that a little more thought. Regardless of how the two of you feel about each other, the fact is, there's a third person involved here. And she's not going to disappear, until he's ready to let her go.
I think you need to tell him that you can't do this anymore. Tell him that you are really starting to have feelings for him, but you can't continue this way as long as he has a girlfriend, because it's not fair to any of you. Let him know that maybe in the future, when he is ready to let go of his girlfriend, perhaps things can work out for the two of you. That way, you are putting the ball in his court, making him make the choice. His reaction will show you his true feelings.
Just keep in mind, though, that if he's cheating on his current girlfriend, it's possible that he could do the same thing to you.
Whoever reads this please help!!!!I have this friend who me and my friends are fed up with she always starts drama and to add some stuff she can cry on command to make people feel bad for her!!!!I SWARE!!Ok so she likes this guy and is OBSESSED and he hates her so much...BTW everytime we get in a fight she basically says rude remarks about this guy to us because me and my friend hang out with him alot beacause she is JEALOUS!!!I really need some help. Like and when she feels like being mean she will say a rude remark and when she is trying to be nice she trys to act cute "which never is" and if me and my friends didnt hang out with her she would have none because she is so mean to everyone else!!Then when we talk about "girl stuff" she trys to make her boobs look big cause she has none! And one time she wrote me a note saying how greasy my face was but if you read this please help me!! i NEED HELP LIKE SHOULD I still be friends with her and if not how do i tell her to be nice and not bratty?!?!?!?!?!?!
THanx
MissyMay123
It sounds like you might be better off without this girl. Obviously she has some problems... she's probably very insecure and doesn't feel good about herself. So she acts this way to get attention, thinking it will make people like her. She cuts people down, thinking it will make her look better in comparison. But what she doesn't realize is that this is backfiring... it's actually making her look worse.
And that's really sad. You might feel sorry for her, and wish you could help her. It'd be great if you could sit down and talk to her about the way her behavior is turing people against her. But the truth is, that probably wouldn't work. Chances are she would get mad and defensive and start even more drama.
Sometimes people have to learn these things on their own, the hard way. It might take having no friends to get her to realize that she needs to change. It may sound harsh, but that might be the best thing for her. AND for you and your friends.
OK 13/F, I know this guy in one of my classes named Anthony. He seems like a nice guy, but my best friend Brittany told me that he asked out one of her friends out. She said that she didnt want me to go out with out with him because he'll try to make me have sex with him. I'm a virgin and I wanna stay that way untill I at least get married. But contining with the story, Brittany said that had a friend who went out with him and had sex and now they rarely ever talk becuase she's changed. The guy is kinda cute, but I don't know if I should take my friends advice or follow my feelings. Help me.
I was in the same situation once. Everyone told me not to go out with this guy, that all he wanted was sex. Well, I didn't listen to them. I really liked him, and I thought he really liked me. And I figured, if he really likes me, he'll be differnet with me than he was with other girls; he'll respect me and not push me to do things I wasn't ready for. Well... my friends turned out to be right! On the 2nd date he told me if I didn't have sex with him, he'd break up with me. So I said, "Later!" Of course I was heartbroken, but I learned my lesson, even though I had to learn it the hard way.
As for you... well, who knows? Maybe this guy WOULD be different with you? Or maybe not. You'll have to decide whether or not you want to take the chance. If you can prepare yourself for the possibility that your friend is right... and if you can be strong enough to show him the door if he gets too frisky... then give it a try. But if you think you might fall for him hard enough to be persuaded to do something you're not ready for, then take a pass. There are lots of other fish in the sea!
So I'm short [16/f], so i still have to shop in the girls section for jeans. Which sucks sometimez cuz they got them ugly butterflies and crap on it. So this year I think I'm gonna get one or two pairs of jeans from abercrombie kids, because i hear they fit good. The only problem for me is that they are way too expensive and I can't afford to get a lot of pairs of jeans there. So basically, my question is if anyone knows of a store I can go or visit the site that has girl jeans like abercrombie kids but a little cheaper. Like between $15-$25?
Thanks.
Try Aeropostal. It's cheaper than Abercrombie, and they have really cute jeans in small sizes.
ok so i've been dating this guy for over 6 months and were great together. the only thing is he has a friend whose a girl. and there sorta close and it bothers me.they like talk alot on the phone (like 4 hours once) and shes around him some in school. i know he would never do that to me and i trust him completly , im just more worried about her, b/c i know she likes him. and i told him she liked him before we started going out and he denyed it. and we used to joke about it, but its not really funny anymore and kinda hurtful. and i told him about it and i asked him to stop tlkn to her on the phone, he said he would but he still did.i dont wanna be a controlling gf, but i can't help it. and of course she hates me and i can't stand her. i trust my guy completly and i love being with him. i just dont want this to turn into a big thing. what should i do?
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I have a friend in your same situation. And this is what I've told her: First of all, you need to remind yourself that your boyfriend is going out with YOU, not her. If he liked her, he'd be going out with her, right? But he's not... he's chosen to be with you and not her.
Of course, that doesn't stop you from worrying that he might eventually start liking her. Especially since she's apparently doing all she can to get him. If she succeeds, and he does start to like her... well, unfortunately, there's not much you can do about it. You can't control his feelings.
But what you CAN do is try hard not to give him a reason to stop liking you. If you start to be controlling, or get mad or pouty when he talks to her, it's not going to make you very pleasant to be around. And he might begin to think, "Why should I put up with a possessive, grumpy girlfriend when I could go out with this other girl instead?" And of course you don't want that.
So just keep being your sweet, wonderful self... so if it comes to the point where he has to choose between you and her, he will choose to stay with you for the same reason he chose to be with you in the first place.
have you ever had a friend that's told you they've kept something from you for a long time and that they're afraid of telling you what it is because they're afraid your gonna look at them differently and not be they're friends anymore..then you ask them what it was but they don't say anything.. what would you tell them, or do in this situation??? just need some advice from other people.... thankz * Skyla *
Well, the fact that she brought it up means that she really does want to tell you. But like she said, she's afraid of your reaction. She may be hoping that you'll bring it up again and give her reassurance that, no matter what it is, you'll still be her friend. So she's sort of left it in your hands.
Before you bring it up again, give some thought to all the possible things she might be about to tell you. I'm guessing it's one of two things:
(1) It's something about herself that she's really embarrassed or ashamed of, and she's afraid you won't like her because of it.
(2) It's something she did that you would be mad about and she's afraid you won't forgive her.
Whatever it is, are you prepared to stand by her, forgive her if necessary, and continue to be her friend, no matter what? If so, then go ahead and bring it up. Tell her that you really want to know what's on her mind and that you'll be there for her no matter what.
okay. I'm a 15 year old girl. I'm a straight A student and I'm in all honors/advanced classes. I'm going into the 10th grade. And I have one AP Euro class. well...this is where the problem comes in. I procrastinate too much. I come home from school at 2:30. And I have ballet at 6 o'clock. In between that time...There is NO way that I can force myself to do homework. so what do I do? I procrastinate and go on the computer. Should I take a nap instead? Okay...so then after I have ballet lessons which are one hour each (Mondays, Wednesdays and Thursdays) (Wednesdays are 2 hours) I get home. I eat dinner, shower, etc etc. When all that is finished..it's already 8 o'clock (9 on wednesdays). And I haven't done ANY of my homework. So I start doing it...and I don't finish until like 12 (or even later). I have problems waking up at 6 A.M because of this. And my problem presents and even bigger problem because of how it distracts me :( (You see, I have friends online...and I don't want to not be able to talk to them because of homework). What can I do to limit the amount of procrastination in my 10th grade year? Thanks in advance :( Are naps recommended during free time? If so, how long? Please help..
Just think how nice it would be if you could get your homework done right after school. The minute you walk in the door, when your mind is still in the "school mode"... just sit down, open your books, and get it out of the way! Then you'll have the rest of the afternoon, and the whole evening after ballet, to relax on the computer, without having that worry hanging over your head.
You can do it! If the laptop is distracting you, just remove the tempation. At night, before you go to bed, turn it off, unplug it, fold it up, and put it away. That way, when you get home from school the next day, it won't be sitting there calling to you. If you make it difficult for yourself to get on, you won't be as tempted to get on "just for a second" (which of course turns into all afternoon). Once you've finished your homework, you won't mind taking the extra few minutes to set it back up, because you'll know that you'll have the whole evening to enjoy it.
But I really need help, a real answer.
Here is the situation.
My mother is unhappy with one of my classes this year, and I think she is making me switch. I'm not sure if the switch is final yet, but she has already called the principal, and they talked about it.
Background: There is this guy, long story short, that I love. I was hoping for classes with him this year so we could finally talk "it" out. But I got none, and I never see him.
My two options (that the principal gave me) are:
1.) Switch out of Spanish with my best friend, so I can take Art History, which will is the pre-requisite for Photography, which I really wanted to take!
2.) Change up my whole schedule. I'd still be in Spanish with my best friends, but I probably wouldn't see my casual friends anymore. I don't know anyone in the classes I'd be switching too. My school is really small, so the people in the class are probably people I don't like. BUT, if this happened, I'd be in two classes with the guy!!
Bittersweet, eh?
What would you do in this situation? Help please.
What would I do? Well, when I was in High School, I probably would've changed my whole schedule to go after the guy. And then I would've looked back and regretted it, because I gave up the classes I wanted, and the classes with my friends, just for some stupid guy! Ha ha!
What you SHOULD do is take the Art History class, so you can take Photography. And stay in the classes with your friends. There will be other opportunites to talk with the guy (calling, texting, seeing him outside of school, etc.) If things are meant to work out with him, they will. But if not, you don't want to mess up your whole schedule, and the chance to take Photography, for nothing.
ok, my hair is seriously, TOO LONG! It is down past my butt and i am getting tired of it. It was fun while it lasted but i need knew hair. Im still not quite sure what to do with it and my mom dont want it cut TOO short. But what should i do with it? Here is 2 pics of me, tell me what you think!
http://i206.photobucket.com/albums/bb231/xXBeecakeCutieXx/izandkk.jpg
http://i206.photobucket.com/albums/bb231/xXBeecakeCutieXx/mememe.jpg
Wow, you have beautiful hair! I'd start slowly... cut it, but just to the middle of your back or so, and maybe have it tapered a bit on the sides, but real long. And let yourself get used to that before doing anything more drastic like layers or side bangs. That will give you a chance to see how your hair "acts" at the shorter length. It's probably going to be fuller and fluffier when you've taken some of the weight off. See how you like it that way, and then decide if you want take any more off.
Okay, I really need a new laptop, and my mom said what brand? i said a macbook! I really want one, and since im a student, i get 100 bucks off + a rebate on a ipod, i already have both, a laptop [dell] and a ipod, but i really wanna upgrade! so, i have a problem, i pull my hair out, i dont alot anymore, but i have hair but its short and grooss and curly, i hate it! my mom said "if you take your bandanna off, forever, ill buy it for you, ill buy you the world, if it makes you stop." but, i really want to! but its so embarissing... i mean, ive been going to school like this for 3 years, with a bandanna, and im going into highschool, so isnt it odd if i go without one?
and also, to add, if i get a macbook, how do i get photobooth? like the camera. thankyou :D
Well, I don't know about the photobooth, but as for going without the bandana.... I don't think it would be odd at all! You're going into High School, so this would be a perfect time to make a change! A lot of people get new hair styles, makeovers, or change their clothing style when they go to a new school, so you probably won't be the only one coming to school with a new look. Sure, some people might notice it and mention something ("where's your bandana?"), but they'll get used to you without it really quick. And they'll probably be glad to see you without it! Have your mom take you to the salon and work with someone who can make your hair the best it can look. It might feel a little strange at first, but that's normal... it always takes a little time to get used to something new. I definitely think you should go for it! Good luck!
I had a party a couple of weeks ago and i invited a girl named Hailey.
Well her birthday was last week. One of my friends asked "are you invited to hailey's party?"
i told her that i wasnt.
well it turns out that her party was 3 days ago and she didnt invite me.
I am sooo mad at her because i invited her to mine and everything.
UGHH. what do i do?
Try not to take it too personally. Maybe she could only invite a certain number of people, so she only invited the people she was closest with? She may have even felt guilty about not being able to invite you. I know I've had that problem before. In fact, this year I didn't even have a party for that reason. If I invited everyone who had ever invited me to their party, I would've had 6 billion people there, and I couldn't do that. So I just didn't have one because I didn't want anyone to feel left out. =[
If I were you, I just wouldn't say anything. It will only cause hard feelings. Unless you think she's mad at you for some reason... then you could ask her if something is wrong. But don't bring the party into it. Because you never know... she might have wanted to invite you but just couldn't.