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I don't really understand...
I have a relationship going with this guy who's great. we met mid-summer and ended up talking alot, and bottom line, we've got to know each other well. we kiss a lot, hold hands, we just all around act like a couple. when I'm with him the rest of the world seriously drowns out, and I'm ecstatic everyime I talk to him. (cliche, I know)
here comes the bad part- he has a girlfriend. now,I know I'm gonna get scolded for this probably, but I can't help it. he's the one making the moves on me, and I've had a crush on him since I met him. I know, in terms of good morals I should not do this, but he's driving me crazy, and he's the first guy I genuinely want to be with. He's insanely sweet... & I know realistically if he REALLY wanted to be with me he would break up with her (trust me, I'm not oblivious to the truth), but I honestly like where we're at right now. What should I do?
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Try talking to him, about what you two are doing while he has a girlfriend. Tell him that the only way you two could be together is if he breaks up with his GF.
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Well, let's say he does break up with his girlfriend and starts going out with you. And everything is wonderful and you have the perfect relationship and you're soooo happy. And all the while he's making the moves on another girl who's crazy about him, holding hands, kissing her, and acting like a couple. How would you feel?
I'm sure you've thought about how his girlfriend would feel if she knew what was going on. And I'm really not trying to scold you, but maybe you should give that a little more thought. Regardless of how the two of you feel about each other, the fact is, there's a third person involved here. And she's not going to disappear, until he's ready to let her go.
I think you need to tell him that you can't do this anymore. Tell him that you are really starting to have feelings for him, but you can't continue this way as long as he has a girlfriend, because it's not fair to any of you. Let him know that maybe in the future, when he is ready to let go of his girlfriend, perhaps things can work out for the two of you. That way, you are putting the ball in his court, making him make the choice. His reaction will show you his true feelings.
Just keep in mind, though, that if he's cheating on his current girlfriend, it's possible that he could do the same thing to you.
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I think the best thing to do is just talk to him. Tell him that he has to choose between his girlfriend or you. Plain and simple, he can't have you both. And even though you like how everything is now, things won't end up good in the end. Tell him how you truly feel too, how he's the first guy you've really wanted to be with. You honestly shouldn't have to share someone you have those feelings for.
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