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Have you ever...
have you ever had a friend that's told you they've kept something from you for a long time and that they're afraid of telling you what it is because they're afraid your gonna look at them differently and not be they're friends anymore..then you ask them what it was but they don't say anything.. what would you tell them, or do in this situation??? just need some advice from other people.... thankz * Skyla *
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If your friend thinks that you won't be your friend anymore because of this, then thats not what a true friend should think. You should tell that person that it will be okay whatever it is i will still be your friend not matter what it should not matter what happens this is probly something that your friend needs help with and it would be nice if you told that person that you will help them and get through it no matter what it is and you will always be there friend.
Good luck!
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i have been in this situation before. because i was the one keeping the secret =D
what you should tell them is "whatever it is, i'm still going to be your friend. trust me i'll be fine with it. even if i wasn't, we're friends, i'll work on it for me to be fine with it because that's what friends do" or something like that
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Well, the fact that she brought it up means that she really does want to tell you. But like she said, she's afraid of your reaction. She may be hoping that you'll bring it up again and give her reassurance that, no matter what it is, you'll still be her friend. So she's sort of left it in your hands.
Before you bring it up again, give some thought to all the possible things she might be about to tell you. I'm guessing it's one of two things:
(1) It's something about herself that she's really embarrassed or ashamed of, and she's afraid you won't like her because of it.
(2) It's something she did that you would be mad about and she's afraid you won't forgive her.
Whatever it is, are you prepared to stand by her, forgive her if necessary, and continue to be her friend, no matter what? If so, then go ahead and bring it up. Tell her that you really want to know what's on her mind and that you'll be there for her no matter what.
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well if i was in this situation i would tell her that im her friend and friends are here for eachother no matter what. and you're not here to judge her your her friend nothing will change. beucase obviously your her friend for a reason. jsut make sure you let her know that you guys will be friends no matter what and you wont judge her.
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You need to let them know that whatever it is you'll still look at them the same/accept them. And once they tell you make sure to be true to your word. Even if what they tell you throws you off a bit or makes you feel unfortable make sure you don't act any differently to them or around them.
::Jasmine::
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