Hmmm...

1. Well, if he says that directly to you, than maybe he does. That might be his way flirting. Guys are very complicating. They have their "ways". ;-)

2. I don't mean to be blunt... but I don't think you should tell her. Put yourself in her position. What if your best friend came up to you and asked you to break up with your boyfriend so they could go out with him??? You wouldn't want to because she's trying to steal your man. Maybe your friend is being nice by telling you she doesn't care but maybe she really does and she doesn't want to tell you so she doesn't start a fight???

3. Maybe you shouldn't flirt with him in FRONT of her... I know it sounds wrong but do it when shes not around...

Or.. for the better, don't do it at all because she IS your friend. I mean, if you didn't like her, THAT WOULD BE A DIFFERENT STORY! ;-)

Well, I hope I helped you in any way. :-)

♥ Kayla

Hey.

No, it would not be insest. If you and him had sex and had kids, there would be nothing wrong with that because you're not blood and do not have any of the same genes or germs or anything that only family members share.

Although it would be awkward ((to me personally)) but if it's okay with you, have at it! :-)

It's not illegal or "sick" in any way!

I'm the same way with my "cousin".

See, my dad's stepmom's daughter's son and I could get married, simply because we're not blood...

:-)

I hope I answered your question the way you hoped someone would!

♥ Kayla

*Remember if you need anything, just come to me. I'm here all the time.

OMG!

that's like, my fave song! EL OH EL

Cartel sings it! They're awesome! Sorry to get carried away. Hahaha.

Hope I answered your question enough!

♥ Kayla

The only ones I know are Xanga and MyYearBook.com... Sorry if I didn't get anymore.. Those are the only ones I know.

I hope I helped you in any way! ;-)

♥ Kayla

Hey...

Sorry... I've been trying to get on all night too... It was up yesterday and it's only down because of the reconstruction they're doing. This has never happened before. I know there you're coming from though. I feel the same way. It's WAY unfair but Tom says he's "fixing the problem".

Well, sit tight, like he said on the home page... The only thing we can do is wait it out.

;-)

It's only been down for a day... Hopefully, it'll be up by tomorrow.

♥ Kayla

No! No, honey! lol You're his GIRLfriend... not just a girl. You're supposed to act this way! All power to ya! You're strong and sometimes, he may think it shows a little TOO strong. You're concerned about him. You care about him. That's a good thing. Not a bad thing! Trust me... you're not JEALOUS of this girl... right? If you're not, then you ARE just concerned. You just love/like him a lot and the thought of losing him to her makes you feel insecure about him having her on his Myspace but it should be ok. Just keep a careful eye on him but not to the point where you're SPYING on him. Just watch semi-carefully about what he does on the computer and if/when/what he talks to the girl about anything normal "friends" don't talk about. It should be fine. Have some trust! You love/like him a lot so show that. Tell him how you feel. Tell him you trust him but his talking to this girl makes you not jealous, but insecure and uncomfortable that he may get carried away and fall for her... again. So this has happened before? Then, it should be within your instincts on what to do about it! If it's not, trust me! I will know the answer! Just take my advice!
I will be here for you whenever you need me! Just ask me a question on here or email me at x_pink_x109@yahoo.com
Either one is fine with me! :-)
-Kayla

Put your foot down and tell her exactly every detail of how you feel about her and what's been bothering you. But then you have another tough decision to make... Marrissa, or your other friends. Which one is better? Which one TREATS you better? Which one has been more of [a] friend(s)? Decide... Don't get rid of Marissa but just tell her, "I've been mad at you for a long time but never wanted to tell you because I knew you'd react like this." Tell her the truth and don't beat around the bush. Get straight to the point. Marrissa seems like she has issues with trusting people and telling the whole truth. Help her. Help her find herself and help her be able to tell the whole truth. You guys are friends but yet she's always angering you and that's not how it's supposed to be. So talk to her.
I hope I helped you! I wish you the best of luck, sweety. :-)
-Kayla

Hey! She can try to "steal" him all she wants but if he doesn't like her, you have nothing to worry. It takes two people to date and if he liked her, he would date her but he likes YOU. Why would you feel bad for dating him? There's no reason to feel "bad" for dating him. You liked him first, right? He likes YOU,right? Then you guys should date? I know your "best friend" would probably be mad at you but try to explain to her that you liked him for a while and I'm sure there's another guy for her but this one is yours. :-)
Don't feel bad. My best friend almost always likes the same boy as me but I don't care. We just compete to see who can get him first. lol
Just play it cool. Tell her how YOU feel about the situation.
I'm sorry if I didn't help you much. I really tried my best. My advice to you is... GO FOR IT!
-Kayla

Hey!
I say... go for it. If you feel this strongly, you shouldn't let her slip away. You may never have a chance with this girl so I say... go for it while you DO have a chance. Sign your name on the note. It'll make it more... exciting. Nervewrecking, but exciting. It'll be more "romantic" and she may like you even more. If your nerves get ahold of you, do what you want and put "secret admirer". Whichever one, I will give you credit just for giving her the note... period! You are very brave! You have to have confidence in yourself because if you say you can't, you won't and it'll never happen. Now, there's a difference between being confident and OVER-confident. Don't get cocky. It's good to be confident and KNOW you can do it but don't try too hard to impress a girl. BE YOURSELF! To me, that is the most attractive thing in a guy. If a guy is sweet, generous, and caring, looks don't matter. I'm a girl... I would know this! :-)
;-)
Believe in yourself and give this girl your note!
She may not like you right away but be nice to her and show her you care about her. Her boyfriend won't matter to her once she gets to knwo YOU! ;-)
-Kayla
♥♥♥♥

I'm blaming parents in ALL cases but I have seen a lot like that. I have seen parents completely ignore their children. No, it's not the parents fault all the time but it can be in some cases. Yes, some good kids could sneak off and do whatever when their parents didn't do anything to them but my point is parents (IN SOME CASES) should have enough control over their children to be able to stop them, unless they just don't care. I'm not blaming parents for everything, I'm just saying all situations where kids go off and do that are different. I have seen it where kids just go off and do it, I have seen it where they go off and do it because of stressful times such as their parents divorcing and stuff like that, I have also seen it to where parents just simply don't care. I didn't mean to cause any trouble. I'm sorry I didn't "in some cases" and I agree with you that I made it sound like everytime someones young child goes off to have sex, it's the parents fault but I did not mean to make it sound that way.
*Kayla*

Yes, I know exactly what you mean and frankly, I think it's sick and wrong that someone would make/force/let a 12 year old girl (or a boy) give up their virginity at such a young age. That doesn't mean anything. It just means that heir parents don't care enough about them so they don't care about themselves. If you're a virgin, that's a very good thing. You want to lose it to a guy who doesn't LIVE for that! You want to lose it to a guy that says "Baby, if you're not ready, we can wait. I don't mind." and actually means that! I hear all the time on the news "13 year old girl kidnapped after meeting up with a 36 yar old man to have sex with him intentionally!" UGH! How can anyone do that?
"Most girls" do lose their virginities by the age of 16 but the other half of those girls are as smart as you. I'm 14 but I know a lot about this kind of thing. I would never ever have sex at my age now! NEVER! For one thing, I'm scared and for another thing, it's wrong! I don't care who he is! I will not give up something that I will never get back! I may seem young and you may not believe I'm 14 because I'm so mature and above my years, you might say but I thought it'd be better to get advice on this from a 14 year old girl since girls in my grades and even grades YOUNGER than me are doing it! Don't feel stupid about asking this question, just because someone younger than you gave you advice. :-) I just happened to be 14 and it's better to have advice from someone that age in the modern era. :-)
Well, you can ask me anything else or just comment me in my inbox~ I don't care which!
♥ Kayla

Yes, it was out of line but I understand that he is a little excited about you getting your first job in 5 years and stuff like that. He doesn't want to see you get unemplyed and not get another job that pays as good. That's probably all he is saying. However, it's your life and you have choices and decisions. I know you may like your job but your cousin's wedding (in my oppinion) is more important. You seem adult enough to make your own decisions for yourself. It's not your dad's life. Ask your grandma if you could take 1 or 2 days instead of 3 but explain to her that you like your job and too much time off work could result in unemplyment. That's a very important concept and your grandma should understand, if she's an understandable type person.
How should you act around him? Act tough like you know what you're doing but make sure you really do because then, it won't be hard to do, right? You need to show him that he didn't have an impact on you and you are going to make your decision. It's not up to people on Advicenators to decide whether you should risk getting fired or missing the wedding. It's up to you, not anyone else but YOU! I suggest you consider telling your grandma that your job is important and a dress isn't AS important... it's important but notAS important as losing your job and you don't want to lose your job over a dress fitting. Just tell her... she should listen and if she doesn't, don't even care because she needs to understand as your family member that your job makes a HUGE impact but it's just a dress... you're gonna wear it to the wedding and when you get home, you're gonna take it off and stuff it in your closet until someone else gets married but you're probably gonna get a new dress anyway! :-) Don't worry about it!
-Kayla

If I were you, I would just not care what ANYONE thinks of you. Just show them that you like your boyfriend and nothing they say can change that. Once they see that their little comments don't offend you or get to you, they'll quit what they are doing and realize, "Hey! I'm only doing this to make her mad, and it's not working... there's no point..." and they'll stop! The onl reason why they even mess with you is because they think it's fun to mess with you... if you show them that what they are saying and talking amongst their little friends about are bothering you, that will do nothing but satisfy them, making what they say even funnier and fun to them.
Don't be so hard on yourself! :-)
You're not ugly... if you think you're ugly, you're not appreciating God because he made you that way and critisizing the way he made you isn't something you should do. You should feel good to be you... You should feel confident. I mean, hey, you've got the looks, you've got the brains, what more can you ask for? :-) I want you to know you don't have to feel bad about yourself just because a few people say a few things about you. Peopel tease me all the time... I ignore them and they shut up because it's no fun when the person you're insulting isn't hurt. It's sick the way people get their pleasure from other people's pain and trust me, I understand perfectly well! I just want you to know you are NOT ugly... no one is! People tease other people because they are ugly themselves and they tease other people to make them feel better. I know sometimes, some people feel ugly but it makes them feel better knowing there's someone uglier than them so they tease that person because they don't think that person'll come back with something that will make that person shut up. It's confusing, I know but you'll get it. Just go through high school without caring what anyone else thinks. I should take my own advice, since people tease me about my nose. I think it's big... some people say it's not but I don't listen. When I look in the mirror in the morning,I hate it... what I look like... But I have to go through the day anyways. When someone says something about my nose, I cry because it hurts, yes, but you have to control. I'm trying to prove to you that you are not alone because I go through the same thing as you EVERY single day! I have people say things about me and really try to ignore them. I understand that sometimes you just can't but just try. They are worse than you... you know why? Because they tease people better than them to make themselves feel better about themselves. You probably think I'm telling you this to make you feel better but it's true! I would love to hear about you again... please please please email me at x_pink_x109@yahoo.com or just rate me and in my feedback, give me an email where I can reach you... I would love you to ask me anything you want and to not be shy about what it is... I want you to feel open around me and feel free to say anything at all without feeling stupid or low. You can talk to me about anything anytime! I would love to hear about some more of your problems so maybe we can fix them! I'm really sorry that you're going through this but from what it seems, you're a strong person and you can make it through anything and anyone! Just set your mind to it and you'll be fine. Please email me to update me. I know you'll be fine! Bye, hun!

Best of luck!

Hope I helped!

Luv Kayla

Well,
most of the time, kids want to commit suicide because of the stress at home and their lives currently. He may not be close to the people/person living in his home. He may have problems with that/those person/people. Usually, it is whoever is at home making them stress. It's not him... it's his anger bottled up inside. You need to talk to him. There is no way you can tell him to ignore whatever's going on at his house. Just understand that... You can try to tell him that life is precious. If you know for sure if there is or is not a problem occuring at home and he is just saying suicidal statements just because he wants to, there is a good chance he is doing it for attention. Sometimes, other people at school make him angry and cause him to almost give up life because they think they will be better off dead but that's not true and you have to tell him that. Tell him life can be changed... his life goes however he wants it to go. If he wants to be a bad person, he has that choice but not neccesarily the right, keep that in mind. If he decides to be a killer, that's his choice but not his right. BUT... he can also choose to be a good person, return things to people when they are done using them, be a kind and thoughtful friend/boyfriend, that is a good choice but only HIS choice. I, personally, think he is stressed because too many people hae a problem with who he is. I can picture him in my mind... most kids who think suicidally wear a lot of black and talk to hardly anyone. People need to accept for whoever he wants to be and when people don't see him from the inside out, no one knows who he is. They simply see a kid that stands out from the "group" and picks on him/her for no good reason at all. Now, this goes only for some people. People who get teased in school are usually the people who bring a gun to school, shoot a few students and a teacher, and then take their own lives. The reason why they do this is because they think everyone in the world hates them and no one likes them and they have no purpose in the world. Who cares what everyone thinks? Everyone doesn't matter in this case because "everyone" is rude. Now, some people are generous and see YOU not your appearance.
I think seans problem is that he is either being neglected/forgotten about at home or at school. You have to show him that there are people who care about him. There are people who want him alive. There are people that care about/love him. You are one of each of those things. You have to let him know that! :-)
You can do it in a lot of ways. Just tell him straight out that you want him to stay alive and you care about him. Or you can buy a gift or something. Do something that let's him he can talk to someone and that someone is you!
You can email me at x_pink_x109@yahoo.com if you need any help, have any questions/comments, or just want to talk to me! :-) I'm always her for you, hun. I'm sorr about your friend :-(... but look on the brightside of things! :-) You can do it!

Best of luck!

Hope I helped!

♥ Kayla

His problem is...
he's jealous. He thinks all you care about is this magazine. He doesn't care about it because he thinks this magazine is bigger in your life to you than he is. You have to show him it's not true. You have to show him he's number one to you. If he's not and you really don't care about him anymore, you need to break up because it's not healthy for a relationship to be uncared about. I know you care about him so we'll work with that...
He thinks that the magazine is taking over your life and he is no longer in it. That makes him angry and upset and it makes him not care about whatever it is you love more than him. Even if you care too much for a best friend and you spend all your time with him/her, he'll get jealous and hate that person, no matter who they are. It makes him upset to know that you actually have another love in your life and it's not only him, it's your magazine too and that makes him angry. Just talk to him and tell him that yes, this magazine is important but so is he and no one can ever replace him and that's not what you're trying to do. You're simply trying to find something in your life more than just boys and he doesn't understand that. Make him understand.
You know I'm here for you. I will answer any questions you have. You can even contact me privately by email. My email address is x_pink_x109@yahoo.com O.K? It's easy to remember because my Advicenators Username is this. I can answer to you anytime. Don't be afraid to tell me anything. Don't be afraid to say what's on your mind. I can help you by telling you what I think is best or what you should think is best. You don't have to tell me a name at all. You can simply remain anonymous. I don't care which! :-)
I really hope your boyfriend understands. I had a lot to say about this question. If you have read this far, I'm proud of you! :-)
Hope I helped!

Best of luck!
♥ Kayla

Hey!
A girlfriend-boyfriend relationship is supposed to be filled with love and care and even though you care about your current boyfriend, you don't feel the way a girlfriend should about her boyfriend. If you really feel this way, you need to break up with him. It's not healthy for a relationship to not feel any love for your boyfriend. You're supposed to be close to him, talk to him and you don't so... the best thing I can think of is to break up with him. You'll feel a lot better about everything. You'll feel less pressure. I have to go but I hope I helped!
Best of luck!
P.S. As for the other guy, flirt with him and let him know you like him. He'll ask you out in no time!
♥ Kayla
:-)

Yes, you should "bother" because you don't want to lose touch with her. I remember when I got in a fight with my best friend... I lived in Texas (still do) and she lived in Arizona (still does) and now, I don't know her phone number or anything because I didn't talk to her for a long long time! You have to talk to her about in a letter... telling her that you had a lot of school work and you were so busy that you didn't have time to do anything fun or anything you wanted to do. Just explain to her what was going on and that you didn't mean for anything like this to happen. Also, tell her that it wasn't ALL your fault... I'm sure SHE was busy too. O.K?
You can email me if you wanna talk or need any advice! My email address is x_pink_x109@yahoo.com O.K? I'm always availible. You can also drop a question/comment in my inbox!!!
:-)
♥

♥ Kayla

Well,
it all depends on his personality. Some boys flirt constantly with you but hate your guts (which is not your case at all :-) ) some guys flirt just because they want to and they flirt with anything that walks and some guys only show it to girls they truly do like. In your case, it's probably the third one... he probably does like you and is showing it or he thinks your cute and hes going for it because he knows you like him. Just keep flirting with him... a lot. Keep talking to him and be yourself. You won't find out what comes of it until you test it out first. See what kind of person he is. The ultimate test is to bring a friend with you and have that friend flirt with him (purposely) and see if he flirts back. That's what I did (personal detail: it turns out he did flirt with her and they ended up kissing that night and are now dating :-[ ) The best thing you can do is to get to know him better to find out what type he is! Maybe the friend thing isn't such a good idea... :-) I really hope he likes you... I'll pray :-)
Email me if you wanna talk or need more advice personally...

you can also drop a question, or comment in my inbox and I will get to it ASAP!
Best of luck!

Hope I helped!

♥ Kayla

You shouldn't do either one...
you should talk to her. Tell her that you are Ben's best friend and have been for a while now... you never liked him as more than a friend. Tell her that you want to become her friend, if at all possible and you don't want to figh over something like this. Just talk to her and tell her how you feel about her and how you and "Benny" are just friends and nothing has ever happened between you and him that made you like each other. Just tell her girls and boys can be friends and that's exactly how you and Ben are. You like hanging around him but when she's around, it gets kind of tense. You don't have to stop hanging around for a while because that will show her that she controls you and she doesn't! Your friends are your friends and you have the right to like or hang around any person on this earth. It's not her place to tell YOU to back off because you and Ben were friends before she even came around.

Don't be rude to her about it. Be sincere and friendly. Let her know by your tone and body language that you are a good person and you want to... make peace with her, I guess. You can tell her that you want everything to be "cool" and no tense moments where you feel completely hated and unwanted because no one should feel that way while hanging with their friends!

Best of luck!

You can email me if you want to talk... my email address is x_pink_x109@yahoo.com ... you can email me anytime... I check it every day so that's a way to contact me. Or you can drop a question, comment, or "Hi, yall" in my inbox!

Hope I helped!

♥ Kayla

Hey!
Well, there was a time where your reputation started in your old school. Now that you moved, you have to start it all over. I have been to 32 different schools and I'm only 14. It sucks but you have to make the best of it. Make a bad situation into a good one.
In my oppinion, I think the depression from moving is still with you and it's jusr\t hard for you to focus on things that you normally focus on. I think that's stopping you from making friends. No matter who they are, everyone has friends. Just don't be so negative. You have to think that you can do it and you can. I know it's hard. I understand exactly where you're coming from and what you're situation is so I can really relate. I'm really sorry! There are possibilities though! Just talk to people... you still miss you're old friends and your old school but you have to eventually come out and start making new friends. Start your reputation all over. It's hard and will take a lot of time but you can do it.
Email me if you wanna talk (x_pink_x109@yahoo.com)
I'm always here!
♥ Kayla
Best of luck!

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