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I am 23 and have never been in a relationship or had sex, but I’ve done everything leading up to sex, including with the person I’m currently involved with. We met online and have known each other for almost a month. I am extremely nervous about where this may or may not be headed, as I have no experience with relationships. We’ve done sexual things on almost every date, which I do enjoy very much. One day, he spent hours fingering me to orgasm and it was great. I’m really surprised that even happened. I think sex is very close to happening and its making me extremely nervous. Up until now, I didn’t think I wanted to be in love to lose my virginity. Now I’m having second thoughts about that. I think penetration with him has made me feel incredibly vulnerable and I’ve decided I want an emotional connection with someone before having sex. The thing is, I can’t tell if I have those meaningful feelings for him. The whole situation is starting to give me crippling anxiety. Does this anxiety mean there is lack of a meaningful connection between us? Or am I just extremely nervous and need to get over my nerves? He’s a good person and treats me better than anyone I’ve ever dated. I want to give him a chance. At the same time, I don’t get the kind of mental stimulation I do with my platonic relationships. So far, it’s a very touchy feely type of relationship and that is very new for me. It’s scaring the hell out of me. I’m just feeling somewhat pressured and rushed. Is this good or bad? Is it my fault I’m feeling this way? I’m also very scared of losing my identity. I have a busy life and lots of things that are important to me. He doesn’t seem to fit into my life, but maybe this is a sign I need to find a new center? What are your thoughts? (link)
I think you should just be honest with him about how you're feeling. I mean if you can't be honest with him, this relationship won't go anywhere.

I think since this would be your first time, it's a scary thing because it's new. It's fine that you feel like you want to have an emotional connection with that person, it's normal.

If you feel pressured or rushed, slow down and take your time. This isn't something that needs to happen right away and it's not something you want to regret, especially for your first time.

So just talk to him, I'm sure he'll be understanding.


I'm 25 my boyfriend is 23. We have officially been dating for a month now. I've never been the touchy feely kind of person. My ex boyfriend would never hold my hand, kiss me in front of others or anything like that. barely would hug me. So i was kind of used to no affection.

Well now my current boyfriend always wants to be touching me. If we're watching tv he always wants to hold my hand or lay on me. I feel a little smothered. Sometimes I back off a little and he's like "youre mean" I dont know how to approach this. I do like him - I like kissing him. But sometimes the touching and constant contact can be too much. He knows I'm not really like that - I've told him before. But if hes touching me or something he's like you never touch me or why dont you touch me more.

Can someone help me with this situation? (link)
I'm the exact same way.

I've been dating my boyfriend for about 2 months now. I didn't mind holding hands but I hated when we would walk and he'd put his arms around me. It just always felt like constant contact. Or when we're out and at a store, he'd stop and pull me towards him and I really wasn't into it.

I thought maybe it would be something I'd have to get used to but I think he could tell that I wasn't feeling it so he asked me about it and then I told him the truth about how I'm just not a touchy person. So that would be my advice. I told him if it's something that he doesn't like, or that he needs someone who needs to be more touchy feely then I understood. But he did say he's fine with it.

So if it comes up again, let him know that you're just not a touchy person. You don't mind a little but not a whole lot. I'd let him know that if he needs someone who likes a lot of cuddling and all that, then this might not work out.

The other advisers seem to go a little out there with the psychological things or that you don't really like him.

So communication would be the best for this. My boyfriend understood and it's not that we don't touch at all, it's just not a constant thing.


In your opinion whats the youngest age you should be having sex
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I agree with the others. Youngest 17-18.

I think because at those ages, they know the consequences of sex. As long as the two trust each other, take precautions with birth control and condoms, and are emotionally ready for sex.

It's always better to wait till you're older because a lot of young people don't take the precautions. A lot of young people will end up pregnant because they didn't get on birth control and use condoms.


Me and my ex broke up twice and then last year april we started speaking again almost everyday and hanging out once or twice on a monthly basis and yes we do have sex but recently he just stopped speaking to me and i dont know why,sometimes he would just text me randomly asking how iv been and if im alive eventhou i text hm so much he would rhow up unexpectedly...but this past week ive been texting him alost everyday but he just dont want to reply back to me i even phoned hm but he didnt answer..a few weeks ago when i saw him he told me he likes being around me he just dnt like how clingy iv gotten cause his not keen on clingy...He ignores me like i dont exist anymore and i dont know what i did wrong and i dont know what to do..any advice? iv decided to stay away from him and make myself vanish from him like he never knew me..I dont mean to seem clingy and i dont mean to bombard him with all those texts everyday,i just want to speak to him...do u think his silence and ignoring me is his way of saying leave hm alone and move on,im done and bored of you cause you are clingy..do you think he will show up again and speak to me again wheneva..today i msgd him saying im sorry for always texting hm so much i dnt mean to im just ona other trip and i feel really bad and stuff and i hope hes not mad or anythng..i thought he wouldv replied but he just read it so now i havent heard from him for a week now..isit my fault that he dnt wana speak to me anymore cause i seem clingy lately and iv pushed hm away cause its a turn off...im just worried cause this is the longest he hapnt spoken to me and i dnt knw why im being so ignored..i dont knw what to do anymore,.if i distant myslf and stop texting him do u think he wil show may..im so confused (link)
He's ignoring you because he doesn't like you texting him every day. You still have feelings for him, that's why you want to talk to him every day. He doesn't feel the same way, so he doesn't feel that need that you've been feeling so that's why he doesn't text you.

In the end you guys just don't feel the same about you. He's not interested in dating you anymore, he doesn't feel that need to talk to you all the time like you feel about him.

He may show up again and start talking to you, because of the sex, but that's about it. Hopefully by then you move on and won't want to reply to him.


my girlfriend and I broke up a week ago and I want to die life just doesn't matter anymore (link)
When you lose someone, your heart breaks and you really do feel like there's no point.

But seriously, if you found something so great and lost it, you'll definitely find it again. It's not the end of the world. Just give yourself time to heal.

It hurts, everyone goes through break ups. It hurts whether you were the one breaking up with the person or the person was breaking up with you. Either way, it just hurts.

So since you're feeling suicidal, I'm definitely going to advise you to seek counseling. They'll talk to you and help you in that area. If anything, call the suicide hotline number.

Don't call her, don't get in contact with her at all. Delete her off your social media sites.

Take it day by day. Do things that make you feel good. What I've learned is that break ups are a good time to start doing new things and become a better you. Start exercising, running, dancing. Try new things, new hobbies, take interesting classes. Go spend time with friends, make new friends.

Number one, seek counseling. Suicide is serious.


During my last year of school, when everyone else was revising for their exams and preparing for university, I was spending all of my time reading fanfiction. Suddenly, it's August 2014 and I've managed to get into university despite intentionally sabotaging three of my exams because I didn't have the guts to tell my parents I had no desire to go to uni in September.
For six months I dragged myself to uni everyday to go to classes for a degree I didn't want to do. Whilst my classmates were making notes and asking questions, I was doodling (despite my total lack of artistic prowess) and staring blankly out of the window. Eventually I started willing myself to be sick so I had an excuse not to show up for class. Slowly, I stopped attending and instead spent my days hidden under my winter duvet pondering my pitiful existence and why I felt so unfulfilled. I was easily spending four hours a day doing nothing but watching the ceiling.
So, after a year of this torture I dropped out. It's been seven months since I left and I still feel immensely unhappy. I have a Saturday job but that's it since no one is hiring where I live and I can't yet drive to apply anywhere else. So what do I do? I occasionally think about going back to university to do a different degree but I can't decide what, and I don't want to end up on another course that I don't enjoy. Despite what my family think, I don't want to spend all my time in bed thinking about the futility of life but that's all I feel capable of right now. I try drag myself out of this pit but then I blink and I've spent five hours face down on the floor because I just couldn't get up. Everything feels pointless but I don't want it to feel that way. I want to find something I love and to go out and chase it. I want to got to uni or get a job and be happy but I don't know what will make me happy, and I can't afford to not know (student finance won't pay for me to mess up again). So I suppose my question is, what next? How do I work out my next step? How do I find the thing that makes me happy? What do I do with my life? How do I stop everything feeling so meaningless? (link)
My advice would be to go to counseling. If you can't go out of your way to see a counselor, go to your school counselor.

You definitely aren't the only young adult who feels this way.

So go talk to your counselor and keep going to see them and they will help you figure out what to do. They'll help you figure out what the next step is. Maybe just take a couple of classes that sound interesting to you.

When I was in school, I was getting so tired of taking general ed classes and having no direction and I hadn't chose a major. Once I took some classes that sounded more interesting, it really helped figure out what I would be interested in pursuing. There's tons of classes, so look into it and try taking a couple of classes so you're not overwhelmed.

But my number one piece of advice would be to talk to your counselor. Let them know exactly what's going on.


I'm in my last year in high school and there's this teacher I've had for 3 years who I've had the craziest crush on since the beginning. We get along great, we always talk and laugh together and we've had a few deeper conversations. Unless if he's stupid, I'm sure he knows I like him, I always talk flirty, and visit him all the time, but I don't think he minds because I know he likes me (as a person). But I'm graduating and will probably never see him again, and even though I know nothing will happen (he's married), I really want to tell him I like him! I just know I'll regret it forever if I don't and really whats the harm? I tell him, embarrass myself a little, and never see him again. But how should I tell him? I just want the perfect thing to say. Anyone have any advice or opinions?
And no, I'm not trying to break up a marriage or do anything illegal, it's totally innocent. (link)
I second everyone else in not telling him. Sure, there's no harm to you. But it will put him in an uncomfortable situation.
He may think that he has been letting students too close, when he's probably not. I'm positive he doesn't want students to have crushes on him and he wants to impact and teach these kids. So if you say something, he might change the way he interacts with students.

I believe you when you say it's completely innocent and you don't want to break up the marriage or do anything illegal, but this could definitely make a teacher paranoid.


I don't have a lot of friends andI know I should be grateful for the ones I do have but I feel alone. I don't have like a group of friends all my friends are from different groups. I used to have a group of friends but we're not really friends anymore but that's a story for another time. Anyways lets talk about the kinds of friends I have friend A is really judgemental and she's always called me ugly but with mixed signals I don't if she knows that I caught on but oh well but this is how she'd call me ugly in grade 8 she said that me and this guy would look cute together, the next day she said that same guy and this other girl would look cute together because they're both ugly. She just basically called me ugly without remembering what she said the day before. Grade 9 comes and she says "wow you're so lucky you're not popular cause I don't hear boys talk about you and say that you're super ugly" so she just called me ugly again. Grade 10 comes and she looks at me and says "wow I'm imagining how you'd look with makeup and longer hair you'd look really good" which indicates sheets 's still not happy with my appearance, grade 11 comes and my hair is finally longer and she says "see I told you, you'd look better with longer hair now all you need is makeup" indicating she's still not happy with how I look. Grade 12 just started and she's still bringing up I should wear makeup. I finally branched out in making new friends too so in grade 10 I became friends with friend B we clicked and hung out a lot in the summer until Halloween of grade 11 when she got a boyfriend and to this day she only talks to me about her boyfriend, doesn't invite me out anywhere unless her boyfriend comes, even when you tell her that you want a girls night he still finds a way to come. They're basically joined at the hip cause they're always together so of course I feel alone when I hangout with her cause now whenever I tell her my problems she relates it to her boyfriend, I'm friends with her boyfriend too but they're just annoying. Friend C only talks about her culture and makeup and whenever you bring something else up she says "stop its gonna make me depressed" in the summer she used to call me every single day and I'm not exaggerating whether I was out with family she would call, now she has a guy to talk to and now that's all she talks about, she's like friend B where if you bring something up she'll relate it to the guy. Friend D only talks about boys and again whenever you bring up something else she'll brush it off and talk about her problems but out of all these friends id probably have fun hanging out with friend D because this summer she was the only one that wanted to hangout with me. Friend A and I only talk in school, friend B was all about her boyfriend and I don't wanna hangout with friend C because she's too "classy" to take public transit. Her words not mine. I just want a friend where we can both talk about our problems equally, still be able to have inside jokes and we're not judgemental about each other, we wouldn't talk about the same thing 24/7 and we'd go places. With the friends I have now let me just tell you this now none of them really personally know anything about me I've known friend D the longest out of all of them and she didn't even know my family background till this year that's to tell you how self-centred my friends are but I could tell you so many facts about them. I've tried making more friends at my school but now that it's grade 12 cliques are already formed and I'm super shy I'm surprised I've made different friends but the ones I haven't mentioned are just acquaintances that don't want to be anything more than a school friend. What do I do what can I do to stop feeling lonely when I have friends? I have social media too but I also feel alone on there too cause no one interacts with me whenever I interact with them they just favourite my tweet and that's it. Please help and thank you if you've read up to this point and sorry if there are a lot of typos this was typed on my iPhone. I also tried joining clubs and so far everyone in the clubs are friends with each other already so they kind of automatically excluded me with out their knowledge (link)
Well your first friend doesn't treat you how a friend should treat you. I wouldn't actually consider her a friend.
I also want to say that you should change your looks or start wearing make up because someone tells you that you should.
Friends should lift you up and support you, they shouldn't make fun of you.

It's hard when your friends have boyfriends. The guy becomes the center of attention. It sucks but it does happen. If you do have a good friend that has a boyfriend but that's all they talk about or she keeps bringing him along, I'd suggest talking to that friend. Let them know how you feel without attacking them.

But try to make some new friends as well. It takes time to build friendships but I'm positive you will.
Maybe start talking to your school acquaintances, if you make an effort eventually someone will come around. It's really hard when you're shy but sometimes it's just something you have to do.

I'm glad that you joined clubs. And like I said, it takes time to start building a friendship so don't rule out the people who already have friends in those clubs.

Just remember it takes time, it will be difficult but just put yourself out there.


Hey,so everytime im with my expanded family I feel like I'm not a part of them like most of them are loud and I find it weird I'm not a snob or something like when I'm with my friends I'm the loudest person ever but I just don't feel comfortable with them I don't even talk to some of my cousins I don't know if it's just weird for me to see them because I only see them twice a year but everytime we have a Family event I feel Anxiety and uncomfortable.most of time I don't even come to these family events but I don't want them to think that I don't like them. is it normal or I'm just being weird and should I try to go the my expanded family bbq ? (link)
I think it's normal to feel that way. You act that way because you're not comfortable around them and don't spend that much time around them.

In my opinion, I still think you should attend family events. Just because it's not something that happens often and they won't all always be around. Might as well try to make an effort.

But to answer your question, it's normal to feel that way. Everyone's personality is different and doesn't always click with other people. Especially when someone has a shy personality around people they're not close to.


So my best friend and I are always together. Because of this I tend to meet her otherfriends and make friends through her. About a year ago we started occasionally visiting her friend, lets call her Laura, and also Laura's boyfriend since ge lives with her. So a few days ago Lauras boyfriend told my friend he has a crush on me, I'm terribly shy and don't know how talk to people...let alone in those circumstances.... Buy anyway he messaged me on Facebook yesterday and I didnt know what to say... He had said hey and I left it for a few hourse until i was just like 'hola' and then he didnt say anything until this morning he said 'hit me up when your not buzy' its 8 at night and I still haven't opened it or responded and I don't know what to say I really don't want to be mean or ignore him and make things awkard for mu friend but I also don't know what to say because I really don't like him that way and considering the other circumstances besides the fact I'm friends with his girlfriend... I just don't know what to say and I can't just keep ignoring all his messages if he keeps talking to me (link)
I don't think it would be wrong to message him back. I think as long as you don't lead him on or anything like that you're fine.

Given the circumstances, that he's in a relationship, it puts you in a difficult situation.

So you can either not respond to the message, or you can answer but in an "just friend" way.

If he gets flirty or says anything that makes you feel weird, just don't respond.

Hopefully this is just a crush that will fade away.


should i have hope if i like this boy and hes a capricorn and im a pisces but he's dating this girl that is a libra but for right now they have a long distance relationship because he has to live in new york for a year But I think he likes me too because of the way he looks at me I'm just to coward to ask and I really need to kno if I should have hope or just leave well enough alone I can't take missing him anymore (link)
Since he's dating another girl, I'd say just leave it alone. You don't want to get involved in someone else's relationship.

If he becomes single, then I say go for it.

You just don't want to go make things complicated and ruin someones happiness.

So for now, I'd just move on.


I am a girl and my best friend is a guy who is pretty much a brother and today I found out good exgirl friend cheated on him while they were dating now they're friends and he doesn't know I don't know if I should tell him, he has a right to know but it may ruin there friendship should I tell him what I found out? (link)
It's not your place. I mean unless they were still together or if they're thinking about getting back together, I think you shouldn't get involved.
But if they're not together, and not getting back together and are only friends, just leave it be.


Hi. I just turned 18 yesterday and it was so boring. I never had close friends so I just celebrated my birthday with my family. I want to get a tatoo just because I want to have a memorable experience in my birthday that gonna last forever. My family are super strict and conservative. They don't even want me to have an extra ear piercing which I'll do soon. I want to get a tattoo in the back of my ears. What colour should I have that is not obvious when I go ponytail? Pls help. And what is the best tattoo? My options are semi colon (cancer awairness campaign), spider and infinity sign. I want a tattoo that is kinda small enough to be noticed from afar. What can you suggest? Thanks. (link)
Take some time to think about what you really want. I think behind the ear is a cute idea and it's not a place that will really affect you in your future job opportunities since it can easily be covered.

I think get something that means a lot more to you. Like what are your reasons for getting the semi colon? Did you have family with cancer? Or know someone with cancer? Or just want to show your support? Because I like that one.

I know infinity signs mean a lot. Because it means "forever". A lot of couples will get that tattoo. Or people who lose someone close to them will get that in honor of them.

Is there a reason behind the spider? Or you just thought it looked cool?

I have one tattoo on my shoulder, it's my middle name with a feather. It's a family name.
I'm planning on getting a sunflower tattoo next week in honor of my mom since she passed away.

So I suggest picking the one that has most meaning to you. You can also go in Pinterest for inspiration.


Hi... I was in a long distance relationship... After texting and calling for what seemed like forever,a few years we saw each other...... We did this week... And we had a long talk.
And he broke up with me.. Saying we couldn't be together. That he couldn't give me 110% and that further down the road he would cheat on me. And to not wait for him anymore. And I was wonderful and all that crap....
Now,here is the confusing part..
He said right after 'don't wait for me' that he isn't 100% giving up on him and I... Us... Later he went on to say... All I needed to do was move out here (in the bay area) and get a part time job..
I asked him if he could do better than me.... He said no..
He said he didn't want to break up with me... He didn't want to do this... He loves me... And I saw it in his eyes that he didn't want to hurt me or break my heart.... His body language was so uncomfortable... And his eyes had some held back tears going on....
I've left messages... He hasn't responded... But he keeps viewing my Snapchat..
Also,he said he was going to pray for me and to text him when I got home... And he wanted to keep talking and stay in touch... Which obviously he has not...
Another thing.. I looked straight in his eyes... And I asked him... Is there a battle going on inside of you still even though you made a choice? He responded with yes..... I told him,that if he was still battling with a desicion after he made a choice,that it was the wrong one...
Advice please,what do I do now? Did he make the right choice? Even though he's still deciding in heart what do even though he made a choice? What is going on?? Thanks for the advice in advanced (link)
Like the other adviser said, long distance relationships are really hard and you really have to work on them.

He's definitely struggling with the break up. I think he made the right decision for him. For whatever reasons he has, he's making the right one for himself. Because I think if has any doubts about your relationship, it's not fair to stay with you. I believe you do deserve 110% in the relationship and he doesn't believe he can give you that.

I believe the reason he's not answering your texts is so that it's easier for him to move on. Because if you guys keep talking, it'll make it ten times harder on both of you.

So in the end, you can't control what he feels or what he does. You can only control what you do from here on out. So since he made his decision, I think you should try to move on. It will be hard but it's the best thing to do in this situation.


Hey so my girlfriend and I are both in a long distance relationship for two months now, we're 14. The problem is, she'll sometimes have bad mood swings and get really mad at people for no reason. She's sick right now too, so that's not helping much. I was just wondering is there anything I can say to help her? I love her and I don't want anything to happen to her because of these mood swings

thanks (link)
She's young so mood swings will happen a lot cause she's still going through puberty. Hormones..

But I agree with the other adviser. Don't tell her to calm down or that she's over reacting. That won't end well.
I think the best thing to do is be there for her. Tell her you love her and that you're there for her if she needs you. To talk, to listen.

If you wanna be sweet, you can send her a care package since she's sick. Like some tissues, cough drops, a little teddy bear, a note, ect. You can be creative.


My boyfriend asked me tonight if I was a virgin because he is and has never done anything at all. We've been dating on a couple weeks and I didn't know how to answer it though. This is why:

I've gave a few guys head
I've been fingered A LOT
I had anal twice
I masturbate like once a day

I never had like...sex sex, you know? Like the making babies kind LOL. You know what I mean. Does that mean I'm a virgin? (link)
That's up to you to decide on the terms. In general, you're still a virgin.
Most people consider "sex sex" and losing your virginity.

I mean if he asks again, you can just say that you've never had sex.

Cause the term is so general. Like people who are gay can't really have the same type of sex as we do, but if they have any other type of sex, they don't consider themselves virgins anymore.

So I think the term is basically up to you. But to make things simple with your boyfriend, you can just say that you've never had sex.


Hello I'm 13 years old and I have been through a fake relationship 2 years ago and it effects my courage and feelings today. There are many girls that went to my school and are going to my high school that I could have asked but I'm afraid. I think ill either be turned down or dumped. I am not a bad guy but my ex brought the bad out of me. We were friends for 6 months and I was already obsessed with her. Me and her always wrote notes to each other and we flirted alot. Then I gathered my courage before Christmas break and asks her out on the notes and she said yes. After that she never hugged me or touched me. Then she came to me a week later saying that my so call friend named chance said our relationship isn't real and I said why do you believe what he says and she cried and walks away. I talked shit to chance even though he was a football player and I confronted him. He said what she said he said. Then they went to see a movie with the school and I stayed back at school.and people came back telling me chance as holding her hand and I was pissed. I went to MacKenzie in 3rd hour the next day and dumped her and she said I already dumped you when I held chance's hand. That set me off. I said you were never worth my time you worthless bitch and walked away as the bell rang. She cried for the rest of the afternoon. A year later I find her on facebook and I decided to say hi and start as friends and she cussed me out and I don't respond.i look at her page and find her kissing like 50 different boys in sexual positions bit not doing anything but kissing. So I call her a slut and she cried again. She even put me on blast about our old relationship. I'm afraid of asking til this day for that very reason. She also said she'll get her boyfriend who I a wrestler on me if she sees me again.please help.

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So I'm going to start off saying that pretty much everyone is afraid of rejection. Because honestly, rejection sucks. But in order to start dating, you'll have to put yourself out there.

Clearly you had a bad relationship. You both are young and she was being immature. But you can't change what other people do and how they act. You can only choose how you act. You reacted poorly to everything that happened.
You didn't act mature at all. It doesn't matter what you think she deserves because she held some guys hand. You shouldn't have called her any times. That is immature.
On facebook she shouldn't have cussed you out and put your relationship on blast. That is immature. But like I said before, you can't control what other people do, just what you do and how you react.

And again, you decided to go on her page for no reason and call her names again. Ten times more immature.

Don't contact her ever again. Block her, ect.

You both have a lot of maturing to do.


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I have been dating this really sweet guy for a few months. But my mom won't accept him cause she thinks I deserve better. In her head she thinks I'm something special just because I'm pretty,quite intelligent and study medicine. He may not go to college,but he is hardworking and he really cares about me. The main reason she won't accept him is that he wears hearing aid,which to her makes him disabled. I honestly couldn't care less about that,just because he lost his hearing due to an accident doesn't make him a bad person. Also she minds because he is from a village and I'm from a city. She thinks he wants to take me away from them and trap me as a housewife. In short,she demonizes him because of some prejudice and she has never even met him. I tried talking some sense into her but she sticks to her opinion. (link)
I think you need to stop trying to get your moms approval. You won't be able to change her opinion because she has these opinions for no reason and she is being unreasonable.

She's never met him and is making all these assumptions and doesn't trust your judgement.

I'd just let all this go and enjoy your relationship.


My dad and brother are always calling me fat. I got used to them calling me fat tho. But now at school most friends call me fat and always say I'm really heavy. When they call me fat I laugh it off and smile like it doesn't hurt but it really does. I'm 14 and weigh 118 lbs. I never saw my self as fat. My mom is saying I'm getting fatter. My jeans are getting tighter and tighter. And I feel like the more people call me fat the more I eat. I spend more than half an hour staring at myself everyday. And I feel like I'm getting bigger and bigger. I try to lose weight but I can't and that makes me feel worse. I don't know if I should let their opinions influence me. (link)
It hurts when people say things like that to you. But you can't let it get to you. People don't realize how much of an effect their words have on people. It can cause girls to start having eating disorders and hate on themselves and their body.

I think you should talk to your friends at school and tell them how it's making you feel. They probably don't realize how much it hurts you.

I don't think you should lose weight for other people. I think people should lose weight and take care of themselves and their body for themselves and their health.

So if YOU want to, then you should. But you should do it in a healthy way. Don't start obsessing, but just strive to take better care of yourself. Like eating healthy and working out. I'm sure since you're 14, you're also going through puberty still so your body is changing. So just take care of yourself and don't let these people get to you.


I am not 18 yet but i want a tattoo and i know someone who would do it. what would be the best spot so my mom wouldnt notice it? (link)
Somewhere where your clothes will cover it. Whatever clothes you wear, get a tattoo that will be underneath them and not noticed.

Make sure whoever does your tattoo is good and clean. You don't want to get a tattoo that will infect you or look bad, because you're stuck with it.




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