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i don't know if i should tell my best friend the secret i found out
I am a girl and my best friend is a guy who is pretty much a brother and today I found out good exgirl friend cheated on him while they were dating now they're friends and he doesn't know I don't know if I should tell him, he has a right to know but it may ruin there friendship should I tell him what I found out?
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It's not your place. I mean unless they were still together or if they're thinking about getting back together, I think you shouldn't get involved.
But if they're not together, and not getting back together and are only friends, just leave it be.
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Hon, a fact of life is that people who used to be a couple can break up and remain friends pretty much no matter what the reason for break up was, with the exception that one was not verbally or physically abusive towards the other.
Sometimes people cheat cus they are too chicken to end the relationship and/or don't want to hurt the person they're dating but the fact is, they are not right for each other and the one tempted to or engaged in cheating is often doing so because their partner does not fulfill their needs emotionally or physically if the two are having sex. Often in both cases, its not because there is something lacking in the partner, as they can meet the needs of a new partner just fine so its just that two people were together who were not meant to be together. The way one person goes about it by cheating is not the right way to fix the problem. The fix is to split up. Since the two are split up as a couple, I'd say problem solved. Now if for some reason she wants him back in a relationship, then you would need to say something and find out if he already knows about the cheating and thats one of several reasons they split or if he doesn't know and then it is needed advice. Don't expect that he will trust you right off the bat so ask him to be cautious and watchful. So unless he was planning to get back together, any talk about it otherwise is meddling in someones private business and even as their friend, not right to bring up. If he was in a new relationship and that was happening while still with the girl, and you don't have hearsay to pass on but you have actual proof such as seeing with your own eyes, the girl out somewhere with another guy, kissing him, then as his friend, it is okay to tell, but after the fact, no.
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If they're already broken up, I don't think its necessary. If he thinks about getting back with her, then I'd say yes.
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