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I like this boy but he's dating another girl but I think he likes me too
should i have hope if i like this boy and hes a capricorn and im a pisces but he's dating this girl that is a libra but for right now they have a long distance relationship because he has to live in new york for a year But I think he likes me too because of the way he looks at me I'm just to coward to ask and I really need to kno if I should have hope or just leave well enough alone I can't take missing him anymore
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Since he's dating another girl, I'd say just leave it alone. You don't want to get involved in someone else's relationship.
If he becomes single, then I say go for it.
You just don't want to go make things complicated and ruin someones happiness.
So for now, I'd just move on.
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Sounds like a temp thing...maybe Dad had to take a NY job for a year and when the boy left home, he left behind a girlfriend and their only choice is to stay in touch via the net long distance. These reasons for an LDR, have more chances of surviving than just meeting someone on line whom you've never met in person and have little chance of doing so. So if I understood this correct ans she was already his girlfriend before he came to NY, and he's still with her, you need to treat this the same way as a guy you like who has a local girlfriend maybe in same school, classes, or neighborhood. If a person is currently dating someone, its best to wait until he breaks up and is single and available again. How would you like it if you were this girl waiting for a girlfriend who had to move away a year but is coming back. And while he is gone, another girl goes after him. You wouldn't like it one bit. So dont do it to someone else.
Now, on the other hand, young love and dating when in Jr high, H.S. and sometimes even early college, the people have relationships that don't last long to begin with so its just a matter of time before he breads up for whatever reason. You dont want to be the cause of instigating a break up. But I agree, it sounds like you've caught his interest. If he wants to start something with you, he would need to break up with her first. But consider this, if he did break up with her and start dating you, he's only there for this year and after that gone. If your relationship lasts that long, you end up in the same position as the original girl, now being the long distance girlfriend and he may decide he'd rather date someone local than long distance. Girls and guys alike will choose the
in person relationship over the LDR cus theres things you cant have with an LDR, hard to have trust, and you miss out on hand holding and kisses and such.
Theres no reason why you can't just be friendly and friends, but you may find doing this reinforces any interest you have in him and it could grow to a crush even if nothing comes of it and it hurts when he leaves. But keep this in mind, if we fear getting hurt and want to protect our heart, then we will never meet anyone in this life because dating, and relationships are prone to cause hurt as some point or another. You have to be willing to be vulnerable to experience relationships. So you may want to opt for just just smiling when you see him and not try to be come close friends. If he does pursue a friendship with yyou, as embarassing as it might seem, the awkwardness goes away quickly if you voice your fears like, "Hey Johnny, I'd like to be friends but I am also kind of reluctant because I know you have a girlfriend back home and you'll only here for a year. I'm afraid that I might go from friend feelings to more and then be hurt when you leave. So I thought I'd put that out there so you understand where I'm coming from at the very least.' if plans change and theres a chance he'll be staying in your location and he's still attracted to you, you might be the first one to hear from him and he may break up with the other girl if there's no chance of going back. ONes teen years should be experienced, going out to movies, pizza and holding hands with a sweetie, stuff you can't do long distance.
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Much research into behaviour confirms (rather predictably I guess!) that we look at things, or indeed people, which/who interset us. The more we look at something, and the longer it holds our gaze, the more interested we are. So almost certainly, you've captured his interest. Should you pursue things? Well, if he's very keen on his girlfriend and would not risk losing her by his own actions, then you won't get anywhere anyway. If you're happy with what you've got, nobody and nothing is a threat or tempatation. If he's not particularly happy with her/the situation etc then anybody could be a threat. And it'll be somebody who catches his eye...so why not make sure it's YOU! You have the distinct advantage of being on the spot, often, I assume? A real physical presence, which beats an abstracted idea in most every case. I wouldn't worry too much about the idea that you'll be flirting, or 'stealing someone elses guy'. Because, like we said, your best efforts will be of no avail if she is firmly set-up as his heart's desire. We simply cannot 'steal' people. They have to come willingly! Not sure the astrological signs have a great deal of bearing myself. But if you believe in the 'stars' and they say you're a good match it'll give you some extra confidence. Which is absolutley NEVER a bad thing to have. I believe you have every reason for hope, by the sound of it. And going with your feelings and approaching him will almost certainly force a decision/outcome. The actual outcome will depend to a great extent on how he feels about his long-distance, libra (if you insist on horroscopes!!) girlfriend. Can see you like him from your last six words. They're measured. No fancy dramatic words and entreaties. Simple statement of fact...you just can't take missing him. Scared of missing the chance to see how it might turn out too, I bet? If so, try. When we look back, we regret the things we didn't do more than the ones we did, even if they failed. "Might have been" are three very sad words indeed when used retrospectively, and really get under your skin like no other.
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