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im suicidal
my girlfriend and I broke up a week ago and I want to die life just doesn't matter anymore
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When you lose someone, your heart breaks and you really do feel like there's no point.
But seriously, if you found something so great and lost it, you'll definitely find it again. It's not the end of the world. Just give yourself time to heal.
It hurts, everyone goes through break ups. It hurts whether you were the one breaking up with the person or the person was breaking up with you. Either way, it just hurts.
So since you're feeling suicidal, I'm definitely going to advise you to seek counseling. They'll talk to you and help you in that area. If anything, call the suicide hotline number.
Don't call her, don't get in contact with her at all. Delete her off your social media sites.
Take it day by day. Do things that make you feel good. What I've learned is that break ups are a good time to start doing new things and become a better you. Start exercising, running, dancing. Try new things, new hobbies, take interesting classes. Go spend time with friends, make new friends.
Number one, seek counseling. Suicide is serious.
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I assume she left you because if you wanted to leave her you wouldn't be feeling bad. So you are dealing with rejection and your mind is trying to come up with a measuring system as to where fell short of being worthy of her. You may feel you can't possibly ever find anyone else ever just like her or better than her. You may suffer low self confidence and hate the process of starting over with how to approach and ask another out. As bad as your heart is hurting and likely other things affecting you, like distracted, cant concentrate, adrenaline going non stop, heart pounding alot, unable to sleep and loss of appetite, (i know cus I experienced someone I loved leaving me) I didn't think I could truly find someone as special again. But I did. After being hurt like that, I put myself out there again via a dating site, met a lot of losers and was praying to God, disgusted and about to give up when the man i am now married to wrote to me. He far outshines any man I have ever met or dated and is perfect for me. Although when I was hurting like you, I couldn't see any hope at that moment either. Adviceman is right that life is a process of steps we go through in relationships, especially in our younger yrs as we are learning and improving ourselves and improving our search. With each relationship that breaks up, there will be hurt, the more perfect the person was for you, the greater that hurt will be. You can't avoid getting hurt unless you wall up your heart and then no one has access to getting or remaining close to you, not family, not friends and certainly not a new potential date or mate. If all people who were hurt as badly as you have been committed suicide today, the worlds population would drop by half or more tomorrow. So no matter how badly you feel, this is a reason to give up over. If you get to feeling so bad you think you will commit suicide, then call 911 and tell them and they'll send help to help you get over your most crucial period of time. As you gain distance, over time the pain will lessen, but the memories are still there without pain. I no longer have pain over the man who left me but I still have the good memories with him. Hope this helps.
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Hey guy no girl is worth killing yourself over. Trust me we have all been where you are right now and survived. You don't realize I right now but she has done you a big favor by letting you go.she is giving you the chance to get back in the game and meet new women. A women who will truly appreciate who you are and love you for who and what you are.
You did not give your age but I am going to assume your a teenager. Most teenagers have multiple girlfriends or boyfriend while in high school. It is all part of the social atmosphere of school.
If your older in college or even out in the world count yourself very lucky that she left you. She was probably trying to make you over into her idea of what a husband should be and not being successful. Had she been you would have been miserable and writing to us as to how that happened and what to do about it.
Whichever is the case take the words my mother would give me. "There are plenty of fish in the sea, Bait your hook and go fishing." "There is someone out there waiting to meet you." For me there was and I met her 45 years ago and we have been together ever since.
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