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I have a HUGE crush on this guy at my school. He asked out my best friend and he asked her out twice. I really want him to ask me out instead even though she is my besty. what should I do? Thanks for your help! (link)
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So, im guessing that your said no both times and maybe he's trying to make you jealous. Flirt with him, maybe hint on how you feel about him, just don't stand back and continue to just watch it happen.
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ive been pretty depressed for a while... i got my first bf in feb. 2014 and we broke up last week. also my frinds started fighting and hating eachother. i lost my only 5 frinds that i had made since 1rst grade. i started getting bad grades on my report cards and im getting made fun of for it. im just 10 years old but i cut myself and hav suicidal thoughts... please give me advice. (link)
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If you are the age that you say you are, you are way too young for a boyfriend. You need to grow up first before you think you can bring somebody else in to your life. It's okay, you are still young and can still find other friends, just be yourself.
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My ex and I broke up nearly a year ago. Before that, we were dating for 3 years and best friends for 2. I was insanely depressed when we broke up - I couldn't sleep for a month, slept too much for another, and hardly ate for 2 or 3 months. I didn't start feeling better for a really long time, and when I did, he came back into my life. He said he missed his best friend and still wanted us to stay in each other's lives.
In trying to be friends, one thing led to another and you could say we became friends with benefits. I was fine with that; I wasn't trying to get him back or anything. After a while though I realized I couldn't keep doing that. I still had (have) intense feelings for him. So we stopped.
I just found out he has a new girlfriend. She's absolutely gorgeous, and seems to have a lot more in common with him than I ever did (one of the many reasons we called it quits). I'm trying to stay rational and think that she's great for him, and I should be happy that he's happy - or at least, not be bitter. But it stings...really bad. I feel so stupid for being his plaything while he found someone better for him...and for still being in love with him.
It's currently 7:56am and I've been awake for 3 hours. That's after not being able to fall asleep until past 2am. I can't expect it not to hurt but I'm terrified of falling back into the depression I felt a year ago. The sleepless nights have apparently already started and I've been throwing up a lot ever since I found out (not intentionally l; I just literally feel sick to my stomach).
I know everyone says "focus on yourself, find someone better, stop thinking about him, forget he exists, etc" but it's ridiculously difficult to see past all this to get to that. Keep in mind, it's been about a year. And I'm still in the same place I was when it first happened. Any way I can avoid having this hurt to bad? Or am I really gonna be forced to feel it out until the end (link)
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Falling in love with somebody could be so easy and feel so good, but falling out of love with somebody is even more difficult and hurts so much more and may feel so terrible. Don't let anyone rush you into moving on. One day you will want to put yourself back out there and that doesn't have to be soon. Being friends with benefits with somebody is so dangerous. The benefits comes along with that physical connection which could cause emotional connection to occur. It's mostly the girl who expresses that emotional connection or feels that connections because us girls are sensitive. We want to be able to have one night stands or not have to fall for somebody, but we aren't wired that way. I'm sorry you have to go through all of this pain. If you need to talk, e-mail me at theonenonlyandie@aol.com
Good luck!
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Gender- Male
Age-14
I am a very intelligent and shy person. There was a beautiful girl at my school by the name of Kamryn. I had liked her for a very, very long time, even though we didn't know each other very well. After speaking to one of my best friends (who is also one of Kamryn's best friends), I discovered that she liked me as well. On February 12th I finally worked up the courage to ask her out. I had gotten her a heart-shaped box of chocolates and a rose (as cliche as it may seem, it was almost Valentine's Day). She said yes, and it was then that I had my first girlfriend. I tried to do everything right; I sent her goodnight and good morning texts every night and morning, I compliment her everyday (I tried not to compliment her to much, as not to dilute the meaning, but simply couldn't help stating my mind). We still didn't talk too often during school (as we are both very shy and soft-spoken people). We did, however, text each other all the time. I attempted to make conversation with her whenever I could, but she never reciprocated. I am an INTJ, and contemplate every finite detail very thoroughly. I took any blame or negative aspect out on myself. Out of the blue, after only twenty days of dating, she told me that there are a lot of things going on in her life, and that she thinks we should break up. I understand her point of view, but as a person of pure logic and reason, I am having a constant internal battle of reasoning. I am seeing two equal and true perspectives. I keep analyzing all of the possibilities; perhaps she only said yes to spare my feelings. I have been deeply depressed. I haven't slept more than three hours a night, and haven't eaten anything since the breakup, nor have I spoken to anyone for any reason. There is no advice that can help me, but I never speak of my feelings to anyone, so I figured, "why not?" I expect to see all of the things that are all too common and all the less helpful; "It will pass," "You're young, you'll go through a lot of girlfriends," "You can't let it get to you," and the classic, "There are plenty of fish in the sea." (link)
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I'm going to sound cliche, but you are young. Another thing is it wasn't that long and you should be glad she confronted you early on in the relationship and you didn't find out way later on she didn't want o be with you which would hurt you way more. It seems to me like there was a lot of miscommunication and she didn't see the relationship going anywhere since you didn't do anything with her, take her on dates, talk constantly or anything of the sort. You have to talk to her to be in a relationship. You should also be comfortable around her because if you aren't, then what's the point? It's just a label.
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I am an 18-year-old female. I've been in a relationship for 6 months. earlier in the relationship my boyfriend was a big flirt with a lot of girls (I later found out about that). he ended up cheating on me and I found out about it. I decided to stay with him but I can't seem to move fully past it. I'm not sure what to do or think through all of this. what should I do? (link)
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The part that is unclear is if you talked about the incident or not with him. You have to communicate to him about it if its bothering you. The two main points of a relationship is trust and communication. Without these, theres no point of the relationship at all. You have to communicate with him your concerns of the relationship and if theres any way he can make you feel more safe. If he turns very defensive or the relationship doesn't improve after that point, it might be best to stop the relationship altogether. Relationships are there to make you happy, not to stress you out
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i always hang out by my self now or with my friend marley because my friends abby, lily, laura, kiley, emma jane, Eve, breanna and sohpie all like to hang around boys or popular groups and i dont like to me and marley are pretty popular to but we dont want to hang around those groups or boys what do we do?????? (link)
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Just continue to do with what you're doing. If they want to spend time with you, they will leave that other group every once in a while. Don't push them, its their choice. If they are your true friends, they will miss you and want to hang out with you
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Hi, so I am 19 and I am a virgin and I have never kissed anyone, I am what you would call a good girl and I like to take things slow.
Most people say I am too mature for my age, so guys my age don't really fancy me.
The other night I met this guy who I have a lot in common, and he said he likes me and he wants to take me on a date... now the catch is that he is frikkin 32!!!
He is really hot, but I am scared to go out with him, because as an older guy he will probably want to take things fast and he probably is really experienced... and the whole thing scares me as I don't feel ready... and older guys usually wait 2 or 3 days to have sex with a girl!! I don't know if I should date him, but I really like him.
HELP!! (link)
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I think you should be open with him and tell him your situation and that he has to be willing to be patient with you. If he gives you a weird look or tries to persuade you to do otherwise, he's not the right guy for you. You want to find somebody who's worth your time. It may be scary to ask or find out, but you should know what you would be getting yourself into. Dating isn't only about looks, its about getting to know someone and seeing if you mesh well together.It might be hard to find the right person, but theres someone out there for you no matter what. If he's willing to make it work, he will respect your wishes and show some sympathy and patience
Let me know what you think!
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Hi! I'm having a love crisis here that I need a little advice on. There's a guy that I like and I'm pretty sure that he likes me. He's pretty cute, hilarious, an amazing artist, and a decent writer. The problem is, he's not smart. He gets straight C's at best and he's just over all not super intellectual. I wouldn't mind him not being naturally academic if he would just TRY. I've worked with him in groups and partners and he doesn't try to hide the fact that he doesn't care about school at all. I've been an above average hard working honors student my whole life so you can see why his lack of effort turns me off. Am I being shallow? I really like him, but I'm not going to even think about asking him out if he doesn't put in a little effort. (link)
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Look, it seems like thats just the type of person he is, you can't change that, but maybe if you date, he will change because he sees what you are doing. Dating is about seeing if two people really understand each other and enjoy each others company and if you get along and get to know each other
Give it a chance, maybe he is just trying to act cool to fit in. Maybe you can get him to open up more about that stuff.
Let me know what you think!
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I have this struggle and I am not sure if I should give someone this opportunity of being the store manager or not. This person seems reliable and what not, but smells like marijuana quite often. I spoke to him about it and he has not stopped till recently.
Do I trust this man? (link)
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you need to talk to him about your concerns and he shouldn't smell that way at all. Marijuana can be medical, but he should still be clean for work so he doesnt make the other customers feel uncomfortable
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My boyfriend and i broke up about a month ago... Before we broke up we had communications issues. he said we should stay friends and see if things fall into place. I didnt like that so i called it quit, after a few days i called him back saying that we should fix it, he agreed, but after days go by he wont call or text, i would bring it up again, he would after to fixing it and the same thing would go on again.. At some point i would text and he wont reply. Finally one day i told him that i dont want to be led on again and he should tell me where we both stand, he then said that he cannot commit to me. I was very hurt i just thanked him and said goodbye he replied that if it was the final goodbye then okay... So i deleted him from my contact, bbm and everyoda social network. I didnt call or text him, a week went by and the second week came... Towards the end of the second week, he called but i didnt take it, after about four days he called again and i didnt take it... I decided to download whatsapp on my new phone, because i stopped using my old phone which was giving me issues.. i started seeing his messages he sent to me Within those four days consecutively.. his not a type that goes to whatsapp,he barely even used it... So when I saw the msgs i replied Hi and immediately he replied "how have u been" after about 20mints i said "fine Thank u" he replied "just checking in" and i didnt reply afterwards.... Is he trying to come back or is he just missing me.... (link)
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I think this is both. From not hearing from you, he may have been worried or he may have finally realized what he was missing. It is a very common event that occurs. He may gave finally woke up and know what he actually wants. You have to be straight forward with him and ask him what he wants. If you think its worth going back to him, take the risk. If you think that you're tired of falling for him, don't start back up again
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So there's this guy at my work that I like, and we've been texting each other back and forth pretty often. Before reading week ended, I gave him this gift card to a sushi restaurant and he said we should go, and asked me to go to dinner! He picked me up and dropped me off home but didn't make any move. All throughout dinner it was really nice, it never felt awkward , but I just couldn't read him. Fast forward a few days, I texted him a "so do you know what I was craving today ?! Crepes ! Haha When are you free ? We should go out sometime !" And he replied "Haha I had some on my birthday! But I'm still down for crepes! We should go after exams are done! We can celebrate all of the A's we got haha" . Does it seem like he's interested in me ?? There were other instances where we were talking about soccer and I said I would watch him play over the summer and he said that he'll score a goal for me, or the time when he said he'll buy me green tea kit kat when he goes to Japan cause it's my favourite, or like how he'll teach me ukulele because I'm teaching him violin .... Like does it seem like he just thinks of me as a friend or more ? (link)
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I think you should be upfront with him about all of this. I know it may be nervewracking or you may be very scared to talk to him about this, but make subtle hints. Ask him to go somewhere and you may have to make the moves. I know that sounds weird, but there could just be a possibility that he's nervous and he doesn't want to lose you as a friend. Your options are either confront him straight up or go with the subtle hints. I'm gonna be cliche for a second but you only live once, you its all or nothing. If it works out, good for you, if it doesn't, its not the end of the world, you have many more opportunities to find somebody amazing. You can't wait for what you want to just fall in your lap, you gotta go out there and get it.
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Personally, I have been very miserable all of my life. I have suffered from OCD as long as I can remember. I moved from New York to Florida when I was five years old. It was very traumatic for me. I have tried to commit suicide, but I just ended up in a mental institution. I do see a psychiatrist, but she does not help me. In fact, I only see her for the medication. I am absolutely miserable right now, especially with my job. I decided that I will no longer give any types of hints about suicide because I don't want to end up in a mental institution again. That did nothing to help me. I am going through preparations (getting my house ready, cleaning, trying to pay off bills). (link)
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I think you need to give me more specifics about why you are suicidal. There isn't enough information here to determine a way to fix your issues because it can't only be about moving when you were five. FIVE. you were still young. OCD can be a very difficult issue to handle because everywhere you go, you are looking at the nasty things around you and all the things that you want to fix so badly, but do not have the capability of doing. I could tell you i know how you feel or it will get better, but that would be lying. I don't have OCD and i can't just say be patient, it will get better. It will only get better if you want to get better, if you get the necessary help. Nobody wants to see you die. There are so many people out there who care about you and you don't even know it. Killing yourself would be selfish to all those people who care about you, look up to you, who wake up every morning waiting to see you or hear you voice. I know you might think how would i know? but everyone has people who care. Everyone has people that rely on them or would support them no matter what. You are no different than any other person. We all have issues, we all have problems that we want resolved, but you have to fight for it, you have to want to be better for the sake of everyone around you and you have to do want to do it for yourself.
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Ok. I'm a girl, he's a single gay guy. We've been friends for over 2 years now, he even calls me his soulmate all the time. We always hang out and we do almost everything together. While I find him very attractive and a lot like me, I've respected his sexuality and refused to even consider to think of him romantically. That being said, I've noticed he's been getting REALLY friendly with me. He's always saying things like, ''I love your hair, it's so soft and long,'', or ''you have the prettiest eyes'', or ''you look beautiful today.'' He only does this to me.
We were going to his house to just hang out and the entire time we were walking home he held my hand and we didn't say anything. He let my hand go to open the front door and when I took my shoes off he slowly walked towards me and I kept stepping back until I hit the table and he leaned in really close and he was just staring at me for an entire minute! I didn't know what to do and he just kept coming in closer and closer and he was going to kiss me but then he stepped back and we were both awkwardly standing there and he muttered "sorry" ... I honestly don't understand, he told me he was 100% gay and he didn't have any interest in girls. I've never seen him act this way towards any other girl.
I guess my question is, gay men: do you ever find yourself against all odds, falling for a woman? Is it possible? What do I do? Do I just ask him directly?
He's forever complimenting me whenever we talk or just seeing each other. Always. I really do appreciate his compliments, but now it's always over the top. He'll compliment my appearance, say how perfect I am, that I'm amazing. It's almost like once he's on a roll with it, he will literally sit there and gush about me for a few mins at a time. what the hell is up with that, man? I'm extremely confused. (link)
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#1: maybe he's bi and he thought you were into him too
#2: maybe he pretended to be gay to get close to you
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so I'm relatively new to actually expressing my emotions so I don't want to mess up on this. I want to sing this song I wrote for the person I like and I want to tell her, but I don't know how to say it without sounding....stupid. Because I have the tendency to act completely stupid when it comes to being around her. And today had to be one of the best days I've had with her, we were smiling/laughing the whole time and messing around on the bus ride home. I don't know, it's just been a good day and I haven't been this happy in awhile. I just want to know what's the best way to say how I wrote a song for her. Not exactly sure how to present it...if that helps.
Additional- Genderfluid/18 (link)
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That might be too much, don't rush
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Hi, so I've been dating this girl for a few weeks. Now she is REALLY beautiful, all the guys are after her. I even received a text from one of her guy friends saying he was going to try and steal her from me. She also hangs out at some other guy's houses the whole time. I know she is loyal, as am I, I just get worried because we really love each other, but she lives in Texas and i live in Tennessee. It's just that I've dealt with long distance relationships before, they don't work out. But with her, I know it will last a long time. I'm just wondering, should I be worried? Should i keep loving her? :( (link)
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You may need to add a little more detail about how you met and how you are so confident with her. Long distant relationships are very hard because if one person just decides to stop talking to the other person, they can, nothing the other person can do about it. Especially if you've never met them in real life before, there is a very small chance it will work out unless you guys are both very open with each other and make plans to see each other.
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I don't even know where to begin to be honest, ive been in love with the same guy since 2011 from the moment i met him. We ended 2 years ago, we kept in contact few months after our break up and then we started to see each other again last year summer, but deep down it was a mistake to see him again. At the time he said he wanted to see me again cause he still had feelings for me, i believed him, obviously any girl whos in love will believe anything the guy she loves tells him.
I always come on here to get advice on how to move on from him but it's impossible i can't seem to forget him i cant stop myself from loving him and it's killing me inside, the last time we spoke was on new years and thats it. We both have too much pride to even say hi to eachother. Were both 20, we met when we were 17 i love this guy i've tried dating other people but its no help i've tried to like someone as much as i did with him but something inside me tells me my heart belongs to him. There must be a reason why i still love him? like why has he still kept me as a contact on social sites? i feel like you know when someone is meant for you its an instinct my heart tells me. He's the last guy i've had sex with, the only guy i've slept with since we met, i feel weird if i let another guy touch me cause it feels as if it's him. Everyone says that time will cure it all but i dont even believe that anymore honestly, i just have a feeling were going to be together one day but it's like were meant for eachother. I'm not a selfish person i will understand if he see's other people i have no right to say anything but it will kill me so much inside. I feel like i'm not allowing myself to find happiness with others because i'm so used to my past, i will admit that i dont know how to let my past go but honestly during the time we was together that was the happiest i've ever been i found love with him and so did he i felt it in him, i felt the love in his eyes :( i want to try and fall for someone but i can't i think of him everyday of my life, hes inside my skin it's killing me feeling like this. I know that he knows i still feel this way for him still. I've lost great chances with other guys but this love holds me back from it all.
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I think it may be tough for you because of your past and maybe you didn't have a proper ending to your relationship. I think you may need to confront him and tell him how you feel in a non creepy way and get these feelings resolved and put at ease. It can be very tough to forget someone that you desperately love, it is, but if he ends up saying he doesnt want to keep doing this relationship back and forth, then you will know that you have to move on and give yourself time for yourself. That might be the only way to feel any better about the current situation.
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I want sex with my boyfriend but I'm lucky if I get a kiss of him. Im a girl and I only got my first bra today and I'm not finished with puberty I've snogged and my ex showed me how to have sex but he left my school my other ex dumped me for two girls in my class. My boyfriend isn't that serious and I want more but the ex that is still in school won't go back out with me. (link)
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im so confused about this question, please clarify
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beginning school without my best friend who promised we would get through college together isn't going to be easy in the slightest I know. I already knew one day I would have to say goodbye to her because we would end up going to different universities any way but right now, I am doing a live stream with a friend and any time someone asks me about her, I grow silent and tell them she's gone. Anyone new would ask what her name was and I tell them, followed by "and we were...together." and they get the picture I would rather not talk about it. I know I'll find other friends but she had a special place in my heart because she kept me stable after a bunch of drama I went through.
I guess what I'm asking for is how can I ask people kindly to not ask me about her. Because I truly feel like I'm going to break down when someone asks me about her and I miss her too much to even talk about her. Granted, I do still talk to her, but it's not the same as when we had class together. (link)
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Talk to her as much as you need to. I know she is a big part of your life and you can keep still keep her in that special place of her heart, but you can't let her completely fill up your life. You are allowed to have other friends and thats perfectly okay.
Just say it is a sensitive subject and that you need time to process it and that they should respect that.
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I'm fourteen, soon to be fifteen. I feel attracted to both genders. I know that people may say "Oh it's just a phase or horomones", but hear me out.
As long as I can remember, probably even since I was eight, I've been attracted to the female body. Ever since, I've just been trying to push those feelings away or to avoid them. Those feelings never went away. I still feel an attraction to both men and women. I actually even had my first kiss with a girl, and also dated her. I don't know what my sexuality is. Bisexual?
Also, if I was bisexual, I need advice... I think my dad is homophobic. He denies it, but he thinks it's disgusting when he sees gays. He even said, "Bisexuals are even worse. How can you like both? It makes no sense". I didn't really say much. My mom would probably not care much, which is good, but my dad... I honestly don't even feel like telling them that I'm bisexual if I were to be because it's not their business and it would save drama and anxiety. (link)
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Being bisexual means you're attracted to both genders. there's nothing to be ashamed of when it comes to who you are attracted to. Honestly, you tell him when you're ready, coming out doesn't have to be forced in the slightest.
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I'm fourteen and I'm dating a seventeen year old boy. We've been dating for a month and the other day he fingered me and I gave him a hand-job but it was all in the moment so I didn't even have time to think if I was ready for it or not. I'm scared to go against his needs but he tells me all the time to tell him if we are going too fast. He keeps hinting now on sex jokes and I never know how to respond. Does that mean he wants to have sex soon? What do I do? (link)
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That is a big age difference and that can be a very situation. You must be very careful. "Too fast" just depends on the person, what feels right most of the time, but in this case, you might want to let him know your standards of how you want the relationship to go. I would suggest not having sex with him, You are too young and too pure to have sex. Sex is for making love and making a deeper connection with your loved one, not just because of social pressure or your boyfriend being older and maybe more mature (it doesnt seem like he is if he's telling sex jokes). Also, just because he's telling sex jokes, it does not mean that he wants to have sex with you already, all guys tell those jokes for laughs. If you don't appreciate those jokes or scared about what they mean, tell him, communicate
Hope this helps!
Let me know!
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