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we were "together"
beginning school without my best friend who promised we would get through college together isn't going to be easy in the slightest I know. I already knew one day I would have to say goodbye to her because we would end up going to different universities any way but right now, I am doing a live stream with a friend and any time someone asks me about her, I grow silent and tell them she's gone. Anyone new would ask what her name was and I tell them, followed by "and we were...together." and they get the picture I would rather not talk about it. I know I'll find other friends but she had a special place in my heart because she kept me stable after a bunch of drama I went through.
I guess what I'm asking for is how can I ask people kindly to not ask me about her. Because I truly feel like I'm going to break down when someone asks me about her and I miss her too much to even talk about her. Granted, I do still talk to her, but it's not the same as when we had class together.
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Talk to her as much as you need to. I know she is a big part of your life and you can keep still keep her in that special place of her heart, but you can't let her completely fill up your life. You are allowed to have other friends and thats perfectly okay.
Just say it is a sensitive subject and that you need time to process it and that they should respect that.
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I don't know how many people know her by name to ask about her but if you are honest and say the same thing once to each, that should stop it all.
Just be honest and when someone asks, tell them you miss her terribly and the only way you've found to get by is to not think of her or be reminded of her so could they please not ask you about her anymore. People can understand that.
Now if someone who doesn't know of her happens to ask if you have a close friend or best friend, just say, no I don't. That ends it right there.
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