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I am kinda siily, but thatz wat people lyk about me! I am kinda loud, but i am kinda smart. Isnt dat funny. Music is my boyfriend, and people say i am random, but i am concentrated sometimes. I lyk 2 speak spanish, because you can yell at people in spanish and it sounds so cool!I lyk dis guy in my skool, so i may dump music , you never know. And i am as cute as a button! Supoosedly...i am boy krazy, but i just think i am boy crazy. Oh yea i love to dance. I can dance for like ever. And i love pizza!I hope i help you with your problems! Enjoy! Oh yea, i love cartoons, especially donald duck as a baby.

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Ok, im 13 and never have actually had a boyfriend before. A few days ago this guy asked me out (be his gf). See the problem is hes a year younger than me and a bit.....rebelious. He has an older brother (2 years older than me) so I think thats kinda why he is a bit. I know for a fact he drinks and I think hes got high before, (Not sure), but hes a nice kid. Hes pretty shy and stuff and is really nice to me. He hates my younger brother though, they are the same age, and im not sure if I want to. Everyone at my school lives in the country and he actually is like the only guy hat lives in my town and goes to my school. I told him id think about it and I heard he really likes me. I dont want to be mean but im not sure since I haven't had one before. (Im popular but 3 girls more than me so they are always asked out). Some of my friends say I should give him a chance. Should I?

I think it is ok to go out with a guy even if hez younger than you, as long as your comfortable with it.But you dont want to be with a guy who is immature, becsause you will feel more like a mom than a girlfriend. Now, i would make sre he doesnt take drugs aymore because you dont want oto be with a gu like that. And it may be awkward if he hates your brother, especially if he is the same age as you LITTLE brother. Um... i probly wouldnt, but if you feel you really like him, then go for it. But make sure you know him first ! Good luck! :)

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Not sure if this is the right place to put this..

I want to see how make up will look on me, because im 13 and the only make up thats really gone on me is lip gloss. like.. what do you need to do and get to like to the mascara, foundations, etc. Also, any tips on it? like what good colors would look on me and etc. I'm black, but not light or dark. like in the middle..

Also, my mom isnt too comfortable about me shaving or anything, but like my whole body is really hairy. could I get a wax at such a young age? idk.. and how much money will it be? or what else could I do that wont hurt me (razors? unless theres good ones or idk) or something.. and im pretty low on cash, so they cant be like more than 30 dollars..

Thanks!

Ok i am 13 too, so i kinda know where you are. I wear lip gloss, ,mascara, and eye liner. You can never really go wrong with those three things, they only make you look better. No foundation! No blush! We both have beautiful chocolate skin, you dont need foundartion or blush! These can make you look worse. Shiny lip glosses, and natural colors look good. No dark colors. I would reccomend pinks too. My mom reccomended wax for me, but it looked painful. I did my eye brows, and it kinda hurt. I can deal with that pain, but not on the legs or any where else. You can use disposable rasors. They are really cheap, and you can use them more than once. Oh, and dont use like NAIR or VEET cuz it burns, and it smells really bad. I hope i helped! By the way, you can always go natural,and you can never mess that up. :)

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Ohmygod. Rawr. Right now, I have my period.
Its the worse one I have had in my life.
I have taken 2 midol, its not doing nothing..

My back is killing me, I havent aten in 1 day becasue I have absoutly no appitite, Everthing hurts. Even my legs.

help? What do you take for these things!? Midol used to work, now, it doesnt!


Thanks so much

Well when i have my period and i am in pain, i eiter take advil or aleve. They relieve my pain after a few minutes, and i feel good as new ! Good luck! :)

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15/f. i'm sorry if this is confusing or long, but i feel so helpless and i have no idea what to do. every year my school has a 9th grade assessment. it is a really big project that takes about 2-3 monthes to complete, and you need to be in groups of 4 people ONLY. here is my problem. i had a group with two of my other friends. we all agreed, but then that day one of them texted me saying that they found two other people to work with. so i was stuck alone. i asked my other friend jenn if i could be with her and kelly, but they thought they were with two other people. it turns out that they thought that the two other girls that they were suppose to be with found other people, so i was in a group with jenn and kelly. we then found another member to make four. but then today jenn told me that her and kelly were going to be in a group with the two girls that they were suppose to be with in the first place. now i'm stuck again!

i've asked basically EVERYBODY, and everyone already has a group. the problem is that you need to sign up in groups by monday. i know i could go to the teacher that is organizing the project, but them he would put me with the losers that didn't have a group and i'll end up failing the project. i don't want to be in a group with just ANYBODY because this project and huge and if you fail it you have to go to summer school.

this is making me so upset to be ditched TWICE. i feel like i have no friends now. i feel like i'm about to cry. what am i suppose to do.

i know this was long, but it has really been bothering me so any adivice will really help me.

thanks.

oK, UM...MAYBE YOU CAN GO THROUGH THE YEARBOOK, JUST TO MAKE SURE YOU ASKED EVERYBODY, AND IF YOU DID, YOU CAN ASK THE TEACHER IF SHE CAN MAKE ONE EXCEPTION IF YOU CAN BE IN A GROUP OF FIVE, IF SHE SAYS NO, THEN ...UM...EXPLAIN TO THE TEACHER THAT YOU DONT HAVE A GROUP, AND YOU DONT WANT TO BE PLACED WITH LAZY PEOPLE BECAUSE YOU CARE ABOUT YOUR GRADE, AND YOU WANT TO DO WELL ON THE ASSESMENT, AND YOU NEVER KNOW TEACHERS CAN BE UNDERSTANDING(SOMETIMES)AND SHE MAY MAKE AN EXCEPTION JUST FOR YOU! HOPE I HELPED,IF I THINK OF ANYTHING ELSE I WILL ELT YOU KNOW. GOOD LUCK! :)

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im soo bored wiht my hair i either wear it straight or scrunched is there sumthing funner i can do with it?

You can do just about anythingt with hair! It is like impossible!
1. Dye your hair
2. Pigtails
3. Highlights
4. Ponytails
5. Curly
6. Kinky
7. Wavy
8. Straw Set
9. Get extensions
10.Braids
11.Cornrolls
12.Cut your hair
Anything!
You can do so much with your hair! Trust me! It is hard to get bored. But if you really want to get funky, wear a wig! Woot! Woot!

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if you dont go to school with him youve known him for a bout 2 years and its tonight...

You can give him a little mirror. Listen, tell him you have a crush on this guy you like, and hopefully he will want to know. IF not,convince him, and then when he asks who it is, say i dont want to say it out loud, and that you dont want ppl to hear. So then, you can say i have a picture of the guy, and give him the mirror. He will open it, and see himself in it. That worked for me! That is a really cute way, to do it! Hope you like it!

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Well this girl I work with has been friends with me for the time I've worked there, which is almost a year. I have a boyfriend I have been dating for a year and a half. Now me and him had some hard times when I first started working there. Note: He works with me too. But things are better now and that is ironically causing the problem. My friend was always wanting me and him to break up. Her reasons were that she thought he is an ass and is going to do nothing but hurt me. He is very flirtatious and she goes to school with him and has supposedly seen him flirt with other girls. She likes to think of herself as a watch out for me, since I dont go to his school, and cant see what he does when I'm not around. Problem is... I never asked her to do that, and everything she tries to bring to my attention is something not worth making a big deal in the first place. Like this girl I know he is friends with put her arm around him and walked him to class and he told me about it. Later that night at work she goes up to me and says, "Your boyfriend had this girl ALL over him." I asked her to elaborate and she was said that she had her arm around him and that I should watch out. I was completely annoyed because it wasn't even a big deal and it seems like she is out to break us up. Maybe she is just jealous that I have someone... or maybe she feels like we don't hang out much because I have a boyfriend. Whatever the case, what should I do about this because I am sick and tired of her trying to get me all upset over stuff between me and him that isnt even a big deal. I'm a senior this year and then my boyfriend and me are moving after highschool, so we both don't need to deal with all this high school drama. Should I stop being friends with her? Should I confront her? If so, what should I say? I don't want to start anything because I work with her, so if I say something it has to be discreet and to the point. Any suggestions?

Ok tell her that you dont need any more drama in yourlife. Explain how your guy always tells you when he is hanging out wit some frenz. I would definately confront her, and ask her why she is trying to break you guys up. You never know, she may have a resaon. And you can say that you dont want a spy on your guy, because you trust him. I would just be nice, and say thankz but no thanks,i can handle my guy, and we are doing just fine, but lately you have deen bringing in all this drama in your relationship, and you sont like it. Hope i helped! :) Good luck!

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my man and i have been dating for three years. I have caught him lying a few times about where he has been. One time he took his son to a concert 30 miles away. Problem, I called him to ask where he was, he said he didnt want to drive all the way back home so he was going to go hang out at a bar and wait. I said ok,well he came home and the next morning i found a receipt on his dresser it was for a restaurant, I yelled and he admitted he never went to a bar he hung out in a mall and ran into a former female coworker and they just caught up, my suspicion is he set up a meeting all along, i forgave him and moved on. A year later, he was supposed to meet his son at the mall to buy him a pair of shoes. When he got home he smelled of cig smoke. i asked him if his son got a good deal, he said yes, i left it at that, the next day I ran into his son, i asked him if the he liked the new shoes, he said he never met his dad there. I confronted my b/f and he said he waited there for him but he never showed, asked him why he smelled like smoke, he said cuz he went to get a sub and friends of his were smoking outside while talking to him.LIE?one week ago, he got a suspicious phone call, told a total lie about who it was, turned out to be ex.girl. He said he had been talking as friends for a while. Bt he couldnt tell me cuz I'm so jealous! Also I found out in the beginning of "us" he was taping us having sex. I told him no more, he said ok, last week I found a new tiny camera set up.OOPS, he also secretly taped other girls and i told him to get rid of the tapes, he said he did, When I did laundry one day the drawer came out a little too far, there were the tapes!!! He is caring and sensitive and supportive otherwise, why do guys do this???????helppppp

Ok, i feel really bad for you, and i am sure you really like his guy, but you need to let him go. HE isnt honest or trustworthy, and those are the main components of a relationship. I would dumo him, because he obvioulsy isnt grateful enough to have you. He probly doesnt kno that you are one of the best things in his life, and he would be devastated without you. You have given him too many chances, and you need to let him go. If he is cheating on you then kick him out. No one deserves that, and you are nice, if that happened to me, i would kick him out the first time Guys do this, because they dont think they can be happy with one girl but they can, and he doesnt appreciate you. Let him go, and you will find someone who is right for you, and who would be honored to have you in their life, and they will do anything for you, and would never do anything to hurt you. Hope i helped. Extra luv! Good luck! :)

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well, i lke someone ALOT and they used to like me but they got a girlfriend and we got into a fight over that and then we were gonna talk about it but that never ended up happening and so im really frustrated that we never got to talk about him haveing a girlfriend but what i just found out that made my frustration worse is that i found out that he broke up with his girlfriend and now is trying to get with one of my close friends.. i dont know what to do... someone help

Well if it is really bothering you that the person you like had a girlfireind, nad wants to go after one of your friends, then just tell him you would really like to talk about the whole situation like he promised, because it is really making you feel uneasy. And as for him going after one fo your friends, i would just talk to him first, so that he knows about your feelings for him, and how you dont want him to go out with yourt firend. And you can talk to your friend who he wants, and tell him that you dont want her to go woth him, because of your feeling for him. Be strong and good luck! :)

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ok so i had sex with my boyfriend two days after my period and three days after i stated birth cotrol. It was my first time and he didnt use a condom. im on my 13th day on the pill now and we had sex about 5 other times, only once with a condom. i never bleed and i didnt feel or hear my cherry pop so i dont think it did. im so scared that i am pregnant and i dont know what to do.

oK, BIRTH CONTROL IS USUALLY effective, but there are chances and cases that i hadnt, and it wont always work. To be completely safe, use the condom and the pill, becuase you dont want to take that risk, If you want to see if you are preganant go to CVS or some pharmacy/drug store and buy a pregnancy test. And it will tell you if you are preganant or not. And be careful, becuase the pill may not work, and condoms can break, but just take the test to see. And if you are pregnant tell your parent, it will be the right thing to do. Good luck! :)Plus, i think if you miss a period, it means u are pregnant.

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I have been throwing up for a very long time....it feels like in between where my ribs meet is swollen and my tummy also gets very bloated? could soemthign be wrong with me? im very scared

If you are scared, and you feel very sick, then tell your parents and have them take you to the doctor to feel better. You dont want to be sick, get some help, because you will feel alot better. If you are throwing up, mention that to the doctor, and tell him about your symptoms. I hope you feel better! :)

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I am 16 and I love to read. I read just about anything. I'll read classics, sci/fi, poetry, romance, about anything really. I just need some good titles. Anything will help, any genre, titles and authors. Thanks in advance!

Well the one book that is my all time favorite is Memoirs of a geisha! It was so good, if you love to read you will enjoy it! It is way better than the movie, but then it always is. I would also reccomend Candy by Kevin Brooks(about a girl who is a prostitute on drugs, and is abused by her pimp, and a guy still falls in love trying to help her). That book was really good, it is a close second. To kill a mocking bord was one of the best books ever writeen, too. It was very good, you should definately read that one. Sry, i love to read!The Devil's arithmetic was a really good book, it was sad but very good. I would suggest that book, it really makes you think. The Giver by Lois something, was really good. All of these books are awesome! They are REAL page turners! :) Enjoy!

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13/F

this GIRL likes me at my school.
how do i get her to leave me alone?

Ok, um...why dont you let her know(nicely) you arent interested, and your not like that. THat you feel uncomfortable, that she has a crush on you. But unless she is bothering you, dont be rude, be nice. Because be sensitive, wat if your crush said he felt uncomfortable that you liked him.But just tell her politely and you should be fine ! :) Good luck!

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Okay i went out with a guy and he broke up with me!!! I still love him and i know for a fact that he wants to ask me out again!!! But ive developed a crush for one of my best friends who i really think likes me hes always staring at me (especialy my eyes) I dont know what to do or who i like more

Wow, you must be quite a catch! (old-fahioned, iknow). Well first, think if there was any serioous problems you and your ex faced during ur relationship, to the point where you shouldnt get back together. If you want to choose who to be with, you can ask your friends or you can even do a pros and cons list. And then pick. If you really like a guy, you will always be thinking about him. Does this happen with any of these guys, if not, then you may not like either, but if yo do, go with that guy. But if you do to choose to go for the best friend, make sure he actually likes you, and is not just flirting. But if he is looking at your eyes, then it usually menas he likes you. :) Lv ya! Good lukk!

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how do you calculate your period, like if i got it today will i get another one in 28 days or will i get it 28 days after it ends?

OK well when your period starts you count another 28 days, and that is when it will start again. And when it ends, anf if you count another 28 days, that si when it will end the next time you get it. This is what happens to me anyways. Hope i helped! :) Good luck!

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Alright, so I really like this guy, and he is in two of my classes, and sometimes in my lunch, though I don't sit with him. I sit next to him in one class, and near him in another. What are some things I can do to be, I don't know, I guess flirty? Like, what do guys want/see in girls that they like? Or what can I do? Any advice would help. I'm not really an outgoing kind of person, and its not like I would just say "Hey! You want to hang out tomorrow night, or go to the movies some time?" Literally, there is nothing I can do about that, so don't say just get over your fears and go for it.
Thanks.

In order to be flirty, i wouldnt really like curl the hair, and stuff like that but be you. I would maybe laugh at his jokes if hez trying to be funny, spend a few extra minutes in the morning with your hair, and be a little more picky with what you wear. Dont start wearing like rilly mini skirts, because guys dont like tramps...or girls who are easy. Guys like girls who are confident, who can laugh at themselves, and dont really care what people think about them. They dont want a regular girl, who is insecure and shy. I would also maybe get close to some of his friends, in order to get close to him, and get to know him, so you can learn some stuff about him. In the hall you can talk about a crazy teacher you have,homework(a good reason to call him, well it kinda corny, but still cute), you can talk about clubs, sports, a new movie opening(you can invite him)liek by saying "i am going to the movies this weekend with a few frens, u can come if u want", but more of you in it! And hey if you really want to talk to him, ask him if he knows a place to go to learn about whatever he is doing at church. I hoped i helped. :) Good Luck!

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hm well, im 16. ive asked my mom for birth control before. mainly to regulate my period [its still really irregular and ive had it 4-5 years now] and also maybe to help with some breast growth haha. seriously tho. well everytime i ask her she freaks out and wont even consider gettin it for me because shes apparently convinced that i want it just to have sex with my boyfriend. well ive told her numerous times thats not why i want it because its not. were both virgins and at an understanding that were going to wait AT LEAST a year [which will be next summer] if not longer, and ive explained that to her but it just goes right in one ear and out the other. i know she doesnt want me to screw up my life but she wont even listen to me, she thinks that "oh things can happen and you can get caught up in the moment" and what not, and i understand that but honestly, i was raised better and i have more self control than to just let myself go like that. however explainin this to her does nothing. and another thing, yes i would want to be on birth control when i start having sex.. so i would kind of like to be on it so that when that does happen ill be protected [and yes i know to still use a condom but i have a big fear of them tearing]. but i cant wait till then to ask because if i tell her im sexually active when the time comes im sure i wont be able to see my boyfriend anymore and everything will just go haywire. and she says well "its funny you didnt start askin me this till you started goin out with him" but ive asked her before even like a year ago for reasons concerning my period. im sure of it, but she just doesnt remember. i mean im a good kid and i can talk to her about pretty much anything but she just refuses to talk about this with me or even consider it. honestly though, for now the main reason i want it is for my period. sorry so long, but what can i do?

Ok, well if the main reason why you want to take the birth control pill is to regulate your period, then i would tell her that you want the birth control for that one reason, and that if she wont let you have them, ask her what she can reccomend in order to help you with your problem, with your period and i am sure she will advise something. Plus, if you want you can talk to your mom about trust in her dughter, and you can sit her down and tell her the real reason why, and explain how if you were to have sex with your boyfriend you would inform her, or whatever. I would just tell her what you need the pills for , and i am sure she will reccomend something. Hope i helped! Good luck! :) P.S- Momz mean well, they just want to protect their kids for as long as they can! I have a mom too you know.

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considered a slut if she has sex on the first date?

I personally think that a girl may be pervieved as a slut by many different people if she has sex on the first date. I personally wouldnt call the girl a slut, but i would just think that the girl gives herself up al little to easily to the guy. I would try to get the girls side fo view, but she may be judges to be a bit more...kinky than others. :( sry. Hope i helped.

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hah this is gunna sound stupid
but i'm pretty sure i have abs..but one problem theres fat over them..what are something i can do to get ride of that fat and show my abs

15/f is that helps?

Your right, that is kinda funni, but anyways if you want to remove the fat and show your hot abs, then...do sit-ups and crunches, and that does the trick. I would do about 50 each, and in no time, you will se little blocks on your tummy, also known as abs! Hope i helped!

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well im almost 14 and i just started masterbating a little. it feels good but i feel like i shouldn't be doing it.

i was with my friends and they were talking about it and saying how gross it was. i was just like playing along and agreeing even though i do it.

am i too young?.. is there anyone my age that does it too?

thanks in advanced

I dont think you are too young to start. I think it is kind of normal, to do this. I think it is fine as long as it doesnt afrect your life negatively. I think it is fine for you to do it, because i have heard it is some what healthy. I hop i helped. Love me!Lol! :) Good luck!

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