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my man and i have been dating for three years. I have caught him lying a few times about where he has been. One time he took his son to a concert 30 miles away. Problem, I called him to ask where he was, he said he didnt want to drive all the way back home so he was going to go hang out at a bar and wait. I said ok,well he came home and the next morning i found a receipt on his dresser it was for a restaurant, I yelled and he admitted he never went to a bar he hung out in a mall and ran into a former female coworker and they just caught up, my suspicion is he set up a meeting all along, i forgave him and moved on. A year later, he was supposed to meet his son at the mall to buy him a pair of shoes. When he got home he smelled of cig smoke. i asked him if his son got a good deal, he said yes, i left it at that, the next day I ran into his son, i asked him if the he liked the new shoes, he said he never met his dad there. I confronted my b/f and he said he waited there for him but he never showed, asked him why he smelled like smoke, he said cuz he went to get a sub and friends of his were smoking outside while talking to him.LIE?one week ago, he got a suspicious phone call, told a total lie about who it was, turned out to be ex.girl. He said he had been talking as friends for a while. Bt he couldnt tell me cuz I'm so jealous! Also I found out in the beginning of "us" he was taping us having sex. I told him no more, he said ok, last week I found a new tiny camera set up.OOPS, he also secretly taped other girls and i told him to get rid of the tapes, he said he did, When I did laundry one day the drawer came out a little too far, there were the tapes!!! He is caring and sensitive and supportive otherwise, why do guys do this???????helppppp
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It's not why do guys do this??? It's why do girls keep puting up with that? You don't have to be no rocket scientist to know that your man is nothing but a lying, cheating, no good piece of you know what!!! I don't care how much a man is sensitive and supportive, there's no reason why you should put yourself through all this stress. And it sounds to me like he's a pathalogical liar who believes his own lies.. As far as him taping you and him having sex without your permission is even more reason to tell you to get the heck out!!! (don't forget the tapes too) Good luck, and sorry for sounding a bit harsh
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I say leave him because he can't be trusted and any relationship is based on trust.
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Three years of this guy is enough...too much. You KNOW he is a liar, cheater, and manipulator. He has disrespected you in many ways and used his relationship with his son to try to cover more lies and cheating. That is so wrong! He is not caring, sensitive and supportive in a real way. He has not been real with you. People who lie consistently and deceive, and use other people, are not really nice people. They are just acting nice to get what they want. There have been many psychotic killers that appeared nice and acted caring in order to get their victimes to trust them. There are polite bank robbers and otherwise "nice" guys that will sweet talk you while they take advantage of your trust! You are most likely wanting to believe that he is a good guy with a few faults, because the truth is painful. There is a saying..."No matter how far down a wrong path you have traveled, turn around!" You need to end this now and get away from this guy. He may be far worse than you know and lead you into serious trouble. Before you leave, take every sex-tape to the police department and tell them everything. This guy could turn on you, so you need to ask for a police escort to get your things and find a new living situation. I know this is very hard to hear and will require a lot of soul-searching, but you can find the strength to save yourself and you know deep down that is what you need to do.
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Ok, i feel really bad for you, and i am sure you really like his guy, but you need to let him go. HE isnt honest or trustworthy, and those are the main components of a relationship. I would dumo him, because he obvioulsy isnt grateful enough to have you. He probly doesnt kno that you are one of the best things in his life, and he would be devastated without you. You have given him too many chances, and you need to let him go. If he is cheating on you then kick him out. No one deserves that, and you are nice, if that happened to me, i would kick him out the first time Guys do this, because they dont think they can be happy with one girl but they can, and he doesnt appreciate you. Let him go, and you will find someone who is right for you, and who would be honored to have you in their life, and they will do anything for you, and would never do anything to hurt you. Hope i helped. Extra luv! Good luck! :)
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