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well i am a 15 years old girl that is soft hearted and i loves helping other people out. i love giving out advice. i can relate to a lot of peoples problems because i have been through a lot in my life. i have done a lot of stupid things in my life that i regert but i cant change the past but i can try to change the future. i love to dance and enjoy life to the fullest. i love my best friends to death i would do anything for them..




advice

i was just wanting to know what are some things that a girl can do to the guy while making out to give him satisfaction. like besides just kissing his lips while he does stuff. thanks i'll rate high!

you can give him a hand job if you want. it really is up to you and how far you want to go with it.

while you make out with him you can squeze his butt or run you hands down his back.

hope this helps.

♥ Steph

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can you have sex durring your period?

yes but there would be a mess to clean up afterwards.
♥ Steph

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i'm not quite sure what to do. i'm a sophmore, and i was kinda casually dating this junior. and i heard from several people that he was just leading me on. so i asked him about it and he said he was, but he had a reason. he said he liked me, and that he still kinda does, just not like he used to, and he thought the feeling would come back so he just didn't ever tell me. now here comes the tough part. what do i do? part of me wants to change his mind, make him see my true worth and make him want me again, because there's still hope because he still likes me. or should i just move on and completely forget about him? just say what you would do in this situation. also, if you would want to change his mind and make him want you again, how would you do it?

thanks :]

if a guy was leading me on i would say fuck him.. (i sorry dont take that offensiely) but a really man wouldnt do that he would tell you the truth not this little game. your in highschool now dont you think he should grow up and not play these lil games anymore. i would leave him and someone else. it woul make him so jealous to see you with someone else and see you happy with that other person. then he will feel bad because he would see what he was missing out on. hope this helps.

♥ Steph

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I'm not fat, but not skinny, and I have like this little bulge on my stomach. Even when I suck in my stomach.. unless I do it real far.. but like how do i get rid of that belly fat in general? I'm 13, 5'3, and weigh like 140 pounds I think. Also, I'm black.. and this may sound like a petty escuse, but my mom said that our bones are heavy so we usually look like we weigh lighter than we actually do. (not talking about african americans tho.. idk about them. my heritage is from like cameroon.) anyway, what excercises can i do like everyday and what foods should i be eating to help and what foods should i stay away from? thanks for the help!

also, this kinda doesnt relate, but sometimes i get like a little swell under my skin in my armpit and when i touch it it hurts.. maybe its cuz i didnt weightlifting in gym today and i havent done that since like friday? i have no idea.. but its happened before and it hurts. what are tips so that in the future i can make it hurt more or not at all? its in my left armpit too.. also is this normal??

my person trainner has told me this


get your heart rate up! ( that is how u loose weight)


go on the tredmill 35 minutes 3-4 times a week


eat like 6 SMALL meals during the day..

and your garanteed to loose weight.


when liifting weight at the gym be casre how much you lift because you dont want to gain A LOT of muscle . try to lift less wiht more reputations..

hope this helps.

♥ Steph

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i want a flat tummy more than anything in the world. what are some good excercises?

my person trainner has told me this


get your heart rate up! ( that is how u loose weight)


go on the tredmill or running for 35 minutes 3-4 times a week


eat like 6 SMALL meals during the day..

and your garanteed to loose weight.

and the great thing about running you can workout your whole body and your tummm!

=)

♥ Steph

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My boyfriend wants me to go to this sports award dinner with him .. its at a place called "Villa Lombardi's" only problem .. I have no idea what to wear .. do i wear Grey Dress pants, Black button down and black heels .. or do I wear a dress? its supposed to snow tomorrow and I dont really know if I should wear the dress .. but I dont know whats appropriate for this event? please help me .. I dont know what to do ..

Casey

i think it would be cute if you guys kinda like matched. like color wise. if it is cold i would definatly say Pants.. hope this helps.
♥ Steph

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okay well im sick of sucking in all the time. i want to lose my little gut. it isnt really that big but i want to be skinny like i used to be. now dont tell me to diet & excersize. please try to be specific. i could probably lose 5-9 lbs. thanks!! [:

my person trainner has told me this


get your heart rate up! ( that is how u loose weight)


go on the tredmill 35 minutes 3-4 times a week


eat like 6 SMALL meals during the day..

and your garanteed to loose weight.


and this works because i do it and i have seen results

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Ok so I've been on the pill for 5 months this month. When can I have un protected sex?

My boyfriend and I have been having sex for about 9 months now and have always used a condom. It doesn't bother me or my boyfriend about using extra protection but I was just curious!

Thanks!

you could start having unprotected sex the 2 second week after takin the pill. and yes it is a good idea to get both of you tested just in case.

i really think there is nothing wrong with having unprotected sex if your on a pill then you should be fine but just be sure you wont become pregnant i would use a condom anyways..

hope this helps.

♥ steph

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I dont have lots of time with school work and other things for working out, but i do have a tredmill so if i ran on it eveyday for 30mins+ will that help me loose weight? Im not trying to loose a ton just a few pounds
I'll be eating good too.

my person trainner has told me this


get your heart rate up! ( that is how u loose weight)


go on the tredmill 35 minutes 3-4 times a week


eat like 6 SMALL meals during the day..

and your garanteed to loose weight.

hope this helps.

♥ Steph

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should I join my talent show this year ? i really need advice RIGHT NOW!!!!

it is really up to you.. if you want to then just do it.
♥ Steph

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can you wear a tampon, if your cherry "hasnt popped"?

yes you can. there isnt a reason why you couldnt.

♥ Steph

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what does it mean to "get your cherry popped" and what happens?

it is a Hymen. it can be broken in many different ways like having sex gettin fingured or even using a tampon.

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What disease can you get by licking/sucking a males privates without a condom? If both people have not been with anyone else?

you both havent been with anyone then there really isnt anything to worry about.

♥ Steph

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Dear anyone,
me and my ex bf met 8 months ago, we broke up 4 times in a course of 2 months. he was my first everything, first love, frist kiss, first bf, and i have neverliked a guy in my life as much as him, we talked every day atleast 2 hrs and it was amazing. at the end i broke up with him bc things wer vrey shaky, for a while i had regretted breaking up with him alot bc if we stayed together i wudve been much happier, and i knew he still liked me afterwards. for the past 6 months i have cried over him atleast once a week, thigns are liek a rollercoaster, sometimes we h.u and sometimes we dont talk at all, i knw he h.us with other girls , this fact used to hurt me but not anymore for i have gotten used to it, just like i have gotten used to the fact that he h.us with all my frends. i still keep my phone next to me all the time in case he calls, wen my phone rings i hope its him calling, i still have the one rose he gave me , the thoguth of him brings tears to my eyes, teh last time we h.u wich was very recent- it was differnet that all the other times- it didnt have tht feeling of love between us, my eyes wernet even closed, i knw he was jsut using me for ass so wen i got home all i did was cry, i realyl want to get over him because i knw he is over me, ppl tht knw i like him knw i shud get over him as well, i really have tried and its been 8 months that ive liked him, once in awhile i think bout getting back with him but i will never really do it, the worst part is he thinks i h.u with other guys wen in reality the only guy i ever h.u with is him, i am so stuck on him i cud never even imagine being with another guy, i hate sleeping at nite because all i do is think about him. i really lvoe him and he doesnt even realize it and wen ppl tell him he doesnt believe them, last nite i was hysterically crying for 3 hrs till 1 am, my hoel family woek up and my parents were sitting next to my bed very concerned, he called me and i did not anser wich made me cry more becasue its rare that he calls, and tht i dont anser, its just tht i was crying so much i cudnt anser the phoen, i woke up in the mornign nd my eyes wer puffy, teh hole day i was in a bitter mood and was sleeping in all my clases. i know this is pathetic. i really miss him and want him to care about me but thers nothing ican say to him to make him care.. i guess its the type of person he is.. his best friend also told me tht he never liked me and was just using me for ass, its hard for me toexcept this fact, i refused to cry today. i need to get over him PLEASE HELP! this weekend i am going to be with him and i need help before i drown in my own tears-
-LS

if he is the cause of your unhappyness then when be around him. you dont need someone to put you down and make you sad all the time. you need a guy that will make you happy 24/7 not this. i doubt that you want to live the rest of your life like this ove one guy. you need to eb strong and get through it. what doesnt kill you should only make you stronger. you have to learn from your mistakes and be able to take risks. your frist love is the hardest to get over but you need to or you will just be miserable your whole life. try findind a new guy to take ur mind off of him. dont waste your time on him if he doesnt do the same for you. if he really did care about you he will come back to you. Dont cry over him because he isnt worth your tears and the guys that are wont make you cry..

♥ Steph

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Ive never used a tampon, Ive been fingered and had sex and it didnt bleed.
Is my cherry popped?

yes you mostly likely did pop it. and not everyones bleeds. everyones body acts differently towards it and so there is a chance that it wont be bleed. hope this helps.

♥ Steph

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No matter how hard/long I suck, I can NOT give a hickey to my boyfriend! I start making these weird sucking type noises also, is that even normal when giving a hickey? Anyways, what's wrong? Why can't I give him a hickey? The only reason I'm really worried about this, is because he get's really turned on by them, and I want to be able to give him one. PLEASE HELP!

tryin BITTIN.. NOT hard you dont want to hurt the guy but nibble on his skin. you might want to also squeeze the skin with your teeth. hope this helps.
♥ Steph

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Well, okay. I had about 3-4 best friends. And I used to sit with them at lunch. Recently, I haven't been sitting with them because nobody talks to me even when I try to strike up a conversation. So now it's even worse. None of my friend's talk to me. Well, they talk to me sometimes, but not like 'your my best friend' anymore. One of my friends, David, doesn't talk to me at ALL. So I sat with them at lunch again and things went back to normal.

But I wonder - are they really good friends in the first place at all if they don't talk to me when they see me unless I sit with them at lunch?

i used to be in the same situation as you are in. they dont really care if ur there or not. it doesnt bother them. your just a "friend" to them. it doesnt matter wh at you say or do. my advice is to forget them and find better friends. (i am not tryin to say that they are bad ones). hope this helps.
&heart; Steph

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So my boyfriend & I decided that we were going to make each other things for christmas instead of buying them. I'm moving right after christmas so it has to be really special. Some ideas I had were making him PJ bottoms or a scrapbook. (maybe just collages with pics of us?). problem is, his mom is a seamstress and has a lot of experience with scrapbooking. I don't want to have to live up to her expectations. Also, I don't to spend a lot of money.. 10-20$ is good. something cost more to make than buy made. any thoughts or other ideas? thanks!

i love the scrapbook idea. i am acually doing that one. it would cost about 20 dollars unless u want to get some extra stuff. it is great idea.

♥ Steph

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Do you know any stores that have clothes similar
to Delias and Forever 21?

Charlote ruse (sp?) i think those are very similar. hope this helps.

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i have a boyfriend and he asked me out last week on friday 10th.i was happy because i never had a boyfriend,my best friend told me that he wouldn't stop talking about me and he even said he liked my butt lol.I don't know if thats a good thing anyways i need tips to make my boyfriend like me more like flirting tips.And want kind of gifts to give him thats nice and cheap.Because i love him a lot and i want to give him something special,my boyfriend is kind and nice.sometimes i think other girls are flirting w/ him i need tips to not be jealous too please help.

dont worry about other girls because they are only jealous of you because they cant have the guy you have. =)

attetion is key. Never ignore him (unless it si for a good cause)boys love attetion.


mess with him like touch him and poke him etc.

dont be too agressive on him sometimes it can be a turn off..

hope this helps.

♥ STeph

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