Hey everyone, my name is Kristin, there's a picture of me on my advice column.. I'm a senior in high school and im 18 years olds.. I know I'm pretty young, but I've been through more than anyone would imagine and I've been through things most teenage girls haven't experienced yet in life. Here's a few things about myself, I've gone through a very serious one year relationship that ended a long long time ago, my parents have been divored for about 6 years, I cheerlead for my high school, I do ballet and have been playing the piano since I was seven, I work at a nearby UPS Store, and I am a dedicated Greek-Orthodox Christian. I hope to get accepted into Cal Poly San Louis Obispo and major in Nutrition..I love to hear about other peoples issues and problems so I could help them deal with it by relating them to my own experiences. So if you wanna talk, I'm here =]
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Hey,im 13 f and im 5'6 but i weigh like 146. i try to loose weight but theres just so many temptations all my friends are really skinny. they dont make fun of me or anything but like i just feel so different. . .anything i can do to be on a *safe* diet or workout plan?! thx (link)
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One thing Ive learned about dieting is, is that it doesnt work if you diet for just acouple days or even a week. It'll start showing after atleast 7 days of dieting. That's something Ive learned the hard way. You know the obvious ones:: STAY AWAY FROM FATTENING FOODS. You know that. Try and only eat fruits and protein and vegetables. In the morning, eat healthy cereal, water, and a piece of fruit. Lunch time, eat a sandwhich [wheat bread ONLY] with turkey and lettuce. For dinner, eat anything with protein, etc, and a salad. **NO SNACKING** and if you're going to snack, eat fruits.
love kristin
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hey there,
my situation's like this, i've had relationships with boys but this time its weird cuz i think im in love with my classmate. i know it aint right cuz we're both girls. what am i suposed to do? im 16 years old. (link)
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That could be a kind of hard situation. First of all, do you know if she is a lesbian or atleast bisexual? That's the first thing you have to find out. If she is, AWESOME. Start talking to her more and whatever you do make sure their is laughter in the conversation so theres a feeling of a connection. Then just take it from there. If she isn't a lesbian/bi, I would advize you to NOT tell her or make any kind of hints or moves because it will scare her off.. The way you find out if she's a lesbian is you have to become her really really good friend. Then get into a conversation about eachothers lives, etc, then hint about thinking a model or actress is really pretty, etc..See what she says then take it from there.. hope this somewhat helped
love kristin
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how do u french kiss? i rilly need help! thank you (link)
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There really is no real way to teach someone through the internet how to kiss. So sorry if this doesnt help. But, it's simple: You slowly move your tongue inside the persons mouth, and kind of intertwine your tongues and move it in a circular motion arund the other persons tongue.. Whatever you do, try not to move it really fast like a tad pole-- its a total turn off.. also avoid putting your tongue too far back in their mouth... Hope this helps? love kristin
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this is the third time i have asked for advise and each and everytime you have given me excellent advise. I still haven't asked the girl out to go somewhere yet, nervous i guess. i told you its her first year in college and my second. i see her a lot at the university and its hard knowing she doesnt like me the same way. weve gotten really close and we talk a lot now. i think she really likes me as a friend but sumtimes it jus seems like she likes me more. i like her so much and idk what to do. i want to get her something for christmas, what do you recommend. remember we talk alot and what do you think if i ask her out one night? please help...thanks
~Afatsum (link)
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Hey there, okay did you find out if she likes you back more than a friend? If she does, great. If she doesn't, thats okay too. Trust me, I know it's wayy easier said than done, but being friends with someone is much better than being more..But that's a different story that I could talk about for hours.. For Christmas...let's see. Definitely get her something nice, [obviously] but I mean not something to resembles your friendship maybe? Or like something that symbolizes an inside joke, I'm sure you guys have many of those. butttt if you don't and you want to get her something more conservative, I would get her a really pretty necklace..I know I love necklaces, especially from someone that is a close friend. Get her like a kinda long chain, not like the too guyish kind, but like a chain with something special that kind of signifies your friendship hanging from it.. If you need more ideas, leave me one.. great luck
love kristin
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dear advice giver,
I am 13 years old and I do not like my body. I am young for my grade and I am considered rather small in my grade. But what bothers me the most is that I have no breats. I can't even fit into a size A yet. All my friends have breasts but I am as flat as a cardboard. Consider this, I am a size 34 in sports bras but not the size A to go with it. My mom is a 34B and she says that she grew at a slow rate. Please help.
-sign, flat as a wall (link)
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I WOULDNT worry about it!! It sucks though, I know. Maybe you can get a padded bra? If your mom doesnt let you, just sneak it. Youre only 13... I didnt start having actual boobs until I was like 15ish, (i was kinda a late bloomer ;) ) and before that I just kinda wore a padded bra..
love kristin
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Ok heres the deal....I like this boy and I thought he liked me. It turns out he likes my best friend and is going out with her. Well today me,my best friend,her boyfriend(the one I like),and my other friend were at my friends house. We were in the dark in her room for some reason and her bf got up and so did all of us and he started saying "hugs" and started hugging all of us with his eyes closed. One time when he hugged me his hands went a little lower (not my butt but my hips.)He hugged me like 50 times more then he hugged his own girlfriend.He hugged me all the time and I know he could see who he was hugging. Then I said sumthin to him while I was sitting on my friends bed and he came over and like tackled me so I was laying down on her bed. He also tackled me alot through the rest of the night.I used to think he likes me and now I dont kno wat to think. Everything is so confusing.It seems like he likes me but if he did why does he go out with my best friend and tell her he loves her and stuff?It drives me crazy because I REALLY REALLY like him but I guess im happy for them because she is my best friend. Does he like me or not?¿ If he doesnt then how come he always flirts with me and if you just met him and his gf(my best friend) you wouldnt even be able to tell they were boyfriend+girlfriend. You have to like make him just put his arm around her.
-lost and confused
*I RATE HIGH* (link)
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If I were you, I would try my *VERY* best to try and get over this guy..as much as you like him, he isn't with you, but with your friend.. And theres a reason to that: he has to like her..or maybe she is giving him alot of [sexual] stuff but it doesnt sound that way because they dont even act like bf and gf. Also, just say you two ended up being together he could do the exact same thing to you: end up going for someone else. I personally think he is attracted to you and that he is starting to like you. But that doesnt mean that something has to spark from that because he already is going out with someone, and that someone is ur *BEST FRIEND*.. love kristin
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MY BEST FRIEND has turned into a real jerk. Me and him loved each other and he just turned me away. He tried to kill himself and that really got me worked up and i guess i said a few things i sholdn't have but i miss him and he's sending me these e-mails that r insulting me and saying he's glas i'm out of his life. What should i do? (link)
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If I were you, I would leave him alone for about one week. Don't call him or try to talk to him, etc, but try and make eye contact with him sometimes so he knows you still really care about him.. Write him a letter or even a poem explaining how you feel and how sorry you are and how much you cherish your friendship.. He sounds like a pretty stubborn person but thats alright its just going to be alittle more difficult resolving things. Another thing you can do is buy him something special, nothing big, just something simple that symbolizes an inside joke, etc.. Great luck
love kristin
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I never get this kid. I really like this boy and I have liked him for over a year now. We have went out before and things happen on and off. Well I have been talking to him recently and he told me he loved me and all, and I didn't know if he was just saying that to get some lol but then he was like I am being serious I really like you a lot still. He said he wants to have sex with me, but the thing is we aren't going out and I brought that up and he's like fine we will go out and then do it. I told him if we did that I was afraid he would 'hump me and dump me' you know. But I told him that I guess I would so he wouldn't keep asking and I was afraid he would get mad. He was happy and all. Then he told me he had to go and he would call me back in 45 minutes and he was like I love you Ryah, just like he would usually do. He never called me back and usually he would call me the next day, but he didn't and he hasn't called me yet today either. I don't know what is up, I saw him today in school and I smiled and said hey and he smiled back (we don't have enough time to stop and talk). He never really acts like he so called 'loves me' in school but we do act like friends, but on the phone it's different. I don't know why he hasn't called and I don't know why he only acts like that on the phone! Anyone have any ideas? (link)
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Yeah... I definitely agree with the other columnists on this one.. This situation doesnt seem right at all.. Something's way off with this guy. Im going to be nothing but honest: I really think that he just wants to get some. Obviously he does have feelings for you because if he didn't have even alittle bit of ffeelings, he wouldnt be trying to get with you. You have to look for the clues. "Actions speak louder than words."- Thats the truest statement Ive ever heard. Think about it and tell this guy you have alot more respect for yourself than to have sex with him..
love kristin
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My realy good friend went out with this boy but he broke up with her in three days. I've liked him since we were introduced (by my friend). My boyfriend of two months just broke up with me and the first person i thought about was my friends ex. im not looking for a rebound guy. i asked my friend and she says its ok and shes happy for me. Her ex already nos i like him. am i low? what else can i do? (link)
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Youre not low at all! Trust me. Youre ex broke up with you, you have to remember that. I think if you were the one who broke up with him and you found a new guy really really fast, that would be kind of low, but it's not that situation right? Plus your friend even said that shes okay with it and shes even happy for you. The only thing is, I kinda think maybe that your [girl] friend might of just said that shes okay with it, etc, because she doesnt want to be sour about the whole thing. Talk to her about it again and make sure that its obvious that she relaly doesnt care about it. Then go for it! Great luck
love kristin
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I've never really been shy around guys but theres one that i like now but and really shy towards. he nos i like him but i just got my heart broke so could that be why im afrid to talk to him? (link)
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I think that its not really because you just got your heart broken, I honestly think that it's just because you like him. Its as simple as that. I bet you probably have never been shy around other guys you like, but this time it's just different. Theres really no explanation on why its different because I dont really know your situation. What you should do is try to forget that you like him when youre around him- hard I know. But if you really really really really try to kinda push those feelings aside when hes around, then youll be able to act yourself again. What I mean when I say push the feelings aside, I mean just around him so you are able to act youself, I dont mean to stop liking him.. Great luck kristin =]
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i have been with my boyfreind off and on kinda of for 8 months, i wanted to take a break becuase like i felt like he was holding me back from things i wanted to do, like he always wnated to knoe where i was or what i was doing and always aummesed things like he had no trust in me or sumthing. but during the break i tlaked to afew other guys and i felt likle happy talking to them and didnt wanan go back, but he keeps like sucking me backinto the relasitship bcuz he knows he kan, becuase i still care for him way to much and hes all in love with me and stuff and woukdnt never do ne thing againt me, i duno its jus hard, becuase im the one thats confused i could jus go right back into the relatsihip and b the sameold way but i think i want something new, hs the first guy ive ever relaly made out with kind of my first everything, so i odnt kno ne thing other then him so is kind of hard when alot of other guys want to like hang out or somethingand i want to but i cant knopwing i sitll have him, i duno im jus really confused ! (link)
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You will regret it in the future if you stay with him..Its only going to get harder and harder to let go and try new things in the future..The sooner you let go, the easier it will be to move on.. No one in the world can make you be together, NO ONE. You say that he kinda sucks you back, and thats totally understandable, but since you see what he is doing, the only person at fault is you because you are letting him suck you back. Im sure you love him with all your heart and he loves you with all his heart. It doesnt at all mean that you two haveto stop loving eachother or caring about eachother, it simply means that you need change, something new, something fresh and exciting.. Ofcourse you need to talk to him and inform him about all this, and at the same time NOT let him suck you back by making you feel guilty or by him saying that he cannot live without you, etc.. Dont tell him you want to meet new guys because thatll pierce him so bad.. Im sure you will know whwat to say.. Do not let him suck you back..
Love kristin
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Well i took your advise and i talked to her. We talked for a short time but we got a lot out. I learned lots of stuff that made me feel good inside. I tried not to show that i was too happy about the things she told me but i wish i would of told her more about how i felt. Im thinking about asking her to talk again. what do you think? thanks for your help (link)
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Yeah!! Definitely talk to her again... Just call her up and be like, "hey whut are you doing tonight?" and just simply ask if she wants to hang out, say that you feel like theres more you wanna talk about. Since she said things that made you feel good, Im taking that means she kinda said she liked you back maybe? So she would obviously be totally up for talking about it again.. Dont be nervous at all!!! Just totally be yourself and calm about it.. good luck
love kristin
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Im back, i really liked your advise but i forgot to mention some other stuff. I want to let this girl know how much i care and that i do love her. I do love her but i dont want it to be in a BF,GF kind of way jus because it wouldn't work. she wouldnt want it and i dont think it would work, at least not now. How do i tell her i do love her but one level beneath BF,GF. I know she cared about me too and i want to show her i know that. She's in a couple of my classes so it wont be that hard to start conversations with her. it thanksgiving break for us and we get 3 weeks off school, how should i meet up with her. thanks (link)
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Okay this is what I would do: Go hang out with her somewhere, either the movies, out to lunch, etc, just somewhere..Maybe not the movies cause thats like a date kinda place, but like out to lunch or breakfast.. And this is what I would say, "listen. you are seriously like one of my closest friends and like i dunno...it just feels like i have this connection with you that i never really felt with a girl.. I want and need you to know that I care about you so much, not just at a friend level and not even at a gf level, I dont even know what kind of love and care it is.. but i just need you to know whata special person you are to me. seriously do NOT get friggin scared off of this cause I know it might sound weird.. im not expecting anything back from you at all.. I just wanted to let you know that I love you.." and make SURE you keep saying that its more than a friend kinda thing but not a gf kinda thing, its like u see her a such a great person and you feel happy around her that it feels like love.. if you wanna know if she feels the same, i know that she will have some sort of responce after you say whut u needa say, and if for some reason she gets shy or whatever be like, 'and i wanna know how you feel about me as a friend and as a person.." then she will get into it..i really hope this helps, great luck and i would love to know how everything turns out
love kristin
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19/M- okay so i know this girl who talks to me every once in a while, but doesn't want to get to attached to anyone. I really enjoy talking with her and I think she such a nice person to be with. Im not sure if she likes me though and i need to know if I should try becoming closer to her or would that scare her away. I'm a year older then her and she jus started college this year. HELP! (link)
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Hey there. I think that you should totally try and talk to her more, but the fact that she told you that she doesnt want to get attached might mean that she was hitting that she [may] not be into you like that. It totally depends on how she said it though, so that is for you to decide. I think you should try becoming closer to her as her friend at first, then after you 2 become really good friends, slowly admit to her your feelings for her, but you really never know, by that time you may realize you dont like her in that way, I doubt that though.. Good luck and if you have any more questions that require more detail please let me know!!! Good luck
love kristin
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Im an 18 yr old half italian guy. i go to highschool, i work, and im about to start college on top of highschool, i just got a bunch of new bills so now i need a second job again, and im already lacking on sleep and im starting to mentally deteriorate, im losing my temper alot quicker, and i can feel my "surpressed rage" according to my doctor, and my clinical depression resurfacing, and im tryin not to crack. not to mention im fighting the urge to wel...im a goody goody in a certain way, and im fighting the urge of losing that. so right now, im goin nuts, someone please help me! (link)
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Hey there..Im really sorry for what youre going through.. If you truely dont want to crack, there is really only one solution to this, DONT LET YOURSELF. I think its awesome that your being really responsible, and it sounds like you have a ton going for you and that is awesome.. When you feel like youre breaking down, thats only your mind!!!! BUT if you combine your heart and your mind together, and tell yourself CALM DOWN, and just take a deep breath and relax, its going to be okay.. You are the only thing that can help YOU.. You cant take any kind of medicine, etc. Im sure you know all that. When you feel like breaking down, dont let yourself. Stop whatever it is your doing and repeat these words to yourself, " [YOUR NAME], I AM SUCH A GREAT GUY, AND I HAVE SO FRIGGIN MUCH GOING FOR MYSELF. JUST CALM DOWNNN IM FINEEEE.. JUST CALM DOWN, RELAX, BREATH.." just keeep on telling yourself that. If you really want to help yourself, you have to teach your mental mind to not overload itself with stress because you have enough physical tasks to accomplish during your every day. I really hoped this helped some what.. Good luck and God bless,
love kristin
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(16/f) Okay then. I told this guy named...let's say Joe, that I liked him. He knows and eversince, he's been acting werid around me. One day, he'll talk to me and its like he will never shut up, but other days he won't even look at me. I have never been more confused in my life over a friggin' guy. What is he trying to tell me? Should I stay away from him so not to piss him off or do I keep talking to him and let him have his little mood swings? Thanks in advance.
Signed,
Running around in confusion. (link)
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Hey, okay I think that ever since he found out that you liked him, it might have scared him off ALITTLE bit..Just alil. Maybe cause he doesnt have the same feelings for you, so he doesnt really care if you sees/talks to you. When you are around/when hes bored he talks to you because he has nothing else to do maybe. But when he is busy/occupied/doesnt see u around, its just like w/e in his mind you know? I think you shold get over him because I dont think he has the same feelings for you.. Thats just my opinion though
good luck
love kristin
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Okay, so there's this guy. We're sort of friends, but there's complicated issues between us. A while back, like in May/June, I liked him and he liked me, but we never went out or anything. Because of certain reasons I'm not willing to explain. Anyway, I've gotten over him and I really like this other guy. But whenever I talk to or see the guy I used to like (we'll call him Bob), I usually get butterflies in my stomach and get kind of nervous. Yet that doesn't happen when I'm around the guy I like now. And I really like this guy, I do not like Bob. Seriously, I am being honest with myself. But then how come I always get butterflies in my stomach when I'm around Bob? Does that mean I like him and I just can't seem to admit that to myself..? I seriously don't think I like him though. Arrgh, I don't know. The thing is, I don't even have a reason to like him. So what's the deal here??!!! (link)
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Well you arent getting the butterflies for no reason. I think that you prolly still have feelings for him hidden somewhere in your heart, but they arent big enough for you to notice them until you actually see his face and talk to him, so those lil feelings pop out. Thats prolly why.. Its okay though, they will eventually go away dont worry =]
kristin
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Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year. We have our own home and we are usually happy. BUT sometimes we fight. When we fight I get an urge that lasts a really long time. Sometimes I want to leave so bad, but I never do. How do I get the strength to leave somebody I love even if it is the right thing for both of us. ( I am 19 he is 27 ) PLEASE HELP (link)
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I know that must be a really tough thing to do, to just get up and leave.. But if you REALLY want and need to leave this guy, then that's the answer, just do it. I know how difficult that must be because of the love that is there, but when you know something is wrong that needs to be right, you gotta fix it. Im sure you know all that. What I would do if I were you, is sit down and take your time writing a letter to your bf explaining to him E-X-A-C-T-L-Y how you feel, you dont want to end up never talking to the guy again. Then talk to a friend and stay with her for a little while until you get your feet back on the ground. I know i know, easier said then done. But if you wait any longer, its just going to get harder and harder to leave. So the answer to your question is, just do it.
good luck! love kristin =]
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I need help getting my toe touch. I just can't get it high enough. I stretch everyday and still not progress. People tell me to "roll my hips" but I dont know what they mean. Help! (link)
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Hey im a cheerleader too and something you can do is jump roping every day for about 2-3 mins.. Itll REALLY help you jump higher..It sounds cheesy but I sware it worked so good for me..Also, when you are prepping to jump [u know when u clap 1 2, high V 3 4, jump 5 6, land 7 8, start over 1.] try bouncing while u are counting to get ur momentum up. Thatll really help you too. Do maybe 20 side kicks for ur left and right leg everyday for about 1-2 weeks. Or u can try having some1 spot u while u do a toe touch. Meaning have the stand behind u and hold your upper body up so you have extra help in jumping high and getting your legs up..
love kristin
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I've become pretty good friends with this guy and he's recently been dumped by his girlfriend of two months. Things had been deteriorating for a while but he still liked her. He's kinda into 2 of my best friends but still flirts with me too. One friend doesnt like him and shes gonna say no to him if he asks her out. The other friend wants to her him out but doesnt wanna hurt my feelings. I've been working up the courage to ask him out as well but I'm really confused. The friend who wants to ask him out doesnt really like him but theyre best friends and I really think theyd ggo kinda far. With me, I think he'd say yes but I am not sure and thats kinda being retarded, and I dont wanna be afraid of anything like that as I learned from the last relationship I was in. I dont wanna hurt my friends' feelings either but she wont give me an answer whether its okay to ask him out or not. I really like him and feel happier than Ive been in months when Im with him and he seems pretty happy too =/ Thank you =( (link)
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You sound like an awesome person, u really do. I mean compared to other girls questions who say like, "my friend and I like the same guy but I want him to like me not her!" n stuff like that i mean they sound really immature. I think that you have a lot going for you with this guy. The thing is though, its kinda like he gets to choose which girl he wants to date you know? And you want to be the one choosing who youre going to date. If I were you, I would kinda baCk off..I know that wOuld suCk, but you dont want to be just another girl trying to get with him you know? Or, if you dont want to do that, try and become like best friends with him. Like let him tell you his problems, etc, and try and help him out n stuff, and just get to be really close with him. Then I really think he would start to like YOU and he would ask you out you know what I mean?? I hope this somewhat helped..
love kristin
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