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i have been with my boyfreind off and on kinda of for 8 months, i wanted to take a break becuase like i felt like he was holding me back from things i wanted to do, like he always wnated to knoe where i was or what i was doing and always aummesed things like he had no trust in me or sumthing. but during the break i tlaked to afew other guys and i felt likle happy talking to them and didnt wanan go back, but he keeps like sucking me backinto the relasitship bcuz he knows he kan, becuase i still care for him way to much and hes all in love with me and stuff and woukdnt never do ne thing againt me, i duno its jus hard, becuase im the one thats confused i could jus go right back into the relatsihip and b the sameold way but i think i want something new, hs the first guy ive ever relaly made out with kind of my first everything, so i odnt kno ne thing other then him so is kind of hard when alot of other guys want to like hang out or somethingand i want to but i cant knopwing i sitll have him, i duno im jus really confused !
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8 months? good for you! =) i can barely go thru 2, hehe, but if you dont feel the same as you first did, then i suggest you guys break it up. i know what you're going thru, i went thru the same situation. but trust me, tell him the truth. i mean if he cares about you a lot, he'll understand. since he is your first, you still need to time to go out and date other guys so you can know what its like. about the whole flirting-thing, well i went out with this guy right, and i have lots of guy friends, and they'dcome over a lot, but yeah one time i was on the phone with him and at the same time the doorbell rang and it was my guy friends and i told him that i'll call him back because my friends came by, he's like who? and i told him, the next thing i know he comes running over, it was like @ night, in the winter! lol ... but i can totally relate. tell him how you feel. he obviously cares A LOT so there's nothing to worry about. he'll understand. in the meantime, date around, have fun, (with other guys! ... duh ... ) lol. well don't worry! have fun & good luck. drop me a line sometime and tell me how it goes! * xo - angie *
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look if you want space, then you want space. you are young. it is perfectly normal to want to know what other guys are like. seems to me like you still have alot of feelings for your ex, thats why you keep letting him back in. hes not making you. you have to sit and really think about what you want. if you really care for him, then stop the on off games and stick with him. but if you want to see other people, then let him know that and stick with that. you cant keep going back and fourth, you will drive yourself crazy.
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well if your ready for something new, then let him go. even though he's the only thing you know, i doubt he's gonna be the only thing you know for the rest of your life. so you have to get out and experience new things. and dont fall for being suckered into a relationship. if you dont want to be in the relationship just tell him that it's over and your tired of your heart being broken.
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Yeah, um, I am the same type of person. I hate to be the one to break someone's heart. I wish I could have told this to myself 10 years ago so I will just have to hope that it helps you:
Don't stay with someone out of pity. Don't do that to yourself. I know it seems like if you break their heart then it totally contradicts the fact that you care about them, but you need to think of yourself and your own happiness first. The guy will need to learn to move on, forgive, and forget. You can't grow as a person if you lock yourself up inside a closet you don't want to be in. Get the hell out of there, the sooner the better. Good luck, sweetie.
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why not try to just be friends with him. tell him how you are feeling and say it's best if we are just friends. I kno it sounds corny..but it does work!*
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Well if u wanna move on and meet new poeple jus tell him plane out look i wanna move on to new people and STOP talkin to him bc if u stop talkin to him u wont have feelins for him tahts whut i had to do and it worked but on other hand if u still want him ull have to tell him look we can go out i jus wanna feel free to still have freinds that are guys and ull have to accept taht to make this realtionship work!
Hope i helped
Blayre
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If you are confused with your relationship(which you are), ask yourself do you really love him or do you want to try someone new. Either way you can make a mistake. Look deep down inside of you...now if you want to to stay with him, tell him that sometimes you need a little space. Don't make it sound like a break up though. If you don't want to stay with him, then put it down on him(not to hard).
Whenever he comes to talk to you, you feel smuthered and want him to go away. Then, I suggest you find someone new.
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You will regret it in the future if you stay with him..Its only going to get harder and harder to let go and try new things in the future..The sooner you let go, the easier it will be to move on.. No one in the world can make you be together, NO ONE. You say that he kinda sucks you back, and thats totally understandable, but since you see what he is doing, the only person at fault is you because you are letting him suck you back. Im sure you love him with all your heart and he loves you with all his heart. It doesnt at all mean that you two haveto stop loving eachother or caring about eachother, it simply means that you need change, something new, something fresh and exciting.. Ofcourse you need to talk to him and inform him about all this, and at the same time NOT let him suck you back by making you feel guilty or by him saying that he cannot live without you, etc.. Dont tell him you want to meet new guys because thatll pierce him so bad.. Im sure you will know whwat to say.. Do not let him suck you back..
Love kristin
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