I like fairies (thus why I am wearing fairy wings in the picture). Good grammar rocks, too. It doesn't have to be perfect but I get frustrated when people completely disregard it. I like every color except pink. I hate the wind. Sometimes, I carry around a little teddy bear I found at an antique store. His name is Robert. I dress very eccentrically. It's not unusual for me to wear a prairie dress one day and a Mod dress (think Austin powers) the next. I don't dye my hair, or wear much make-up. I think it's sad that no one puts any emphasis on natural beauty anymore. I think it's a good thing to be open and educated about sex and other issues that are considered taboo. I have a hard time seeing where homophobics are coming from.
Basically, I'm just some weird teenager in Arizona. If I haven't scared you off already, feel free to drop me a line. -Danielle
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I'm a sophomore in high school and I'm in love with my foreign language teacher.
I developed a crush on him at the end of my freshman year and since then, it's grown a lot and it's becoming unbearable. It's a blessing that this year is coming to an end because having his class every day has been miserable but I found out this week that I'm getting him again next year and I don't know what to do.
I've been told that it's just a phase that I'm going through but it's lasted way too long and I can't seem to get over it. I rarely speak to him, I can't look him in the eye, and I always feel so miserably awkward in his class and I don't know how I'm going to get through another year with him. And I'm miserable because I know nothing can ever happen.
I don't know what to do. I can't make myself comfortable in a situation like this and I'm thinking about dropping his class even though I'm so interested in it. Is this really just a phase I'm going through? Is it normal for teenage girls to totally fall in love with their teachers for no reason? How am I supposed to handle this? (link)
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You sound like an intelligent, mature person. It's only natural to desire someone who is on the same level...and quite frankly, at age 15 or 16, many people haven't really come into themselves yet. Hey, he might be a teacher that's way older than you, but he's a human just like you and the fact that he's your teacher doesn't make him some new species (I spelled that wrong. Sorry, really tired). You're in a really sticky, unusual situation. I'm glad that you realize that nothing can happen with him and that you shouldn't even try. That's not something that could ever end well. Try to switch teachers, is my first thought... but if he is the only one that teaches that course... I suggest either waiting until college to take it again or trying to take it at a community college. It's expensive, and inconvienient, but isn't worth being able to enjoy the subject that you like, rather than have it ruined by some unhealthy obsession? Have you tried talking to one of your parents about it? I know that thought sounds completely absurd, but sometimes they're more understanding than we give them credit for. I'm not really sure what else to tell you. It's not like you can just "forget" about it. I hope that you find a way out of taking the course with him, but if that is completely impossible, than just stop taking the course... it sounds like it's way too much stress to handle.
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There is this girl in my town who whenever I run into I feel just utter contempt for. The problem is I'm not even really sure why because she's become such a loser.
Well first of all she has a bad reputation in town. She used to be a prostitute and got pregnant two years ago. No one knew who the father was and after she had the baby social services took it away. She also was a drug dealer and got banned from the volunteer centre I used to work at. I think the main thing that upset me was that she dated my first serious bf after we broke up. She would spread rumours about me and would flaunt their relationship in front of me. She also used to be really skinny when I was overweight.
Well since she had the baby she's gained atleast 50 pounds. She's also unemployed and the last time I saw her she was dancing at the bar with her big gut sticking out and being a complete slut.
Everyone (my friends) said she was gross. I have so much more going for me than her; I'm employed and have my act together and I don't sleep around and I'm a LOT prettier than her because I've lost a lot of weight.
So my question is why does it still upset me when I see her? Because she's turned into such a loser? Can anyone give me some advice? (link)
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I get this sometimes too, but I'll try to answer to the best of my abilities.
Basically, the things you use to put yourself over her are superficial. You KNOW that it ultimately doesn't matter who has the prettier face, or who has slept with less people. You know that it doesn't necessarily mean you are a better person than her. All of the things you listed might add up to making her a loser, but I think deep down there's that feeling of knowing that fucking up more times doesn't necessarily make a worse person.
You resent her because she makes you question yourself. Every time you see her you have to reevaluate yourself and reassure yourself that you have better assets than her in life. The boyfriend thing also, of course, factors in. Even if you're over him, that situation was yet another time you had to question yourself and compare yourself to her and hope you weren't on the same level as her just because this guy moved from you to her. It just created bad associations, especially because at that time you were vulnerable due to your insecurities.
Due to those associations, you may never completely stop resenting her. You still associate insecurity with her since she emphasized it at some point. Sometimes as human beings it's in our nature to use other people's shortcomings to make ourselves feel better, so it's only natural that now you would use your improvements and her regression as a measurement of how far you've come. Don't stress out so much over it... getting over all of it will come naturally as you mature and get older.
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what does this mean: piensas que tener una lengua en común ayuda a las personas a llevarse bien?
i tried using a spanish translator but it doesn't makes sense! if you can translate that & have it actually make sense, please help! thanks (link)
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Do you think that to have a language in common helps people to well?
I'm not really sure what llevarse means in that context since I haven't taken spanish in a year. It could possibly mean to get along well or to carry on well... sorry if that's wrong.
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alright. see heres the thing. last night i had a dream where i was hanging out with my bestfriend (hes a guy. im a girl) and ive known him a loooonng time and when i first met him i liked him alot but i had a boyfriend (still have the same bf) and i ignored my feelings for him and really they went away now that i know him really intamitly as a bestfriend. so last night i had a dream that was with him and we were 5 years older and i was laying on him and stuff and we were making out and then we had sex. and im really worried cuz i liked the dream :( and being that i have a boyfriend and hes my bestfriend and on top of that i am really good friends with his girlfriend. so all of this is freakin me out. do you think it was just some random dream or something more? (link)
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Never take dreams too seriously. That can lead to a lottt of trouble, as I've seen. Don't take it as a big deal. If, down the line, you two are single and happen to like each other, then let itself work out from there rather than trying to break everyone up over some random brain activity in your sleep.
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Do most guys, or you personally, prefer long hair on girls or short hair?
Natural make-up(looking like your not wearing any) or make-up you can notice(not in a cheesey way)? (link)
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As far as I know, (MOST) guys like longer hair and little to no make up. Most guys seem to feel like make up just gets gross/in the way.
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Me and this guy were kind of dating then he stopped liking me cause he met some other girl. Now, he is coming back to me and wants to have what we had before. I don't like him, the only reason why I would get back with him was to kiss him cause I have never been kissed before. What should I do? Go along with it and get kissed... how could I do that? Or just totally forget about him? (link)
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Eh...just wait for another guy that you actually like. Speaking from experience, it's annoying to have to look back on your first kiss with some skeeze you didn't even really care about anyway. It's definitely a much better experience when you care for the person.
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First off, i appreciate anyone who can answer this. second, this is going to be somewhat long but here goes nothing:
On saturday my mom told me my boyfriend could come over. she wasn't home for 30 minutes and he came over during that time which she said she was fine with as long as we don't go upstairs to my room. But we went up there. while we were up there we had sex for the first time and while we were doing it, she came home. so we raced downstairs and acted like nothing happened. and she didn't suspect one thing at all. then the next day *sunday*, one of my friends called me and asked if i had sex with my boyfreind. i told her yes along with the story. while i was telling the story my mom picked up the other phone line and heard EVERYTHING. she knows now and is calling me a slut, and trash. now she is telling me i am not allowed to see my boyfriend ever again and if he steps foot into this house she will call the police because he's 18 i'm 16 and still a minor. so i guess she could have him arrested for him having sex with a minor.
i still want to continue to see my boyfriend but now we are going to have to sneak around. i know that isn't right but that's the only way we can see each other. any advice on what i can do to get my mom to let me see him without her freaking out and calling me a slut??? (link)
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Hmm... you did something against her wishes, so it's fair that you suffer some consequences I suppose, but it's just plain bad parenting to call your kid a slut, especially when you probably aren't one. Like that's really going to help anything.
Before talking to her, give everything a couple of weeks to cool off. She's probably not going to be open to much right now. I'd suggest checking on the laws to see if it's REALLY illegal for you to be with your boyfriend, but even if you do find out that it's legal, she is still not going to let you see him and give some other ultimatum like grounding you from something you like or what not.
You just need to try to get her trust back. Once you've waited a bit, try to just have an open discussion with her. Tell her you're sorry for disrespecting her by going against her wishes but everyone fucks up and that you know it was a big mistake. Make it clear that you know she is right for punishing you (even if she's not right for calling you names). Try to tell her in a really undefensive manner how much it hurts you that she calls you that name. If things seem to be going well at that point, ask if you could possibly have time with your boyfriend when she is there, i.e. having him over for dinner or something along those lines. Yes, it sucks to have a parent around all the time, but it's better than nothing. I hope things calm down for you soon!
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This great guy & I have been dating for a few months now. He's popular and he's been with a few girls from our school. He has told me that 2 of his exes have mentioned me in a negative way. I've started to notice a few girls giving my dirty looks around school, which has never happened before. He says these girls are jealous but I'm getting upset by it. I'm starting to question if this potential relationship is worth it, even though he really makes me happy. Should I just forget about the girls or forget him? (link)
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If you really like the guy, why the heck would you let a few bitchy girls get in the way of that? They don't matter. In a couple years, you won't even remember they exist anyway. It's not like it's his fault that girls in high school are just catty by nature.
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ok so im going to the rascal flatts concert in june and i have no clue what to wear!! what do people wear to country concerts cause i've never been to one..also im 16/f (link)
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NO heels...Just wear a comfy skirt and cute top... assuming it will be hot out. People generally dress casually to country concerts and just want to be comfortable and able to move around easily. Some people will attempt a cowboy look but I just think that is really cheesy and unoriginal. Just be yourself and wear your favorite casual outfit!
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Hi all I am 28 years old and I have a daughter who is going to be 9 this year and she has been asking me how babies get into the tummy and what pads are for and I am having truble getting the right way to say it...As I dont remember my mom talking to me about it...But I wont to be the one to tell her so she will be able to talk to me about anything....I was not comfertable talking to my mom and I wont my daughter to be able to talk to me.......if anyone could help me please do.thanks (link)
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I think you should just tell her. 9 years old is old enough to start getting the basic facts, and quite frankly, I'm surprised some kid at school hasn't told her by now. Sorry if this doesn't quite mix with your values...but I think I found out around 6, which is a little too young, but still leads me to think 9 isn't a bad age to find out. The period stuff really shouldn't be an issue. She's about to start puberty in a year or two and she has a right to know what's going to happen to her! If it's still really awkward they make a ton of books that explain periods for girls her age in a very not scary, easy to understand way.
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My friend's parents make her (a freshman) study non-stop. She doesn't get very good grades, but it is certainly not because of a lack of effort. She comes home from school and is forced to study and do homework from 4:00-12:00 (sometimes even until 1 or 2 a.m.). I constantly stress to her that she needs to get enough sleep and have some fun every once in a while because obviously working herself to death isn't the solution (her grades are still not that good). She has said to me numerous times that she brought a bad quiz/test grade to her mom and that her mom threw something at her. On the weekends, she is forced to study practically all day unless she is invited to go out.
Am I over-reacting or is this unhealthy? What can I do to help her? (link)
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Umm... talk to a counselor. I'd want to report those parents to CPS... that's child abuse to me. It's like they're practically enslaving her, and what good is it doing? If you study like that all the time you never learn anything because you're never getting time to let it sink in...
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What do i tell a guy to do to get me to orgasim, i really want to, but i dont know how? (link)
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Show him where your clit is, and tell him to not let his fingers leave it.
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ok so here's the thing, I am not as comfortable with sex as I want to be. Like I get nervous like i'm going to do something wrong or not be able to keep him 'interested'. How can I get more comfortable with my sexuality? (link)
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I overcame this issue pretty early on by just communicating. I always tried to be very open with sexual partners. I figure, hell, if I think I'm comfortable enough to sleep with this person, I sure as hell should be comfortable talking about it. Ask him what he likes. Ask him what he really is into, what turns him on, and what he likes that you're already doing. That way you know for sure that you're not doing anything "wrong" and have that worry eliminated. As long as you're confident with yourself and into what you're doing, he'll stay interested. Trust me, if a guy knows he's about to get laid, almost anything will keep him interested. Just put a little bit more faith into yourself and don't sell yourself short. The more you relax, the more he relaxes, and then things just get better from there. Just make sure to stay open with him so that it doesn't become a mind reading game. Sex is about communication on all levels, not just the body.
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ok well this is kinda health thing but yah i wanted to ask about this acne prob. i have.. ok its a lil weird.. but uh ok i have a lil acne in between my "chest" and i hate wearing bathing suits b.c of it and i was wondering do i use regular acne soap for it or is there something special for it?? i know its weird but please help. thank you. ill rate!!
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You might want to continue using your soap and then using a *little* bit of moisturizer afterwards. It sounds really weird...but here's my reasoning. When you use something like an astringent or soap with acne medicine with it, it works to take the oil out of that area, which seems like a good thing since that's what causes the acne. But then your body realizes how dry that area has become and works to make more oil, and completely takes away the effect of the acne medicine. Replenishing the moisture a tiny bit helps to eliminate that. For me, with my face, it can still be a little hit or miss because of diet and other factors... so I suggest talking to a dermatologist if it persists and they can help you further.
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A boy is going to ask me to a school dance. I dont want to go with him. what should i tell him to let him down gently?
I'll rate 5's. (link)
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Say, I'm sorry, I just wanted to go alone and have fun with my friends.
If you're waiting for someone else to ask you or you're going to ask someone else, you could just say you were planning on going with someone else already.
As long as you're just nice about it and don't make some disgusted face at him when he asks you, I don't think there's even a slight chance he'll be traumatized by the rejection. :)
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Ok,well today,i took a bath,shampoo'd and conditioned my hair,then put this serum that stops split ends.but recently (every once in a while) i've noticed my hair has been falling out.a couple of mintues ago,after my hair was dry (by the air) i put it to the side and combed through it with my fingers.i got about 10 strands of hair! i was so scared!!! my sister's hair fell out,but thats probably only because she dyed it so much.no one else in this family has had this happen!should i worry and go to the doctor,or is this normal?! (link)
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Our scalps are accustomed to losing at least 100 strands of hair a day... that seems like a lot, but as teenagers we tend to have a lot of hair! 10 strands isn't so bad, but if it starts happening every single time you brush your hair, you might need to start worrying. You also just might be brushing your hair too much. 10 strands is nothing to me, but I also have more hair than anyone I know. You may want to mention it to a parent or a doctor if you happen to be seeing one soon just to ease your worries, but I wouldn't start to be scared unless huge clumps of hair start falling out all at once.
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okay so my parents are in a fight. okay so first off, my mom doesnt want my dad talking to this girl on the phone and since the phone bill doesnt come in the mail becacuse my dad changed it to online bill, my mom told me to log on to my dads username and check up on the numbers he has been calling (iknow the password) and my mom finds the number of that girl that she doesnt want my dad to talk to . my dad isnt cheating on my mom, its just that my mom doesnt wnt him to talk to her. okay so now my mom is mad at my dad and shes been telling how my dad talks to another girl on the phone to my uncles and aunts. and i feel really bad for my dad because i feel like i kinda betrayed him.. like i know its wrong for him to do that but still and now my parents dont even sleep in the same room, my dad sleeps in the basement and my mom sleeps in their room. how can i make them talk again and forget about it? and also how can i make my dad stop calling that girl? oh yah this has been happengin since like last year and thats when my mom told him to stop talking to her but he didnt listen (link)
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This probably isn't what you want to hear, but your parents issues are not yours. You do not have the means nor the life experience to counsel them back into being happy with each other again. You're just going to have to stay out if it, because you really don't have as much control as you think. Getting into the middle of it and siding with one parent sure as heck won't help. Just leave this to them.
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i have to write an eassy on a socail issue. i was thinking about teen sex and pregancy about pros and cons about it. the more i think about it the more it makes me think that i couldnt write an eassy about. my question is
1) is it possible to write an eassy about that?
2) what is a good social issue that isnt as known? like abortion i know a lot of perople that are going to do it.
if it helps i want it to do with teen age problems
15/f (link)
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I would say a pretty big teenage problem is abusive relationships, and people might not think to write on that, even if it is known.
The problem is, if it's a social issue, it's known, or else it couldn't really be a social issue. Maybe you should look up the meaning of social issue.
You could also write on teenage drinking/drug use, date rape drugs at high school parties, or bullying/peer pressure.
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Okay here it is. Im the popular girl in school, and alot of guys think im hot. Oh yah,and please dont answer this if you are just going to say im a bitch or something.Yes,i am hot and pretty and im pretty much use to all the boys wanting me. But there is this girl in my school,a wannabe me. She got the exact same haircut as mine the other day!Can you say:BITCH!!! i know! Anyway,theres this HOTT guy and he barley knows her but he thinks she is hot.GRRR. This is a major problem if you are me! I dont share! Does any one know what i can do to you know well...get him away from her?Im so mad! Shes ugly but im not going to lie,has a nice body.I know people say you dont like someone because of there looks but,i mean come on! One thing i dont do is lie,and beleive me im not lieing SHES UGLY. Sad to day,for her anyway,a few people think so too. Im going to get this guy no matter how much it takes no matter how much clevage because people!, I had a dream that one day ugly people and pretty people(*Me*) do not mix! And i need your help. Maybe you think im concieded so what,if you are too you will probably be able to help! Thanks!I Rate!!!HIGH! ANSWER FAST! Time is wasting :/ (link)
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HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHHAHA.
Sorry, I can't type any advice because I'm laughing so hard.
Google "narcissistic". You might find some useful information.
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17/f. My mom is vehemently against my going to college in the fall of this year, she wants me to wait a year. I applied to various schools without her knowledge or consent because I'm not willing to wait a year before going. I sent off my enrollment deposit to the school I'm going to and I've been working with my principal and my Gifted and Talented coordinator, trying to get my mom in to a meeting to discuss the prospects of me going in fall. Well, she's refused to go to the meeting, thinks I'm still waiting a year. I have to send in the tuition and housing deposit and forms to my school, and they have to be signed by a parent since I'm under 18, but I called the school and explained my situation and they agreed that I could sign it myself. So now where I'm at is, I could just leave in fall, go off to my college, and my mom wouldn't have to know until shortly before I do it. I'll only be 17 1/2 by August and I made sure that if she called the police or social services they wouldn't be able to take me back...but now I'm kind of stuck. I have people that are willing to help me move up there and I have a good-paying summer job so I'm set financially, but I don't want to cause a family rift. I'm sick of my mom controlling me, but as much as I want to rub this in her face because of the way she's treated me over the years, I don't know if I can. Do you think I should?
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Holy shit. You are one bad ass chick.
Wow... as a just turned 18/f going to college in the fall, I could never imagine being the in place you are, as my parents have always been supportive of my going off to college...
This whole thing sounds more like a maturity issue with your mom... at this point it just seems like she's being stubborn and wants to prove a point. As your mother, she needs to support your dreams. Part of your dream is to go off to college right now. She should be happy and grateful that she has a driven and smart child like you. If this causes a family rift, then so be it. It's not like you're going out, doing drugs, partying every night. You're not doing anything wrong and she shouldn't make you feel like shit for having a little ambition. (or a lot).
Keep in mind though, right now you are the bigger person. If you rub this in her face, you're kind of bringing her down to your level. Sure, it will make you feel great to be like "look what I did- WITHOUT you" but trust me, it will have more of an effect if you just leave and show no emotion for her opinions or reactions whatsoever. I'd say, stay the bigger, more mature person in the situation and you'll be sure to keep what power you've obtained for yourself.
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