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comfortability?
ok so here's the thing, I am not as comfortable with sex as I want to be. Like I get nervous like i'm going to do something wrong or not be able to keep him 'interested'. How can I get more comfortable with my sexuality?
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Don't be afraid to ask him what he wants (specifics) and tell him exactly what you want. It may seem like dirty talk at first but trust me, you get used to it and it is a turn on. Make sure you are comfortable with your own body too. Do you think you are a sexy woman? Confidence is key.
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I overcame this issue pretty early on by just communicating. I always tried to be very open with sexual partners. I figure, hell, if I think I'm comfortable enough to sleep with this person, I sure as hell should be comfortable talking about it. Ask him what he likes. Ask him what he really is into, what turns him on, and what he likes that you're already doing. That way you know for sure that you're not doing anything "wrong" and have that worry eliminated. As long as you're confident with yourself and into what you're doing, he'll stay interested. Trust me, if a guy knows he's about to get laid, almost anything will keep him interested. Just put a little bit more faith into yourself and don't sell yourself short. The more you relax, the more he relaxes, and then things just get better from there. Just make sure to stay open with him so that it doesn't become a mind reading game. Sex is about communication on all levels, not just the body.
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Being comfortable with sex comes with time. I think a major component i how comfortable you are with your partner. The more you can trust the person you're with the easier it becomes.
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I had the same problem.
For me i just had to let it happen to become comfortable. So try that, and or put your hand on his so you have control over what he does, and can stop if you're uncomfortable. :]
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