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My friend's parents make her (a freshman) study non-stop. She doesn't get very good grades, but it is certainly not because of a lack of effort. She comes home from school and is forced to study and do homework from 4:00-12:00 (sometimes even until 1 or 2 a.m.). I constantly stress to her that she needs to get enough sleep and have some fun every once in a while because obviously working herself to death isn't the solution (her grades are still not that good). She has said to me numerous times that she brought a bad quiz/test grade to her mom and that her mom threw something at her. On the weekends, she is forced to study practically all day unless she is invited to go out.
Am I over-reacting or is this unhealthy? What can I do to help her?
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No you are not over reacting. I am wondering if her grades improved if her parents would lighten up a little? It's always more fun to study with someone. Maybe with the help of your parents you can start a study group, where you get together with several of your friends 2-3 days a week and help each other. In college, I always studied with classmates. I learned the most this way, and we actually had fun doing it.
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Eight hours straight is never good for your brain. Although some may that it helps your brain be more complex or whatever, but it's not true. Taking breaks every hour is needed when studying, thats what our nurse told us.
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this is definitely not a good situation to begin with. recently i've been through a similar situation with my best friend, and what i did to try to make it better was i wrote a letter to her parents, who were overprotective and absolutely crazy. in this situation i don't know if that is the best idea, it is not necessarily something that the authorities could help with, so i would just be there to support her in school and whenever you get to see her. you could urge her to try to talk with her parents calmly and seriously, that could help, but if not, i'm not sure it is something that you as a friend could help with. if her parents don't respond to her talking to them, suggest that she talk to a relative about her parent's behavior.
-celina
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Umm... talk to a counselor. I'd want to report those parents to CPS... that's child abuse to me. It's like they're practically enslaving her, and what good is it doing? If you study like that all the time you never learn anything because you're never getting time to let it sink in...
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She certainly needs a break. That's far too much studying.
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You should probably tell your friend that your brain needs rest in order to function properly so she should get enough sleep at night and also take a brake and make sure she eats brain food
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