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I'm a sophomore in high school and I'm in love with my foreign language teacher.
I developed a crush on him at the end of my freshman year and since then, it's grown a lot and it's becoming unbearable. It's a blessing that this year is coming to an end because having his class every day has been miserable but I found out this week that I'm getting him again next year and I don't know what to do.
I've been told that it's just a phase that I'm going through but it's lasted way too long and I can't seem to get over it. I rarely speak to him, I can't look him in the eye, and I always feel so miserably awkward in his class and I don't know how I'm going to get through another year with him. And I'm miserable because I know nothing can ever happen.
I don't know what to do. I can't make myself comfortable in a situation like this and I'm thinking about dropping his class even though I'm so interested in it. Is this really just a phase I'm going through? Is it normal for teenage girls to totally fall in love with their teachers for no reason? How am I supposed to handle this?
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omg having a crush on your teacher isnt gonna get you anywhere but depression.hes a lot older than you and teachers are teachers thats it.sit down and think it out is liking him actually gonna get me anywhere?you should go find someone your age that you desserve
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yes its normal, Just tell him in private and yall will probaly have a good laugh!
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It's normal, and it happens way more than you are aware of because others just don't talk about it. A lot of teens have idols, nothing wrong with that. It doesn't become a problem until it becomes an obsession. If you can't think of anything else, it may already be an obsession.
Something that might help is "Thought Stopping" meaning at least when you are in his class, you can control your thinking. Of course as you already know, it would not be safe to act on your feelings, so therefore you must continue to control them. The more you do this, the easier it will become. You will probably be able to take his class next year without a problem.
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You sound like an intelligent, mature person. It's only natural to desire someone who is on the same level...and quite frankly, at age 15 or 16, many people haven't really come into themselves yet. Hey, he might be a teacher that's way older than you, but he's a human just like you and the fact that he's your teacher doesn't make him some new species (I spelled that wrong. Sorry, really tired). You're in a really sticky, unusual situation. I'm glad that you realize that nothing can happen with him and that you shouldn't even try. That's not something that could ever end well. Try to switch teachers, is my first thought... but if he is the only one that teaches that course... I suggest either waiting until college to take it again or trying to take it at a community college. It's expensive, and inconvienient, but isn't worth being able to enjoy the subject that you like, rather than have it ruined by some unhealthy obsession? Have you tried talking to one of your parents about it? I know that thought sounds completely absurd, but sometimes they're more understanding than we give them credit for. I'm not really sure what else to tell you. It's not like you can just "forget" about it. I hope that you find a way out of taking the course with him, but if that is completely impossible, than just stop taking the course... it sounds like it's way too much stress to handle.
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