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im 17 years old and pregnant. i just moved 900 miles away from my boyfriend and he came to visit me over the summer and thats when it happened. my mom doesnt want me to get an abortion because she doesnt believe in it. and my boyfriend and i know that were not ready to supply for a kid. so, my only option here would be adoption right? the thing is... i cant even imagene doing that. has anyone else been in my position? i mean i know i have to do whats best for me and the baby but giving up someone like that just seems impossible

I have only two pieces of advice to give you.

First off, the decision of whether or not to have an abortion isn't your mother's to make. If you're going to not have an abortion, make sure it's because it's what YOU believe, not your mother. Ultimately, she has very little say here. If it isn't something that you feel violates YOUR beliefs, then that is another option for you to consider.

Secondly, don't despair. Lots of people have been in your position before and made the right choice (Whatever choice that may have been for them). I can't use myself as an example (I'm a male), but rest assured that you're not the first to go through this, and you won't be the last. It seems like an impossible choice to make, but really it's very possible. What makes it harder is panicking and feeling helpless. Try to relax and view the situation objectively. Anything else will increase the chances of you making a stupid mistake you'll regret later.

i'd like to hear everyone and anyone's opinion, but i'd love for the older columnists to help me on this one... question being, do you think there is a certain age in which you can REALLY fall IN love with someone? Or do you think you can fall in love at any age, whether you're 16 or 50? So many people say at 8 you cannot fall in love, yet at 16 you can.. what is the difference? of course, the difference with any age is experiance, but do you guys really believe these theories? i want opinions!!! thanks =]

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"So many people" are morons. You can fall in love at any age. In fact, younger people usually fall in love faster and harder because they lack the emotional experience to stop themselves. If anything, I'd say the ability to love DECREASES as you get older.

People who say "Oh, no. That's not REAL love" or "Oh, they're just confusing lust for love" are kidding themselves.

hiya,well i have the new generation of the ipod nano i believe.I put some songs on there that were duplicates,some that dont play or im just simply tired of the song.I wanted to delete some songs on the ipod but i dont know how.I tried looking it up online but nothing really tells me how to do it,or the things ive tried dont work.I have itunes 6.5 or 7.0 i think so it's the newer version of itunes.Does anyone know how i can delete songs off my ipod nano? thanks in advance :)

In order to delete your songs, you have to have your iPod plugged in and have iTunes running. Once you're connected, on the right pane there should be an icon-type thing for your iPod, along with your iPod's name. Click it, and under music select the songs you want to get rid of and press the "delete" key.

I've been under an unusual amount of stress in the past month, I had to move back from Utah to Texas due to me and my best friend having issues, we are no longer friends, I had to move away from my boyfriend, and now I'm back at home with my parents, and they're going through a tough divorce right now, and my mom has been very uncooperative. In the past week or two I started to get flickering lights in my peripheral vision, and it's usually triggered whenever I'm anxious. I'm not sure if it's just from all the stress or anxiety or if it might be drug related. I have done mushrooms once, lsd once (a low dose), ecstasy twice, and I used to smoke weed regularly.
Also, my dad has been giving me low doses of Lorazapam (Ativan) to help me with my anxiety, and it usually makes "the flickers" go away, also I've started running again and when I run for longer periods of time the symptoms usually don't come back for a while. I was also prescribed pheneregan (sp?) about 2 weeks ago, and I was supposed to be taking it every few hours for a few days, but it made me feel really sore and groggy and I would sleep for a pretty long time. I managed to only take half of what was given to me so sometimes I take it at night to help me sleep, because I've been having a really hard time sleeping.

I used to (and still do, occasionally) get something similar, but closer to sudden "flashes" instead of flickers.

I doubt it's drug-related, since my drug history is slightly less colorful and I still get them. It could be anxiety related, but diagnosing yourself is pretty dangerous stuff, and having people over the internet diagnose you isn't much better.

If it's not bothering you too much, I wouldn't bother going to the emergency room for it. Even if it is bugging you, see a doctor, but the emergency room is probably overdoing things.

Treadmille 50-60-70 minutes everyday
Speed: 6.0-6.1
[Speed walk]
Burn 300 or 200 and something calories.
Is that good enough?.

Good enough for what?
What are you hoping to accomplish?

You're going to have to be more specific.

is there i way i can make sure a certain person can not know i have a facebook? for example.. i moved a few years ago and am not currently friends with my friends from my old neighborhood on facebook. i want to be! however, there are people from my past that i do not want to interact with! what im specifically asking is.. if i add a friend lets name her jessica and jessica is friends with amy but i do not want amy to see that i have a facebook. is this possible? im sorry this is so confusing but i didnt know how else to say it lol. thank you so much in advance!! a quick response will really be appreciated

No. This is not possible.

i'm making some kick-a grpahics to go with some photography i took a while back. and i'm looking for some awesome quotes to put on them. i don't want anything cliche or over done. i mostly use a lot of random lyrics, or small bits of quotes i find every now and then. here are some examples:

"be young, think smart, stay true, and just follow your heart."
"live like you meant it."
"happiness will only come to those who already appreciate what they have."
"i need you like a lyric needs a melody."
"it's not faith if you use your eyes."

i'll all for the whole "i'm happy to be alive and thankful for what i have" kind of thing. any takers? (:

Quotes from prose:

"We think that powerful and lifeful movement is impossible without differences -- "true conformity" is possible only in the cemetery."
-Joseph Stalin, in his article "Our purposes" Pravda #1, (22 January 1912)

"By means of beauty all beautiful things become beautiful."
-Socrates, from Plato's Phaedo.

"It is impossible to live a pleasant life without living wisely and honorably and justly, and it is impossible to live wisely and honorably and justly without living pleasantly."
-Epicurus, from his 40 "Soveign Maxims

Quotes from Music:

"We'll shine with the light of a thousand blazing suns"
-Dustin Kensrue, from "Weary Saints"

"But how will I know limits from lies, if I never try?"
-Thrice, from "The Melting Point Of Wax"

"A thousand jaded tourists, trading in their hearts and hands for disposable cameras set to document decay, set to capture just enough of life to catalog the things we throw away"
-Thrice, from "So Strange I Remember You"

More as I remember them.

I had a little get together with some friends including my boyfriend david and an guy i cheated on my boyfriend with (over a year ago, joe) last week. We played stupid drinking games and truth or dare and my boyfriend is claiming i was staring at the joe the whole time although i was basically the only one who didn't get with him. i mean i think he is good looking but have been with my boyfriend close to two years, i love him a lot and don't want joe anymore. Its not like this is the first time they have been together in a room because we all go to the same parties..have the same friends. that next two nights david and i are fighting because he claims i still like joe.. he doesn't understand. then i was out for vacation the whole weekend... friday sat sun mon and i'm back its already tuesday.. i texted him sat saying i'm sorry and i love him and we should talk and all he said was have fun and we should??? i don't feel like i need to be explaining myself and i've tried to make things better and i'm just gonna wait for him to apolgize. did i or did i not do somethihng wrong? its not like if i had any physical contact with the guy, i barely talked to him! and to make things better, i'm almost positive david went out with his friends, like always whenever i am not around, got drunk and missed work because we work at the sameplace so i know... it just bugs me too because i never ever go out with out him and he always goes out with out me because i usually have work on weekend and such... i feel like we should take a break maybe with so much kiddy stuff going on.. Like i said its been a few days, i do miss him but obviously he wants it to be like this? what do i do? besides just sitting down and talking to him?

Normally I would pin the fault on your boyfriend -- After all, a relationship can only work if all parties involved have a pretty high level of trust in each other.

However, you DID cheat on him, and your boyfriend is right to be uneasy about all this, given your history. You lost your boyfriend's trust when you chose to cheat on him. You won't get it back by dumping him the minute he starts to feel uneasy. That would only confirm his doubts.

Assuming you want to keep your boyfriend, don't wait for him to apologize. Sit him down and explain yourself. Don't blame him, he's right to be uneasy. Tell him you're still interested in persuing a relationship and hope he can learn to trust you again. If not, let it be a lesson to you in any future relationships you may have. Your cheating (A year ago or not) may have just killed your relationship -- After all, a relationship can only work if all parties involved have a pretty high level of trust in each other.

I just started college last week, and I already have written one short paper. I am a fairly good writer when it comes to expressing my thoughts and ideas, but I would like to have someone proofread my paper(s) occasionally, such as when I have a large one with a big chunk of my grade in jeopardy. Does anyone know a site that can connect me to people who will do this for free (I tried to google this matter, but I didn't exactly find anything). Or would anyone on this site be willing to help? Haha. It might seem far fetched, but I figured it was worth a shot.

Writing is deeply personal. As a result, any proofreading beyond simple spelling/grammar checking (Which MicroSoft Word can do for you) should be done by someone you know and trust who is familiar with your writing.

When I'm in need of proofreading, I ask a few of my close friends or my girlfriend. If that fails or they aren't availible, I turn to one of my parents or a teacher (Assuming it's not due the next day).

17/F (Soprano) I'm looking for a really upbeat song to sing for an upcoming talent show...some examples of my favorite songs:
We Belong by Pat Benatar
Cry by Faith Hill
& Taking Chances-Celine Dion

I'd prefer it didn't be about love with some dude...I've never been in love and wouldn't relate much to the song...remember: I want something really cheery! thanks.

If you want something Cheery, you really can't get any better than ABBA.

"I Have A Dream" is a good song to sing at a talent show, but it's not very upbeat.

Their most upbeat, but still singable songs songs would either be "Voulez Vouz" or "Does Your Mother Know" (Does Your Mother Know is sung by the guys on the Album, but it can easily be adapated for a female singer as was done in the movie Mamma Mia!)

my parents smoke and its not fare on me because it feels like I smoke when they sit next to me and it makes me feel sick what should i do?

They're adults and they make their own choices. There's little you can do to MAKE them stop smoking. All you can do is make your stance known and hope they cooperate with you.

If you're that concerned about your health/safety, leave the room when they start smoking, go outside, etc.

On a slightly unrelated note, my dad used to smoke when I was a kid. He stopped when I told him "Dad, when I grow up I want to be just like you" as he was smoking. I was 4 or 5 at the time, so I had no idea what I was saying, but it saddened him enough to get him to quit. If your parents care about that kind of thing, that may work with them too.

Hi, I know of this store that used to be in a mall in toronto and they had most of the products that are "only sold on tv" it was called show____
I don;t remember. If you know what im talking about please remnd me what the store was called. I think it was something like showcase or something.

They had a similar store in a mall in LA. I believe the store was called "Showtime", but I'm probably wrong on that.

If you're looking to buy a product that they would sell in such a store, there are a ton of websites dedicated to selling stuff like that (http://www.asseenontv.com , http://www.asontv.com , http://www.asseenontvguys.com , http://www.as-seen-on-tv.com , etc etc)

ok i'm making a video to put on youtube with windows video maker vista. the only audio files they let me use are .aif, .aifc, .aiff .asf, .au, .mp2, .mp3, .mpa, .snd, .wav, and .wma so can anyone tell me where i can get audio music files with any of those files or a way i can get them. and can someone also tell me if i can put the video i make from windows video maker vista onto youtube thanks in advance

.mp3 is easily the most common type of sound file. Chances are, if you have an audio file on your computer, it's an .mp3. .wav, .aif, and .wma are all close runners up, so really any sound file you have SHOULD be able to through Windows Movie Maker.

If, by some chance, your audio file is in some weird, unlisted format (.oog, for example), you can convert almost any audio file from one format to another using GoldWave, availible for download here: http://www.goldwave.com/

http://www.alienware.com/products/area-51-m9750-notebook.aspx?SysCode=PC-LT-AREA51M9750&SubCode=SKU-DEFAULT

I'm considering buying this laptop...
But I don't know much about Alienware.
All I know is that they're good for gaming..and that's what the laptop's needed for.

But yeah, I'd like to know about your experiences with their laptops?
Is it worth the money?

In my experience, a laptop of any calibur is always going to be inferior to a desktop in terms of gaming. Even when it comes to mobility, I'd personally rather put up with the hassle of transporting a tower and a monitor to LAN parties than having to play on a laptop.

That said, you've picked a fine laptop to consider buying. Just the thought is duel GeForce 8700Ms in SLI is drool-worthy, and a terrabyte of HD space isn't bad at all, either. The only slight downfall is that the screen is only 17 inches, which is a bit small for people who are used to 19 and above (like myself).

Considering the power you're getting for your money, I'd say it's worth the price, assuming you're going to be using at least a good chunck of the power you're buying.

Edit: Actually, listen to Theymos. He's a wiser man than I.

i know this is a long raging battle that's been going on for a long time, but im deciding on which to buy. The most useful answers will obviousely be from people that use either one (you folk :D). Im thinking of buying a laptop, but not sure which one. It'll be used for school work mosly (essays etc) and surfing the internet. any ideas?

I suggest a "PC". Windows is the industry standard operating system, which all but guarantees that if you want to get something done, your Windows can do it.

The virus arguement is moot. Macs avoid getting viruses not by superior virus-protection but via being too small of a market for virus-makers. Buying a Mac only helps to reverse the predicament. Anyway, the best virus protection you can use is discresion in your internet browsing and downloading, not your choice of operating system.

Anything you're going to have to do for school you can do on a Windows, and as far as surfing the net goes, Windows gives you a bigger choice of browsers (It comes bundled with IE, but FireFox and Opera are both geared more toward Windows, and all three of the above are better than Mac's equivelent, Safari). And if you ever decide to take a break from schoolwork and web-surfing, Windows is pretty much the only choice for gaming. You CAN get games for a Mac from an Apple Store, but they're all ports of games originally developed for Windows. The ports are done by a company called "MacSoft", and they're often buggy and not well supported.

Windows even excels in areas that Macs are stereotyped to be superior in (Artsy junk), since they are the industry standard and more programs are written for Windows.

Basically, unless your criteria for computer selection involves what colors it comes in, how rounded the edges are, how cute it will look with your purse, etc etc, you're going to want to buy a Windows.

what is 0^0? 1 or 0?

This is a bit of uncertain terratory in mathematics. I'm leaning towards 1, as it's cleaner and brings up less questions.

In any case, it's not 0. If it's not 1, it's "undefined".

Chances are, when the upstart new-age hippy mathematicians stop complaining, it will be offcially defined as 0^0=1.

is 19 grams a lot of weed?

Yes. It is.

16/f

so recently i started getting high and i'm normally a pretty shy person. i mean i'm like loud around my friends and stuff but like new people i meet and stuff it's harder for me. but i was at a party last night and i met this kid and i guess i came off as a little bitchy at first and like quiet but then i smoked and he was like wow you're so much more fun when you're high and so basically it like makes me into the person i want to be.. like more fun and loud and stuff. like that's the personality i want. i'm like scared i'm gonna get addicted to smoking because i want that personality so bad. what should i do?

Questions of legality and personal safety aside, let me assure you that your personality isn't any better when you're high than when you're not. Chances are, the kid at the party was high himself. Chances are, he wasn't hearing half the things you were saying. Chances are, he won't remember you this morning.

I've seen people who are high. The loud and "fun" wears out, going from "fun" to "annoying" pretty quickly. Qualities like those aren't something you want in a close friend anyway. Overall I'd say this would hurt your personality more than it would help it.

How long will it take if I use two insulin pens full of Novalog to commit suicide? Assuming both pens are full and are inject within five minutes.

Quite a long time, seeing how that probably won't kill you. At most, you'll have a fit of seizures or go into a coma, but even that is unlikely with "only" two pens.

By the way, it's spelled "NovoLog", not "Novalog".

Edit: Upon double-checking myself, it seems it CAN actually kill you if you have already life-threatening hypoglycemia. No info on how long it will take. Sorry.

let's say your boyfriend or someone you really like asks you to give them head. well, not asks you, but says it like "give me head." or "get down." or "how bout a blow job?"

how can you say no? or reject them? and they don't have to be nice rejections.

A blunt request deserves a blunt response.

"No." Nothing else really needs to be said.

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