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how to say no
let's say your boyfriend or someone you really like asks you to give them head. well, not asks you, but says it like "give me head." or "get down." or "how bout a blow job?"
how can you say no? or reject them? and they don't have to be nice rejections.
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I prefer something a bit more pointed than just the "No" stated below.
In your shoes, I would throw out something like "If you ever say that to me again, I will never say anything to you, ever again."
If he gets angry, "you asked" is a decent response.
If he gets hurt/defensive, explaining to him that saying things like that to a girl is disrespectful and that you don't hang out with boys who haven't grown up enough to know that you treat other humans better than that.
Though, it would be perfectly acceptable to say "No" while giving him a look that says the only thing you want to do with his penis involves knives and severing.
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A blunt request deserves a blunt response.
"No." Nothing else really needs to be said.
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say "bitch blow yourself."
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"No. I'm leaving. Bye." Followed by actually LEAVING the situation, no turning back.
Any guy who does this to you is selfish and has no care for you at all. I would even go as far as to say that the guy was simply dirty (as in: disgusting).
Be stern, no smiles, no giggles. Get out of the situation as soon as those words leave your mouth. Do not look back. Do not listen to whatever else the guy has to say.
Then you need to stop communicating with the guy. He's a creep. He does not deserve to be in your life. Period. Do not go back out with him. Do not go "hang" with him. Do not talk to him. Do not answer any phone call he actually makes toward you--he wants to use you, plain and simple.
Anybody who disrespects you like that always will, no matter what they say. If you're not wanting to do some sort of RISKY sexual activity then don't, plain and simple. You're better than that anyway, I'm sure.
Before you get alone with a guy, try to find out if he's like this. If he is, end the date and go home. You don't need to end up with an STD from a loser because he pressured you.
If I were in this situation, I would also tell my friends as a warning. I wouldn't want my friends falling into the trap and getting caught under that sort of pressure. Girls do stupid things some times--they think, "Oh, this guy really likes me! I don't want to do this but...he likes me!" You need to keep your head on your shoulders though--if a guy doesn't care about if YOU want to do something on your own then he isn't going to care about you in any way ever.
So, simply say no firmly and leave.
It doesn't matter if he gets upset.
He should get upset for treating you like trash.
You aren't a sex toy for him to play with.
You are a human with real emotions and needs, and you should be cared about--not used.
If you have any more questions, please feel free to ask me :)
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First of all,if a guy forces you to do anything,he's deffinately not worth your time.Ive been told by an ex to do things for him that i didnt want to and ended up breaking up with him.Just say im sorry but im just not comfortable with doing that yet,im not ready,i dont want too or just a flat out no.It's okay to say "no" to something,you dont have to do something you dont want too do ;)
♥ danielle
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