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just friends speech
umm how to break it to someone gently? that you thought you thought you were just gonna hang out but it turns out that you guys went out?
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Blunt and to the point, but caring.
"I didn't know you thought it was a date. I like hanging out with you, but I'm not going to date you. Its absolutely nothing personal, you just aren't the kind of personality type I'm attracted to"
Its important for both of you that you pretty much crush his hopes. Important for you, because otherwise it could turn into a long drawn out process of hoping that you don't want to deal with, important for him because guys are hard wired to chase the coat tails of the slightest bit of hope even if the hope doesnt exist anywhere in our minds.
Also, the personality types thing is a great line. The simple truth of life is that not everyone is compatible romantically with everyone else. In most cases where you simply arent attracted to someone and its not because theyre ugly, its true.
Lastly, language.
If you noticed, in the quote I said things like "Im not going to date you"
When you talk to him, he will pounce on things like "I dont want to date you"
He'll think "maybe if I just do something, anything, she'll want to"
Don't give him that weapon to use against himself. Tell him what you will and wont do. Tell him that you want to be friends but that you are not going to date him. You can be definite, and sure, leave no shred of doubt.
Do this, and you can probably salvage a friendship out of it, and he will at the least deal with his feelings.
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I think your trying to break up with some one right?
My first line of advice,
DON'T BEAT AROUND THE BUSH. Seriously. Just tell the person how you feel. I know it sounds kind of rude, but personally i hate it when someone tries to add in all these gooshy words and they try to not say the words 'breal-up'.
But, you should say is nicely. Just tell the person whats on your mind and really how you feel.
Don't try to write and memorize a speech, because when you get to talking to the person, you will sound like you rehearsed something, and that can be really akward and rude.
When the moment comes, just say what your heart is feeling, it will all work out when you start talking, i promise!
And one last thing, talk with confidence. Nothing is worse than being shaky and stuttering when trying to break up with someone.
Good luck, and let me know how it goes!
~April
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