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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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well my friend was the one who said no while smiling.
and said hes like that with everyone.
i dont know. but yeah.
he sometimes lays on me on the bus afterschool.
all that babble.
and he just got ungrounded.
and said if i wasnt allowed to come on friday then he'd kidnap me and take me.

so today me and my friend were still a tad confused..

thanks!

I still think he likes you whether he's like that with everyone else or not.

I have one.
I gained ten pounds, over the past couple of months. And being only 5'2. Most of that weight has found itself hanging around in my middle.
Don't get me wrong I kinda like it.
It's very doughy. Makes me look a lot rounder and softer.

But do some like a little extra jiggle?
(I know not all do, of course.)

just to give you an idea-
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Depends on the guy.

Broke up on April 23, 2007
Relationship lasted for 3 months (since January 16, 2007)
He began not acting like a boyfriend as in not walking with me, hardly talking to me, over all he ignored me.
His reason for breaking up: Computers && Videogames [WTF?!?!?!!?!?]
Now me, i took our relationship too seriously and unfortunately i really fell for him even though my friends warned me not to take it too seriously cause he's like a kid you know into video games and stuff .. not all that mature yet.
My problem is that i can't get over him. Worst part, we're in the same class so i have to see him everyday. I also get a feeling that i might be able to get over him but i just choose not to.
Help me please! Thanks! =]

If he broke up with you for video games & a computer, then he's shallow & you don't wanna be with him anyways. Next time you like a guy, don't take things so seriously because when things like this happen, it'll be hard to get over him.

Just give it time simply because time heals everything. If you guys talk on IM, delete him from your buddy list & your MySpace if you've got one.

Where can i buy a DDR machine? any stores in the united states that sell them? any that are like below $1000? any websites where i can order one? i dont want the TV pad ones i ordered a pair and they stink.

You can't get it for the price you want. It'd be really expensive to buy the one from the arcades. Even from Ebay.

i'm not "sexually active" i mean i don't have a bf so yeah. but i'm 15/f and should i like shave "donw there" or not?

i mean like during the summer i shave like a bikini line but should i shave like all of it?

and when i do become "sexually active" should i?

Yeah, shave it until a guy tells you otherwise. It's always best to shave it though because of bikinis.

Yeah, you should shave it to become sexually active too.

Okay.. so there is this guy that i honestly for real love. i don't think he loves me back. but we have been on and off for about 2 years now, and the last time we were together we did some stuff.. not sex. but other stuff.. and then he ended it with me, and prom was coming around, and im a soph. and at our school it is junior prom. so it was no big deal that i didn't go. but instead he goes with someone.. who is kinda my friend.. fine.. didn't care.. well i kinda did. but i got over it. and now i hear that he likes her, and she doesn't like him. don't care about that either.. but we just started talking again, and he told me that we should party this weekend, and i said alright.. and we kinda have jus this fun little bet going, that he thinks ill have sex with him, because he thinks i want it that bad. and i say i won't. and thats all u need to know about that. but see the thing is. i don't know if he jus using me.. again ((well kinda again)) cause he jus wants to have sex or w/e, or if he really does like me again. and another thing is i am a virgin. so this would be my first, and i know that if i do do it with him it'll mean something to me.. i jus don't know about him. so i jus need help on this whole situation!! if i could have a few ppl help me.. that would be great! so PLEASE HELP! Thanks*

Sorry it was so long! :)

I think he's using you. He even made a bet with you about it, so he's probably got something in mind. If you decide to go to this party, keep a close eye out.

Sorry this is kind of long!

I was talking to my BEST friend we'll call her 'A' and 'A' gave me her friend's cousin's myspace. We will call him 'B'. So I got 'B's screen name and started talking to him. He is a really nice guy and REALLY cute. He is in another state but he's moving here in the summer. 'A' is obsessed with him. She thinks he likes me but I think differently. I sent 'A's picture to 'B' and I had him rate it. He said then that she got a 7. 10 being beautiful, 1 being ugly. Then he asked for my picture and I sent it. 'B' gave me an 8. Now 'A' is sad because she really thinks he likes me not her. Now she gets sad at times and like don't talk when she is normally really up beat girl. I always ask her if she's mad at me and she says no. I really like 'B' too. Sometimes she says, "But ___(my name)____ I knew him first!" And we don't get in fights but I just don't know what to do. 'A' and I both like 'B'. What should I do?

Thanks in advance,
Mimzy

She already told you that she thought he liked you, so now why is getting upset over it? That's what baffles me.

If she likes him, and you like him, then neither of you are to go after him for the simple fact that if you do, the other will get hurt. The both of you need to find someone else to like, and make sure it's not the same person.

me and my best guy friend used to be friends with benefits for about half a year. we both promised each other that we wouldn't say anything. ok so i couldnt take it anymore and i told my most trustworthy friend that we felt each other up which was only a tiny bit of what we did. she swore she wouldnt tell anyone. well about 2 months later, drama started and my "friend" decided to tell people that me and my guy friend made out. i did not tell her that. ok so anyway now this guy wont talk to me after i apologized everyday for two weeks because people were coming up to him asking him about the things we did. now its about two weeks later. i thought me and the guy were good and going to start being friends again. at a dance we danced together and we were joking around. now today i talked to him and he said he doesn't want to be friends and that he thinks we can never be friends again because he thinks i told everyone for some sort of social status. he knows im not that type of girl. how am i supposed to get his trust back because i really care about him and he was a good friend to me. i can't apologize anymore because its obviously not doing anything for him. i can't convince him that i didn't say all of what the rumors said. i want a fresh start and he wants to forget i exist, what am i supposed to do?

You can't get his trust back just by saying you're sorry. You need to earn it back. Don't ask him what you need to do to get it back, just give him space to cool down.

so my bf and i really like eachtother and he's really sweet. yesterday he actually had the guts to say to my face that he didn't know how to make out.etc. and i really want to with him..its just he is very shy. idon't know how to get him out of his shell and just make out with me already..he said he wanted to..and i told him theres nothing to worry about..but do you have any idea's how to make him not shy?

Like the person below me said, just kiss him. He's probably not gonna pull back from you, so just do it.

what does agnostic mean? truefully i sont know what in the world that means hehe

A person who doesn't know if they believe in God or not.

well lately 4 of my friends keep saying one of my friends likes me. and yeah

yesterday, i had a conversation with him over going somewhere on friday with others
and he went "man you know what you never come when i go w.e i wont ask you to come anymore" then went "i dont know why im even makin a big deal i just get my hopes up" and i asked'why?'and he said "because i want you there!" and didnt respond back at all after that.

and about 2 weeks ago...one of my friends asked one of my friends who also knows him..if he liked me..and she said no and was smiling and the 2 of us plus 2 other friends all saw that.

then we were all like mmmm yeh that was a lie

i'm not sure what to do?

he pokes me and yeah.
he said he loves tickling me.
i said to myself yeah that was such a dead give away buddy.

and yesterday him and one of my friends were having a tug a war over me and after grabbing my arm he grabbed my waist and pulled me towards him.

and i cant figure out if i like him since i dont spend much time with him to really get to know him.

is it true does he really like me?

I honestly think he does like you. I mean, look at the facts:
- He plays tug of war over you.
- Pulls you close to him by your waist.
- Says no while smiling & blushing.
- He pokes you.
- He said he loves to tickle you.
I shouldn't have to say anything he else. He likes you.

If you want to know if you like him, spend more time with him. Go places with him, talk to him online or on the phone. Get to know him! The more you get to know him, the more your decision will be easier. If you decide you do like him, then go out. =) Good luck.

ok heres the thing im known as to be crazy funny and flirty you know and well im not ugly and im not skinny but i dont think im overly fat people say im rightfully plump i have big boobs but not saggy and i have an alright ass and im like meduim size in a way i could be skinner but i have no self confidence and it seems like i lack what guys want its like theres always something better for example i'll just be flirting and than there move on to something better its like i dont do it for them and i dont know why its like i have a lot of guy friend but no guy boyfriends wtf help me please and thank you and although i still get offers but none from the ones i like u know

Almost every girl has a low self-esteem. Some girls don't, but I'll say about 95% do. It's really unavoidable. Everyone hates something about themselves. EVERYONE. No matter what someone tells you, there is something about themselves they just don't like, and would probably do anything to fix.

If you don't like being the size you are, then lose weight. Don't get an eating disorder. Don't starve yourself, and don't take diet pills. Do everything the healthy way. Though it may mean giving up the foods & things you love, it'd be well worth it to get you healthier & happier.

As for guys, if they move on THAT quickly & go to the next girl, then they're shallow & you shouldn't concern yourself with them anyways. They're no good for you & you need to realize that. No matter what someone tells you...YOU CAN DO BETTER. Forget those guys. Them choosing someone over you is their loss, and it's their problem, not yours. While a girl may be thin, she may have low confidence too. Or maybe she's stuck up. Either way, they're missing out.

And try to get your confidence up. The last thing a guy wants is a girl who talks down about herself with everything she says. It can get annoying trying to convince someone of something & they never believe you. If you've got confidence though, a guy will never leave. It's nice to know your girlfriend/boyfriend thinks they're beautiful.

OK well theres 2 guys we will call one Bob, and then other Evan

Ok well i really like Bob and Evan.
Bob and I went out last year, and everything was pretty good. but then he broke up with me and then everything was pretty sucky. However later i started to like Evan, but Evan's parents thought that he was "too old" for me. which is kinda weird b/c my parents should be the one saying that hes too old. But i'm 14 very soon 15, and he just turne 18, so really its not that bad. But Evan and I remained pretty good friends even though his parents wouldn't let us hang out or anything.
Now Bob decided that he like me again? We went to the movies, he totaly lead me on, and the next week he changed his mind and said that he thought it just wouldn't work?? But then i talked him into letting me have another chance. He charged his mind back and forth like a million times, but as of now its that he likes me. I really really like bob, like more than anyone else even Evan. However Evan's parents decided to stop being retarded and now are ok with us hanging out so i think this weekend we might do something.

Ok so you might be asking ok well wahts the problem, you have two guys that like you. And the whole picking one isn't really the problem neither. The problem is, I like(d) Evan a lot before and i still do. but we just have to be friends so i kinda got used to that...I really like BOB like a lot. But the thing with him is that he never acts like he likes me. IN school he won't talk to me, not even say hey in the halls we just ignore eachother. and then with Evan its the competly opposite, hes relaly really nice to me, gives me hugs, and waits for me after classes...you know actually acts like he does like me.

I WANT Bob the most, but i like Evan the best-like the way he actually does talk to me in school. I really have no idea what to do. i just like bob and evan, but i want bob the most, but he dosn't act like he likes me at all. I hate it soo much idk waht to do.

If Bob ignores you inside of school, but not outside of school, the choice you need to make should be clear. A lightbulb should go off in your head & you should hear an alarm.

Go with Evan. He doesn't change around you even when the environment does.

ok well unfortunately I'm very paranoid of my skin...especially on my face. When i break out i pretty much have a fit. I can't help it. I'm okay with a few zits but lately i'm starting to get them under my nose [above my lip] and it's annoying. and i'm also starting to get zits in random spots on my face i've NEVER gotten pimples before in those areas... is it just because of my period? -i'm not on it but i'm going to soon.

also i have this darkish spot on the lower part of my cheek what is it??

and how do i make my skin smoother and i guess like more radiant [lol] and if anyone knows how to get they're not "Bags" but they're uhm hard to explain like it's a line that goes from the corner of my eye [by my nose] and goes out and it makes me always look tired/sick.
sorry it's so long.

here's the main questions:

how can i clear up zits under my nose?!
am i breaking out just because i'm on my period?
how do i get rid of that blackish spot on my face?
and any ideas on making the line under my eye dissapear? i get almost 8-9 hours of sleep every night and i need a quick way to get rid of it in the mornings.

for everything cheaper products; homemade stuff; diet stuff; anything will be appreciated!!

thanks!!

These are questions you should ask your dermatologist basically because they're a professional & the people on this site are not. You're asking kids & adults questions they might not know anything about except they'll be able to relate because they've gotten zits before.

The breakouts may be because of your period. Just get a cleanser from the store from a brand you trust like Neutrogena or Clean&Clear. Those can take away zits & get rid of oily skin if you use them regularly. If you don't want to spend money on those products because they're expensive; wash your face with soap & water, and wait for them to go away naturally. The zits that come with your period go away when your period does, so you don't need to worry about them.

Im not fat or skinny but i am not fit to fun track next year i am really fast but i just can run that fast right now can some1 help me?

Practice.

What should you do to make sure cuts (like a huge one amlost across the forehead) heal quickly without getting infected and doesn't leave a scar?

Oxygen or no oxygen? (bandage or no bandage)

To the person below me, because the scratch or cut is huge, doesn't mean it's deep. It could just be long in length.

If your cut is deep/long, you may need stitches for it. So you should definitely see your doctor about that. If you don't want to wear a band-aid, then don't. Just make sure you put some neosporin on it.

There is no way to make your cut not give you a scar. There will be a definite scar. They're nothing to be ashamed of unless they're there for the wrong reasons.

Hi all, this is yg. I consider this a question, I am also kind of looking for opinions. I am asking here instead of the mod forum because I'd like answers from those who are mods, and those who may not be yet. There is no right or wrong answer, so please, honest opinions only.

In the last month and a half this question, or a version of this question has come up and it bothers me. 'How can I hide that I have been on advicenators?' I assume it was meant from parents.

I would like to know if others have this problem.

Do you have to hide that you use the site?
If so why?

What do you think would make it acceptable to your parents?

Would you be embarrassed for your parents to see the site?

If so is it because of questions asked?
Questions you've asked? Or just the questions in general?

Answers given?
YOUR answers given, or just everyones answers?

Has anyone, besides myself, (who talked to both my kids about it), Talked to their parents about BECOMING an advicenator?

I think it is a great way to initiate conversation
about topics you may be embarrassed to discuss with a parent about yourself. I wonder if anyone has done that?

I think I have plagued you with enough questions for now. Thank you! :)yg

[1] Nope. My mom knows I have an advice column. I don't think she really cares. She never says anything to me about it. So I don't feel the need to hide it.
[2] I'm not sure.
[3] Yes, and no. Some questions are too forward, I guess. My parents might not like the idea that I know the answers to some of those questions. Some kids don't know what they're talking about when they answer the questions, and my parents might be apalled, but I think that if they saw my column, I don't think they'd mind. So in a way, I can get embarassed for them to see it, but usually? No.
[4] Because of the questions asked. I usually ask the questions I ask on here to my parents first. If they don't seem to give me an answer [like an 'I don't know' or something of that sort] then I post it here & see what someone else has to say; sort of like an extra opinion.
[5] Also because of some of the answers given. Like I said, some kids don't know what they're talking about. I don't think my answers are bad, but I think my mom would yell at me because I can sometimes be a little mean.
[6] I've never talked to either of my parents about becoming one, but I told them I was one & they didn't seem to mind or care. I never really got a response besides "Oh." My friends know about my column though, and they think it's great that I'm helping other people besides them.

hey,
i have a boyfriend but he doesnt really act like my boyfriend. What do i do?

Love,
Help Me

Are you his first girlfriend? If so, he's shy. He's new at this & he's nervous. He doesn't know what to say, and he thinks he'll sound stupid. If he's not your first boyfriend, then take the lead because you know what to do & it'll probably make him more comfortable. If that doesn't seem to work, then talk to him about it.

ok this guy likes me but i only like him as a friend and i feel like now that he's told me he's like constantly, idk, PUSHING the relationship forwards.

well i still want to be friends with him, but i DO like another guy & he knows it (not WHO but that i do).

well i figured that i should make a litttttle space in the relationship. just a tad. like go on the instant messenger every OTHER day, or even every TWO days. you know?

any suggestions?

Don't get space without telling him. It'll give him a reason to call you more, bug you more, push the relationship more, and annoy you more.

Just tell him you could use some space for a while so you can think everything in your life over. If he doesn't leave you alone, you need to be a little more harsh to get your point across.

i like this guy & he's only in one of my classes. yesterday, i was doing small talk with him. & today HE talked to me! and i was like omgg. and i REALLY really like him.

well, gosh, i flirt so much! i make eye contact and smile at him and he always says like sorry to me and i think it's adohhrablee

Just ask him. Who cares if you're friends or not? I doubt he'll care if you ask him for his sn. Just do it.

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