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Party.. Sex? Help!
Okay.. so there is this guy that i honestly for real love. i don't think he loves me back. but we have been on and off for about 2 years now, and the last time we were together we did some stuff.. not sex. but other stuff.. and then he ended it with me, and prom was coming around, and im a soph. and at our school it is junior prom. so it was no big deal that i didn't go. but instead he goes with someone.. who is kinda my friend.. fine.. didn't care.. well i kinda did. but i got over it. and now i hear that he likes her, and she doesn't like him. don't care about that either.. but we just started talking again, and he told me that we should party this weekend, and i said alright.. and we kinda have jus this fun little bet going, that he thinks ill have sex with him, because he thinks i want it that bad. and i say i won't. and thats all u need to know about that. but see the thing is. i don't know if he jus using me.. again ((well kinda again)) cause he jus wants to have sex or w/e, or if he really does like me again. and another thing is i am a virgin. so this would be my first, and i know that if i do do it with him it'll mean something to me.. i jus don't know about him. so i jus need help on this whole situation!! if i could have a few ppl help me.. that would be great! so PLEASE HELP! Thanks*
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If you don't know if he is using you or not don't have sex with him. You don't even know if he really likes you. He dropped you once after doing something that wasn't I assume from your question was sexual in nature but not intercourse. I think he's using you to get what he really wants.
When it comes to your virginity and first sexual experience you only get one shot. You need to pick someone who loves you deeply and you have a connection with and is trutworthy or you'll regret it the rest of your life. This guy is not worthy.
You need to put aside your feelings for him and listen to what your gut is telling you about him. Don't have sex with him hon especially if you have no idea if hes sincere, using you or even likes you at all. Wait.
If I were you I wouldn't even go to the party or I would tell him that "I want you to know the bet about sex was just a joke and I'm ready to do any of that stuff with anyone yet."
If you feel weird or uncomfortable at the party go and leave. I wouldn't even go if I were you and would just move on. If someone is coming out of nowhere back into your experience and is looking for sex it's not because he loves you. He wants sex and that's it.
Be smart here. You sort of figured it out already for yourself when most girls don't see through people. Resist the temptation as sex should wait until you are truly sure you are ready and with the one you love.
There's a lot more to it than just the physical act you have to be mentally and emotionally in tune with one another for it to be worth it.
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I think you should tell him this part, "he jus wants to have sex or w/e, or if he really does like me again. and another thing is i am a virgin. so this would be my first, and i know that if i do do it with him it'll mean something to me." YOu should tell him that and ask him what he thinks. But in my opinion I think he is trying to use you. So look out and I'm not saying this is going to happen, but like watch what you drink or eat, because you never know what is in it.
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I think he's using you. He even made a bet with you about it, so he's probably got something in mind. If you decide to go to this party, keep a close eye out.
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If there is a bet going on, i would be careful. Sounds like he has something up his sleeve. Men can be vicious creatures especially at that age. Look, if you are having any doubts about it, chances are you dont want to do it. I would go, but if you start feeling uncomfortable i would let him know. And be a woman tell him upfront "If you are using me, I am not going, I dont need to put myself through the pain so you can entertain yourself."
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