I have spent my entire life analyzing the human mind and social situations. When I give advice, it's like I am helping them and myself. I will never judge you , I will never tell you anything that I am unsure of. I have taken many sociology, and psychology classes in pursuit of becomming a profiler. Please feel free to ask me anything. And if you are interested on my site I have many blogs that show how I see life and the human mind.
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E-mail: Lilmegsoko@yahoo.com
Gender: Female
Location: MI
Occupation: Psychology student
Age: 22
AIM: Lilmegsoko
Member Since: April 30, 2007
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Does anyone know where I can buy sex lubrication in REAL LIFE. I know there are plenty of places to buy on the internet but I need to get it in real life. Preferably silicone based. Thank you so much. (link)
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Actually, you dont want silicone based. You want water based. Silicone (if you have just shaved or if you dont take a shower right away) will actually make you break out down there. I suggest Spencers honestly, they have a good selection, however, the ky warming liquid seems to work the best, and doesnt leave you sticky.
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Thanks in advance (link)
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If I were you , you need to MAKE him understand how much it is bothering you. Possibly tell him you will leave if things dont change because its hurting you so much. (You dont have to mean it just say it to let him know you are serious.) It sounds like he loves you, it just seems he is tired. However that isnt an excuse to make you feel like crap. Sometimes a kick in the butt is what a man needs. I go through this all the time with my fiance. Hang in there. :)
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okay so i'm a responsible 14 year old girl and i want a tattoo so badly. i know i'm young and i know you think i might regret it when i'm older. all i want is a small, very small tattoo on my foot like an inch, inch an 1/2 below my pinky toe.
is it really all that bad?
the design i'm thinking about is either a peace sign or a bow. again verrrry small.
my mom said once i could get a tattoo, and i even asked her are you serious? dead serious? and she said yeah everytime. then one day i asked her if she would really take me again and she said no! i was like what the heck. i know life isn't fair,,but really i thought it was mean.
i love tattoos and really really want one.
oh and please don't say no tattoo shop would tattoo you. my stepdad is best friends with a guy who does tattoos and he's going to tattoo my other 14 year old friend pretty soon.
just tell me your thoughts on the situation.
if you think it'd be okay, or if it's stupid, etc.
thanks so much =] (link)
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First of all without your mothers consent, the guy can lose his license. My fiance is a tattoo artist. He said ABSOLUTELY not. 14 just isnt old enough. At this age, its hard to imagine what "Permanent" means. You should wait until you develope a theme. For instance he has an arm of skulls. It looks odd, to just have a bow or something small like that by itself. It's almost trashy. I would wait until you can get consent. That way you can go to a shop where you can get it professionally done so it doesnt come out looking crappy. And maybe then you can have an idea of what you really want. But dont just put something there because you want something there. I was like you. LOVED tattoos at 13. I didnt get my first one until i was 19. And I love it. But every person I know that got one at your age HATES it now. Its faded and not who they are. Just wait it out until you know EXACTLY what you want.
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I am over a week late for my period and I am sexually active. I have been having nausea and tiny cramps, my breasts have been sore for a couple days now, and I have been having more headaches and been more tired. Could I be pregnant and is it too soon to take a test? (link)
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Sounds about right, however if you think you are pregnant, or if you are stressed that could cause you to not start. Take a test, if it comes up negative, take warm bath and relax, that usually works for me. It sounds like my symptoms of when i found out I was pregnant though.
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When you finger a girl can you just rub it like on the outside where the clit is and they orgasm or do you have to actually finger them? (link)
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depends on the girl hun. I know the finger can help. But most of the time, if you kiss on her neck and rub her clit you can get her going pretty well.
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I saw your profile and you said that you majored in psychology and english. Well, I'm planning on doing the same thing for college and I was just wondering what were some of the things you liked about psychology, some things you liked about english. Some classes to avoid and some to take. General class names, not specific to one college but ones that are available a lot of places. Thanks (link)
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Well classes arent really important, every school offers different courses. Unfortunately when it comes to English and psychology its the teacher thats important.
Take philosophy classes. Its almost like when you stretch a new balloon before you inflate it. It expands your mind to help you think more about certain topics.
I am currently a student going on my 4th year. I am going into social work, until I can get my masters for the criminally insane.
The thing you have to keep in mind about psychology is most of it is common sense. You have to think like these people to understand them. English to me just came naturally , I have an A average in my english classes. I also find it easier to do a lot of the learning on my own. Looking the subjects they are teaching on the internet so I learn what they teach me , and then some. Good luck, its a fun topic. It can get hard, but if you ever need some advice or help on the subject in general email me. Lilmegsoko@yahoo.com .
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During the course of my college dwelling, I took a few courses in psychology, there are two subjects that intrest me psychology and english.
Personally I can see my self fitting the same portrait of a schizoid, just by the characteristics and appearance they put down.
"A person with schizoid personality disorder:
Does not desire nor enjoy close relationships, even with family members
Avoids social activities that involve significant interpersonal contact
Appears aloof and detached People with schizoid personality disorder are loners and show little interest in developing close relationships.
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I'm serious though its a hell of a thought go look at this site and read a little you will feel like one of this disorders describes you.
http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/mentalhealthandbehavior.html (link)
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Well that may be SOME symptoms. Schizophrenia also consists of...
feeling paranoid of any or ALL relationships.
Voices hallucinations.
Making up a special purpose or reason for their existance.
Anxiety in social situations.
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okay. my friend lora has been getting really close to another friend who is also openly gay. including going to the beach with her. well the gay friend has told me that she likes lora, but she doesnt kno if she is gay or not. so my job is suppose to be, to find out if lora is gay or not. wat is the best way to do that. i dont want to be just like, are you gay?. so help please? (link)
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Ask , what would you do if a girl had a thing for you?
Usually that will tell you how she feels about gays in general.
If she says I dont know why?
Just say , I dont know ,someone asked me and I didnt know how to respond.
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It makes me sick to think about it...
If she is like that you will know , trust me.
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hey, i know you have your own problems to deal with and stuff but. i dont know i need some advice and you seem understanding and stuff. so, if you could help me with this, thatd be great.
nothing seems to be going good for me lately.
i was going out with this boy that i really really liked. alot.
boys tend to not treat me well..ive been punched by boyfriends, slapped..stuff like that.
& this boy was one of the only boyfriends ive had who treated me good. things were going great for about 4 months..up until lately when he started calling me stupid, ugly, and fat.
it got to me.
big time.
about 3 years ago, i became obsessed with losing weight. it started off with just like, cutting down portions. then last year, it got worse. i cut out eating all together sometimes.
now, it hurts to eat. mentally and physically.
i know i screwed my metabolism up, and now i can only eat little things.
and i always feel so bad after i eat. i feel really disappointed to the point where i just want to throw up.
and im constantly feeling big, fat, and [for lack of better words-] whale-ish.
and so when my boyfriend started being kinda rude to me, all that came back.
so i thought if i dumped him and cut him off from my life completely i would feel better about myself.
well. i did.
but i only feel worse.
i feel that if i lost weight i would feel better about myself
so ive been excercising more and trying to eat right, but i cant seem to lose anything, which only makes me feel worse.
i dont know, its messed up.
do you have any advice?
about anything?
sorry this is long.
oh. idk if this helps but
im 16, 5'2, 98 lbs.
thank you for reading this. (link)
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Well lets start off with saying, you arent fat in anyway. So let that off your shoulders. Im 5'1 and usually weigh in at about 120 pounds.
The reason you feel like this is because of the fact that society has made every girl believe you have to be rediculously skinny to be attractive. Just look in the mall , the display models are always a size zero or under. Every girl in a movie is super thin. Your ex is a moron. I have been through my share of mental and physical abuse with men. The reason you arent losing anything else is because there is nothing left to lose. Plus exercise builds muscle. Muscle weighs more than fat. You need to understand that this is something many girls go through.
If you want to feel better, go change your clothes and hair. Your weight is fine. Sometimes a drastic change will make your confidence go up. Once i got pregnant, I had to do that because i turned into a whale.(in my opinion). I got my hair done, got some new clothes. But it helps that my fiance is supportive on my weight. You need to stay away from guys like that. One insult is enough to walk away. Go swimming and running, eat 3 times a day, but small portions. Thats how i kept my weight off when i weighed 95 pounds....it works wonderfully. But remember you are fine how you are...if you feel you cant make it stop..see help, you may have a disease, Not a complex.
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I am 24 years old, i am married and I don't know if i should keep going to college for a MA and BA or ir I should just go to a Technical school for a short degree. I don't know what to do becasue it will take me a long time to finish school and i am planning on having a baby in 1 1/2 because i don't want to be old when i have my first baby. Plus i am a christian and i believe in the rapture. I am scare that when i finish school the rapture comes and then i never did nothing with my career. (link)
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Having a baby has nothing to do with school, I am currently going for my psychology masters and I am about to have a baby.
Trust me, right now you need a REAL career. Times are hard and you wont get a real job by having just an associates. Minimum wage wont support your kid going through college.
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ok. i am 14, female, and so is my best friend Kelly. We are starting high school next year, and the last week of school, her exboyfriend(went out for one day. loves his best friend now) asked me out. i didnt like him much, and kelly said she didnt care. now my bf is very depressed... and is depressing me. i was going to break up with him, but i am also afraid he will do something drastic... and what scares me more is that he really wont care... or try to stop me. i do deeply care about him, but i just recently found out that the first time we hung out together at the mall, kelly kissed him on the cheek. he always calls her before me... though he tells me he loves me. kelly says i should just ignore it... that he really loves me. i try to talk to him about things that bother him but he doesnt listen. kelly explains to my friend that kissing him was "friendly". tho we were going out at the time. did i cross the line dating him after she did, or did she cross the line kissing him? do i break up with him over it, or forget about it and try to work it out? (link)
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She kissed him on the cheek. Thats not exactly making out. Although It might make my skin crawl a little too. However, if he is depressed he may still have feelings for her. His depression may actually be him distancing himself from you. They dated for a day, thats not dating. Thats rediculous to even say it counts as dating. I dont think he knows what love is, and if he does its not with you. Sorry hun, I think you need to break it off.
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I'm 15, turning 16 soon. I weigh 115 and im 5'5". When ever my dad sees me he always makes a suggestion like, you shouldn't eat that, you're just getting fatter and fatter. And if i ask for money for new jeans, he says, we'll stop gaining weight so you can fit back into them. I wear a size 0, and i'm growing, what does he expect? How am i suppose to cope with this? It's been bothering me so much lately. My sister, whose 20, is like anorexic skinny. She's my height but doesn't even reach 100 pounds. And my dad always compares me to her. What am i suppose to do?! (link)
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Thats mental abuse my dear. You are not fat, I am 5'1 and 124 (when i am not carrying a baby in my stomach) and I am not fat. You need to talk to someone ...seriously. As for him ignore him. I think it is possible that you need to talk to a relative or teacher about it. You dont need to say anything, it needs to come from someone else. Someone needs to explain to him that you are growing and that your weight is too skinny as it is. If it comes from you, he will probably ignore you. It needs to come from someone that he cant push around. Im sorry that he is doing this to you. Dont listen to him. You are perfect the way you are...his opinion means nothing.
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I had a huge fight with my best friend of two years. We've never been in a fight, and she overreacted on something that wasn't a big deal (she was PMSing...)
Anyways, how do you become friends with someone again after a fight?
I've never had experience in this because I've never gotten in fights with my friends...
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well......first of all...to be a big fight like that, it must have been a little more than PMS.Maybe you feel it was just a pms moment, but she might not. Just go up and say "i dont like fighting I am sorry." Apologize..you may not want to but best friends usually always come back together over petty arguments. Friends fight, just like sisters fight. You just have to suck it up and apologize even if you dont think you need to. You might of struck a nerve that really hurt her and you dont know it. Talk to her...thats what friends do..is forgive.
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first things first--15/m.
ok so like i said, im 15 and theres this girl(lets just call her bonqueesha lol) who is basically all over me, and shes really cute and all.. but shes only 13. see in my opinion i think it would be wrong/weird for us to hook up or go out or whatever, so what do all you advicenators think? (link)
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Well i mean it IS only a 2 year difference. However at 13...I dont consider that a real dating age. I mean she hasnt even hit her teens yet. I wouldnt , if you did, make sure its not physical , just emotional.
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im a girl i masturbate and i feel no pleaseure in it. how do i make it feel real good?! (link)
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ok hun. Its simple. The clitoris is where you need to focus on the top of your vagina. Think of it like a little button ;) Close your eyes and have a fantasy. OR you could watch something pornographic to get yourself in the mood. Masturbation is 40% physical, and 60% mental. I have found that a vibrator on the clit makes for a great time! But fingers moving back and forth can work too, it just might take a little longer.
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I need help big time. but thing is if I writ it down be very long, I been having problem with couple of my friends and one guy friend. and yet that i had this problem over 2 years now. and i like maybe it ok i really like talk somone over email or yahoo offline chat, part of it is me beocuse I havea a huge habit.. thanks (link)
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Sure my email is lilmegsoko@yahoo.com make it as long as you need.
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well i have had sex but how do you know if u had a miscarriage???! (link)
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It could last up to weeks depending on how far along you are. It wont be like a normal period, it will be MUCH heavier.
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after me and my boyfriend have sex and i get an orgasm i like to go until the orgasm is completely gone. but once it's gone then i don't really feel like i need another one and i like to quit. he gets frustrated and so do i but after the orgasm i just don't care anymore. I try to for him but i can't. is that normal? can i fix it? (link)
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I agree with the person below me... you need to help him get off. I mean even my fiance will get me off somehow if he gets off first. Let him keep going, or give him a handjob or head.
Why should he work to get you off, if you arent willing to do the same for him?
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first off, i know im not pregnant. i have a slightly darker ring around my areolas (skin surrounding the nipple). the rest of it is the normal color, it is just the outer edge that is darker. i am also on birth control. is something wrong with me or is it normal? (link)
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Could just be a side effect of the birth control....but to be honest i would take a prego test anyway...That is one of the first signs. I know a girl that was on it and she got pregnant twice. It also depends on your age.If you are worried about it type it in google i am sure something will pop up with an explanation.But I have never heard of any other reason than pregnancy.
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i'm asian, my hair is 7 inches past shoulder length, really thick, really heavy, straight, and black. my face is oval-shaped, and i always part my hair on the side because the left side has good bone structure that i like to show off. i'd really love a change that makes people look at me differently, like i just got a major makeover. any ideas? i have very minimal time to style or anything. all i'm willing to do is blowdry. please send links to specific pictures of haircuts because if you give me a link to a website, i've probably already seen it, but i want your opinions specifically. thank you all who respond so much!! (link)
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chop it .....spike it in the back but keep it long in the front......kind of like in my picture. I had mine past my butt and i chopped it like that. I LOVE IT if your asian it will look amazing on you.
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