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my dad thinks im fat?
I'm 15, turning 16 soon. I weigh 115 and im 5'5". When ever my dad sees me he always makes a suggestion like, you shouldn't eat that, you're just getting fatter and fatter. And if i ask for money for new jeans, he says, we'll stop gaining weight so you can fit back into them. I wear a size 0, and i'm growing, what does he expect? How am i suppose to cope with this? It's been bothering me so much lately. My sister, whose 20, is like anorexic skinny. She's my height but doesn't even reach 100 pounds. And my dad always compares me to her. What am i suppose to do?!
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<< Nice dad you got there, not. 1st, as many people have said, you're not fat. But sometimes a person needs to hear that from many people.
Tell your dad to shut up, and that you are not fat. Make an appointment to your doctor, bring you dad and your mom with you, and talk to the doctor on what you dad is doing, bring your sister as well...you might even want to ask your mom if you and them, including your sister, and go to a family thrapist(sp).
If your dad keeps doing this to you, just ignore him, and if it hurts, talk to one of your friends...just don't listen. That maybe hard, but just tune him out if he starts telling you that. Day dream, make it look like you are paying attention. Do anything.
I wish the very best, and I hope everything works out!!! And I hoped I helped!
Good luck!
~Vera
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I'm so sorry you have to deal with this. You are extremely thin also, although I'm sure you're just naturally that way. The only thing you can really do is ignore your dad and know that you're thin, no matter what he says.
You could also try confronting him, telling him that you're a growing teen and that you are not overweight. He needs to stop with the comparisons. Maybe tell a family member or doctor and they can talk to him for you.
As for the money, try saving up some money to buy things yourself, so you don't have to rely on him so much. Save up little things- birthday money, Christmas money, if you get money to go out with your friends save some- it'll feel good to buy your own stuff.
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oh my freaking god.
115 and 5'5" that sounds pretty anorexic to me. (not in a bad way) you're very close to being underweight.
I wish i could be 115 pounds and i'm only 5'2".
Depending on how strict your dad is, you need to find a way to get him to leave you alone. If he's a relaxed kind of guy you can just say "I am NOT fat by any means, and I don't appreciate you always saying that I am. (your sisters name) is unhealthily anorexic and that causes health problems." Or that might be okay whatever level of strictness he is.
If he won't give you any money to buy jeans you could try asking your mom, or you could get a job to buy clothes for yourself. Chik fil a and bruster's hire 15-yr-olds.
I hope i helped.
and good luck!
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Tell you Dad to shut it! Be like well im not her now am I and im a growing girl who needs new cloths becaue im growning out of them and I dont think you in any posstion to call me fat Ill eat what I want when I want.(you sisters name) is 20 and anerxic do you really want meto be like that???
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oh God.
first of all-
your not fat.
at ALL.
my dads like this too..but not this extreme.
im 5'2 and like,98 pounds..and he makes comments about me being a balloon all the time.
i used to cry about it.
and then not eat.
it didnt really help anything..because even as i lost weight ..it still wasnt enough for him.
YOUR not the one with problems..HE is.
talk to him about it.
tell him you're not fat. at all. go onto www.am-i-fat.com/ and look at the charts.
then show him
PROVE to him your not fat.
tell him to stop comparing you to your sister.
tell him it hurts.
and tell him that he should accept you like you are.
as for the clothes issue?
well, if your moms around..ask her to take you shopping.
if shes not, ask like maybe an aunt or an older cousin .. someone who will understand about this
or ask a friend . .or a friends parents.
a trusted adult. thats what you need.
dont listen to your dad.
you're not fat.
at all.
i really hope i helped.
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Everyone else has pretty much covered the fact that your not fat & your perfectly healthy and shouldnt take anything your father says to heart, becuase its the farthest thing from the truth. Make an appointment with your doctor immediatly, explain to him/her what your father says to you and they will tell you you are perfectly healthy. Get them to talk to your dad about how your body is changing and how your appetite, size, and emotional state are changing. He seems pretty uneducated of what women's bodies go through, which is understandable becuase he's a guy. He won't believe anyone other then a proffessional, so get professional help. Also print out things from the internet about your changing body & whatnot, it might be awkward, but it will help. He will start to take the hint and will understand more and you will probably get those new jeans ;) good luck, and remember, stay as healthy as you are!
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Goodness. First of all, YOU ARE NOT FAT! Don't let that bother you. You need to open up to your dad and explain to him how you feel. Tell your mom, if she's around. Don't ruin your health. Please don't. Then you hurt yourself. Just ignore your dad at the least. Just remember that you are not fat and do not let anyone ever tell you that. Be happy the way you are and don't strive to be something or someone your not.
♥ Mz.JENNiFER
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I think your father doesn't want you to become a young lady. And if not, it is because HE has some weird problem with it.(Usually it means that he doesn't want you to be seen as a sex object, but to who) Anyway, At your age and height and weight, the only "weight" you are putting on is because you are turning into a woman: breasts and hips, butt. YOu can't stop it, neither can he. But he can annoy the hell out of you for it by calling you fat. He has some serious problems. You need to be a healthy weight. And if you don't eat enough to develop hips and breasts, or if you don't have enough fat on your body. YOu will stop getting your period. Women have a layer of fat on their bodies that men don't have. It makes them womenly and helps them when they bear children. It is a subcuteanous layer of fat cells.
Honey no way you are fat, and I don't think you ever will be.
Your dad's advice is going to stunt your growth and compromise your health. There are so many articles in magazines and on the internet about being TOO skinny. Can;t you find one and print it out and give it to him to read. If he won't entertain the opinions of medical experts, and still thinks you're too fat. Well then he needs some serious therapy. But probably he won't go. Look at what he had done to your sister. I hope you just stay in school, get smart, get some employable skills, and get out of there as soon as you can. That is if you can't find a way to stand up to him and tell him to leave you alone.
Maybe you should show some of those articles to your sister too, and maybe together you can stand up to him and insist on eating normally.
PARENTS ARE SUPPOSED TO HELP THEIR KIDS FEEL GOOD ABOUT THEMSELVES. (My son used to be very overweigth, but not he has lost all of it, but during that time I never ever called him fat)
Good luck to you both.
Michele
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Thats really not good beacase your dad is pushing you alot toward weight loss..and frankly its not his body its yours..and 115 at age 16 is nothing ur size 0 and your rite your growing so i say you talk with your father about it and settle everything .. hope you found the answer :}
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Your dad definatley has a problem with your weight but what he is saying to you dosnt necessarily mean what he truly feels about your weight.You are definatley NOTfat at all, if you put weight on, it would still look good because size 0 is sooo slim...is your mum around?You need a female to lean on to, maybe an older female or one of your sisters friend or a teacher.
I think you need firstly need to take a look at yourself because you cannot be fat.And you need to beleive that you are fine the way you are, and tell that to your dad.Dont let someone break you down like that stay strong.I think you should find someone to talk to or confront your dad and ask him why he is being like this towards you..if you and your sister are natuarlly size 0 that is fine but if your not, i'd put the weight on because it can be unhealthy..
Or even talk to your sister and tell her how much it is bothering you.Your dad definatley has a problem.
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Thats mental abuse my dear. You are not fat, I am 5'1 and 124 (when i am not carrying a baby in my stomach) and I am not fat. You need to talk to someone ...seriously. As for him ignore him. I think it is possible that you need to talk to a relative or teacher about it. You dont need to say anything, it needs to come from someone else. Someone needs to explain to him that you are growing and that your weight is too skinny as it is. If it comes from you, he will probably ignore you. It needs to come from someone that he cant push around. Im sorry that he is doing this to you. Dont listen to him. You are perfect the way you are...his opinion means nothing.
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OMG! do you have a mom? tell her. otherwise you need to tell a school consular that can provide you with bigger clothes. being skinny-skinny like anorexic is BAD really bad. now wear your "dad approved clothes" to school and change at school into the clothes ur consular gives you. If you don't have a school consular get a job and pay for your own bigger clothes and hide them so ur dad doesn't freak and burn them or w/e!
Its gonna be ok! don't be pressured to be skinny you are absolutly fine the way you are!
If worse comes to worse and your dad gets on your last nerve or forces you not to eat. Go live with an anut or uncle or very good family friend.
*hope i helped!*
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