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idk if you could help me. but if you could try? that'd be gr
hey, i know you have your own problems to deal with and stuff but. i dont know i need some advice and you seem understanding and stuff. so, if you could help me with this, thatd be great.
nothing seems to be going good for me lately.
i was going out with this boy that i really really liked. alot.
boys tend to not treat me well..ive been punched by boyfriends, slapped..stuff like that.
& this boy was one of the only boyfriends ive had who treated me good. things were going great for about 4 months..up until lately when he started calling me stupid, ugly, and fat.
it got to me.
big time.
about 3 years ago, i became obsessed with losing weight. it started off with just like, cutting down portions. then last year, it got worse. i cut out eating all together sometimes.
now, it hurts to eat. mentally and physically.
i know i screwed my metabolism up, and now i can only eat little things.
and i always feel so bad after i eat. i feel really disappointed to the point where i just want to throw up.
and im constantly feeling big, fat, and [for lack of better words-] whale-ish.
and so when my boyfriend started being kinda rude to me, all that came back.
so i thought if i dumped him and cut him off from my life completely i would feel better about myself.
well. i did.
but i only feel worse.
i feel that if i lost weight i would feel better about myself
so ive been excercising more and trying to eat right, but i cant seem to lose anything, which only makes me feel worse.
i dont know, its messed up.
do you have any advice?
about anything?
sorry this is long.
oh. idk if this helps but
im 16, 5'2, 98 lbs.
thank you for reading this.
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Hello.
First, I want to say thank you for posting in my inbox. It means a lot to me, and I don't have my "own problems to deal with," leaving me with no time to help you- because if I did.. why would I even be on this site? I am here to help.. and if I was too busy to do that.. well I wouldn't be on here just about every day for hours upon hours.. lol.
Anyway... I know you'd hear this a lot had you posted to the pool [i.e. everyone], but you are IN NO WAY fat! If anything, you're really skinny.. and its probably not healthy that you're only 98 lbs.
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There is a site to calculate your BMI [Body Mass Index] which basically tells you that you're underweight, overweight, fine, etc.
According to this site, your BMI is 17.9.
According to the scale on the left:
BMI Categories:
* Underweight = less than 18.5
* Normal weight = 18.5-24.9
* Overweight = 25-29.9
* Obesity = BMI of 30 or greater
You are underweight! You need to eat! If its painful emotionally and physically, you NEED to see a doctor right away!! Please!
As for the people that call you fat, ugly, stupid, etc. they are just JEALOUS. Jealousy is a strong, but evil human emotion. You are in no way fat, and I'm positive you're not stupid, and I'm also positive you aren't ugly, either.
So just stay away from jealous people, and find people who will love and support you no matter what for friends.
Also, go see that doctor!
--Jack
(15/m)
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Well lets start off with saying, you arent fat in anyway. So let that off your shoulders. Im 5'1 and usually weigh in at about 120 pounds.
The reason you feel like this is because of the fact that society has made every girl believe you have to be rediculously skinny to be attractive. Just look in the mall , the display models are always a size zero or under. Every girl in a movie is super thin. Your ex is a moron. I have been through my share of mental and physical abuse with men. The reason you arent losing anything else is because there is nothing left to lose. Plus exercise builds muscle. Muscle weighs more than fat. You need to understand that this is something many girls go through.
If you want to feel better, go change your clothes and hair. Your weight is fine. Sometimes a drastic change will make your confidence go up. Once i got pregnant, I had to do that because i turned into a whale.(in my opinion). I got my hair done, got some new clothes. But it helps that my fiance is supportive on my weight. You need to stay away from guys like that. One insult is enough to walk away. Go swimming and running, eat 3 times a day, but small portions. Thats how i kept my weight off when i weighed 95 pounds....it works wonderfully. But remember you are fine how you are...if you feel you cant make it stop..see help, you may have a disease, Not a complex.
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This is such a hard question to answer because I have been in your shoes before, and I know that nothing anyone says can make you forget about losing weight.
I've been anorexic, too, and it's not fun at all to look at your body and see fat when it isn't there.
I don't think that you need to lose anymore weight. You are underweight, according to am-i-fat.com.
I know that that is not enough, though, and I feel really bad. I've been told that I'm too thin my whole life. I've been told I need to eat more and stop worrying. But the desire to be thin is just too strong, and I think it is with you, too.
I think you should stop exercising so excessively and eat in a healthy way, with 3 meals and no snacks. You should stay about the same weight and not gain too much, either, so you won't have to worry about your weight as much as you do. Just eat light foods, like meat and vegetables, not pasta and sweets.
I'm very sorry you feel like you need to lose weight when you don't. I completely understand. No one can help you but yourself. This is a psychological problem that can only be fixed by changing the image you have for yourself, which is a very difficult thing to do.
Do not listen to your peers. They are just trying to put you down. If you have a boyfriend who verbally or physically abuses you, tell him to stop. Seriously. If he doesn't, then you need to end the relationship on the spot. Being in an abusive relationship always ends in pain.
Eat light foods like I said, and try to spend more time with friends. That helps me forget about my weight a little bit.
I hope that I helped!
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