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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!


I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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is it called acid reflex or acid reflux? (link)

It is acid reflux.

If you want to get really technical, it is actually
gastroesophageal reflux disease or GERD.


This guy gave me his number and I really like him. He likes me to. Well I didn't really ask him for it, I was going to, but before I could, he just gave it to me. I'd really like to call him but I'm really nervous about it. I talk to him a little in school (we only have 1 class together) but we talk a lot on instant messenger. I get nervous around him, but I know once I get to know him more, I'll be comfortable. But I'm going to the dance with him and I don't know what to talk about with him. I always am myself, but when it comes to someone I like, I get really shy. Any tips on what I could talk to him about? And should I call him? Thanks. =D (link)

You can call him if you want to. He gave you his number so he must be OK with it. Give him your number too, if you haven't yet.

Things to talk about will hopefully just happen.
Talk about school, friends, music, movies or TV shows you like. Conversation will just naturally go from there. I know you are nervous, I can remember feeling the same! But it will be fine.

I look forward to hearing all about this dance and what happens! Be sure and send me an update! :)


i need some tips on sex and alittle blowjob stuff

i simply cant give a blowjob it just doesnt taste good but i want to give my boyfriend one my friend does it to her boyfriend and he loves it and she likes doing it..i dont understand how she does.. ive tried giving my boyfriend one a million times..i can do it for a couple sec n then it just tastes bad ...any tips for me to lose the taste or anything??


i also want some more tips on sex... me n and my boyfriend just started having sex for the first time 4 months ago and weve done like 5 positions so were good but i want to surprise him with something different something i can do different to arouse him alittle more... any tips???

i rate high! (link)

This question is really not appropriate for the site, and you did say that I rate high which is an automatic delete but I will try to answer your question before I do.

Tips on sex we can't really do. We have underage users and if we did this often I think their immaturity level would kick in and it would just be a mess. Just do what feels good to you both and communicate that to each other. You don't have to do something different each and every time.

As for the blowjobs I wonder if it is the taste of
semen that is bothering you or is it the ACT itself that you are having a problem with?

In order for you to enjoy it he has to be very clean. If he has been sweating or anything it would be a definite turn off for you. Tell him that. Shower with plenty of soap before you will do that. No playing hoops with the guys for 4 hours and then picking you up for a date (for example)! If he sweats a lot have him carry a package of those baby wipes to wash up with prior to sex. It will help a lot.

As far as the actual ejaculation, there isn't anything you can do about the taste.

Hope this helps somewhat. ;)


I go to an all girls private high school. Before that, i went to public school. I am having a sweet sixteen party, but the only problem is, there is going to be twice as many girls (i'm still friends with all of my public school friends, which is even in the boy to girl ratio) but then when you had all of my school friends, it like doubles the girls. Should i cut back on the girls--or make a desperate attempt to meet some more guys??? Would it just be really awkward if there were too many girls (it would be like 20ish boys and 35ish girls)

Thanks in Advanced. (link)

You will have a great party! You just want a get together with friends..doesn't matter if they are male or female. You don't have to make sure everyone has a "date" or anything! Just relax and have fun with your friends. No need for equal amounts of boys/girls. :)


i am from india.
Well i think i have a cavity.. and getting cavities filled are a nightmare for me. i just cant stand it. ive never had the laughing gas and i really think that would make it less of a nightmare. my friend said that when he goes, they give him the gas. So, whats the deal with the gas? Do some dentists just not do it? or what? (link)

There are some dentists who will put you out to fill a cavity. After all they can charge you more for it! You will just have to look and call around to find one. Many dentists these days realize that people don't come in because they are scared. So there are some who will put you to sleep.

Being petrified of dentists myself for ages, I was mostly in fear of those needles. Imagine my surprise when the dentist I went to told me it was unnecessary for me to have a shot to get a tooth filled if I didn't want one. They are just routinely given because they are expected and relieve a patients anxiety.

Since my anxiety was the shot I told him to go for it. He did tell me he could give me something at any time if I needed it. I didn't. It didn't hurt at all. The grinding noise was irritating but that was it. Sorry for the story. I hoped it might help
if you were afraid to go to the dentist. :)


Hey can any one tell me what an IM is? (link)

IM is instant message.

You can IM on Yahoo instant messenger, Windows messenger, AIM, there are a lot of them out there
to choose from. :)


last saturday i fell and hit my head and i got a cut on my eyebrow. they put this glue stuff on it instead of stitches because it wasnt that bad where i needed stitches. well last night i pulled off the glue and im scared its not healed properly now and i dont even think the glue was on the cut anymore it was like more stuck on my eyebrow. but im really afraid that i might have screwed it up. so i really dont know what to do! im at my dad's house right now and my stepmom and him dont really know and i dont wanna ask them should i like put a butterfly on it??? someone help me!!!

14/f (link)

After a week it should be pretty much healed up. The
deeper part of the cut anyway. If you feel better with a butterfly band-aid on it though, by all means put one on it. It won't hurt a thing. And if you are still concerned, you can call your doctors office and ask them what they suggest. :)


My husband and I have been together for 6 yrs.We have 1 daughter together and 1 daughter from my previous marriage.I always had a problem about his friends that are girls, cause I didnt know half of them. But they call him all the time and he would go see them. He says nothing happened between them just friends.I recently went and got some tests takin to check for some things now he is upset. Cause i had a hard time trusting him. It seemed for him to take me out, it was like i had to plead with him, then when we go Im just the girl at the table. He wouldnt even touch me. I dont know any of his friends. We seperated for one day and he invited his friends somewhere with him. Which he dont do when im around.We have a problem with cell phone issues too. He keeps it stuck to his side, if he goes somewhere it goes too. Its the only phone we have and we have children. I notice he tends to turn his ringer down or off all time. I have been suffering from depression for over 7 yrs so i have a hard time with things,
(emotionally unstable.) am i parinoid or do we have issues, and can we be saved? (link)


I think you do have issues. I think you can save your marriage if you both want to and both put in the effort. As much as you may want to save it you cannot do it alone.

You might try writing him a long letter. Tell him everything you want to say. All the things you want to try in an attempt to save your marriage. I have found this to be a really good way to say what you want to say. The biggest reason being he cannot interrupt and make you forget important things you want to say.

It is OK for him to have female friends. However, once a couple get married I don't feel any guy needs have a night out with the girlfriends. I think if he wants to continue the friendships then
he should entertain them when you are able to be with him. You can have all the trust in the world for a guy but if he is always out with his female friends then it can't help but raise suspicion. You are the one he should be out with if anyone.
So, female friends are OK so long as they are entertained when you are both together. If there is nothing to hide then that shouldn't be a problem.

As for the phone, he needs to keep it home or get you one of your own. You shouldn't be without a phone with kids in the house. Accidents happen all the time and that is just common sense. Demand your own phone if he won't give it up. I would ask
why the secretiveness if there is nothing to hide.
If he thinks you should share a phone then it needs to be put somewhere you both have access to answering it and using it. You shouldn't have to ask for it.

I hope your depression is being treated. His behavior isn't really helping you I'm sure. You write him a letter or just sit him down for a talk if you'd rather. If he can't come up with some good answers for his behavior then you do whatever
you think is best. Take care of yourself and your girls. Life is way to short to put up with nonsense. I really hope he will cooperate and things work out.

Good luck hun. :)


Hi,
O.K. Lately i haven't been getting direct questions in my inbox. But don't get me wrong, when I first got my advicenators EVERY-ONE was asking me questions. But now, LITTERALLY no-one has been asking me any questions directly. How can I get more people to ask me questions without telling them to.

---------------> animalover658 (link)

I looked into your past questions and it would seem that most were sent to you by unregistered users. In other words they were probably friends from school. :)

If you want to use the site as it was meant to be used you answer questions, like yours here, from the pool of questions asked to everyone. If you do that then occasionally you will get a question directed to your inbox. Probably not very many and probably not for a while, but you will get some now and then.

This will help your rating too because inbox questions do not count towards your rating. People are more apt to ask inbox questions to those who have a decent column rating.

So, just answer more questions. :)


Alright one day in school we had a sub and there was no work givin so the teacher decided to show us this cool websit. On the website you type in the name of a band and then it will give you another band that is like that one, then you can rate them and stuff. It was a relaly cool website and helps you find lots of cool new bands, the only thing is i dont remeber what the site was. I really want to do it on my own at home. If anyones knows the site please help me out and tell me. Im pretty sure it began with a "p" or somthing but maybe not. any suggestions are thanked.

(i already tryed googleing it so please dont say that) (link)

Ask the teacher what the website was. I am sure she would be happy to give it to you.

Of course you would have to wait until Monday, I guess. Maybe someone in your class remembers. :)


13/f i had surgery like a month ago because i had a cyst in my left ovary. i am feeling some pain and i really need help. i didnt tell my parents because i did that before i was gonna have surgery and they rushed me to the emergency room...so i dont wanna worry them, but should i... i guess what i'm asking for is some advice on health so if theres any doctors or nurses out there PLEASE help me!

Thanks in advance (link)

Anytime anything unusual is happening to your body and it just doesn't feel normal, let someone know.

Since you have recently had surgery some pain is probably expected. But if you just don't feel right don't hesitate to tell your parents. I know the thought of having to go back to the doctors is scary, but you really need to catch a problem before it gets worse. So go tell your mom you are having some pain. The doctor will have told her what kind of pain you can expect to be normal. :)


i have no clue how to tell when my periods will come do you know how i can tell? (link)

There really isn't a sure fire way to tell. Usually
your breast will get a little tender and you may get some cramps. A lot of girls will get these symptoms a day or two before it starts.

Another way that isn't real reliable, but will give you an idea...next time you start remember the date.
You won't necessarily start on that date the next month, but it will be close. :)


for the past week or so my balls have been aching slightly. its not that painful but it is worrying me. it comes and goes every now and then and sometimes i feel it one and then it moves to the other. ive never had sex before so i dont think its an std but i do want to know whats going on and how i can stop it.

any ideas? (link)


Here is a good article for you to read.

http://www.pennhealth.com/ency/article/003160.htm

If you are athletic it could very well be caused from not wearing an athletic supporter or an ill fitting one.

If you have abdominal pain along with it then go see a doctor. Don't want to mess with that testicular torsion.

I have heard doctors recommend advil for the pain. If it continues, get it checked out just in case. It may be an infection that a round of sntibiotics can fix. :)


Hey,
last night my best friend called my cell phone at around 10 and told me that her mom has colon cancer. When I heard this i started crying because I know my friend and her mom are really close.
So my question is, what can I say to my friend? I mean i dont really even know how to react to this, its one of those things you never think will happen to you. Does anyone know what the chances that her mom will die are? Thank you so much
-marsbars (link)

Her survival will depend on how soon it was found for one thing. How far it has progressed. That may be something even she doesn't know yet.

The very best thing you can do for your friend is to tell her that you are there for her if she needs to talk. If she needs a shoulder to cry on. Just be there, that's about all you can do.

Hope all goes well for your friend. :)


I dont need this anymore and i must have my acc deleted how do i do it????? (link)

You need to write to dangernerd at dangernerd@gmail.com and tell him you want your account deleted and why. He will then take care of it for you. :)


Can you get pregnant from anul sex? (link)

No. You cannot get pregnant by having anal sex.


Can you get pregnant while on your period? (link)


Yes you can. You can get pregnant anytime you have unprotected sex. There is no "safe" time. :)


My friend has mono and i shared her water bottle with her 2 days ago( not knowing she had it) i got tested the next morning and my test came back negative..however i feel like i have the flu and strep throat , is there a possiblitly that i may still have gotten it? should i get tested again? (link)

Call your doctors office and talk to the nurse. Tell her the symptoms you are having and why you are concerned. She will let you know if you should be rechecked. It won't cost you a thing. :)


My question is as followed.

I have to have a tonsilectomy, uvulaectomy and a adnoidectomy.

Basically, I need my tonsils, adnoids, and my uvula removed (the long dangling thing in the back of your throat).

How will they remove my adnoids? To my understanding they are behind my nose.

I'm also a little nervous about being put under being as I've never had it done. What happens? Please help. (link)


Surgery is scary no matter what your age. It isn't a
real big deal though. It will literally be over before you know it!

They will probably give you a pill to take before you go to the hospital. It is to calm you. They may not give you one but it seems to be the norm these days.

You won't be able to eat after midnight the night before your surgery. You can sip water.

Being put to sleep is weird but nothing to worry about. You won't remember a thing. They put a mask on you and tell you to count backwards from 10 usually. before you get to 8 you are usually asleep!

These days my guess is they will probably use laser surgery on your tonsils and adenoids. If not they cut them out. They are in behind your nose but must be easy to get to because the entire surgery will take only 15-20 minutes. Maybe another
5-10 minutes adding the uvula. Honestly have never known anyone who has had that one done.

Once it is over you will get real sick of ice cream and jello. But it will go just fine. :)


I was just wondering something...


If say I got out for a nice dinner at a very nice place (I'm talking like guys have to wear jackets/ties and it's atleast a $80 a person) with my parents and my 21-year-old brother. If they all order wine, am I allowed to have any if my parents say it's okay, or will the restaurant have a problem with it? I'm 17. (link)

Oh. Now that is a good question.

I am going to guess they may not bring you a wine glass. However if mom or dad give you some in a regular glass, they probably won't say anything.
Though they could get fined if caught allowing it. :)




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