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Will marriage counsiling work
My husband and I have been together for 6 yrs.We have 1 daughter together and 1 daughter from my previous marriage.I always had a problem about his friends that are girls, cause I didnt know half of them. But they call him all the time and he would go see them. He says nothing happened between them just friends.I recently went and got some tests takin to check for some things now he is upset. Cause i had a hard time trusting him. It seemed for him to take me out, it was like i had to plead with him, then when we go Im just the girl at the table. He wouldnt even touch me. I dont know any of his friends. We seperated for one day and he invited his friends somewhere with him. Which he dont do when im around.We have a problem with cell phone issues too. He keeps it stuck to his side, if he goes somewhere it goes too. Its the only phone we have and we have children. I notice he tends to turn his ringer down or off all time. I have been suffering from depression for over 7 yrs so i have a hard time with things,
(emotionally unstable.) am i parinoid or do we have issues, and can we be saved?
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I think you do have issues. I think you can save your marriage if you both want to and both put in the effort. As much as you may want to save it you cannot do it alone.
You might try writing him a long letter. Tell him everything you want to say. All the things you want to try in an attempt to save your marriage. I have found this to be a really good way to say what you want to say. The biggest reason being he cannot interrupt and make you forget important things you want to say.
It is OK for him to have female friends. However, once a couple get married I don't feel any guy needs have a night out with the girlfriends. I think if he wants to continue the friendships then
he should entertain them when you are able to be with him. You can have all the trust in the world for a guy but if he is always out with his female friends then it can't help but raise suspicion. You are the one he should be out with if anyone.
So, female friends are OK so long as they are entertained when you are both together. If there is nothing to hide then that shouldn't be a problem.
As for the phone, he needs to keep it home or get you one of your own. You shouldn't be without a phone with kids in the house. Accidents happen all the time and that is just common sense. Demand your own phone if he won't give it up. I would ask
why the secretiveness if there is nothing to hide.
If he thinks you should share a phone then it needs to be put somewhere you both have access to answering it and using it. You shouldn't have to ask for it.
I hope your depression is being treated. His behavior isn't really helping you I'm sure. You write him a letter or just sit him down for a talk if you'd rather. If he can't come up with some good answers for his behavior then you do whatever
you think is best. Take care of yourself and your girls. Life is way to short to put up with nonsense. I really hope he will cooperate and things work out.
Good luck hun. :)
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