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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!


I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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what is a "fifth of vodka?" (link)

It is a big bottle of vodka. 3/4 of a liter.
It used to be measured as 1/5 of a gallon but that isn't how it it measured anymore.


Yesterday I had severe menstrual like cramps all day. Trouble is my period is over a week ago. This morning I went to the bathroom and there was blood coming from the back region if you know what I mean. Went two more times today, same thing. Im scared to go to doc but know I have to. Any suggestions on what this may be. 29 female and scared!!! (link)
Since you are having cramps with it you really need to go to an emergency room right away and get it checked out. Could be as simple as a hemorrhoid, but if there is a lot of bleeding go NOW and get it checked. Here is a web site but really, go now and get it checked. :)

http://www.medicinenet.com/rectal_bleeding/article.htm


why do people say that bulimia can kill you i dont get it?? what if i have been doing it for the last couple of years in my life but i stoped can it still affect me? (link)

They say it can kill you because it can rupture your
esophagus and possibly your stomach as well. There may be no signs of this before it happens. It just does. Those are the worse things. Your teeth rot and
all that fun stuff as well.

If you stop then of course things will improve. If you have been doing it a couple of years you may need to seek medical advice. Vomiting after you eat may by now just be an automatic response for you. To get it to stop and be normal again you really need professional help. Talk to your parents and get some. :)


hi i have a problem...i hurt my back a little bit yesterday and it's in pain and i have some sort of a sinus infection and am taking sudafed...would it be ok to take sudafed and advil for the back pain...thanks in advance (link)
Take it from one who has suffered numerous sinus infections. If that is what you have go to a doc and get yourself an antibiotic for the infection. That is the only thing that will knock it out.

If you can't afford to at the moment then call your
doctors office, or a lot of hospitals have an "ask a nurse" hotline you can call and ask medical type questions. :)


ok so i had sex with my boyfriend two days after my period and three days after i stated birth cotrol. It was my first time and he didnt use a condom. im on my 13th day on the pill now and we had sex about 5 other times, only once with a condom. i never bleed and i didnt feel or hear my cherry pop so i dont think it did. im so scared that i am pregnant and i dont know what to do. (link)

You should use other protection until you have been on the pill for 30 days. Until then there is a chance you will become pregnant.

If you have had sex you could be pregnant. Contrary to popular belief you may or may not have had your
"cherry" popped before you ever had sex. It makes no sound and not every girl bleeds. Your cherry has been popped one way or another.

If you don't get your period when this cycle of pills is over, then take a home pregnancy test to be sure before you take next months pills.


Hi :) I've got quite the dilemma. I'm 18/f, my best friend is 17/m and his brother is 16/m. I love my best friend. He's funny, he's sweet, he's absolutely incredible and I'd do anything for him. Therefore, I don't want to hurt him or make him too uncomfortable.

But I have the craziest crush on his brother. He (my friend) thinks his brother digs me too. But he's told me, semi-seriously, that if I went out with his brother, he wouldn't be my friend anymore. Should I let it go, or talk to my friend? (link)

I would seriously talk to him before giving up the idea completely. Find out why he feels that way.

He may think it would make things between you awkward. I mean if you tell him things now...be kind of weird talking about his brother with him.

He may feel like he would be put in the middle should you and his brother have an argument.

Then again he may be just a little jealous. If you
dated his brother you might spend more time with him.

Talk to him and see what he says about it. Don't let him joke it off either! Tell him to be serious. :)


I've gone on 2 dates with this guy who's still in the closet. He's never been in a relationship and we've kissed and made out and did other sensual things, not sex. I asked him if he wanted to go out and do something with me next week and his response was, "maybe" I asked him why "maybe" and he said, "well I could be going on a date next week." I was like, "oh okay that's cool, keeping your options open."
He's like, "yeah" "are you okay with that?" I was like, "not really, but I don't want to act like i'm too attached." then I ask, "would you be okay if I went on a date with another guy between then and now?" he said, "yeah, i'm not clingy." Okay, now analyze this and asnwer this question. What's the difference between being clingy, and acting interested? In my mind, him saying that he might be on a date with another person between then and now, shows that he's not interested in me. And second, isn't it rude anyway to tell the person who you've gone out with two dates on that you might be going on a date with someone else? please help, this frustrates me. (link)

I think I would assume he wasn't real interested. I
mean if you really like someone I think you would be at least a little jealous. Certainly wouldn't be talking about dating others.

I think for now you can only call this guy a friend.
Try not to get to attached because if you do you will probably get hurt. He just doesn't seem ready
to be attached yet. :)


i was on youtube and i found this on the top videos: http://youtube.com/watch?v=gSmYVlofcZE does that really happen when you get your period? lol probably not but im still wondering ... thx (link)

LOL. That is one sick video!

No having your period is nothing even close to the chunkage shown on there. Funny, but totally not true! :)


Thsi is a dumb question and the people on this site can delete it when atleast one person answers! I clicked Help/FAQ and they said to click the Contact us botton which i can't even find! help plz! (link)
I have never heard of that happening before. The link worked fine when I clicked on it.

Try it one more time and if it still tells you that then you need to contact dangernerd and tell him the problem. If it will let you copy/paste what it says to your email.

His address is dangernerd@gmail.com


i just found a post on this site, and i am 100% positive it was by my friend. basically what she said was that i was a bad influence on her, but she likes the person she is turning into. should i take offense to that, or worry at all for that matter? advice is GREATLY appreaciated, i am a huge worry wort. thanks alot (link)

I don't think I would worry about it so much. Do you realize how many people use this site? A whole bunch! Many of them with the same kind of problems.
So don't jump to the conclusion that it was her who sent the question.

If it was, I still wouldn't worry about it to much.
If she likes the person she is becoming then she can't think it is to bad. Be yourself. Don't worry what the next guy thinks. :)


i dont wear glasses or contacts my vision is perfect but can you still wear contacts if you have perfect vision will they mess up yer vision like glasses do cuz i wanna change my eye color (link)
They irritate some peoples eyes until they get used to them, but they won't affect your vision in any way. There is no prescription to them they are just colored whatever contacts are made of.

Sorry, lol, I have no idea what they are made of. Probably some sort of plastic. My daughter wore them
with no problem at all. :)


hm well, im 16. ive asked my mom for birth control before. mainly to regulate my period [its still really irregular and ive had it 4-5 years now] and also maybe to help with some breast growth haha. seriously tho. well everytime i ask her she freaks out and wont even consider gettin it for me because shes apparently convinced that i want it just to have sex with my boyfriend. well ive told her numerous times thats not why i want it because its not. were both virgins and at an understanding that were going to wait AT LEAST a year [which will be next summer] if not longer, and ive explained that to her but it just goes right in one ear and out the other. i know she doesnt want me to screw up my life but she wont even listen to me, she thinks that "oh things can happen and you can get caught up in the moment" and what not, and i understand that but honestly, i was raised better and i have more self control than to just let myself go like that. however explainin this to her does nothing. and another thing, yes i would want to be on birth control when i start having sex.. so i would kind of like to be on it so that when that does happen ill be protected [and yes i know to still use a condom but i have a big fear of them tearing]. but i cant wait till then to ask because if i tell her im sexually active when the time comes im sure i wont be able to see my boyfriend anymore and everything will just go haywire. and she says well "its funny you didnt start askin me this till you started goin out with him" but ive asked her before even like a year ago for reasons concerning my period. im sure of it, but she just doesnt remember. i mean im a good kid and i can talk to her about pretty much anything but she just refuses to talk about this with me or even consider it. honestly though, for now the main reason i want it is for my period. sorry so long, but what can i do? (link)

Well, you need to tell her that the fact you could "get caught up in the moment", is one VERY good reason she should put you on the pill. Not that you intend to do anything but, it happens.

It sounds to me as if you have a good mature head on your shoulders. Condoms are so easy to get that her thinking the pill will cause you to have sex just isn't a good excuse any more. It is the number one way to prevent pregnancy. It is not the only way.

So I think I would tell her (during a mature conversation) That if having sex was your intention, there are plenty of ways you could do that without the pill. All you want it for is regulation of your period. For now anyway. :)

Good luck.


if you have sex. and you;re supposed to get your period about two weeks after...will it just be late or will you completly miss it? i never under stood that.. (link)

In most cases you will miss it entirely. :)


call me a horrible mother a lready- i feel like one. but i havent been taking my prenatal vitamins. i starte dtaking them when i was a few months along, but just stopped. i honestly dont know why. but im almost 8 months along now, and i know its a little late, but i have been sooo stressed out thinking something's going to be wrong with my baby becuase i havent been taking the vitamins. someone please help me, (link)

I didn't take them the last itme I was pregnant. If you are not doing any crash dieting or anything you will be fine. If you want to take them from now until you have the baby, go ahead. But you
are not a bad mother already. :)


every time i make cookies they always come out crunchy whether i make it from scratch or cookie mix. How can i make my cookies less crunchy? Or at least like softer? please help! i really need to figure this out lol (link)

You might try taking them out of the oven just a little sooner than you do now. Leave them sit 4-5
minutes before removing from cookie sheet. They will
finish cooking on the hot pan after you take them from the oven. :)


Ok, I know I asked you this before about calling this boy, and well I did, and it went great! Thanks lots! Well he wasn't at school that day or today, and I called him yesterday to see how he was. I felt really good calling him, and I'd like to call him again, but I don't know if I should. I hope I'm not annoying him, and I hope that I'm not bothering him because he doesn't feel good. I'm really nervous about this. What do you think I should do? Thanks! =D (link)
I think it would be okay to call and check on him...see how he's feeling and all that. Make sure
he has all his assignments and everything if he is going to be gone a while so he doesn't fall behind.

Glad it is going well. :)


ok me and this kid known each other since we were 7 and now me are 13. Ever since i was 11 everytime i saw him (which is about 3 times a year) we hook up. I don't wanna go out with him and i told him that. Then he said we can be frends with benifits and i agrreed to that! I like him and i wanna keep hooking up with him but i don't know if i want to be called frends with benefits. Do u think i am an idiot for doing this?? (link)

I personally don't agree with the friends with benefits thing. The guy calls the shots and the girl usually winds up falling for the guy...it becomes a mess. I don't advise it. :)


ok im not gonna tell u my reason why i am asking this cuz its a long story but would they have halftime at a football game at 9-10pm at night for a SCHOOL? (link)

When my son played his games were over by 10.
Thats a little late for halftime if you ask me. :)


13/f I met a boy on the internet beck in february. I used to like him but now I dont really like him or want to talk to him anymore. I told him once I shouldnt talk to strangers online but he said, "but you know me! I'm not a stranger!" I said well you can never be to safe. He said, "but you saw a video of me! and it had my moms voice in it!" we got into an arguement. I really dont want to talk to him anymore, he doesnt really seem to understand anything and can be rather annoying and brags about his girlfriend which i dont have the time to listen to.

So, today, I asked, "who is this" and pretended I never met him before. The convo ended with let me know with "Alright let me know when you found your brain, see ya" Was this a good way to get rid of him? Please help (link)

You can block him so he can't send you messages any
more. If you are interested in how you can add to your question what IM program you use and someone will be able to tell you how to do it.

I think it might be a good idea to block him. :)


i haven't seen my friend becky for a long time, and we really wanna hang out together. her birthday's this weekend so she invited me over to like a bonfire with a bunch of her friends. the only thing is, i will only know becky and maybe a couple other people i met through her but aren't really friends w/. also, they get drunk alot and i think they will be getting drunk on saturday. i've tasted alcohol before but i don't really like it and i've never been drunk, so i'm kind of nervous. i don't know anyone besides becky so i'll already be a little bit uncomfortable, and then if i've never gotten drunk before i won't know what to do. should i not go? go and not get drunk? what should i do? (link)

Its really up to you. Unless it is in a secluded place it will probably get noisy. The police get called and they are underage there will be a big problem for all involved.

I know kids of your age drink, they always have. It is still illegal to do so. Plus the laws are so much stricter now. I hope none will be driving home.

OK got all the motherly crap done and over with. Sorry, You seem to be thinking pretty straight. Others that read it might not be so wise though...:)

Looks like you have a couple of choices. You can go and not drink. Might take some ribbing about it, but if you can keep someone from driving or doing some other idiotic thing that would be a good thing.

On the other hand, have you ever been the only sober person in a room full of drunks? They can be
amusing at first but it gets irritating pretty quickly. So you could be in for a miserable time, unless there are others who aren't drinking.

I guess the smart thing might be just to stay home. I know it wouldn't be a fun night for you, but I think that is what I would do.

That's one from the older crowd.
Lets see what the peers have to say. Just don't get drunk to go along with the crowd. Be smart. :)




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