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ugh .. nervous about a party - please helpp
i haven't seen my friend becky for a long time, and we really wanna hang out together. her birthday's this weekend so she invited me over to like a bonfire with a bunch of her friends. the only thing is, i will only know becky and maybe a couple other people i met through her but aren't really friends w/. also, they get drunk alot and i think they will be getting drunk on saturday. i've tasted alcohol before but i don't really like it and i've never been drunk, so i'm kind of nervous. i don't know anyone besides becky so i'll already be a little bit uncomfortable, and then if i've never gotten drunk before i won't know what to do. should i not go? go and not get drunk? what should i do?
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I was just actually in this same exact situation a week ago. I was going to a party with my friend that her friend was throwing, and I knew nobody but my friend and there was alcohol there also. Now I drank, but you don't have to. After a couple sips and I started to feel sick, I was offered more, and I just said,"No thanks", and they didn't mind. So it's alright to say no and pass up the drink, they're not going to hate you for it.
Also, if they are drunk, it might actually make things better for you. Whenever people are drunk they open up more and become less fearful and they'll talk to people more, and like eachother more easily, so if you just joke around with people, be yourself and have a good time, then I'm sure they'll like you. Just ask them question about themselves and what they like to do and everything and just find something in common that you can talk about.
I did this same exact thing, and it turned out I had a great time at the party.
I hope I helped.
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Well I think you should just go. If you are good at meeting people then maybe her other friends a really cool and you can meet some new people. For the drinking part you dont have to drink. Just say you dont wanna, or if you dsont wanna feel left out then just havea few. Dont get totaly messed up. Pluse if they live in a local area and there is gonna be alot of pople and someone calls the cops on you and they see inderage drinking then yo can get in a lot of trouble for that, its not to much to worry about but somthing to keep in mind. Its really up to how you feel. If you dont feel comfortable then just dont go. Tell your friend you will hang out some other time.
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Its really up to you. Unless it is in a secluded place it will probably get noisy. The police get called and they are underage there will be a big problem for all involved.
I know kids of your age drink, they always have. It is still illegal to do so. Plus the laws are so much stricter now. I hope none will be driving home.
OK got all the motherly crap done and over with. Sorry, You seem to be thinking pretty straight. Others that read it might not be so wise though...:)
Looks like you have a couple of choices. You can go and not drink. Might take some ribbing about it, but if you can keep someone from driving or doing some other idiotic thing that would be a good thing.
On the other hand, have you ever been the only sober person in a room full of drunks? They can be
amusing at first but it gets irritating pretty quickly. So you could be in for a miserable time, unless there are others who aren't drinking.
I guess the smart thing might be just to stay home. I know it wouldn't be a fun night for you, but I think that is what I would do.
That's one from the older crowd.
Lets see what the peers have to say. Just don't get drunk to go along with the crowd. Be smart. :)
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