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I've always asked my god, Cernunnos, for friends and boyfriends, and they've always appeared into my life. (With the exact same hair and skin tone that I've seen in those dreams. I don't know if that's just a gift I've now came towards, or if Cernunnos is doing this for me. But yeah...) If you would kindly read my dreams and interpret them the best you can, I would greatly appreciate it!
The first dream I had about this person was that we were standing in a setting where it was just plain white. Everything was white. He was wearing all white, and I was wearing all white. I couldn’t see his facial features, but I could see that his hair was long, jet black and messy. We just stared at each other until I woke up.
Other dream, I was walking through this forest, and I saw my god, Cernunnos, walking up to me holding hands with a petite lady with long black hair. He smiled at me and pointed to a path that led outside of the forest. When I walked out, I noticed a very tiny house. Walking in, I saw the same hair from the first dream, but he wore glasses and a light blue and white scarf. Still, I didn’t see any facial features.
Another dream, I was a violin player, and I had reserved a seat in the audience for my boyfriend. When I looked, I didn’t see him, but instead the SAME EXACT guy sitting there instead. I went outside the building looking for my boyfriend and saw him talking to another girl. He noticed me, walked up, and told me how much happier she makes him. And he brought back multiple girls individually and told me how they’re so much better. I began crying hysterically as he left, and I saw the guy with the long jet black hair run up to me and hugged me until I woke up.
Anoooooother dream, I was pregnant with my boyfriend’s baby, and I was just staring at him as he held hands with a girl with long blonde hair and a gold dress. I ran away crying, and every time I would fall… the guy with the long jet black hair would catch me.
Another dream, I was in like a “gothic Walmart” and I was talking to my boyfriend in the frozen food aisle. He kept telling me to NEVER speak to this guy. And just kept threatening me.
And another dream, I was in a school and I saw the guy getting buillied horribly. He ran out of the school, and a girl walked up to me saying, “You should sit beside him on the bus.” very sarcastically. So I walked on the bus and sat down as he looked at me with depressing eyes. That’s the first time I saw his facial features.
Omg, another dream, the guy and I were in this cave. The walls of the cave were like a dark purplish pink. We were sitting at this table, and there was a lighted light purple candle (that I recently brought from Walmart because I saw it in my dream) and we were just talking and laughing. Then I woke up.
The most meaningful dream I’ve had of him was where I was holding this light blue sweater. This woman walked up to me and told me, “He bought you this.” But both him and my boyfriend was in it, so I don’t know who bought me it. Then I walked into this room, seeing the same guy. Then I looked into the room across, and I saw my boyfriend. He smiled at me. But I just held up the sweater and looked so depressed as I stared at him. He shrugged and looked away. Then I was in this light green car, and I felt my close friend’s voice say, “You gotta tell him.”
Another is my boyfriend saying a lot of sh*t to my close friend. When I went to school in my dream, my close friend demanded me to break up with him. I went home and into my backyard and saw a huge TV screen. The guy with the long jet black hair had made a video, and he told me how I saved his life and that he’s never been this happy in his life.
Another was that he was cutting open his chest. Blood was pouring out. He pulled out his heart and put it on the table. But then laughed when he saw that I realized it was fake. (I feel the meaning to that was that he’ll be afraid to open up to me for real.)
And another was I walked into this small house. And his skin was tanish this time, and he was making something. Then we rode bikes to this school. And the ceiling was so damn high, and he was trying to get me over my fear of looking up at heights by holding me. And throughout that dream, my boyfriend took forever to reply to my messages.
And then I'll have dreams that have NOTHING to do with him like:
I'm walking in Walmart, and all the aisles were foreign country themed. And I see that guy walk past me and glare at me because he knew I was going to talk to my boyfriend. (Jealousy, I guess?)
And I was locked in a room of an enormous brown wolf spider with millions of other spiders. I somehow released myself from the room, and ran into that guy.
SOMEONE TELL ME WHAT THESE DREAMS MEAN! PLEASE!
I know this won't sound helpful but I've answered questions for you before, Pagan related, but figured I gotta try at least. Sometimes it means something, sometimes it doesn't end up in life turning into anything. I can give an example out of my life and my sisters. In mine, I was Christian at the time instead of Pagan and asking God to give me a clear image of the guy I was supposed to marry. He had the long dark hair, a slight beard and was very kind and attentive, the man I met soon after and married had dark hair, short and after a short while married, became verbally abusive. Obviously he wasn't what I thought I was getting. But looking back, my soul had things to learn on earth this incarnation around, how to really love myself, and that included having the strength to leave that man, which I couldn't have learned without meeting him. My sister and husband had trouble. He was a controlling person. Kid broke arm and needed therapy so they went often to Dr. for the therapy and she began to have dreams about the Dr who, in real life she'd learned alot about. He was single and hoping to date. She and hubby were breaking up. She had vivid detailed dreams like yours where she and he were married. But it never came to be. Its way past 15 yrs later and still hasn't happened for her. See, sometimes the repeat dreams we have are because of a subconscious desire for something, the subconscious mind is what controls our dreams and where all are emotions are stored. So the subconscious is giving you at least in your dreams what you desire most in real life, a boyfriend who is really wonderful and kind and loving. Will the guy you meet someday look exactly like him, probably not. A few people occasionally have a dream with something that turns out exact. I know this isn't what you were hoping to hear but thats just how I see it.
Hey thanks for that answer that really helps...The colleges that were attending to is not that far from each other, Its an hour drive or commute to get to her school from mine. Also our houses is not far from each other,maybe a 20mins.
How do I know that she likes me back? Because I just dont get a hint from her.
Girls and guys are pretty much the same when it comes to liking someone. They will find opportunities to talk to each other, find excuses to bed near each other, stare at each other alot and smile and greet each other.
If you think a smile can't be a sign she likes you for example, look at it this way, if on at least a very surface level (since you don't know each other much more) she didn't find you attractive, she would not do anything to encourage you to seek her out? Same goes for you. Think of a girl you are not attracted to her looks, you don;t go out of your way to smile and greet her by name each time you see her...because she would suspect you had a crush on her and that might encourage her to approach you and ask you out on a date...and you don't want that to happen. Signs can be subtle like that at first. If when you walk up to stand close to her, she doesn't step back to re-create a distance between you, then she finds you attractive.
The next natural step after finding each other attractive is to learn if there are enough things in common between you to sustain a friendship because both being best friends and being sexually attracted are the two most important things to any long lasting healthy happy relationship.. I would know, I've had both, the bad relationship with ex husband first and the great one with those important two things with my current husband. Best thing you can do is let her know you are very interested in her based on everything you've already seen and would like to get to know her better to see if there's a chance for a relationship, friendship and more. the reason you ask now is because you'll both be busy at different schools and you want to know if she's interested as well so you both can start meeting and continue to plan meetups even while in college. Hinting at something like this isn't worth it. Girls will always 2nd guess what you really meant and not be sure. Best to be direct in a way that doesnt put her too much on the spot. If she says she only wants to be friends, go for it and give her a few months to see if she develops any deeper feelings beyond friendship as she may be shy and afraid to date if she feels you expect some confession of her adoration right now. Good luck!
M/17
This girl that like or have crush on,I dont know what to do anymore. This past few weeks we gotten really close to each other,we texted a lot but i dont if thats enough. I mean She knows that i have a crush on her,because I confess it to her,its suppose to be an April fools prank but I lost the oppurtunity to say the "April Fools" so I yeah she knows. Of all the girls that I have a crush on Shes the different one,because I didnt even bother to know those girls more,but this girl shes really different from the others....I dont know. I miss her a lot,because its summer vacation here in the Philippines,and Im not gonne see her at school anymore because were entering college soon (we have a different schooling system here) I think Im falling for her,and this my first time to make an effort to know a girl. Oh and never had Girlfriend before so I dont know what to do...so bear with me...Should I continue this??
If you are going to be in different colleges, that makes it impossible for a relationship to begin, let alone for an established one to continue and remain strong and healthy. As much as two people may love or have strong feelings for each other, when apart with nothing but texting, I hear of many that fall apart. Mainly, you're young and want to experience the romance and the more interesting prospect is the one you're going to see in your college, the real (in person) female, or male for her to talk with, hear them laugh at your jokes, enjoy the excitement of standing near them, holding hands, hugging, kissing. All that is non existant in just texting so LDR's (long distance relationships) tend to suffer. It's up to you if you want to give it a try in case she feels the same about you but you'd have to be very dedicated to making time to visit each other during your college years to help keep the relationship going. But now is the time. You need to say something. Especially since the way you described you feel, that you want to know her beyond just surface level, like looks, you want to know all about who she is on the inside, that is a stronhg attraction. For the future, don't pretend or play pranks when it comes to attraction or interest. It is always better to be clear and direct with your words to let her know 100% for sure how you feel, rather than hinting at it but not confirming it. Young males and females have enough trouble understanding what the other meant.
13/f
The best website I know of is:
http://www.writersdigest.com/
I started writing too seriously for onceat grandma age tho I wrote short stories more for fun at your age. I have 2 completed books and its hard to find yourself a book agent. An editor is also important, and then finding a publisher but if you find an agent willing to promote your book to publishing houses they get a cut of the money made off it and shouldn't ask for money up front. those who do are usually disreputable companies.
Very important to making a good impression is the first thing anyone sees, your query letter as it's called. You can find instructional books on how to get published at your local bookstore. It should have instructions on everything, how to determine what the genre of your book is, how long a particular genre novel generally runs (how many words.) If your story comes no where near, it may fit the catacory of a short story. theres a lot to learn and I'm still learning.
I did hear when my kids were in Middle school or maybe it was grade school of an opportunity for kids who wrote to get their story published because a publisher or agent was going to be visiting the school to search for the next young person to help along in the writing and publishing world. So it may be a good idea to just approach your Language Arts teacher and let him/her know you are serious and ask whether they know of any special opportunitys coming up for young writers. You might even ask for their opinion of your work, to read and point out the usual editing stuff if they have time, since they teach grammar, they can help do the first polish, thats if they have the time. good luck!
Hi I'm a thirteen year old girl and for the past 3 years or so, I've been getting yellowy, sticky stuff in my underwear. It wasn't too bad at first but recently it's been getting quite bad - as in a lot - and I'm starting to get worried. I had my first period last summer and haven't had another since. I'm a little bit worried. What if my friends see a little bit and think it's pee when we change for P.E? That would be so embarrassing! Please help. Am I normal like this?
You have nothing to worry about. This clearish to yellowish discharge is Normal and better get used to it cus you'll have it the rest of your life. What it is: A cleansing fluid built in to your body just for the vagina to keep it clean and yes, it shows up before first period and becomes even more pronounced, more of it to help clean after beginning to have periods. There is no female who does not have this so I'm betting, all your friends have it too. Its just something no one ever seems to mention or talk about. Girls will discuss bra size and periods long before this and yet it is a marvelous thing our bodies do.
Just an aside, because the vagina has a certain Ph balance it needs to be healthy and has both good bacteria living there as well as bad bacteria that needs flushing out, it is important to NEVER use douches or sprays or soap to clean there as use of such products can flush away the good bacteria, placing your special little ecosystem out of balance and the bad bacteria grows and you get an infection. Even if you are being careful, an infection can begin with itching, inflammation, redness and bad smelling discharge sometimes with a cottage cheese looking discharge and needs medication from doctor to get over it. Regular intake of yogurt in your diet can help. Drinking Cranberry juice can help with bladder infections for example, as long as taken early on. If let go too long, no home remedies help and you need to see a Dr. If you ever have such a concern, let Mom know ASAP, I guarantee she's gone thru the same stuff and had to see the Dr. Embarrassing but they can give you a female Dr. By the way, its a good idea to get used to what your fluids smell like when you are healthy so you can tell the difference when it starts to smell bad. It'll be obvious, like the smell of old fish, rotting meat, garbage can odor and stinky socks all rolled into one.
Hey guys..Is there any Filipinos here??..because if there is I would to get advice on relationship,and i would ask it in tagalog,because my English is not that great..oh Im 17yrs-old
If you are worried about your English, don't be. We get questions from US raised kids who write in slang or text shortcut and often we're still able to figure out what they are saying. So give it a try and post your question best as you can,
I'm going to come right out here and say that I do NOT think what she's doing is right, and need some help approaching her.
we got a new Drama teacher training this year, and as this is our GCSE course, it's become much more important than previously. And at first she seemed so sweet to everyone, and I really liked her. She was fun.
We begin our first unit, and we’re doing small pieces. Typically, one person gets the lead 'rrole' in these pieces, more lines... more stage time... etc. And for a long while, I got nothing.
I'm pretty sure everyone got a 'main' as we entered our second unit. There, it wasn't so much 'main' roles as it was presenting your individual work to the class. All of that term, I never got called. Once.
Because, I guess at one point, she'd stopped liking me. Who knows what I did, but she was looking at me funny and ignoring me when I contributed. Soon we could literally list her favourite to least favourite. I was last.
Everyone was getting multiple main roles at this point. And it was becoming obvious. She would be very dismissive with me. She spent five minutes talking to people about their holiday but when it came to me, it was a "cute", and then she moved on. When she calls me sweetie, it seems forced, but with everyone else it's genuine. And my classmates notice.
I want to know how to approach her, because I adore Drama and always wwill. But it’s hindering my progress compared to the rest of my class, whon she loves.
I would call it favoritism if she only had one or a couple kids who were indeed favorites and the rest of class including you, left out. this instead sounds like she is transferring bad feelings she has for another person in her personal life that you remind her of.
So to be civil, don't accuse her of overlooking you or leaving you out purposely, (even tho classmates have noticed) but just bring it to her attention this way, "Teacher, are you aware that from the beginning of this class you have never called on me or given me any acting bits/lead parts so I can get experience. I'm sure you've not meant to do that but even classmates have noticed. I hope you will begin to work me in and give me the same equal opportunity as everyone else. If I remind you of someone you don't like, I am sorry for that, but I personally have done nothing to hurt you so I would appreciate you keeping that in mind and not unconsciously neglecting to include me in the future. " This is a good way to state the issue. Even though you feel she probably is aware of what she's doing and faking her niceness when she does address you, there really isn't solid enough evidence there to use that course of argument. If it doesnt improve immediately...at east, you went to her first as is proper giving her a chance to amend her ways rather than going over her head to her superiors. But the next step would be going to her boss, the principle of the school.
If you are in high school, your parents can get involved in step two. If you are college age, this is all for you to handle. Good luck with it.
You never know, she really may not have been fully aware that she is avoiding you. You may remind her of some friend or family member she lost to death and has never really gone properly through grief and dealing with it so to avoid having to reopen a wound and continue with grieving, she avoids you. People do weird things, and its not good for them or the poor person who becomes their target.
14/f Hi :) Basicall, a few weeks before I was supposed to go on holiday, I checked my shared bank account to take out the money I had saved to pay for my share of the holiday. Dad sometimes puts bits in and says its to pay for things that I need. Keywords: Things I need. I checked it and it said I had 43 cents. I thought it was odd and got my mom to check what had happened on this booklet thing (mom's a bit old fashioned). What had happened was that someone had taken out little bits through out the course of two years to pay for odd stuff. I'm not allowed to go in it by myself so I have to have mom or dad around when I check it.
Big chunks came out around Valentines Day and around the time he got married to his new gf (or should I say wife). He got married without telling me; I wasn't invited but I got over it. It still hurt though. But anyway, I confronted him about it and he said he had to pay for car repairs, bills etc.
I knew he was lying. I stopped talking to him for a while and was finally ready to forgive him after about a month (we had to cancel the holiday because I couldn't go) and I asked him why he did it. He replied with, "charity at work." Why did he lie before? And did he really need over $1500?!?!
So after arguing, I didn't speak to him for about 3 months. I looked in my account again to find that he was still taking it. Not only that, he was saying that I couldn't make it to family outings because my mom was being difficult and turning my into a brat. So I told them the truth but they all took dad's side. "He's still your dad, you should talk things out."
"At least you have a dad!"
"He took some money, big deal. You could have a dad that abuses you."
And it sucks! I don't know what to do anymore. The only person on my side is my mom. It's really starting to make me feel depressed. I don't smile anymore because of all the pressure that's put on me to sort everything out and keep my grades high AND still be the perfect girl my family thinks I am. What should I do? Sorry to bore you with this.
Why on earth didn't you ask your mom to start an account with you instead the first time he took money out without telling. If it happened once and he forgot to tell you it was used to pay a bill, he should have put it back in later. It can't be forgetfullness when he repeats this. He is definitely hiding something. there is no law that says you have to have Dad as the co signer on your bank savings account, it just has to be a parent or guardian. So if you trust Mom, and the other account is empty, its a good time to start a new one and put money only into there. Sounds like your Mom is lucky to not be with him anymore. And your family or friends who said at least you have a Dad are simply not thinking. Having a good male father figure is important whether the man is your biological father or not. Just because he is your biological father that doesnt mean he's a good example as a Dad and his betrayal and using you for money source and lying is a bad e xample and can scar you emotionally and cause trouble for you with trust when it comes time for you to date guys. That statement that at least he doesnt abuse you is also BS. This is a form of abuse. He doesnt see it that way, and apparently, others don't either but it is abusing your trust and as I already said, its abuse against you therefore emotionally. A parent is to provide for their child legally until they turn 18, not take from them and rob them. I'm sure theres' no way to get your money back and your mom may be unlikely to push him for it. I think your Mom may know more about his issues and problems than she's let on. Have a talk with her and let her know you want to start an account again with her on it instead. Not sure why you are blocked from using your account on your own but my husbands daughter at 12 asked them to set her up with an acct. as she was earning lots of money creating things on IMVU enough to make big deposits on a weekly basis and using the debit card, made purchases of clothing she wanted from Pyramid collection. The parents simply thought it was an account to hold her birthday money. And freaked when packages they hadn't ordered began to arrive. So apparently there are things a kid can do with their bank account even if a parent has to be a joint person on it to get it started.
Once you turn 18, don't waste a moment getting Mom to go in with you to have herself taken off so its only yours. A bank will take money out of any family members account to pay another family members bounced checks. It happened to my daughter who forgot to get Dad taken off her account. He paid her back though.
Thats an awful lot of money he's taken. So stop using that bank account. Hope it all goes well from now on. So sorry to hear this happened to you
okay, so i am 16 years old and i AM sexually active but haven't had sex in about a month. A few days ago, my vaginal area has been quite itchy and it's really bothering me. I examined myself, and seen little white small bump like things on the "inside" of my vaginal wall. Also my clitorious is very red and swollen. Someone please help, ASAP.
Also, know someone is going to say I need to see a doctor but there are no gynecologists around my area
Could be vaginitis or a yeast infection. If its a bad case like it sounds, even though there are a few things you can try, it won't help. I've had an occasion or two in life where I needed special antibiotics from a Dr. to fight the infection. I learned quickly not to let it go untreated even a few days and use home remedies the moment I first felt something.
So although everyone would agree you need to see a Dr. since you say there are no gynecologists, check with a general practice physician as many have enough knowledge in this area to cover the basic infections that women are prone to get.
You may be allergic to the substance condoms are made of, latex or rubber and that has brought on mighty itching for me. Here's a good link to answer some questions on itching.
www.ehow.com/how_5056874http://cureyeast-infection.com/monistat-treatment/_home-remedy-feminine-itch.html
The article says if no improvement in two days, then you will need to see a Dr. I've never used yogurt in or outside the vagina but it certainly cant hurt. Just get plain without sugar. If you can find plain Kefir yogurt drink, it has 12 of the live enzymes compared to the one only in regular yogurt. I only buy Kefir now. If your local grocery doesnt carry it, ask them to consider ordering it. If taking by mouth, then a flavored Kefir sweetened with Honey is okay. Its the enzymes that will help.
And here's a link on the product Monistat, good for treating yeast infections and itching and irritation. I always keep a fresh tube on hand at home so I can use it the moment I have a problem.
http://cureyeast-infection.com/monistat-treatment/
From what I've learned over the years, douching is a no-no in case you do that. It washes away both the bad and good bacteria and what happens is the bad bacteria comes back faster and multiplies, getting out of hand without good bacteria there to balance it out. The interier vaginal area is its own ecosytem, having its own natural way of cleansing you on a daily basis, the clear to yellow residue you find on panties when healthy down there. As with any skin irritation if not treated, it can get worse, same for vaginal problems and the skin down there is much more sensitive. You may be allergic to latex of condoms but since your last time was a month ago, I'd say its unlikely.
A female can have an off smelling day. Not quite normal but not too bad either. I just clean myself in shower when My hands are fully cleaned and have no soap on fingers. I insert fingers and swish around, then smell whats on the fingers until after repeat several times, the fingers no longer carry the odor. The sitz baths are good too but unless a lady had a bidet toilet in her home, the flushing and rinsing of that area is unlikely to happen often. You can do those if you're more comfortable with that. When I use Vagisil, some come with a 7 days worth and applicator. Ask the pharmacist in case they have it by another name. If after the prescribed time its not gone, you'll have to see a general practice Dr. to get an exam and proper medicine. Make yogurt a fairly regular part of your diet. Don't use perfumed soaps down there. I actually avoid any soap since I've had issues with soap period, even non scented. Hope this helps.
I want A Relationship But Every Guy I Meet I Sleep With Him Within The First Two Week's. Then He End's Up Losing interest Within A Couple Week's. I'm Young & want to Date Not Jus Have Sex After A Few Dates But Get To Know A Person & So On..I Think I'm A Who're But I would really like to change that. And Find The Inner Me An Not Jus Club Every Weekend & Party 24/7 . I'm 23 & A Females
You did mention a club in there somewhere. Is that pretty generally where you find men? If so, they're there to party, get lucky and get laid. A party venue and bars is not where the smart men go looking for a long term relationship with possibilities of settling down with the girl, with or without a marriage license.
You do want a guy who is sexually interested in you as one who isn't may be gay, but where to find that middle ground? It's not easy. Some guys learn bad habits and get real lazy. But there are men out there who find just sex only with a girl to be something that gets boring after a while and are intelligent enough to figure out they want to also be her best friend as well. Lots of people seem to think there is no such thing as having a mate who is your best friend and also your lover. But both are necessary for a long lasting successful relationship.
Now you may be thinking that sex so soon is an issue and is actually causing the problem you have. It is not in my eyes. I am living proof. After a divorce late in life, I went dating, got on dating sites. Met a lot of guys. Ex was a sexual mismatch for me. So it was extremely important to me that the guy I find be someone who could be my sexual equal, someone I could have chemistry with in that area. I did not want to get months into dating to eventually have sex if the strong draw was there but I held back only to find that his libido was way less than mine. My ex had a low one, little sex needed, I have a high one and want sex often. I saw no issue with having sex the 2nd or 3rd date I saw a guy. If I liked him in the area, then I was ready to invite him to spend time with me doing other things as well, like you'd do with a friend. "Hey, lets go walking the mall together, or do you want to go bike riding, roller skating? I volunteer at a soup kitchen, wanna come along with me and pitch in? Invite him to partake in your life. Keep the invites coming, have good long talks asking him what his likes and hobbies are as well as sharing yours. Guys when it comes to holding a conversation with females often fumble alot and have no idea what to say so its up to you to make this happen by starting the talking and asking him about himself. Lets say he reveals he likes playing with remote control planes, cars or boats as his 'toy'. Ask him if he'd show you how the next time he goes. If he seems willing, then press for a date as to when, get that date on thej calendar. If he is interested in getting to know your personality as well as getting to know you sexually, then he'll bite. If its too much trouble for him or he's not interested in that kind of girl, he'll ask more stuff like sexual related questions or your house or mine tonight? I didn't mind answering sex related questions but you can tell when a guy is gathering information or has that eager glint in their eyes. At that point, be quick to tell them your purpose in discussing things of a sexual nature is not for the purpose of arousing him or hooking him but you know he will be excited to some extent. Your purpose is to find someone you feel might be a good match for you sexually when you both get to that point in the relationship if you even date to begin with. You are as much interested in the friendship part and you are looking for a 'long term' partner. These are the things to get across to a guy at your first official arranged meeting. Say you run into a guy at the bar. Make a date to meet him at a restaurant or coffee shop to talk further and see if it sounds like you have anything in common. I cut down the hunting for the needle in the haystack syndrome by weeding out guys on line on dating sites and it sure helped. Thats how I found my 2nd husband. If you have any other specific questions dear, just write me from my column. No questions in the rating comment box. Not set up for us to answer from there, yet. Good luck.
I'm 15 and a female and my period is late by a couple of days and i have recently dry humped , I know I am not pregnant because you cant get pregnant by dry humping. I just wish to know if dry humping can affect my period cycle and if it doesn't affect the cycle then what is....please help I'm really worried
No it cant. The only things other than pregnancy that could be the cause of late period, is stress, or recent illness in women of all ages. You'll see this occur often throughout your life.
Being that you are 15, theres one more reason related to your age. Young females just a few years into puberty will notoriously have periods that are all over the place, usually delayed , even up to 2 months is common. The body is still getting used to the hormones and hasn't stabilized yet. During my 14, and 15th years I had the 2 months late, or twice in a month which is also common. As long as you are not in great pain or are doing heavy bleeding, filling pads every 15 mins to half hour, your fine. If you do ever have those symptoms, tell mom and get in to the Dr. right away letting them know on phone whats happening.
If I had sex on the 17th and the then on the 26th and got pregnant from one of those days would there be a difference in how old the baby was like a week difference? Instead for example; 9 weeks & 2 days could it b like 10 weeks and 4 days? Please answer!!
Much against a popular but untrue belief out there, women don't become officially pregnant the day they had sex. An egg could get fertilized, but until that egg travels to attach itself to the lining of the uterus, she is not officially pregnant. It can take up to a week for the fertilized egg to reach its destination. Therefore if an egg got fertilized around the date of the 17th, then a week later, while having sex again, you could be truly pregnant at that time. If fertilization didn't occur until the 2nd time of 26th, then you'd end up pregnant (officially) up to a week after the 26th. So yes, you could be further along and the fetus a week or so older. But a doctor is pretty good at narrowing down a target due date and are usually pretty close at that. If you're worried as to a week difference by time of delivery in case anyone asks. it is common for babies to come up to a week earlier or later than the Dr. figures. Usually with a first child, they tend to go to the later dates. No body ever concerns themselves over such a difference, as long as the child is healthy and not in stress in utero is all the Drs. want to see.
Found out he is a player and he is still playing girls and it hurts so much even though I don't talk to him or communicate with him, anytime I see him I remember everything so badly, how can I get over it and him
The reason it still hurts is that your emotions are still attached to your memories. We can never get rid of memories but time has a way of making the strength of the emotions begin to fade little by little. I don't believe there is anything like selective amnesia to totally forget only the things you want cus if it were so, someone would be a billionaire for showing us how.
So while you are waiting for time to do its healing, keep your mind busy and engaged in doing things so you don't have time to even think about him. Its a good time to try something new you've always wanted to, something where there is a learning curve to keep you really focused.
You could spend time pampering yourself or learning how to expand your horizons, study relationships and how to understand men, observe people in public. See if you can get a second sense of which guys love their ladies and are loyal and which are the douch-bags to be avoided. This all takes time to learn too but every little bit you learn in studyig books or videos even on youtube can help prepare you for when you are ready again.
Good luck!
I woke up Saturday morning after a night of drinking with a friend and i blacked out. and when i woke up i was in my friend's daughter's bed and my friends 11 year old daughter was sleeping right next to me completely naked. and I was too. i knew that she had a crush on me because her dad said that he read it in her diary but i never knew it would go this far. and here is the ****** part about it I'm 25 year old guy so i don't even know what too do i was able too wake her up and we were able to get dressed before her dad woke up and other than me taking the virginity of my best friends daughter i didn't wear a condom so she may get pregnant and I'm that case i guess I'm completely ******. i feel like a complete asshole knowing that i did this with her. and then about a day later she asked me if i wanted to do it again. i don't really know what to say. i don't know if we should do it again. or just tell her that we cant ever again but she might tell her dad that this happened if i don't and if we do i know that we could get away with it because i do watch her sometimes for my friend when he has to work late at night. i don't know what to do should i break it off with and getting pissed at me and telling her dad or should i have some sort of strange relationship with her Because i dont want to hurt her feelings.
One last thing on top of all that everyone said. You mentioned you sometimes watch her for Dad when he works late. You have to stop watching her because when he finds out what happened and you continued to be there alone with her, what's he gonna think? That perhaps you've been banging her all along for quite some time when you're there to watch her. So I agree with Missundersmock, he was not thinking, knowing what he knows of his daughters crush on you and you being too drunk to drive means you were too drunk to be a responsible adult. So he's part blame. So its gonna look better for you if you do tell him what you witnessed and ask him whats going on here. If you don't say something soon, it makes you look all the more guilty for keeping silent for a while. If some time has passed, you let him know you needed time to get over the shock yourself of how and where you found yourself in the morning and needed time to figure out how to approach him about this. Most likely he'll just react and want to punch you before listening but if he shuts down in person then get emails out to him. Hold on to them so he can't tell anyone that you never told him and he found out from his daughter. That would make you look guilty but emails to him would be written proof you made a move to be open and honest and sort things out.
what do i do? i am a girl my best friend is a boy and i have a crush on him, how do i tell him it without it being super awkward?
If he feels the same about you, he'll be glad you said something, if he doesn't it makes the situation forever awkward afterward. Imagine what he'd feel just hanging out as friends when you want him to kiss you? Its more often guys get stuck in the 'friend zone' having the crush on the girl and she only sees him as a friend.
So, if you say anything at all, it should come out as a curiousity question rather than as a fact that you are already having strong romance feelings for him and that way, even if he doesnt feel the same as you, you got your information without making him feel awkward. So the way to do this is saying something like: You know, we get along so well as friends that I was just wondering if you think there might be a possibility of us going any further? Do you think we should try to see if we can be more than friends? If he's not interested in you romantically he likely answer, no Theres no chance of that cus I only see you as a friend. Or he might ask why you are asking. Then you could answer: I read somewhere that the happiest most successful couples are ones who are not only are best friends but have the deeper feelings for each other too. So I was curious cus I'd be willing to try if you are.
And that dear, is a way to find out without revealing your feelings or him, his. Less awkward.
Trying to learn piano, need advice as to where to get a cheap one.
Well, obviously, second hand will be cheapest. There are some Pawn shops that have a collection of musical instruments for sale. Even in a metropolitan area as I live in, not all Pawn shops have any instruments. So call ahead and ask if they have any keyboards and the price. Then go check it out to make sure it works.
Then there's always Craigs List but be careful about meeting in a neutral location like inside a local coffee shop where you can plug in and check it out and have safety of people around you.
In some area's, there are on line places set up to recycle your goods, giving away for free. We have one called Free-cycle. There may be others. My daughter used it heavily to furnish her apt. when ist married and also to get crucial baby things later like crib and playpen. And it was not junk. Her couch was a nicer piece than my own. The people who are well off and want a change of scenery don't need the cash and are willing to give away really good stuff often or you can put an ad in saying what you are looking for as well. Caution, treat this venue the same as you would Craigs list for safety sake. Good luck with learning piano. My mother in law played her baby grand at home but when they began the retired couple travel the country thing, she missed her piano and bought a small keyboard to take along. After a few years, she decided she didn't like it and brought it over. My middle daughter was about 9 at the time and played on it all the time. We couldn't afford lessons so she self taught herself to play keyboard so this brings back memories. At one point she could hear a tune on a show and play it over and over on her computer til she memorized it and played it by ear. When she was producing beautiful pieces consistently, we knew it was time to get her a fancy one on a stand that plays the different beats, different instruments and can have one song saved and each instrument added to the piece as played. She's still playing and writes her own music tho not publishing it.
Hey... Im kinda depressed from moving and losing friends. My whole life Ive moved and lost friends alot. At first I lived in a trailer. I moved into a small country house in the middle of no where. There I met my best friend. I stayed for a few years and we became closer than sisters. Much to my distress we then moved to a small city house in nashville where i became friends with Heaven and Avery who soon moved. When I was still there I befriended Alena and Elly. I moved back to the country house away from my city friends but back to my "sister." Soon afterwards I moved to tiny house in a small town where I befriended Whitney Maddie Noelia and Keondria. Within months I moved to an average sized house in a big city. I then became friend with Meredith Charlsie and Nicole. They have recently turned on me and eachother. I am now friendless.
Just to let any advice givers know I am a preteen.
I remember being your age, and the need to belong, to be accepted. It is a valid need, a part of being your age. I wonder if you've been able to keep in touch via the internet? Emails, FB, or some other venue where you can chat. Its not the bet thing but it's what I did for any friends who moved away. Both I and my mother in law did a great job of keeping in touch with a grade school to middle school aged friend. She was still keeping in touch, all through dating, marriage and having kids and working out an occasional visit every other year since she lived across the country now. If somewhere closer and the same state, if you keep in touch with all the friends you no longer see, theres a chance as young adults you may be able to put a get together on the calender for a weekend to all meet, no matter where your life path took you.
See, this will come sooner or later for all of us. You don't know how many graduating senior girls are all weepy over not seeing their friends anymore cus they are going to different colleges or one is working 2 jobs in home town. Eventually, everyone walks a different path, its sad. It's just been happening to you way sooner and more often. I didn't have internet when i was your age. Personal computers weren't created yet. If they had been, I'd have found it so easy to keep in touch with more than just the one left. All the others eventually lost touch with me over time. At HS reunions, I found that many whom I hung out with had changed so much as I did , that we no longer had anything in common. As long as you have no trouble making a new friend, cherish the moments you currently have because you dont know when they may need to leave your life. Its one of those hard things about life. tHERE is no easy answer dear. I know it hurts to lose friends companionship thru moving but you at least have a way to keep in touch. Try Skyping where you can see and hear them too. Its better than nothing. If you need help tracking them down, ask the parents if they have any clue where to start in tracking down your old friends families.
For example, when Bradley cooper (40) dated suki Waterhouse (23). People are saying Bradley should go and date a nice woman his age, now. I don't get it. Why is it assumed people the same age would necessarily be right for each other, and that legal adults with age gaps aren't? There are many happy couples with relatively large age gaps. Why are some people so bitter and critical about this? love is love. It doesn't mean the younger girl has "daddy issues" or the older guy is some kind of pedophile, like a lot of people usually stereotype. Personally, I've never really had a good bond with any guy around my age and thus see it likely I'd seek to be with a guy about a decade older than me. a single guy with no kids, it doesn't mean I'm going to be some kind of home wrecker. But if I did get in such a relationship, would I be criticized or pitied? I'd just want to be seen as any other couple, but I don't understand american society's weird unwritten rule.
It goes the other way around too. For the most part, it takes men way longer these days to mature to the point they are ready to settle down, marry and have a kid. Its a matter of maturity. So the mature younger girls of course will look for a mature guy and the majority her age just arent yet so she finds herself attracted to the older ones. Nothing wrong with that.
Why the older man wants a younger woman? Well, it may be the ones his age are already jaded by failed marriages and/or have kids and have a bad attitude. Or they are unwilling to have at least one more kid with him. Most think automatically its to relive his younger days...well yeah, if he was the partying kind looking for a different girl each week but the serious one looking for a long term relationship isn't looking to relive his childhood, just find his life mate.
Now for the few males who mature fast and seem like a much older wiser person in a young body, they have problems too because most females at their age are way too immature for him so he starts looking for older women and age doesnt matter at all. This is when older women are called cougars, as if they preyed on younger men, robbing the cradle...you've heard it all. This happens too but not as often as younger female older male and males tend to take more time to mature.
Interesting that you used the age bracket of 18-25 stopping at 25 because scientists & psychologists have discovered it takes until at least age 25 before the pre-frontal cortex of the brain is finally done growing and maturing in the person. As always, there are exceptions to the rule but this part of the brain is responsible for what you'd consider mature traits as far as thinking goes. This is largely why many are not mature until somewhere between 25-30. So yes, maturity has no correspondence with a persons chronological age, but it has a lot to do with their brains mental age.
Since my girlfriend was introduced to my younger sister, they've always had a real sisterly relationship (even though they're not related).
But over the past year and a half, it's been getting worse and worse.
Only a few noticeable things have happened during this time. My sister has lost A LOT of weight and she has become her high school's best track runner (she used to be overweight). My GF and I, on the other hand, have both put on a bit of weight (about 40 lbs in the past year and a half).
So, my sister has started wearing a lot of flashy, eye-catching clothes (makes sense) and my girlfriend has started wearing yoga pants and slippers (and I'm wearing sweats a lot too now).
But, the thing is, my sister and GF are not getting along like they used to. Sometimes, it feels like you can cut the tension in the room with a knife. Idk what to do / how to help? Please give me some advice?
I would think the concern would be more on your sisters part. If she misses the fact that your girlfriend is no longer treating her as a sister, even less, avoiding her, that would be up to her to approach g/f and ask whats up. If she has and hasn't gotten an answer, perhaps your girlfriend knows she doesn't have a valid answer, nothing that would make sense or maybe sound petty. I think you have likely figured it out since the only change is the fact of weight loss on sister's part and weight gain for you and g/f. You personally know how it feels to once have been thinner and now gained weight so that another family member looks better than you at least in that area. I'm not saying that weight makes a person ugly. There are many overweight people who have a radient beauty about them you just can't help noticing plus they are okay with their bodies. G/f may not be feeling okay about her body and simply seeing your sister is a reminder of how she used to be, thinner. I know it was a subtle gain, approx. 2+ lbs per month but after 18 months, it sure adds up. I would think the natural solution would be to decide to lose the weight again or at least some of it. If you want to help in any way, talk your g/F into having a pact with you to work together to lose that weight again. A good place to start would be to look at your intake of food and drink. Look for all the heavy and hidden sugar items and cut those out completely. There is lots of sugar in energy drinks, soda's, even fruit juices on the shelf in grocery can have added sugar, pastries are an obvious no, junk food doesn't help and the carbs from starchy foods will also turn to sugar later. It will be hard but if you stay off sugar for a whole week and think you can limit yourself to a serving size of a cookie or two, have that as your reward at the end of a week, being sure to stick to serving size as listed on the package. Often a serving is only one or two cookies. Read servings sizes on other types of food also and try to keep to it. then get a little more exercise than you are currently. Extra weight zaps you of energy so you may have to start small, just going on walks, then biking or jogging. get a book on yoga and do that indoors with her religiously. The toning stretches not only make you more flexible with your muscles but you can lose weight over time with yoga. Dance together in your room to 3 songs in a row if you can or work up to it. Any movement is going to help some. Some people require more exercise to lose weight than others, just the body type you're born with so if your level of exercise doesnt work, up the level to more. If believe you'll both feel better about yourselves and g/f won't be jealous of your sisters weight anymore. There's a chance she said something nasty to your sister so that sis may be avoiding her also and not speaking. Don't go diggings that kind of thing up though as it could make things worse. Try to be cheery and make the weight loss project sound like a fun thing to do together and not even mention wanting to do it so you can look as thin as sister. Don't mention her. She's not the issue. It's how your friend is choosing to feel emotionally over it. So make it a goal simply on the reason of feeling healthier again and fitting into your own clothes again, stylish stuff with a reward that as each of you reach 10 lbs lost, you go out and buy a piece of clothing, even 2nd hand that fits at the 10lb less weight. Its not that hard. If you both lose 2 lbs with whats left of Apr. and 3 in May, June and July another2 and 3 minimum, you've met 10 lb by August. But of course a little more weight loss means all the sooner for your treat to yourselves. Good luck!
What should I say to someone who has a chronic illness to make them feel better?
Knowing you care is something they will appreciate but words will not make them feel any better really, unless words can cure an illness and thats what they really want, to be rid of the illness they may have to live with all life long. If its very debilitating, they will appreciate your help doing things that are hard for them, and treasure having someone to lean on when they need. The best thing you can say is, "I feel badly that you got stuck with this lot in life. I don't know what to say that might help but let me know what I can do for you that will help. And I'm also willing to be a listening ear. I know this is the best answer because I have a sister with fibromayalgia for last 10 years and it has consistantly gotten worse. SHe can barely walk now. For her, there are no words that will make the burden she carries any lighter. However I have volunteered the practical things and she takse me up on it. Reorganizing and cleaning the kitchen for example. Hope this helps