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i keep on losing friends... help.
Hey... Im kinda depressed from moving and losing friends. My whole life Ive moved and lost friends alot. At first I lived in a trailer. I moved into a small country house in the middle of no where. There I met my best friend. I stayed for a few years and we became closer than sisters. Much to my distress we then moved to a small city house in nashville where i became friends with Heaven and Avery who soon moved. When I was still there I befriended Alena and Elly. I moved back to the country house away from my city friends but back to my "sister." Soon afterwards I moved to tiny house in a small town where I befriended Whitney Maddie Noelia and Keondria. Within months I moved to an average sized house in a big city. I then became friend with Meredith Charlsie and Nicole. They have recently turned on me and eachother. I am now friendless.
Just to let any advice givers know I am a preteen.
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This is a common thing with families that have to move a lot.
There's no easy fix to the problem. Friends come and go, especially when you're young. You won't have the same friends forever.
So you need to keep your head up and keep making new friends. Each friend will impact your life and just be grateful that you've got to meet them and have them in your life for the time you had.
Losing friends suck, but it happens all the time.
So my advice is to get back out there and make new friends. It's obviously not easy, but it's possible and it'll get better.
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I remember being your age, and the need to belong, to be accepted. It is a valid need, a part of being your age. I wonder if you've been able to keep in touch via the internet? Emails, FB, or some other venue where you can chat. Its not the bet thing but it's what I did for any friends who moved away. Both I and my mother in law did a great job of keeping in touch with a grade school to middle school aged friend. She was still keeping in touch, all through dating, marriage and having kids and working out an occasional visit every other year since she lived across the country now. If somewhere closer and the same state, if you keep in touch with all the friends you no longer see, theres a chance as young adults you may be able to put a get together on the calender for a weekend to all meet, no matter where your life path took you.
See, this will come sooner or later for all of us. You don't know how many graduating senior girls are all weepy over not seeing their friends anymore cus they are going to different colleges or one is working 2 jobs in home town. Eventually, everyone walks a different path, its sad. It's just been happening to you way sooner and more often. I didn't have internet when i was your age. Personal computers weren't created yet. If they had been, I'd have found it so easy to keep in touch with more than just the one left. All the others eventually lost touch with me over time. At HS reunions, I found that many whom I hung out with had changed so much as I did , that we no longer had anything in common. As long as you have no trouble making a new friend, cherish the moments you currently have because you dont know when they may need to leave your life. Its one of those hard things about life. tHERE is no easy answer dear. I know it hurts to lose friends companionship thru moving but you at least have a way to keep in touch. Try Skyping where you can see and hear them too. Its better than nothing. If you need help tracking them down, ask the parents if they have any clue where to start in tracking down your old friends families.
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I have been experiencing the same thing myself and the best thing I know to do is to find something you enjoy doing and commit yourself to it. Once you find a steady home, you can go out and make friends and show your friends how amazingly talented you are! I know everyone has a talent. You just need to find it.
Good Luck!
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What most people do in a situation where they move a lot, is try not to get so attached until your family settles. I realize this can be hard, but it is the best option, really. You can still be friendly and let people into your life, but just try to keep relationships (friendships and such) on the down-low. One way you can have friends wherever you are, is getting online friends. Online friendships aren't always the best, but they can be, and they're in contact wherever you are. (NEVER get into an online relationship though, word of advice) so if you really want friends you can talk to anytime, that's your best choice. Of course it is simply talking, and not being with them, so you could just be doing the same with your other friends you've had and just stay in contact with them instead, but it's up to you.
Hope this helps~
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