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Curiousity about kissing?
Okay so I'm 14/f and recently found out I was bisexual. All the people I have come out to have supported me and I'm thankful. I haven't had my first... gay kiss if thats what you want to call it but I can't find the right girl to have it with. I am really curious though! Any advice?
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You are 14 and you believe you are bisexual. You are fortunate that the people you have told have not turned on you as is the case with moist teenagers when told that a friend is gay or bisexual. While you may just be bisexual I would suggest you wait a few years before you pin a label on yourself.
You are 14 and have just recently become sexually aware when you entered puberty. Most teenagers, boys and girls, will explore their sexuality with someone of the same sex before venturing out to explore their sexuality with the opposite sex. This does not make them gay or bisexual. It makes them sexually curious.
You say you haven't had your first same sex kiss. So how can you say you are bisexual? Just because you want to experiment or find yourself attracted to someone of the same sex. If this is so this does not qualify you as bisexual; at least not until you have had actual sex with both sexes. Something you are far too young to have with boys.
Do yourself a favor and stop labeling yourself. You are far too young and have not had the opportunity to truly experience what you need to experience in order to place any type of label on your sexuality.
I would say at the moment if you need to label your self. That label should be someone who is sexually curious. This would put you on par with teenagers in your own age group.
Relax give yourself time to be a teenager. This is a wonderful time of your life full of discoveries and yes adventures too. You will be an adult for a long time. Slow down and enjoy the teenage years for they only come once and forget about labels they are truly meaningless. You are whoever you become and now is the time to learn who you are meant to be.
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Bi or bi-curious at 14 isn't anything to worry about and I'm glad people around you have been cool about it. Finding the right partner to kiss and explore your feelings is quite tricky. Like Dragonflymagic points out, it's the same as a heterosexual kiss (with a boy in your case). If you're getting on, feeling close and the urge to enjoy a kiss together arises, it will arise...and it will happen. We kiss who we want to kiss, and be kissed by. Another bi-girl won't automatically want to kiss you just because you are bi. So don't assume this is the case. She'll have to like you plenty too. It's not going to be 'Hey...we're both bi...that's reason enough to start snogging each other, right?" Wrong! It's like the way a girl doesn't want to kiss any old boy just because he happens to be heterosexual and male. There's got to be a bigger connection than that. If things seem to be going along nicely with a friend, you might try dropping a few hints about kissing, and see how she responds. Curious doesn't always mean we're going to realise things. It means we're...welll...curious about the idea! If her response is clearly on the negative side of neutral, best not to push it any further I reckon? If she seems keen, it migh happen pretty damn quick! All the best mate.
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You'll know when you've found the one cus its the same as with heterosexuals, there will be that attraction to them, strong feelings and the kiss will naturally come as a way to express how you feel. By the way, being bisexual doesnt mean you are gay. If you were only sexually attracted to females then you are lesbian. If you are sexually attracted to both males and females, then you are bi-sexual.
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