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My name is Melissa. I'm a sophomore, and finally SWEET 16. So, I'll be driving on January 7th. I usually go by May or Mel. In the picture is myself and my AMAZING boyfriend Kyle. He's truly my entire world & I'm not sure how I got lucky enough to get someone like him. I don't like girls. They're fake, and I just in general dislike most girls. Little known fact? There are times I hate my best friend, I mean, hate hate. She drives me insane. When I'm close friends with a girl it's a big deal. As far as best friends go; I have Kyle, who's the most amazing boyfriend in the world; Jennifer Anne Reese aka: PIECUP.. she's one of the few girls I'm close to. I'm generally a nice person, if I like you. If I don't, you'll know it.

In college I want to major in psychology; with a minor in wedding planning or some type of organizational planning type thing. I'm a planning freak. I ALWAYS have a plan, and if you don't plan stuff ahead of time, I'll probably kill you. I tend to change my plan spur of the moment a lot, but I always have one. Lol, one of those weird things about me.


I'm not that much of a "laid back" person. In general, I have my opinion, and I'm going to win. Drama = stupid. But just like every other girl on the planet, I definitely start my share of the drama. I don't like it, but it follows me like a puppy, so I'll just admit I start stuff.

I like giving advice. I've been through a lot, and I want to help people in any way I can. If you'd rather email or IM me, feel free to ask. ♥

advice

I have a friend who says I am her "best friend". Well, lately she hasn't been inviting me places. Like, she is always with other people. I have caught on that everytime she invites me out her other friends are busy. Do you think I am her second choice or maybe I am just overreacting? I have talked to her about it but she makes excuses.

It would SEEM like you're her second choice, or just a replacement. But before you jump to conclusions, you need to talk to her. Don't let her make excuses, tell her that you want the truth even if it's going to hurt. If she can't take the time to explain it to you when you say you're confused and feeling hurt, then she's not worth your time. Good luck!
♥ Melissa

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hey sup? alright well my friends and i r planning this co-ed sleepover thing and im 14 so like were not going to have sex or anything and my mom said earlier this year i could have one as long as the parents were there keeping an eye on everyone. and this one wed b camping out and guys in one tent and girls in another. and theres gonna b a lot of ppl and i really dont want to miss out on it, but then i asked her again today if it was okay and she said no way. i told her she said it was fine earlier this year but she said she never said it. how can i convince her nothing is going to happen and to just ket me go?! please help i give 5's!

You need to act as responsibly as possible first of all. Make sure that you're showing her that you make good decisions and you can handle some responsibility.

Give her the phone numbers or e-mail addresses of the parents that are going on the trip. That way, she can talk to them and make sure that you will be well supervised. Maybe after talking to them she will feel a little more comfortable with you going. Just make sure she knows that you are responsible, and aren't going to cave into any peer pressure. Hopefully it works! Have fun camping!
♥ Melissa

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i have dark circles under my eyes, and ive tried everything. ive tried concealers, cucumbers, creams, u name it. i am so embarassed of them, and if they werent there, id be so much more pretty. does someone have somethiong i can do?

Try using a liquid foundation to cover them up as best as you can. [Use it on the rest off your face too, of course.] Get a matching POWDER foundation in the same kind, and use that after the liquid foundation. That should blend the two foundations, and cover up the dark circles a little more.

I suggest Mary-Kay, or also Mabeline. [They both have liquid and powder foundations that you can get in the same color.]
♥ Melissa

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I like this guy. I dont know him that well, but theres a connection and I really like him. The thing is he is super popular and extremley good looking. ALL the girls like him, and he usually dates just "hot" girls with zero personality. I'm not exactly pretty...or even attractive at that but I have an awesome personality. He is awesome and deserves way better than the girls he dates. Is there any way I can get him to have the same feelings as me? Will being his friend help?

First, you need to become better friends with him. If you still like him, then continue getting to know him and hang out as friends. Eventually you'll get comfortable enough with him that you will be able to tell him how you feel about him, and hopefully he'll feel the same because he'll know you better! Good luck!
♥ Melissa

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18/M About 6 months ago i was burned bigtime by a girl that i liked. In retrospect i went overboard with planing out every miniscule detail. Now a new girl has found her way into my life. She likes the same things as me and shares the same musical interest, BUT the problem is that i am also good friends with her parents and im not sure if they would let her date yet. What would be a good way to get the parents approval. (The parents own a local coffee shop that I frequent)

Talk to her, and make sure that she would be interested in dating you. Then talk to her parents. If you're good friends with them it shouldn't be TOO uncomfortable. Just talk with them, and explain that you're trying to be responsible and mature because you care about their daughter as well as their approval. Good luck! ;]
♥ Melissa

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ok so im going to be a freshman and i want to dress really good this yr but i dont want peole to think im al self absorbed bc im not! i just want to look nice but not snobby bc i want to meet some new people
thanks!

Don't worry about what other people think! You'll miss time that you could be having fun and enjoying the new school and your new surroundings. Just shop for things that YOU like, and get a lot of basics. That way, you have a lot of plain things, that you can match with a lot of more extravagent jackets, jewelry, etc. Have fun!
♥ Melissa

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A while back a girl toyed with my emotions for about three weeks. I realize now how stupid i was. But now I'm afraid that i will get cought up in the same thing with this new girl that i met HELP!!! 17/m

Don't compare the two girls! You could lose a chance with somebody really special just because you're afraid. Just proceed cautiously, and if you're seeing the same signs, back off or slow down a little. Just let the new girl know that you've had a bad experiance and don't want to move too fast. Good luck! ;]
♥ Melissa

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ok so this yr im a freshman & the 1st day i have to bring EVERYTHING! i mean biders books supplies, gywm clothes, gym shoes,,its ridiculous! whats the best way to get it all there without lookin lik a total nerd in front of my new school?!?!

Freshman year goes by WAYY faster than you will EVER expect, so enjoy it while you can. [= Try to bring some things before the actual first day. Most schools do some kind of freshman orientation day, so bring all your things then. That way you have very little, if anything, that you have to actually carry in on the first day. If you can't take things during a freshman orientation day, there should be some time when the school is open [for decorating lockers, finding classes, etc.] and you can take everything and put it in your locker then. It's what I do every year. [= Have a good year!
♥ Melissa

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sometimes i seriously just cant sleep...is it bad for an almost 15 yr old to use sleeping pills?
any suggestions on what type (if its not bad)?

I'm 15 and I use sleeping pills. I used to use them on a regular basis, but that really isn't healthy for you to do.

I recommend using Sominex. They carry it at most drug stores [CVS, Walgreens, etc.] and also at Wal-Mart, and places like that.

Be careful not to use them every night, because eventually you will become comletely immune and they won't have any effect on you. If the problem continues see a doctor about insomnia. [A medical condition.] If you have even a minor degree, they will give you a better sleeping medication.
♥ Melissa

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yes, music codes. where can i find the music code for the new song

Dirty lil secret?

i tryed looking but i couldnt really find it.

ill rate 5's if you answer theis with the music code site!

www.xanga.com/music_galore
www.xanga.com/musicURL

If neither of those sites has it, try going into xanga.com and searching for "music links" or "music" in the blogring box. That should get you several thousand music sites.
♥ Melissa

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does it hurt wen u get ur period

Getting your period doesn't hurt at all. There's a very good chance that you won't know until you see the blood. If you haven't got it yet, just make sure that you always have some kind of pad or tampon with you, just incase! You'll feel better that you did.
♥ Melissa

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im not concited. but i am well liked at my school. everyone thinks im...
exsperienced such in the kissing section. well ... im not... when you come from my elementry u are like a goodie good. not that i am but what ever. so anyways i havnt had my first kiss cause im not a hoe and im saving it.
is that soo wrong. and if i do kiss someone. would it all just come soo much more naturally?

Just because people think you're experienced doesn't matter. Let them think what they want. If what they're saying isn't hurting you, and isn't anything that is going to give you a bad reputation, let them think what they want.

Saving your first kiss is a GOOD thing! My first REAL kiss was with my boyfriend that I'm still with. [3 years] Trust me, you'll find the right boy and be glad that you saved it! It will all come naturally when you start kissing. Plus, if he really likes you then he won't care how good or bad of a kisser you are.
♥ Melissa

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where can you get the program DEAD AIM?

I believe the site is BigOProducts.com. Search for it on Google if that isn't the correct site.
♥ Melissa

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i have like horrible sleeping problems...like sometimes i dont even fall asleep till almost 3 in the morning. does anyone have any like tips or something to help me fall asleep?


thanks ♥

I have the same problem. First of all, you should try something just to will yourself to go to sleep. I personally prefer listening to music. [Normally country, but it changes depending on my mood.] If that doesn't work then try some sleeping pills that you can purchase at a drugstore. [Sominex is a dependable brand.]

If neither of those tips work, you should go to a doctor. It could be insomnia, which IS a medical condition. If you continue having problems, see a doctor and get professional advice.
♥ Melissa

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ok i had asked a question this morning buti have to say something else that i need advice on that happened tonight...

ok well i just gto home from a party and this guy tommy asked me to have sex with him and i said no and he called me a tesse and alot of other guys called me a tease b/c i wouldn't let them do ne nasty stuff to me the tommy took me into a room and put duck tape on my mouth and then un zipped his pants and mine...and then he took the rest of my cloths off and made me stand on the bed naked he was just lookin @ me...then he fingered me and raped me and he told me that if i told ne one that he would do it agian and kill me...there was no way for me to go b/c hes a football wresaler and really strong...by the way im 16 and he was 18...i don't want to tell neone because hes on of my moms ex boyfriends son and she treats him like a son and i would never think that he would do nething like that...HELP what should i do?

Okay, first of all you need to tell a parent or trusted adult IMMEDIATELY, and go to the police. If you haven't showered, there should still be physical evidence. [Expecially since I doubt he used a condom.] If they don't believe you, keep telling them. Or go to the police on your own. This IS a crime. Do something about it, and make sure it gets reported.
♥ Melissa

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Ok, so i went camping with my boyfriend this weekend and we had an amazing time. When we got back, i had made plans with my friends to hang out with them on monday night. Well he got home from a really bad day of work and called me and i only had like 3 minutes to talk to him so i asked him how his day was and shared mine, then i told him i had to go. He acted kind of mad and i was just like whatever, we've hung out every day this summer and all weekend. So i went and hung out with my friends and when i got home he was really mad at me and told me that i blew him off. He said that he really needed me when he got home from work and that i shoudl ahve made time to talk to him because he was having a miserable day. The thing was i didn't realize he needed me so bad. We are all made up now and stuff cause we talked about it and got over it. Am i at fault here?


16/f with 19/m b/f of 9 1/2 months

I ALSO agree that it has something to do with the age difference. You need to talk to him about it, and find out why he feels like he has to be with you so much. You guys do need time apart, if not your relationship will suffer. Hope it helps!
♥ Melissa

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I'm just wondering, my friends say sometimes I act like a prep. And I dont mind that, cus like we were doing this quiz that like "sterotyped" you and they agreed on the answer. But I was wondering, what makes someone a prep? Is it like there popular or something ?

There's really nothing that makes you a "prep". That's just giving you a label. Prep by some definitions would be: rich, stuck up group of girls [or boys], all the money they want, "in" style, can get away with anything, has the "connections" that everybody wants. That's what most people would say. It's also mainly a style of "girly girl" clothing.
♥ Melissa

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ive never been kissd...im worried it will be too akward

i guess i jut need confidence or something...

First of all, your first kiss is almost always awkward. That's just part of it. But don't feel pressure to kiss and don't feel like you have to because that's not something you have to do. When you feel like it's time it should come naturally.
♥ Melissa

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how can u be a better runner without going out and running..like leg excersizes that i could do at my house. and im running in a road race on thursday thats 3 miles long and i jsut wanna know what i should eat all of thursday before the race that wont give me craps.. i heard spaghetti and bananas were good! please help!

Stretching is the key. Do as many leg stretches as you possibly can, but don't forget your arms. Just make sure you do a lot of conditioning and cardio before the race.

Carbs are the thing to do THE NIGHT BEFORE. That day go light on the food, and remember to drink lots of Gatorade and water. They SHOULD provide you with it there, but bring your own just incase. Good luck in your race!
♥ Melissa

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OK....i want to do gymnastics and im not very flexible. I am but not as flexibale as other ppl....anyway do you hav to be flexible to do gymnastics? And is it hard to learn to do gymnastics?? Plz help i rate high!

First of all, gymnastics is REALLY fun. Expecially competitive. If you're confident [or even if you aren't] definitely give that a try because it builds confidence and will help your skills too.

When you start learning gymnastics and working out more, your body will naturally become more flexible. As your skills improve you will become more and more flexible, and your skills get better as you do them more and more.

So just remember to practice as much as possible, and to work on your flexibility even on days you don't go to the gym.
♥ Melissa

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