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2nd Choice?
I have a friend who says I am her "best friend". Well, lately she hasn't been inviting me places. Like, she is always with other people. I have caught on that everytime she invites me out her other friends are busy. Do you think I am her second choice or maybe I am just overreacting? I have talked to her about it but she makes excuses.
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It would SEEM like you're her second choice, or just a replacement. But before you jump to conclusions, you need to talk to her. Don't let her make excuses, tell her that you want the truth even if it's going to hurt. If she can't take the time to explain it to you when you say you're confused and feeling hurt, then she's not worth your time. Good luck!
<b>♥</b> Melissa
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That is kind of how it looks like but you do need to talk to her about it. Even tho she might say oh no thats not how it is. But when you think that her other friends are busy and she asks you to hang out say no and that you have other plans. She will catch on.
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IN MY OPIION SES USING YOU AS BACKUP FRIEND ID STILLBE FRIENDS WITH HER BUT NOT AS CLOSE AS U THOUGHT U GUYS WERE. good luck
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SHES JUST USING YO0 F0R WHEN HER 0THER FRIENDS CANT D0 ANYTHING ! IF I WERE YO0 ID JUST DITCH HER! I MEAN WHY W0ULD YO0 WANT A FRIEND WH0 0NLY WANTS T0 BE FRIENDS WHEN SHE NEEDS YO0 ? I BET YO0 CAN FIND BETTER FRIENDS! ♥//ALMA
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i've gone through this a couple times! have you asked her to do things lately? if not.. try to do so... in some ways you may be overreacting, but in other ways, i don't think you are, you're just worried that you're loosing out on a relationship and loosing a friend! you also have to know,, that you can't be her only friend! and she can't be your only friend! i don't know that i helped that much, but i tried! if you need anything, leave one i my inbox! laterrr*
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I have a friend like that too...And what i realized if she keeps ditching you for her soo called new friends she isnt worth it, try talking to her and if she keeps making the excuses i would just forget bout her
...AshNicolex3
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Nowadays "best friend" is used a lot and usually people have more than one. You might just be overreacting and she's just really busy. Try not to worry or stress about it much. Just make some other friends too to be on the safe side.
4Him, Disciple (plz rate me if i deserve it)
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You MAY be overreacting. Well, why didn't YOU call her and ask her if she wanted to hang out? You said she's been hanging out with HER OTHER friends. That's understandable. Once people get new friends they like to hang out with them since they're "new" and something "different".
Maybe her other friends have been calling her and actually asking her to go out. Maybe if you actually planned things with her you'd actually be going out too.
Maybe you DO try to plan things with your bestfriend, so forgive me if this answer isn't accurate, but I'm just giving you advice from what little information you gave me.
The best thing to do is to talk to her. Tell her you don't care if the truth hurts you, but you just want to know the truth. If she makes an effort to include you in her hang outs more you'll know she's trying. If she doesn't really do anything you'll know she's not trying too hard. If that's the case just dump her. You don't need friends that treat you horribly.
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Well maybe you should just move on && find some friends of your own.
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Well, thats not very nice what shes doing.
If she says you guys are "best friends" you would be hanging out non stop. It doesn't really seem like shes the true friend, you should tell her how you feel, and see what she says. In the mean time, find a great friend that can make time for you and make you seem like you know their your "best friend". To make this simple, shes using you.
Take care, Hun.
♥ Alli*
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