When life gives u lemons, make lemonade. Then, throw it in the face of the person who should've gotten you the oranges you orginally asked for.
What we do is determined by what we are. What we are is determined by what we think. What we think is determined by what we experience. What we experience is determined by what we are exposed to and what we do with that exposure.
(MIKE VANCE and DIANE DEACON)
Life is like a book with many different chapters. Some tell of tragedy, others of triumph. Some chapters are dull and ordinary, others intense and exciting. The key to being a success in life is to never stop on a difficult page, to never quit on a tough chapter. Champions have the courage to keep turning the pages because they know a better chapter lies ahead.
(RICH RUFFALO)
Because you're able to do it and because you have the right to do it, doesn't mean it's right to do it.
(Dr.LAURA SCHLESSINGER)
We are born with our eyes closed and our mouths open, and we spend our whole lives trying to reverse that mistake of nature.
(DALE E.TURNER)
You can have anything you want if you want it desperately enough. You must want it with an inner exuberance that erupts through the skin and joins the energy that created the world.
(SHEILAH GRAHAM)
We all have the ability. The difference is how we use it.
(STEVIE WONDER)
Everything is a once-in-a-lifetime experience.
Every great mistake has a halfway moment, a split second when it can be recalled and perhaps remedied.
One person can make a difference and every person should try.
The one thing worse than being alone is not being alone and wishing you were.
Real difficulties can be overcome, it is only the imaginary ones that are unconquerable.
(THEODORE N.VAIL)
The goal in marriage is not to think alike, but to think together.
(ROBERT C. DODDS)
Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not, but remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.
(EPICURUS)
When you look in the mirror, you are looking at the problem, but remember, you are also looking at the solution.
Live your life, so you don't have to hide your diary.
Dream what you dare to dream. Go where you want to go. Be what you want to be.
(CALVIN COOLIDGE)
The first thing of importance is to have confidence in yourself, in your abilities.
(KATHARINE GIBBS)
Become a 'possibilitarian'. No matter how dark things seem to be or actually are, raise your sights and see the possibilities-always see them, for they are always there.
(NORMAN VINCENT PEALE)
DAVID COPPERFIELD just might be the greatest magician and illusionist of all time. He is definitely a legend in his own time. Here are some of his most inspiring quotes...
'The easiest thing in the world is to come up with an excuse not to do something. I found that the most important thing in life is to stop saying,'I wish,' and to start saying,'I will.'
'Before there can be wonders, there must be wonder.'
'Whenever I pursued my dreams, I discovered something astonishing-I discovered myself. My secret has been to consider nothing impossible. Then to treat possibilities as probabilities.'
'Passion is everything.'
'I learned that there were two ways I could live my life: following my dreams or doing something else. Dreams aren't a matter of chance, but a matter of choice. When I dream, I believe I am rehearsing my future.'
Miracles do not happen in contradiction to nature, but only in contradiction to that which is known to us of nature.
(SAINT AUGUSTINE)
The world is composed of givers and takers... the takers may eat better, but the givers sleep better.
Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.
(ROBERT FROST)
Love is a fruit in season at all times and within reach of every hand.
(MOTHER TERESA)
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I'm aware that the new style is now 'skinny' jeans, but I think they are absolutely hideous. I refuse to wear them. My question is will I stick out in school this year? It seems like lots of people are switching to skinny jeans, and I'm sticking with my flares. Just tell me that truth, I need to know. Are flares still okay or is it all about skinny? (link)
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Every body has his own style and way of dressing, some people like to go with the new style, and some like to stick to their old usual ones. And who cares what you are wearing? Its not like they will keep pointing at you and laughing their heads off for wearing something just a year ago, they used to be wearing too.
So you should have some self confidence and always do what you like and what you see is best for you, and you shouldn't care what other people think of you.
Goodluck:)
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Hmm. Dumb question.. I love my boyfriend to death and im his first gf... first kiss.. first a lot; anyways. well he has braces.. so it has extra "drool" it doesnt bothe rme but when we kiss i get a lot of "drool" i acualy lieki t.. it hink its hott.. becuas ehe doesnt taste/smell bad and its just hott; anyways. Its ust like it ends up becomming too much and gettin on the sides of my lips.. i woulnt realy care.. but the side of lips couldlook bad if someone walked in haha. so is there any tecnics on kissing so t heirs less drool on my lips.. without asking him somthing or practcing a lot becuase we dont see eachother that often.. (link)
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Hey,
well since you don't mind the drooling thing and you think its just fine with you. Thats good, because as long as he is wearing braces, he has too drool when he is making out. So there is no suggestion, as a matter of fact, but you could always kiss or make out somewhere where no one would be there or walk in on you. So you could do whatever you want.
Have fun:)
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What realy makeing out?Whats the diffrence between making otu and kissing?!?? im so lost.. (link)
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hey,
Ummm.. kissing is to kiss on the lips just usually quick and short.
But making out is usually french kissing, when you stick your tongue in each others mouth and keep licking, and then you touch each other with your hands, and its like sex, but with clothes on, just touching each other.
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well i'm talking to this guy named well.....lets call him rick...ok well we email eachother back and forth every nite until 3:00 am!!!! haha i get so happy when we laugh but yesterday he got real depressed as soon as my friend put us to tlk on insstante message he started acting like he was depressed or something.... i told wat was wrong and he said he was just thinking about stuff and i asked him about what? and he said about love life and stuff.... now i'm worries that he remembered his ex girlfriend.... and i asked him if i could help him with ne thing and he said he'l ask me when he needs it... now i feel bad.. do you think he still has feelings for his ex girlfriend.... (link)
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Hey,
You can't just skip to conclusions and assume things that may me wrong. And honestly, i can't really say what he was thinking about, but it would be really odd to just suddenly remember his girlfriend, maybe he was thinking of something else but that is the only thing he came up with when you asked him. Maybe there is something worrying him, or something he's thinking of, but either ways we can't judge or say. So just act natural and cool, and give him sometime and he'll come around,and don't assume things and upset yourself.
Goodluck:)
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about a week ago, my parents were fighting. it was so bad that me and my sister had to call my grandparents to tell them that we would like to sleepover. our parents tried to work it out but i don't know what will happen. also the next day when my dad saw us, he started crying and saying that he loves us. it was weird though to see my dad crying but i thought something was going on. yesterday i went blueberry picking with my parents and my sister. i wasn't really up to it but my mom said privately to me that we did this to be together and we don't have to be together and not have my father.
i am really scared now. please can you help me?
ty in advance. 13/f (link)
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hey,
I don't want you to worry. I have been in this situation alot before. Its simply that your parents had this huge fight at first which was on the verge of ending with a divorce. But then they thought of you and your sister, and they didn't want to break down the family just for your sake. They wanted you to grow up and have one nice family with a father and a mother together. And thats why you all went to pick blue berries together, so you would be together as you always were. Both your parents realised after the fight,how much they had exaggerated and know they just want the best for you. So they probably sorted things out together and know everything is back to normal. But they feel alittle guilty because they hadn't thought of you at first, so now they are making it up for you and showing you that you are all together. And thats something nice, you shouldn't worry.
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ok i have a little problem. i have been only in long term serious relationships before and am now entering a new relationship. in the past, my boyfriends have treated me very well. i am used to really romantic guys that tell me i am the most beautiful girl in the world, etc, etc. everything a girl wants to hear. now my new bf is great! i like him a lot but he isn't the same in that he doesn't say things like that. in fact i know he doesn't think i'm the "hottest girl" in school bc he has made comments about stuff like that. he says he doesn't think he would like them and stuff like that... meaning that he doesn't think i'm one of them. i know that it shouldn't matter but don't most boyfriends that really like their gfs consider them to be the most attractive? that's my experience and my friend's experience. beauty in the eye of the beholder. help! (link)
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Hey,
I am sure that your boyfriend loves you and is crazy about you, and you share the same feeling too. And since he is your boyfreind, ofcourse he does think that you are beautiful and attractive, but there are some people who don't just go and say their feelings or their opinions out load, and this new boyfriend is different from all the others, maybe he is not really into complimenting people even the closest and most special person to his heart. so lets say its just an attitude or his personality, and we can't change that ,but there is something i can tell you, that deep down inside him, he thinks that you are the most amazing, beautiful ,hot girl he has ever seen.
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okay i have this pimple near my pubic area. it hurts a lot. its a really big pimple though. is there something wrong with me? i dont shave there (link)
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Hey,
I checked it out and i have some stuff that can help you. pimple is a type of skin lesion that is caused by inflamed and/or obstructed pores. The most common cause of pimples is acne.
Acne is a common disorder that is characterized by clogged pores and pimples in the skin. Permanent scars, as well as pain and itching may accompany the disorder. However, acne is not a serious health threat. Many people with acne are acutely self-conscious about the condition. Frequently affecting adolescents, acne may intensify feelings of shyness that are extremely common during the teen years.
So i don't want you to worry, its just acne, i don't know if you already have acne or not, but if you don't then you will be getting some soon, but i hope you would be self confident about it.
So goodluck:)and if you need any other help or advice, then please be free to contact me.
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i want to know if you guys think i should shed a few pounds. im 17 female & i weigh 165 or around there.
I have dd cup size. So put put in consideration alot of the weight is there.
http://i32.photobucket.com/albums/d4/wishexisted/brown.jpg (link)
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Ya i think that you should lose just a few pounds so you could be in perfect shape. Try running and exercising and going to the gym and jumping rope and quitting junk food and consult a doctor to make you a healthy plan to go on and you can go for long walks...etc.
And if you try to consider some of these suggestions, then you would lose the weight you want to lose or maybe more and all this in a month or less.
So goodluck:) and if you need any other advice or help then please be free to contact me.
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Okay so I have had my period for almost 2 years and it has always been completely regular, every 30 days, that type of thing. The last time I was supposed to get it though, it was 18 days late. I don't know if I should be worrying it about it or not because it was only one time. But the thing is I don't eat very well. Would it have something to do with that? I only consume about 600-1000 calories a day and you are supposed to have around 2000. I also never get protein, so should I be concerned? Or just wait awhile? (link)
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I know alot of people who have an irregular period because they are too weak and they don't eat well.Therefore i suggest that you eat things that contains lots of calories and proteins, and take some vitamins because they always help. and after a while if you do so, then your period will be regular again. So there is no need to worry. Goodluck:) and if you need any other help or advice, then please be free to contact me.
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18/m
Ok, no matter what i'm always the friend or the creep... somehow i'm always one or the other... i mean i give advice on relationships all the time and help other in real life. WHY CAN'T I HELP MYSELF?!?!
Please help me... This is my last hope (link)
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Hey,
I understand what you mean and what you are going through. And i have a point of view there, umm... sometimes there a people who like to help others and give them advice and draw a smile on their faces, but then sometimes we get caught up in helping other people with their lives, and we forget all about ourselves and out own lives.
You have given alot of advice to people and helped them in their relationships,that is something great and very helpful and i am sure that they are so grateful for that. And helping people doesn't make you a creep, because then it would make everyone on this website a creep lol, its something good and i respect you for what you do, and its good to be a freind, you don't always have to date and get into relationship trouble and break up then date then break up, you are just fine the way you are.And if there was someone who liked you and wanted to be with you, then he wouldn't hesitate to do so.
So maybe you got carried away in helping other people that you forgot your own self.So what? Do the opposite, help yourself and live your life and find someone who you love and she'd love you back, and have some fun. And in the same time, you can help other people. Its not a big deal, but a person has to fix his life first before fixing others lives.
Look at me, for example, i wake up everyday from 7 in the morning, and come here on this website to wait for anyone having a hard time or a problem, even if it is the silliest easiest problem, and i give all the advice and help i can give. And i feel so happy when i do that, because i know that i have helped someone and put a smile on his face.
And guess what, i do not have a boyfriend, and i do not have any friends at all. And yet i do not call myself a creep, because when i help people and give them advice, this is more important to me than any freind or boy that i will ever know.
Your helping people, and that means that you are doing something so amazing and great beyond what you can imagine. And its like when people go to sleep crying and feeling like shit, and then you help them and give them advice and make them listen to what they want to hear, and so they wake up the next day, happier than anytime you have ever seen them in.
yOu are a sweet, kind, caring, loving, and a helpful person, and i respect you so much.
So don't let anything stand in your way,and don't let anything stop you from living your own life and drawing a smile on your own face. You have helped alot and you deserve to have a good life of your own. So don't you dare call yourself a creep ,because you are most definitely not.
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ok how do you get over a guy? (link)
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hey,
Getting over a guy is something really hard to do, but yet, not impossible. It does take alot of time though to get over him and the fact that you loved him and were crazy about him. But it works at the very end.
All you have to do is to try and occupy your time and thoughts with something rather than him, like hang out with friends, or talk on the phone or sit online or go out with your family or study or take up a sport or get a part time job. These are all things, that if you put all your effort and concentration in , then you won't find time to think of this guy. And yes its true, that maybe every once in a while ,your mind will float away and think of him. But then again, you will get used to it at the end, and will stop thinking of him.
Another thing and most important, is that you can try and give all that love you gave to him ,give it to someone else. I am sure that there are other guys in your life, or guy freinds or best freinds. So try and take all that love you gave him to someone else from a freind or a crush or something.
Goodluck:) and if you need to talk or if you need any other advice or help ,then please be free to contact me.
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My boyfreind has had sex with 30 other girls and he prbably has alot of STDS and he cheats on everyone.its just in his nature. He cheated on my friend he cheated on all his other grilfriends. He tried to finger my friend when they were going out and my frined dint want him to and he wouldn't stop trying to do it. He's a man hore. He's only 16 too and he already had sex with 30 girls. And to top it all off, hes arrested right now I forgot what he did. I think hes too much truble for me because I'm not a good girl but I'm not that bad. hes already wanted sex with me the first day we were going out. I think i should dump him. Hes a bad kid and he will only cause more trouble to me. What do yuo think? (link)
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Hey,
This guy you are talking about is a total asshole and a hore as you said. So unless you want to be one, back off and leave this sex-obssessed guy. Why would you want to be with someone who has already fucked 30 girls? He doesn't love anyone of them and doesn't call anyone of them his girlfriend? And if you agree to be with him, then you will be one of these girls which he uses to have sex with, and fullfill his desires. you may not be a good girl, and maybe even a bad one compared to other girls, but you are most definitely not a hoar and not a prostetute to agreee to be with a guy like him.
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my name is rachel and iam a 17 female and iam dating this boy named jesse and for some reason iam afraid to call him I think it's becouse i'll say something stupid or something like that and when I called him today I got off the phone really quickly because his twin brother answered the phone and when I asked is jesse there he said jesse it's your girlfriend rachel and I think that made me even more nervouse than I already was.I don't have any classes with him either and we don't even have the same lunch at school becouse he got his schedule changed so now we don't have the same lunch anymore so the only time I get to see him during school is at breakfast.This is the 3rd time i've dated jesse and iam afraid to tell my mom iam dating him for the 3rd time becouse she dosn't belive in 3 chances and I do what should i do? (link)
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Hey,
First of all, don't get your mother involved in this situation at all, because sometimes there are desicions that we should take and not our parents. And honestly i believe that as long as there is a chance, even if its the 2nd or 3rd or 4th up to million. Just as long as there is one, then we should take advantage of it, and use it.
Because usually chances come once in a life time,and when it comes several times, then we should get down on our knees and thank god for them, instead of not believing in them.
Now , guys like cool challenging hot and honest girls, and this is exactly what jesse wants too. And you can be that kind of girl, because deep inside you , you are already one, but only if you believe in yourself and have some confidence then you can be whatever person you wish to be. And so what if you only see him during breakfast at school, talk to him then and eat with him and stuff. and so what if you call him and his twin brother tells him ,that his girlfreinds on the phone. I mean... you ARE his girlfriend, so then whats wrong in admitting that? If only you try to stop this whole shy and scared thingy, jesse would love you even more and want to me with you and spend time with you, so call him and act as i told you to, and ask if he wants to hang out with you or catch a movie or something.
I don't have anything else to say for now, so consider what i said , and if you need any other help or advice, then please be free to contact me.Goodluck:)
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OK well i was invited to Cedar point with my boy friend, and i really wanted to go, but i was going to be up North, and had to say no. So instead he invited his best friend who so happens to be my best friend as well. Well it so happens that about a year ago he really liked my best friend, and asked her out several time, but she always declined. I'm a little worried that by spending a day with my best friend might ,ake him realize again that he still likes her, even tho she has a boyfriend that she loves. Should i be worried? We've only been going out for about a week, and i don't know if i should worry. Am i being stupid by worring? (link)
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Hey,
First of all, you are not stupid for worrying, after all, he did always like her and want to go out with her. But in the same time, you still shouldn't worry. Because this is your boyfreind we are talking about and this is your best freind, these are the two people that you should trust more than anyone in this whole entire world. and they should never let you down. And besides, when he used to ask your best freind out, that was before he dated you ,but now he is with you and he loves you and cares about you and i am so sure that he's over her. And the guy would be a loser if he asked her out again after all these times she had rejected him.And he should know that she has a boyfreind, and that if he asked her out again, she would reject him.
so i don't want you to worry about anything, because the first rule in any relationship or friendship or whatever it is, that there should be trust, and until now, he didn't lose your trust, and i am sure that he won't. And i am also sure that he wants to get your best freind along, for your own comfort and safety, so always try to look on the bright side, but be sensible and wise in the sametime.
So i don't want you to worry now, and just have a really good time and cheer up and love your boyfreind because i am sure that he loves you too. And if you need any other advice or help, or if anything new happened in this situation, then please be free to contact me.
Goodluck:)
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I have a boyfriend. But last night I had a dream where I was making out with this guy I used to like. Is that some kind of sign that I should be with him? Or does it mean that deep down I still like him? What does it mean? (link)
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Hey,
This dream you had simply means that somewhere deep down inside you, you still like this guy and think about him. Yet, its not a sign that you should be with him. Its probably because you used to think about him all the time before you had this boyfriend. And now all you do and think of and make out with is your boyfreind. While that guy you used to like is simply now a tiny small part of you in which you dream of, but he's not in reality.
So to make a long story short, and to clarify things for you a bit. Its not a sign that you should be with him. And yes it means that somewhere inside of you, you still like him.
I had this guy for example, who i used to like, but then i met someone else, and i got over this guy, atleast i thought i did, but then there came a time, when i dreamed of him 5 days in a row. And i know that it meant that i still had feelings for him, but i just ignored it all, because i am supposed to have gotten over him.
So you do the same thing, you have a boyfreind and someone who loves you, then be with him, and don't let one dream have horrible consequences that you do not want to deal with.
Goodluck and if you need any other help or advice,then please be free to contact me.
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earlier this year i dated a guy. we dated for almost 2 months and then i broke up with him because i felt that i didnt really like him any more. and now we are friends. i know that he still has feelings for me because his best friend told me. but lately ive felt like i like him again. but im afraid that if we went out again that the same thing would happen again. should i tell him i wanna date him again or should we just stay friends? (link)
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hey,
First of all, i think that you should give it alittle more time, and stay as friends for alittle time longer( but not too long incase he dates someone else!lol) And during this time, try to give your feelings some time to know whether you actually love him and want to be with him again or not.
Then , if your heart wants to be with him, then it shall be, and if not, then i am sure that there are million of boys out there who you would really love and want to be with, and wouldn't lose interest in them after a while.
So think things over, and think of his feelings and how you hurt him last time, and that this shouldn't happen again.And if you really do love him, then you wouldn't lose interest in him. And if you don't ,then a month or two, and you will be huffing and puffing and looking for someone else to flirt with and make out with.
I hope your getting the point that i am trying to cross over to you. And honestly ,i can't really give you a piece of advice in that situation, because it only depends on your heart, and where it leads you. So just simply follow your love, and don't back out or hesitate when it leads you to the person you should be with, because thats the person your heart wants, loves ,cares about and cherishes.
So goodluck:)and if you need any other advice or help then please be free to contact me.
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17/f
Okay, I'm friends with this guy, and for the past few days we've been talking about dating. He's been telling me a lot of stuff convinicing me he wants to be with me or whatever. Well, I'm best friends with his niece. They're only a few years apart in age, & he's four years older than me, so don't freak out lol. Anyways, we've kissed & made out & he was supposed to take me to a movie last night. Well, he got back from work and said something came up, so I asked him what and he said he'd tell me later. I found out from someone else that he spent the night in a couples hotel with his girlfriend. He didn't tell me he had a girlfriend, so now I feel stupid. I don't really know what to say to him about it. Any ideas? =/ (link)
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hey,
First of all, that all sounds really tough and hard on you, and i hope your doing fine after you heard this, and i'm really sure that you were so disappointed in him.
Second of all, i have a point of view in this situation, and i am going to tell you exactly what to do. You should ask him what had come that other night, and if he just mutters a few un-understood words, then just tell him all that you heard about him ( and you have to make sure first that it all really happened), then if he tries to deny it, then don't listen and just take a step backward, and leave him alone because he is nothing but a cheater and liar,and i don't really want to say any other bad words. But he doesn't deserve you for sure. So just back out, and if he tries calling you, or talking to you or if he sees you in anyplace, an tries to talk to you, just ignore him and don't you dare talk to him about anything.Just walk off and leave him. Because from the beginning, if he loved you and cared about you ,he wouldn't have chosen those other slutty girls over you. So its too obvious that the guy just goes from one girl to another for fun, he doesn't really love someone .
On the other hand, you are a very respectable sensible and reasonable person who doesn't deserve to be treated like that especially from someone like him. And i am sure , that there is someone out there who is much much better than this guy, and someone who would really love you and want to be with you and not cheat on you.
So try to consider all i said, and goodluck:)
If you need any other help or advice, then please be free to contact me.
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OK here it goes I went out with this guy Ben and he broke up with me.. and then 2 months passed and we decided to give it another try unfornately it didn't work out so i broke up with him. the thing is, is i have a thing for his brother jay and i know he has a thing for me because he told me after the first time ben broke up with me. i still have a thing for jay, but i don't know what to do. ben is currently not talking to me. he won't give me the time of day... he is upset and acting childish so i don't wanna deal with him. what should i do? (link)
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hey,
If a person loves someone so much and more than anything in this whole entire world, then he shouldn't allow anyone or anything to stand in his way. And that goes with the situation you are in.
YOu may have loved ben and he loved you and you were dating and stuff, but not all relationships are meant to be, some just don't work out. And that is exactly what happened between you and ben. And then after wards, you found out that there is someone else that you like and he also likes you, then why not go for it? is it just because he is ben's brother ,then this is what will stop you? Maybe this jay really likes you and wants to be with you and is willing to treat you with love and respect, and maybe things would work out between him and you.
Listen , you simply shouldn't let anything stop you or stand in your way,because you are big now, and you know how to take your own decisions, and you will not let your ex boyfreind stand in your way, as well as you won't let anyone else stand in your way. When there is love, then we go for it.
And if you are still worried about ben and his feelings, jay could talk to him and explain how he likes you and wants to be with you,and ben will get angry for sure, and pissed off that his brother liked his girlfreind (and now his ex), but he will get over it, and soon he will find someone nice too to love and be with.
So everything has a solution, but if you sit alone for awhile and try to think about all that has been happening, then you will find the solution right infront of you.
So goodluck:) and if you need any other help or advice, then please be free to contact me.
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Yo i need help
see i never really made out with anyone before how do i do it (link)
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hey,
Its not that hard, but i guess you'll find it alittle strange or weird because its your first time ,but you will get used to it.
When he comes to kiss you, you should close your eyes, and open your mouth, and stick your tongue out an inch or two, and lick your tongue in his tongue. Thats french kissing, but if he doesn't do that, she kiss him back on the lips as he does to you. And when you come to kiss, you have to close your eyes, because other than that, its usually rude for a person to open his eyes while doing this. And don't worry, he won't think that you look stupid or like an idiot, because that question is usually asked.
And if you love that guy infront for you, and you want him so much, then you will just feel that love and heat and kiss him automatically. I can't really explain how, but its all inside you.
so goodluck:) and if you need anything else, then please be free to contact me.
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I have a best friend and we are extremely close. She had a boyfirned for only 3 months..and he broke up with her. its been about 3 months since they broke up. well we are frineds still. and he IMed me the other dayand wad like do you want to hang out. and i said sure. so we were driving in his car for awhile at night and then he wanted to kiss me. so he did we hooked up. well now i feel horrible becuase that was my best frineds ex. i mean we never made a pact to get wit each others exes..but she already got wit two other guys since the break up. i need help please..what should i do... (link)
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Hey,
I think that the right thing that should be done, is for you to go up to her ,and ask her in a very natural and cool way if its fine with her if you supposedly dated her ex and started a relationship with him, and if she said that its okay with her, then you don't have to feel guilty or sad anymore, and you can date him,make out with him and do all you want ,and know that its cool with her. But if she said that she would feel uncomfortable and that its not something that she;d want you to do, then just as quite as you went out with him and made out with him, break up with him and tell him that by what you are doing,then you are betraying your freind and not being honest to her. Because believe me, to have your best freind, is so much better than to have this guy put between you to ruin your friendship, which i am sure is really important to you, because your freind loves you and cares about you, and according to how she would feel about you dating her ex, you should make sure to make her happy.
So if you need any other help or advice, please be free to contact me.
Goodluck,
xoxoxoxo
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