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Okay, I'm friends with this guy, and for the past few days we've been talking about dating. He's been telling me a lot of stuff convinicing me he wants to be with me or whatever. Well, I'm best friends with his niece. They're only a few years apart in age, & he's four years older than me, so don't freak out lol. Anyways, we've kissed & made out & he was supposed to take me to a movie last night. Well, he got back from work and said something came up, so I asked him what and he said he'd tell me later. I found out from someone else that he spent the night in a couples hotel with his girlfriend. He didn't tell me he had a girlfriend, so now I feel stupid. I don't really know what to say to him about it. Any ideas? =/
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Well, if you want to let him know your serious, don't sugar coat it, let him know straight up you've been hearing things and you want to know the truth...
So let's say he says he never did anything like that, your next question would be, do i believe him or not?
Talk to him about it, talk to the people who said they heard he was at the hotel about it, see if any of it lines up at all, call around, see if anyone saw him...
If this guy likes you enough, he wouldn't do anything that stupid to ruin his chances with you..
If it turns out he was with his girlfriend, i'd like you to picture a red warning light in your head, meaning, no, bad bad bad bad bad do NOT start a relationship with this guy...
Things like that only lead to trouble..
I wish you the best of luck..
Tyler~
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hey,
First of all, that all sounds really tough and hard on you, and i hope your doing fine after you heard this, and i'm really sure that you were so disappointed in him.
Second of all, i have a point of view in this situation, and i am going to tell you exactly what to do. You should ask him what had come that other night, and if he just mutters a few un-understood words, then just tell him all that you heard about him ( and you have to make sure first that it all really happened), then if he tries to deny it, then don't listen and just take a step backward, and leave him alone because he is nothing but a cheater and liar,and i don't really want to say any other bad words. But he doesn't deserve you for sure. So just back out, and if he tries calling you, or talking to you or if he sees you in anyplace, an tries to talk to you, just ignore him and don't you dare talk to him about anything.Just walk off and leave him. Because from the beginning, if he loved you and cared about you ,he wouldn't have chosen those other slutty girls over you. So its too obvious that the guy just goes from one girl to another for fun, he doesn't really love someone .
On the other hand, you are a very respectable sensible and reasonable person who doesn't deserve to be treated like that especially from someone like him. And i am sure , that there is someone out there who is much much better than this guy, and someone who would really love you and want to be with you and not cheat on you.
So try to consider all i said, and goodluck:)
If you need any other help or advice, then please be free to contact me.
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Aw im sorry. This guy seems to be like a complete a**hole, & he just wants it from you. To bring it up just ask him what exactly was that something that came up. You can say something like "hey I was woundering what was that something that came up the other night?" & If he says oh its nothing really or something then ask him what. & tell him you've heard somethings. I think the best way to do this is over the phone. Because if he starts to struggle you know the rumor is true. Just try & bring it up out of the ordinary so then he has to answer. Hope I helped <3
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If he really does have a girlfriend and he's trying to get with you, then you shouldn't have anything to tell him. Why bother? It seems like he is trying to make you the other woman.
I guess all you can do is find out if they are serious and why he would be leading you on if he does have a girlfriend. Make sure your source is reliable before you do accuse him of this.
Good Luck.
-Teacup
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