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how to get rid of ants in bathroom
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Ant traps, Bug spray and Lysol work the best. Make sure the bathroom is clean before you put any of these down you might want to wash the area/areas the ants are at the most with lysol.
-BahaiMa22
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okay so ive been talking to this guy i met at a friends house, weve been talking since december and ever since january hes been asking me to do sexual things with him next time i see him, which was SUPPOSED to be this coming up saturday, but i really cant figure him out anymore. first of all, this is gonna sound really messed up but he thinks were going to have sex. ive said its a bad idea but he doesnt listen. i was never going to though, i just never said no because i knew if i did then he wouldnt go to their house and i wouldnt be able to see him..i want to see him because i sort of like him. but anyways, he IMed me this morning, making it seem like he wanted to have like text sex or something because he said something perverted like that, and i was like okay and then he said, yeah so you want me in it stretching it? [i know thats awkward to say, but he thinks hes cool, idont really know.] and i said, mhm your alone right and he said, nevermind i dont wanna and i said, huh? haha and he said, i dont care really and i said, dont care about what..what are you talking about? and he said, stfu. and then i go, what? what are you talking about i really dont get it and then he just never answered and signed off.
he has been leaning me on for 3 months saying how badly wants meand how he wants to do it with me, but then..all the sudden he says nevermind i dont wanna. what the hell?! what did i do? i mean i dont want to, but i want to see him, and i think he means he doesnt want to even go to their house anymore. i mean all he said was everything i just told you, so its hard to figure out what he meant, maybe he meant, i dont wanna, as in i dont wanna have text sex right now. i really dont know..what do you think? why do you think he suddenly said that? someone please tell me and help me understand because im truly lost. (link)
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You are right when you said he is perverted. It sounds like you just might be booty call. He his is rude and disrespectful of how you feel. Don't let him take advantage of you, Tell him to stop talking to you like that and you don't like it. Stand up to him, The more you let him do it the more you are leading him on. I know you might like him a little but why hang around someone who is going to treat you like that. Let him know how you feel and be stern about it.
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so last night my bf for over 2 and a half years dumped me because he says he doesnt know what he wants and that hes not happy. and that he wants his old life back before he met me. He also told me him and his ex are good friends now and that he was hiding it from me. I've been crying ever since and have this feeling in my stomach that wont go away. I guess its what a broken heart feels like. He broke up with me on the phone but told me he wanted to wait until this weekend but i told him no. I really need some advice and help to how i can get over him faster and be happy again. Oh and if this feeling is a broken heart. (link)
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I've been there, I had a boyfriend of five years and it wasn't easy when it was over.
You need to realize you are much better off without him, Think of all the mean things he's ever done to you, said to you, did behind your back and realize that you didn't need it. Even if you have to use the fact that him and his ex have been good friends without you knowing it. Think of all the good things you have to come, Focus on your life and what you need to do to get things done and succeed. Spend time with your friends and family as they are the ones you will need most and they are always there for you to lean on when you need it. They hurt you are feeling now in your stomach is probably due to emotional stress. I know now it feels like it will never go away but give it time, It will heal. The first month or so of a breakup is always the hardest and gradually it will become easier. Any guy who has contact with their ex girlfriend/boyfriends behind ones back is not worth it and clearly you are too good for him. Know, That his ex girlfriend and him didn't work out the first time and most likely they won't work out a second time, a third time and even the fourth time. You will move on, You will meet someone who will be happy to spend their time with you and won't need to jump back to the past to fulfill their happiness. Focus on you, Find yourself and what makes you happy. I promise you will heal in time and you will find happiness.
-BahaiMa22
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18, female.
sooo i've been in a messed up situation for about three years now. i have a good guy friend, known him for years now and have always had a crush on him but he's been going out with his girlfriend who i dislike of three years now. within the past few months they have taken a break, got back together and then broke up and after a month are now back together. i hate how he puts me through this though because he always say "wanna fuck" and hes being serious. he knows im a virgin, he's only had sex with his girlfriend yet he still wants to get with me. i have NOT done anything with him. but im done putting up with his crap, i'm not doing this anymore. i'm not getting hurt, i'm not waiting for him to be done with her. how can i let him know i DONT care anymore, how can i show him he wont always have me there when he cant be with her 24/7 or when they're fighting, or when they're on a break? i mean yeah i still want to be FRIENDS with him but i'm done with wanting to be more. next time he asks if i want to have sex im just thinking about saying, sorry i dont have sex with people who have GIRLFRIENDS, but i'll let you know how it is when i have sex with someone else ;) just to piss him off. i want to say something like that to get back at him for all the stupid stuff he's done to me. but i can just see him acting like he doesnt care and be like "ok" or just not say anything back. how can i get to him? soon i'm getting my hair dyed, i'm going to dress REALLY cute whenever i'm going to see him just to make him mad and realize that theres more out there than his annoying girlfriend. any other suggestions? (link)
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Honestly, There really is no point in getting back at him. If he flat out says "Wanna F*ck" to you, I mean it is clearly disrespectful. If he has a girlfriend than why would you want to get back at him? It could only make things worse. If don't want to get hurt than don't. Try to move on and find someone eles who will like you for who you are and respect you.
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what is your take on strippers do you think their trashy or do you have any level of respect for them? (link)
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Personally, I do not like strippers at all. I think they have no respect for themselves because they show off their bodies and try to make money. I wouldn't say I don't respect them but I do not like nor do I approve of what they do. I know sometimes we all need money but I think there are better ways to go about it than to sell ourselves and our bodies. It's dangrous and it's definately not the best way to make money.
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hey im 15.f
i have 2 questions to ask in this.
so heres the story (and oh yea who ever answers ill rate high because i really need help)
my boyfriend and i have been going out for about almost 2 weeks and those 2 weeks he fingered me. i gave me head and we had sex. alot of sex. my question is can i be any chance pragnet since we didnt use a condom the very first time and we were in he shower and he felt like he was gonna cum so he pulled out and waited a little and then we went agian. but he never came. that same day we used condoms but we had sex twice after the shower incident. then i came over agian yesterday and we had sex twice again but with a condom he came but we had a condom and everything was fine. but im just worried that what if i am pragnet and if there is a chance i can be.. because since the first time in the shower my mood changed and i got a small pain like all the way in mmy lower stomach by my vigina. im really scared and i dont know what to do im going to wait ffor my period to come but i dont know by then it might be to late.
another question is i regret having sex with him so much he says he likes me a lot but i feel like our relationship is moving wayyyyyyyy 2 fast and it old him that he said everything is fine and that he wont leave me because we had a thing in the past where i was dating my other boyfriend and he tried to convince me to break up with him so he must like me but idont what to do bout the sex ...and the moving fast
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Yes hun there is a chance there, Many people seem to get it confused about when a guy pulls out. There is always a chance of pregnancy if the penis enters the vagina because there is a chance of pre-cum. Despite whether you two used a condom or not condoms are not always 100% effective. If he fingered you and he ejaculated before than then again yes there is a chance of pregnancy because the sperm will be on his hands and no it doesn't die right away when it is exsposed to air. If you feel like your relationship is moving to fast than maybe you should tell him to slow down because honestly in my opinion I do think having sex after two weeks is a little fast yes. It is up to you whether or not you want to call it off, However remember if he is moving to fast make sure you tell him and let him know. I would suggest taking a pregnancy test just to be sure.
Be Safe
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Bahaima22
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Do girls really play hard to get when they know that you are on to them or somewhat you like them?
I have this crush on a girl and we've been hanging out together. I haven't told her that I have feelings for her... but I think she already had a clue that I'm courting her or I'm in love with her or something. Do they get pissed off when you don't say that you're courting them or is she playing hard to get...thanks (link)
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Depends,
All girls are different and they all have their own ways of flirting and showing it. If she shows any sort of interest than maybe she does like you and maybe she is flattered by it so she wants to play hard to get, or it could be that she wants to make sure you are serious about it and so she wants to see how far you'd go to try and get her. Or it could be plan and simple she may just not be that into you. It could be a number of things. The only way to really know how she feels back is to approach her. If she already knows you like her than try talking to her, Ask her out, Get to know her after all the least she could do is say "no" and the best she could do is say "yes!" ;)
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Hey i'm 15 and i have C cup sized breasts. the only problem is one is relatively the perfect perkiness but the other sags......and i'm really worried that when my boyfriend sees he'll be grossed out by the unevenness....is there like anything i can do? (link)
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There are things you can do to tighten the breast muscles. One common excercise is to bend your elbows and put your hands together and squeeze your palms tightly together.
It is common for woman's breast to sag, All woman are different. Some woman are bigger than others, Woman who normally aren't saggy are those who've had breast surgery done or do regular chest excercise daily. However, even if a woman did do breast excercise daily there breast will always sag at least slighty. If your boyfriend cared about you for who you are than looks shouldn't matter exspecially a small thing like that. Afterall like someone below me said most men would be happy they have access ;)
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First Question: I slept next to this guy and he wanted to have sex. I kept saying no, But he wouldnt get off me and I was still saying no when he ripped my clothes off and penetrated me. But I layed there and Let him do it because I wanted him to leave me alone. A couple times through this I said no, and tried to push him off me, but It didnt work. Is this considered Rape?
Second Question: I havent told anyone about this until now, and it happened a couple months ago, So theres no physical evidence left. But Ever since then Ive felt empty and numb to feelings and intimacy. Should I see a Counselor or therapist because of this? (link)
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Yes you were raped, I'm very sorry.
If you said no and didn't agree to it and he continued to do it than it's wrong and yes it is rape. I would try and talk to someone who can help you like a therapist
Hugs
BahaiMa22
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How do you get a cute background from somewhere else on your advice column?? I cant figure it out. Thanks =] (link)
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I've always used photobucket, You find what you want and on the bottom of the picture you like is a layout code.
When you find the picture you like copy the layout code below the picture
Paste the code to the page background settings on Advicenators where it says (Column settings)
If you want to upload a picture and it says (File unable to upload because it was 15k or larger) Try using tinypic.com to reduce the size of the file then copy the code and paste it in your profile settings.
-BahaiMa22
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18 Female,
Okay so I've been with my boyfriend since the start of march & so far so good...BUT he and his ex are still friends. I understand he can't just not talk to her ever again because they dated for like 4 years but her flirting with him & text msgs asking to stay at his house, Im getting upset over it. Im not the type to get angry and start a fight, I usually get upset & become quiet so Im not going to argue with my boyfriend about it. But i obviously need to deal with the fact that they're going to be friends.
He says theres nothing going on between them anymore, & that he's friends with all his ex's and they don't do anything except be friends. He told me he won't go back to his recent ex(the one i have a problem with) because she constantly pissed him off for like the last 1 yr of their relationship and they always fought to the point where he couldnt handle it anymore & that she's said she'll change so many times that he doesnt believe her anymore so yeah.
Can anyone give me suggestions on how to deal with them being friends? (link)
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Yikes Girl...
First off, Whenever the "ex" is involved it is usually never a good sign. If he was truely over her than he wouldn't need to have any contact with her whatsoever. I dated my exboyfriend for 5 years and once it was over it was over and I cut all contact. If he was truely in love with you than you should be enough for him. I think you need to sit him down and have a talk, It's her or you and that's it. You have every right to be angry, Personally I would be too if I was in that situation. If he continues to talk to her and text her than I don't think he's worth your time.
-BahaiMa22
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this isn't for homework -- just an opinion. what do you guys think this poem is about?, or what do you think about how it is written? any opinions at all would be good. :]
a heart nailed to a tree
fenced in and out of reach
you watched the crucifixion that lasted years
screams against deaf ears
helped surfaced brand new fears:
that your arms would never stretch for enough
that this heart could never be saved
that those shouts may never be heardor that the heart you wanted would change
when the torture was complete
the gate was open and the heart was free
a steady crescendo with each new beat
it lay bloodied under autumn's changing leaves
straining against the loudest sound
of the happy, bright thing you've found
a realization (something great could grow here someday)
a determination (maybe it is always all the same)
that could rip stars straight out of the sky
i have no right to ask this
i know i had my chance to try
but something about all of this
won't let me watch it die
you're happy in a safe placeprobably with greener grass and far less gore
i want to put that old smile on your face
i promise not to let you down anymore this wasted field is your place
the heart is always yours
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Wow,
Did you write that? It is very good.
I would say it's about overcoming hurt, Loosing someone close to you and it hurts so badly that you feel that your pain is beyond help and no matter how much it hurts nobody can feel that pain but you know in time that pain will heel and you will become strong enough to conquer anything and anyone.
I should start writing again, You've inspired me. I've been writing since I was 9 years old and I'm 23 now. I think I'll pick it up again :)
-BahaiMa22
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So I m 15 almost 16 and pregnant, my baby is due in late October early November. My boyfriend and I would like to stay together and raise our baby, and do the best we can we know it will be hard but we are up to it. He is a senior and graduating and taking over his dads company so money isn't an issue.
My parents are the issue, they don't like my boyfriend and think that if I have this baby and keep it then I will hand it off to them to raise. They want me to put the baby up for adoption. I think this would be very hard and I think I would regret it. What should I do? Im very confused on what I should do I don't know if I should just give the baby up for adoption or try to talk to my parents more about keeping it.
My parents always have said and still say that I am a smart enough girl to do anything I want and put my mind to but if I say I want to raise my baby and keep it they say i can't? Why are they going against what they have always said?
Also is there any way to get this pregnancy off my mind? I feel like everything I do I start thinking about the arguments at home and just being pregnant it keeps distracting me when Im at school and work and even when Im at home trying to fall asleep my mind just keeps wandering...
Sorry its long but just need help. (link)
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I think your best bet might be an adoption, You are still young and you have your whole life ahead of you. When people have a baby it changes EVERYTHING and everything is about the baby. If you ever decide to go to college remember you are still going to have that kid to take care of. Babies are hard work. They cry and they are up half the night, then you got diapers, crib, formula, clothes, car seat, toys, medical bills, etc. If you have a baby it is YOU and your boyfriends responsibility to take care of that child. Even though you say right now that money isn't an issue you need to have a plan B because sometimes plan A doesn't always go as you planned it. If your parents are telling you that you should give it up for an adoption then I'm sure they aren't telling you this to be mean, I'm sure they have a good reason for it. A baby is also not a puppy...You make it, You bring it in this world then you have that baby forever. Whatever you do, I wish you the best of luck
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What do you think is an appropriate age limit for dating? Like how many years older should it be and how many years younger. I am 18 years old and I have come to the realization that I need to set a date age limit... so any ideas would be lovely. Thanks. =]
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Personally I never go 4 years over my age. However, If you are 18 you might want to date someone 18 or older as it is illegal to date anyone under the age of 18 because they are still concidered to be a minor. Age is really NOT just a number, It is about maturity. If someone who was 18 dated someone who was 35 they are in completely different stages in there lives. Etc
You are now an adult, You can date whom you choose to date but remember if you choose to date a minor then you take a risk of being caught.
-BahaiMa22
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My girlfriend of 6 months just recently started tickling my best friend and acting goofy around him. We love each other and I don't think she would ever cheat on me, but I think she's doing it for my attention as I talk to her friends sometimes but never physically touch them. It just makes me uneasy seeing my girlfriend giggling with my best friend, but I don't want to act jealous because I don't want to start any drama as she probably doesn't mean anything by it...
How should I handle the situation (because this is making me really uncomfortable)? (link)
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Talk to her let her know it makes you uncomfortable and you do not like it. I personally think it's inapropriate of your girlfriend to be tickling another guy? It sounds like your girlfriend could be flirting with your friend or developed a crush on him.
Sit her down and talk to her.
-BahaiMa22
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I am a vegan. I have been one my WHOLE life. I dont eat meat, fish, peanut butter, a rare amount grains... just purely fruits and vegetables for the most part. I have a reaction when i have too much protein, so I take this "anti-protein shake" to give me the vitamins that i need. I am getting bored with what im eating... and i NEVER get full, so i eat excessively. Is there anything that you have had or can recommend that is not made of meat or dairy, but that is a good tasting dish? Im just getting bored and have resorted to junk foods- which is a BIG no-no. I want to eat GOOD foods, but I also dont want to feel hungry all the time like just eating fruits and vegetables does for me.
Any help would be great.
Age 18
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Wow,
I know EXACTLY what you are going through lol, I was vegan for 2 years.
One thing you might want to concider is taking a multi-vitiman after all if you only eat fruits and vegetables your body isn't getting everything it needs. If you do not drink regular milk try drinking soy milk, It's thicker than normal milk but it will give your body the calcium it needs. You could also try tofu, seitan, soy cheese. (seitan is almost like a meat substitute) You can also try making a pizza! You can buy gluten free bread, Soy cheese, and tomato sauce with vegetables. Believe it or not...I had this boyfriend who was sugar free, gluten free, meat free, dairy free it was hard as hell but I did it. lol
Good Luck ;)
-BahaiMa22
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I need to lose 40+ pounds by the middle of may. I know some of you will say its not healthy but I need to I have already been taking tha acia berry pills what else can I do to make this goal happen? (link)
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Excercise and drink alot of water.
Cut out the caffine, (Soda, Coffee, Juice etc)
Make sure you get a healthy amount of sleep, Lack of sleep can cause fatigue.
If you are hungry after dinner then eat 1 bowl cereal with low fat milk and nothing eles.
Watch the portion sizes, Don't over do it try to eat 1 meal portions and avoid going for seconds.
Drink a full glass of water before each meal
Watch the sodium and carbs.
You can do it!
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I think I'm a lesbian and I'm not too sure of how I should break it to my family and friends. Lets be honest I'm petrified. Not too worried about my family but my friends I'm very scared about telling, considering most of them are girls and will probably be scared away from me. Can someone please give me some advice on how I should break the news without all my friends running a mile. I need to get it out soon or I think I might just die with worry. (link)
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(I think I'm a lesbian)
Okay, If you "think" you are a lesbian then maybe you should give yourself more time to be sure you are before you come out and tell your family. Like many said below me, If you tell your friends and they judge you then they were never your true friends in the first place. There really is no light way of telling someone that you are a lesbain. It's a matter of being excepted, Just tell them. They are your family and they should love you for who you are no matter what. I have many friends who are guys that are gay and I have no problem with it infact it doesn't even cross my mind half of the time. Just remember, You are who you are. Just be happy :)
xx
BahaiMa22
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What is a good age to let a kid date? (link)
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I didn't start dating until I was seventeen. However, These days most young folks who start dating seem to end up having sex in the relationship despite how long they have been with there partner. Once they get through the sage of loosing there virginity it seems to be an on going thing from there and it continues. I would wait until 18 then the choice of who you want to date, what you want to do is yours. Just remember be safe
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I'm trying to find a babysitting job but I don't really have any expirience with young children. I got a response to babysit a 2 year old boy from 9-5 3 days a week and I don't even know how to take care of a 2 year old! Do they need changed? Do they eat normal food? Do they talk? Please give me tips so I don't sound stupid asking the mother questions like that. (link)
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Most two year olds are starting to talk a little bit here and there, They are usually potty trained and yes they eat normal food. (Cereal, Sliced apples, carrots, Cut up hot dog, Potato) 2 year olds love to play just like most young children. (Color, Play with blocks, draw, etc) However, Just be careful because that is also the age they like to put things in there mouths.
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