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Hey! My name is Ashlea. I've been a member on here for a few years. I'm 24 years old and have a little baby boy. I'm pretty outgoing and I love to joke around. I have a very strong sense of humor and I love making people laugh. I don't care too much about what other people think about me because in the end, you're all you got. Nothing else matters but your true opinion of yourself. I think everyone is beautiful in their own ways. I never look down on anyone nor do I judge people for their decisions or lifestyles. I love to listen to music. That's probably the only reason I like driving, otherwise, It'd be boring as hell. I love spending time with my son. He is by far the best thing that's ever happened to me. He is my best friend and when I'm with him, nothing else matters. The whole world could pass me by, and as long as I have him, it doesn't matter one bit. He's the only one who can truly make me smile. I am truly happy because of him. I love spending money when I have it, and sometimes, that can be a bad habit. I love to write poems, and am told I am very good at it, but only when I'm upset or bothered by something. Lately, though, I have not written any. I also enjoy writing. I seem to have a way with words and I love how a paper sounds after I write it. It makes me sound more intelligent.(lol) I also like to watch movies, mostly comedy and drama...I hate action movies and boy-ish movies. Horror movies give me nightmares(yes, even at this age.) ...I like to go on the computer alot and I love meeting new people, so feel free to get in touch with me!
I hate people who think they are better than you, and people who are snobby or stuck-up. Having that attitude will never get you anywhere in life, and I look at it as a sign of immaturity. I like to be around people that within the first 5 minutes of talking to them you know that you will already feel comfortable with them because they are that down to earth. I can't stand people who criticize other people and their lives. Understand that you, as well, have things about your life that you do not like...so you wouldn't like it very much if people talked about you in a bad way, would you? We're all human, we all make mistakes and run into bad situations. Things happen that we can't control. These are all parts of life though and can be handled with the help of others, which is why negative criticism is not needed.
I believe that what you can't control, you have to let go. Too often we hang onto things when we have no control or power over its outcome, so in the end, life will take its course and we have to just go with it.
I guess some people would say I can be selfish at times, although I choose not to believe that(lol), and if things don't go my way, i WILL be upset. But, I also learn to get over it and move on. I love giving advice. Everyone I know say that's the one thing they love about me the most...I never judge anyone on any of their problems and I truly do enjoy helping people with their problems in any way I can. I will go to any extent I have to in order to help someone else. I have a habit of putting other people's needs ahead of my own. I have been giving people advice and helping people so much with their problems that I don't even get that GREAT feeling anymore from helping people. It's just in my nature and I am happy to just be able to be of some sort of help to anyone: stanger or friend.
I am not here for the ratings or comments. I am only here to help you, and I hope to recieve help in return when I am in need as well. I understand how sometimes you just need somebody to talk to...someone that understands. So don't be afraid to ask me any questions about anything...i'll help you with anything I can. If there is anything I can help you with that you would like to discuss privately, you can note me in my inbox or email me as well as instant message me on AIM. I would be glad to help you. hope to hear from you soon!!
♥ .even the people that never frown...eventually b r e a k . d o w n. ♥
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hey guys im a 15 f n i was doin some jumping jacks the other day and for some reason my stomach started to hurt. it felt like i did too many sit ups but i was doing jumping jacks. i was just wondering why that happend cuz its real weird.
Maybe youre not used to exercising so the muscles werent used to the workout and made your stomach muscles hurt..or maybe you got muscle cramps..or maybe you were working out your stomach too while doing the jumping jacks by lifting your arms up and down which stretch our your stomach muslces!!
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*ash*
well heres the thing we were all at the mall a couple hours ago and i met up with my friend courtney she told me that if i went out with him he would hurt me and that he did that to her..and now he calls her names and pretty much treats her like shit but hes tellin me that she told him that i would cheat on him if i went out wit him but i dont know if he is juss sayin this n makin it up i have no idea what to believe n i was plannin on doin that at first but then i heard this but heres the problem kevin is the kinda guy who is nice n sweet n stuff then he lies n cheats on u...but hes the hott popular guy in school n mike is like the kinda guy who u dont know what to expect n i wanna go wit mike but i dont know what to do wit kevin cuz i really like him too...helppp ash..
--misty--
who will hurt yu?? kevin...or mikee???
if yu mean mike will hurt yu..then jus leave both these guyz alone ...or stick wit both of em ..and just date..dont get committed into anything..and just have fun and learn more and more about em as time goez by and then yull have an idea on which guy yull like more and wont hurt yu...
if yu get to kno em both better ..then yull get tah learn on how they really are and dont listen to wut otherz say..unless this girl yu talked to really wuz goin out wit him and hurt her..then maybe itz a wake up call to make yu realize not to even go foward with it..
hi how do i make a picture smaller? im trying to upload one, but it says its larger than 15. how can i make it smaller?
you can go into Paint and crop the pic to whatever size yu want!! and then save it..
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*ash*
Ever since I was LiL I would masterbate. Im not addicted to it I just do It once in a while but I remember doing it when I was 5!!(of course I didnt know what I was doing at 5 but all I knew was that it felt good and that I was going to do it) I was caught a lot when I was little and I remember one time my mom asked me if it felt good and she was really dissapointed in me. And I hated myself for it because every 5 year old wants their parents to be proud of them. But now I know what I'm doing and I havent been caught in like 5 years(im 14) Is there something wrong with me? Is it not normal to start sooo early?
No, its not weird..yu just found something new and exciting at a young age and we all kno how young kidz are curious with new thingz!!!
so itz not abnormal, you just got to experiance it at an earlier age than most!!
no worryz!!:)
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*ash*
idont know if i should go wit kevin or mike i have asked everyone 2 different questions with the same 2 guys kevin is a "playa" that doesnt care about u he juss wants sex but hes nice n sweet sometimes..but mike i juss met him but i know alot about him already n hes a really nice guy but hes 2 or 3 years older then me n i dont know what hes into but kevin is my age but my friend brooke has no idea what to do either...n we need helppp...we barely know them but we know kevin WAY too well...plz helpp ash..
o0o yur the one that asked those thingz!! ooook i gethca now lol
WELL then .. i really think that yu shuld get to kno mike a lil more and stick by kevin ..then wen yu get tah kno mike a lil better, yu can decide..but i really dont think that Kevin is good for yu .. cuz rite wen yu hear "playa"..yu kno thatz bad newz...
so i think yu shuld get tah kno mike cuz who knoz..maybe mikez a playa too or maybe hez not...yull never kno if yu dont find out and then yull live yur life wondering "wut if.."
so stick wit kev but get tah kno mike a lil more until yu can really decide..
but regardless if yu lyk mike or not in the end..i think yu shuld get rid of kevin ..
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im not sure which givez better resultz..
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*ash*
this is a continuation to my question from earlier about the boyfriend doing the new things in bed.
well i asked him where they came from and he told me that we needed to try new things. alot of people told me he may or may not be cheating. like i said im just suspicious becuase we havent had sex in a while, and then all of a sudden we do and its all this crazy wild shit. i'm not saying that i didnt like it... its just strange. strange since we havnt done it in a while, and also cuz he didnt even like discuss these new techniques with me, he just went about them. and of course i went with them cuz they werent bad ideas and all. also, i am pregnant, so like my sex drive is always down, and his is always up. i read that this is very normal, like there is just something that turns guys on about thier woman being pregnant, and there is something that turns woman off about being pregnant, i guess cuz we get all fat. but yeah, because of my low sex drive, i kinda have been pushing him away. could there also be a possibility that he just gave me some space to wait for me to want to do it again? or maybe he got self consious, and was thinking he wasnt that good anymore and wanted to find some new techniques for us to do to make things better? i dont know, but i am like really beating myself up wondering where he got them from. what i really need is a guys oppinion. and if there may be any girls who have experienced this sort of situation that would be good too.
hey, i answered yur question earlier as well..and for this question i have to say just come out and explain this to him..make him tell yu where he got it from .. after all, if he isnt cheating..he shuld have nuthing to worry about!!! simply ask him to tell yu where hez gettin all these ideas from!! and pregnant woman are beautiful!..and yes, yur sex drive may be lowered, but then yur guy shuld want to take care of yu and be home wit yu mostly...so he shuldnt even have time to cheat ...if hez not the dad, he shuld still care about yu and this baby...and still want to take care of yu while yur pregnant..so my advice is to plz just ask him..im sure he'll have no problem tellin yu where hez gettin this from!! and also, is there any other suspisions that lead yu to think hez cheating besidez the sex thing??
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*ash*
do guys like when girls where fishnets? (guys answer too!) and what are some good sites where i can order some? thanks
im not really sure that fishnets are still in style .. but if you're into the punk-rock scene, then go for it!! try Hot Topic for some, they have em there!!!
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*ash*
I'm 17 years old and I was friends with my boyfriends sister before I started going out with my boyfriend. I never really hung out with her that much or anything and I got to know her brother through parties. Blah blah blah. We have been together 9 months and now she is saying things infront of my friends that arent true. Such as last night infront of my friends she said "My Mom said your ditzy" I got so embarassed so I said something to my boyfriend like how I dont want to be at his house when his mom is there because I feel like an idiot because I haven't gotten to know her too well she works a lot. My boyfriend got mad and said his mom woudl never say that and calle dhis mom and she denys it and he called hsi sister flipping out and she is saying that it was said. I dont know what to do because I feel like I caused a whole big problem and I feel like I can;'t show my face at the hosue because one of them is lying and its embarassing and everything. Any suggestings??
I think that you shuld stay clear of that house for a few dayz ... but also, try and make friendz wit his sis bc maybe she dont lyk yu and is making up liez ....or maybe his mom dont lyk yu..but then again, she is an adult so she wuldnt necessarily lie about wut she said and wut she didnt...
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good luck!!
*ash*
my friend brooke has this boy that she likes josh hes the boy i like mike's best friend..and i just met these boys like a couple of days ago i met mike at roller kingdom when he IMed me and told me i was hott so we kinda sorta hooked up n i have no idea if i should go for it or if brooke should go for josh..i mean me and mike were at his house today n i have a boyfriend..but we were makin out n suff in his room while everyone was up stairs n i dont want my boyfriend to find out even though he is kinda well a "playa" n does stuff that i dont know if im into i have NO idea what so ever if me and brooke should go for those guys even though we juss met them...but they are soo nice..n they like us too n they make us happy but we still juss met them what should we doo..?
I know what you mean...guyz can be fun to hang around with and yu'll LOVE the feeing that they care about yu!!
but, my advice is to stick with yur boyfriend...to me, this jus sounds lyk a fling with these 2 dudes...
and brooke, be careful and i dont think yu shuld be gettin wit these dudez either only bc it sounds too much lyk a fling to me...think about it..they have repz lyk a playa and he mite even try and force yu to do things with him yu dont wana do ..and then if yu say no, he mite harm yu(rape...)....so PLZ be careful girlz!!!
and oh yeh..try this...dont give him head or let him even touch yu down there either for a whileee..and see if he starts to get mad that yur not lettin him do these sexual thingz with him..and that will give yu an idea on wut hes really after..
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*ash*
Alrite my gf told me today that she kinda like my bestfriend.I do love her though but being with her and knowing she likes someone else it just wouldnt be the same.I want her to be with me but I can't force her to.What should i do or say to get this thing clear up?
Tell her that you love her and you really want to stay with her, but if letting her be with someone else will make her happy, then so be it cuz yu only want whats best for her and her happiness..now, her being with yur best friend is going to be VERY hard to see and be around..maybe yu shuld explain to her that yu understand how she lykz yur friend and all, but it wuld make yu feel really really uncomfortable to be around them kissing and everything...so then maybe her and yur best friend can see eachother when youre not around and hang out alone..but wen theyre around yu, they can calm it down a bit.
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*ash*
HI uummm see i just broke up with my boyfriend because he was beating me, u know banging my head n his car hood, and stuff , so I broke up with him and well i still love him for some reason but did i do the right thing?
plz help!
yu DEFINATELY did the right thing!! of course yur still gona love him, thatz normal..but it was the BEST thing for yu to do!! plz dont go back to him..it will only get worse..plz take it from sumone who knoz about this(ive been thru this type of thing b4) .. so plz plz plz do whats best for YOU and keep yurself safe by staying away from him!! i kno yu still love him but just keep reminding yurself of all the hurt he put yu thru!!..it helpz!!!
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*ash*
well you know how when your young alot of pplz have an imaginary friend right well I have one and I'm 14 it keeps telling me what to do to myself and I feel crazy right now it made me take a perk...and I don't know where he is but I'm scared I don't know what to do and I don't want to go see my scary doctor....any suggestions??
You should get a new doctor or something bc this imaginary friend seems dangerous..yu may be a scitzaphraniac(sp?) and yu prolly need some form of medication to help you. dont be ashamed about this issue and dont worry about what others say about this issue bc remember, yur the one that has to live yur life, noone else..so keep yur head high and get help!! yull be glad yu did!!
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*ash*
i used to cut for 2 years but my ex bf told after i went through a lot and he told so now im getting help...well the other day my friend came over and we were talking about cutting but i stopped so she said "well getting high takes it away like cutting does" so i got high, my friends would kill me if they found out...and theyd probably tell and i dont want that to happen...theyd probably all hate me too and i dont want that to happen cauze i love them all sooo much! but the only person who knows is that girl...help me please, what do i do?
i wouldnt smoke...i wuld try to find other things to get yur mind off cutting. i wuld get help..well yu already are, so keep doing that!! find hobbies to keep yu happy and it seemz lyk yu have a caring boyfriend, so stick by him!!
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*ash*
My sweet 16 (which also happens 2 b my Golden birthday) is coming up soon! I really wanna have an awesome party this year 4 my bday, except I don't exactly have a cool house 2 party at. Could any1 give me any ideas that I could (hopefully) do @ home? (I'm also willing 2 take ideas that wouldn't b @ my house.)
Thx!
Try having a pool party or having it at a rec center, a hall, or somewhere else with events!!
if you do have it at yur house, have it in the backyard so you can light candles at nite and put up cool looking see thru tents and all, and make it look really pretty and then jus hang out wit all yur friends and family members!!
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*ash*
there is this kid that is always following me around. i dont know how to say stop with out hurting his feelings. like if i go to the library, he follows me. if i go to the sotre, he follows me, what should i say?
Maybe you should try and talk to him once!! maybe youll grow to like him and you 2 can become friends!!! he must really like you if he keeps spending HIS time to follow YOU around...i'd definately try and talk to him and then after yuz talk for a lil while, simply ask why he followz yu so much..
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*ash*
i love my boyfriend.. or ex boyfriend i should say, very much. so as of right now, i am waiting for him and i have been for about 3 months or so now. i know its unfair to me, but he has told me numerous times that he loves me and that eventually he would get back with me. we were together for a pretty long time and he decided to end things because he wanted to go out and have fun.. and also bc i moved, although, not a very long distance at all. we still spend time with each other now and then and we still keep in touch.. and he assures me that he isnt seeing any other females. but well, i was wondering, if he loves me like he says he does, then why is it that hes not with me now?
well, him sayin he wants to "have fun" is basically saying he wants to go see wut else is out there and be with other girls for a little while. i wuldnt go back with him only bc its not fair at all that your sitting there on a string waiting for this guy and hes out doing whatever!! i think yu shuld move on ..its gon be hard but its for the best in the end!!!
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*ash*
i have a boyfriend kevin but i want another guy named mike and kevin is like the hottest guy alotta ppl like him n mike is just soo much nicer n there is a less chance of him hurtin ur feelings becvause kevin is the kinda guy who would cheat on you and has already done alotta things that i dont know if im into yet...but lately i have been talking to mike alot and hanging out with him when im goin out wit kevin n i have NO IDEA what to doo....because alot of girls would be lucky to have kevin and i think i have alot more feelings for mike ... what should i doo??
First of all, the guys looks have NOTHING to do with who they are AT ALL..so if you are thinking of staying with Kevin just because he is hotter..yur CRAZY!! lol please dont stay with someone jus cuz of their good looks..and if theres soo much more chance of getting hurt by kevin than mike..i wuld definately go for mike no questions asked!! let sum other girl have kevin and get hurt!! but dont let it be yu!! plz go wit mike..well, thatz my opinion based on wut yu told me..
good luck!!!!!:) have fun hunniee
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*ash*
ok, well i cut. and i dont want to hear the "oh dont do that! blah blah blah" im really trying to stop and i dont need anyone to be pressuring me right now. but anyways..i usually cut on my shoulders so no one can see and so that i dont kill myself. but the other day i cut my wrist. and i mean, i wanted to, but i didnt want it to bleed...and i didnt even push hard. i just ran it slightly across the skin. and it just started bleeding. im fine and everything, but is that normal? like is the skin just really delicate there or something?
yes the skin is VERY delicate on your wrists and VERY thin and there are soo many veins there that i dont even wana begin to explain. and even on your shoulders its thin..cutting is a very unhealthy thing to do in the first place bc you can die by cutting any where on your body and you can get very sick and it also can be very embarrasing if somebody sees the scars!!
if you want to stop cutting, heres some sites you can visit:
http://www.healthyplace.com/communities/Self_Injury/bloodred/stop/
http://www.queendom.com/chaiselongue/mentalhealth/m_jefgazley15.html
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good luck!!
*ash*
okay.. me and my friend, the other day at lunch wanted to get higher in tha line so i was like.. heyy.. that guy is hot.. lets go talk to him.. and we went over there.. and i was like.. wow.. your so hot.. and he was like.. thanx.. you are tooo.. so.. it was kool.. well anyways.. he asked me out.. and i said i dunno.. just so i can get to know him better first.. and now my friend is like.. no.. dont go out with him.. your steling him from me.. and im like.. uh.. ok? he was mine? so.. should i go out with him or not? * i WiLL rAtE*
ask the guy which one of you he wantz...and plus, no guy is worth getting in a fight with one of your girlfreinds over...so maybe this guys not worth it if its gonna turn into a fight..just tell the guy that your friend is mad and you dont think it wuld be a good idea to move foward with him right now.
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good luck!!
*ash*