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Q: I dont have severly yellow teeth, but they could definitely be whiter. What products could I use to whiten them? I want to use crest white strips but I have braces so I dont know if it will work.
After your braces come off, definitely use Crest White Strips (best brand) unless you want to do Laser Whitening professionally at the dentist's.

Q: every night after my shower i put a clean and clear brand astringent that helps fight oil and acne then after that i use a moisturizer... will these two cancel each other out cause the astringent fights oil and the other one moisturizes? or is this a good combination that will leave my skin moisturized but not oily or dry?? thanks!
Astrigents are also toners that help maintain the pH of your skin. They can make dry skin even dryer if you use the ones containing alcohol but those are not good. Use Burt's Bees Tomato Toner, for example, made with natural ingredients. You pat it on your face and wait a while for it to absorb before putting on moisturizer for maximum absorption. Moisturizers are supposed to be oil free, the two don't cancel each other out although that is a good question.

Q: i want to bleach the hair on my upper lip with hydrogen peroxide (used on cuts). how would i do that??
I suggest this already invented product to bleach the hair on your upper lip. It's caleld Jolen cream bleach can be found in any drugstore or beauty store. It looks like this: http://images.ciao.com/iuk/images/products/normal/049/product-67049.jpg

Q: hey hey hey. im in this literature class and we are supposed to start writing a short story. i came up with this idea like this girl had it all and then one day she is forced to move to this school across the state and its "in the hood" and stuff. she is depressed and tries to O.D. but i am not like this at all. i would never even think of O.Ding so i have no idea which drug to use...so what would be a believeable drug to have Nicole take?
Popular drugs "in the hood" that can be overdosed on are like heroin and cocaine. If it were in the suburbs people can overdose on like prescription drugs.

Q: I lie all the time, and I'm great at it, I can fake cry and bring all sorts of symptoms to the table to make it seem genuine. It gets me int o a lot of bad situations but I can't seem to stop. I've tried writing up every lie and then trying to set things staright, I've tried praying.. what do I do now?
Compulsive lying may be a disorder. You may want to get that checked out. It's good that you acknowledge your problem and want to take steps to solve it. Research on your symptoms: http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&q=chronic+lying&btnG=Google+Search&aq=f&oq=

Q: 15 / F
I always get the perfect amount of sleep per night. Well, it varies from eight to ten hours. I take a melatonin pill at night to help me fall, and stay asleep.
The problem is, I NEVER wake up refreshed! I'm always dragging myself out of bed.
I've recovered from hypothyroidism which makes you really sleepy, but I'm taking Levothyroxine for that.
So, why can't I get out of bed in the morning?
Or else, how can I get a more satisfying nights sleep?
It is quality, not quantity that counts, right?
Sleeping aids make you feel drowsy when awake, if you've ever read the list of side effects on the box of sleeping pills. I imagine melatonin pills do the same. Hmm. I don't know if the combination of drugs you are taking affects your sleep. Instead of an aid for sleeping, exercise a couple of hours before you sleep is a natural way to get your body tired and ready for rest. Don't eat before you sleep or do any strenuous mind-active activities. Find out what keeps you up at night.

Q: I am going to attempt a pole dance for my man on valentines day and really need to know and good songs to strip to! Any style will work, modern or old burlesque...I have no prefference!! Just want something sultry! Thank you so much for any help!!!!
"Touch My Body" - Mariah Carey
"I'm Too Sexy" - Right Said Fred
"You Sexy Thing (I Believe in Miracles)" - Hot Chocolate
"Da Ya Think I'm Sexy" - N-Trance & Rod Stewart
"Turn Me On" - Cocorosie
"It's Getting Hot in Here" - Nelly
"Dirrty" - Christina Aguilera
"Fergalicious" - Fergie
"SexyBack" - Justin Timberlake & Clipse
"Don't Cha" - Pussycat Dolls
"Promiscuous Girl" - Timbaland & Nelly Furtado
"I Wanna Love You" 0 Akon & Snoop Dogg

Q: 14/f
I'm sorry this is going to be sort of long.
Sometimes a really...well, sometimes I HATE my best friend. I know that's a really bad thing to say, but that's really how I feel sometimes. She never wants to do the same things I do-like when I say, do you want to come over? She says, flat out, no, which is not only rude, but it's really hurtful, or if I want to go on a walk, I always have to talk her into it, otherwise she says she's "too tired". I can never have fun with her-like if I say, I love you! She starts freaking out on me and calls me a lesbo, so I can never say that to her. And the most annoying thing she does is she ALWAYS cancels on me! Here's what normally happens:
I invite her over for a sleepover 2 weeks before. She says yes, and we get all excited and start planning out our sleepover. I have to bend and negotiate with my parents for it to happen- usually something like double chores, a lot of begging, or etc. So for the two weeks we talk about it and whatever. Then the night of the sleepover, the phone rings, I pick it up, and she's on the other line. Here's what she says: "Hey. Uhm, I can't come." The excuses are normally: 'I'm tired.', 'I don't feel like it.' 'My stomach/head hurts.', 'My parents don't feel good.', 'I haven't seen my mom for two days.', or 'I have too much homework.' Something along those lines. Once it was something totally out of the blue--her dad broke his foot, so apparently she couldn't come over. This really wouldn't bother me, but it's just that it's happened more than once. Actually, WAY more than once. Maybe fifty or so times.
So I don't know what to do. I've tried talking to her about it, but she gets all upset, and she doesn't understand where I'm coming from. I really love my best friend, I've known her since 3rd grade, so I don't want to end our friendship. I really need help! I'm sorry that was so long.
Toxic friendships end up hurting you in the end. Maybe you should think about either distancing yourself from her or having an open heart-to-heart conversation with her about what is bothering you, which is basically everything you told us above. It's hard for people to change their little habits. You should start hanging out with more people and find another best friend. Maybe stay friends with this girl and talk to others so you can ease into it and little by little separate yourself from her. Just because you guys have been together forever doesn't mean you should be comfortable with the annoying, if familiar. That was probably not what you wanted to hear. Just talk to her about your relationship and see what to do from there. If she doesn't react well, then find another. If she wants to patch things up, that's great. Good luck.

Q: What does "I can't do anything with your easy words" mean (from the movie "Closer")? Thanks.
It's also like saying, "Talk is cheap." or "That's easy for you to say." The words come easily for him but when push comes to shove, his actions don't reflect what he says.

Q: So... about senior prom. Will it be DEVASTATING if I don't go? My friends are really cynical about it and don't want to go, and no - I won't be able to convince them to go. My best friend is setting it up. She has to go. I could go with her... but I don't really know the other friends that she would be hanging out with.

The thing is - I don't really want or NEED to go. But I just don't want to go and have an awkward time because I feel like I'm OBLIGATED to go. Is prom really that big of a deal?
Did you go to junior prom? I felt that it was better than senior prom. The fun thing about senior prom is going with a good friend or a date and arriving in a limo but there's not much after that. Just some boring dancing and maybe good food. If there is a post-prom, go to that. It's fun - there are games and you win prizes.

Q: i don't really like doing sexual things.

sure, they feel good...but after it all im wet and i feel so gross. is this normal? and when my boyfriend was fingering me it kinda felt good but i couldnt relax because im pretty tight and i kept thinking he was gonna accidently do something wrong...(first time fingering someone)
so is this normal?
16/f
Maybe you're not ready or comfortable.

Q: Has anyone else noticed that questions are the same? I mean I love this site, but latly i've been getting bored because every question is the same!! It bothers me. Like 13 year olds talking about boyfriends, friends, and sex. It's like how difficult is your life at 13?! Anyone else feel the same? ANd how can i make this site more interesting for me?
There are some good questions here. You just need to weed out all the repetitive ones. You can go over to Yahoo! Answers which is huge and has way more variety. I think something should be done about the same questions. There should be a blog or something that answers these questions and people should search there for an answer first before asking anything.

Q: Hey! I was just wondering if anyone has any personal advice or a website of "How-To" do eye make up like this

http://i28.tinypic.com/2a5hjci.jpg
http://i29.tinypic.com/jrwpz9.jpg
(^girl on the right for this one)

This isn't me, it's just some photos I found & I thought her eye-make up was pretty.

My eyes are dark brown, but they look black
would my eyes still stand out, even thought my dark brown eyes look pretty much black?

thanks !
Fake eyelashes, top and bottom. Lots of black mascara and black eyeliner. Cover Girl Exact Eye Lights Mascara is supposed to make your eye color stand out. They have different shades of mascara color to match your needs. You can get color contacts if you want too.

Q: i smoke weed, i drink, and i snort pills.i dont get affected, why??and i dont need anyone saying anythings about, oh its not good for you.just answer my question please :)
You got lucky or built a tolerance or don't do it right to get affected, maybe.

Q: What is this 'Team Alex' thing?! I hear and see it everywhere, mainly on youtube. You can type Team Alex into youtube and they're will be hundreds of people talk about loving him.. and missing him. WHAT? I don't understand. All I figured out is that his name is Alex Mendoza, if that helps..
There are "teams" for actors/actresses. It's just a phrase meaning that the person is a fan of that celebrity. Usually that celebrity is like "at war" with another celebrity and so there are sides/teams for each like Team K-Fed and Team Britney or something like that.

Q: well this kid i know snorts oxycotin, and i really dont know about that drug. can he die from it?
You can overdose on anything. People have died from drinking excessive amounts of water. Everything in moderation.

Q: Well, i've been collecting Archie comics for a VERY long time and have accumulated a large box full. From them I have recieved so many memories that I feel I can't part with them, but I already told someone that I would sell them to him and now I feel really bad about it. I didn't think I would have a problem giving them away, but now I go through the box and think of all the years reading them with friends and collecting them. He's coming in a few days to possibly buy them. They would be going to a place where im sure they would love them as much as I did. Are they worth keeping? Should I keep my favorites and give the rest away? I know they are just comics, but they hold a lot of memories...
You can "borrow" them from your friend for nostalgia, right? But now they will technically be his. He'd probably understand if you don't want to part with them. Or just raise the price lol unreasonably high. In all seriousness, I think you should keep them if you have doubts.

Q: So I'm doing an experiment on tropism, and how music affects plants. I'm doing negative vs. positive music. For negitive I'm using "Guarded" by Disturbed. I'm not sure what to use for positive, though. It's got to be something very relaxing, happy, and something I can tolerate listening to at a fairly loud volume for an hour and a half for a week. :P I was thinking something like Jason Mraz, Simplelife, or something like a piano tribute. Any ideas?

Thanks!
**EDIT:
I cut each song off at 3 minutes. I found that there was no major difference in the plants but I don't remember how many trials I did. Do at least 3 (3 plays of each song) for maximum results.

I did this project for science class before!

Bubbly by Colbie Caillat
Banana Pancakes by Jack Johnson
Don't Know Why by Norah Jones

BTW, there are different kinds of negative and positive music. Like Classical and Pop might be different results. I don't know if you wanna categorize it all down even further. For example, rock isn't necessarily positive or negative, just upbeat and loud.

Q: last night i ordered shrimp for the first time. it was really tasty! but afterwards it kind of made my stomach hurt and i got a headache. i actually ended up throwing up later that night most of what i ate! my mom said its probably because ive never had it before and your actually not suppose to eat shrimp because they are toxinous or something? she said they clean out the ocean or something like that. why are you not suppose to eat shrimp is my question? is my mom right
Are you allergic to shrimp? That could be a reason. Or food poisoning.

Q: Is there another company besides Edible Arrangements, that makes fruit baskets made to look like flowers? Or anything similar. I want to get my mom somethng cool for the holiday season that can be delivered. I only want things that are edible...like nuts or fruit or something. Thank you.
Check the Fresh Fruit Bouquet Company: http://www.ffbc.com/ for a store near you.

Unless you would like to make a fruit bouquet/basket yourself:
http://www.plan-the-perfect-baby-shower.com/fruit-bouquet.html
http://www.wikihow.com/Make-a-Fruit-Bouquet

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