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i was just reading some advise you give people. you seem like you know alot what your talking about so i wanted to ask you a ?
well i like this guy rite && my friend went up to him & said" do you like her" and he said maybe ill tell you next time we have spanish class. well this isnt untill like after skool vacation. so do you think he likes me or like by him saying "maybe" he dosnt?
if you could help me i would appreciate it. ill rate big time.
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-muwah (link)
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I'm sorry, but there just isn't any way for me to know how he feels about you. You don't have enough information, so all I could do is make a blind guess - and I don't think you want that.
If it's any consolation, at least you have some idea of when you'll find out. That puts you ahead of a lot of people. And if it turns out that he doesn't like you, don't take it too hard; believe me, there are a million other boys out there.
Good luck!
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how do you become an organ donor? can you donote organs and other parts for money? (link)
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The answer varies depending on what country you're in. If you're in the US, though, you might want to look here:
http://www.organdonor.gov/
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Does anybody know any cute pictures (or funny, or weird..etc) that wish people a merry christmas or Happy Holidays?! that i can comment people with. I can make one in paint but they always turn out ugly. And please not one that is too big in width [that will take up a lot of space in the comment box]
any ideas..pictures..?!PLease?!
Thanks so much!!!
Happy Holidays to all of you! (link)
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A great source for images of all kinds is Google's image search. Just go to Google, choose the image tab, and type in (for example) "Merry Christmas".
I just did, and there are a lot of great images. Check it out!
http://images.google.com/images?q=%22Merry+Christmas%22&hl=en&btnG=Search+Images
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I know this is going to sound weird but, if your vagina starts to burn after you have sex (no condomn) what does that mean? (link)
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You haven't given enough information. It could mean all sorts of things, including the possibility of an STD. That could be very serious.
It would be better not to take a chance; you should see your OB/GYN. And of course you must know that unprotected sex, at ANY time, can result in pregnancy. If you don't want to get pregnant, talk to your OB/GYN IMMEDIATELY about contraception options.
Good luck!
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Ok so i wanna be an actress!!!! i have done comunity theater, I am a good actress and I wanna live in NY. But my mom...Im only 13!! She wants me to go to college so i thought, i will go for an arts degree right? Wrong!! she wont pay for an arts degree and college is way more $ than im gonna be able to aford and i know, i should'nt be thinkin bout college at 13? right? well my mom says i really should be "focusing on my future"?!??!? what does that mean? I wanna be an actress sooooo badley! what should i do?
ps. Please help!!! (link)
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Your mother isn't taking your wish to be an actress seriously, obviously. The bad news is that there's no easy way to quickly change her mind. The GOOD news is that there are some things that you can do to change her opinion before the time comes for you to choose a college.
So here's what I'd recommend:
Do a lot more community theatre. It's all good experience, a chance to stretch your abilities and learn. Other acting opportunities may come up through the connections you make there; take them, if they feel right to you.
If you have an allowance or some other source of money, you might consider saving some of it towards acting lessons. But right now, experience is the best teacher. You might also learn some useful stuff by reading books about acting; check your local library.
In the meantime, you need to allay your mother's fears. She probably thinks that you're chasing a hopeless dream, and fears that you'll waste your education in the process. So at the same time that you're keeping up with community theatre, you need to work hard at school.
Sorry, I know that may sound boring, but if acting is what you really want then this is your best chance to do it. If you can show your mother that you can both act AND do well in school, her opinion may - slowly - change about acting.
You have four years. I think that will be enough time. And remember, getting good grades will also improve the range and quality of acting schools that you can enter.
This is your big chance. It may not be easy. But please believe me, your dreams are worth it.
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Im sick and i have been for the last 3 days...I dont knw wat i have and i would really like to knw so maybe i can treat it and get better b4 christmas eve/christmas day. here are my symptoms: sore throat, stuffy nose, headache, coughing, stiff neck, getting the chills when i dont take medicine like tylenol for awhile,and not being able to sleep. my mom wont take me to the doctor, the thing that i would love to be without is the sore throat all the other stuff i can deal with. wat should i do?
thnx i rate 5 to anyone who tries! (link)
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As far as I know none of us here on Advicenators are doctors, although there may be a few medical students, though. And even if there WERE a doctor here, it would be professionally irresponsible to make a diagnosis over the internet.
So if anyone tells you that you have a particular illness, they'd be asking for trouble - and you'd be making a mistake if you assumed that they were right.
Your mother REALLY should take you to a doctor. Can you tell us why she isn't? Has she given you a reason? Can you talk to your father or some other responsible adult (a teacher, counselor, coach, minister, rabbi, school nurse, or something)?
You also didn't mention if you have a fever. That could be important.
I hope I'm not breaking any rules if I say that what you've described matches various illnesses that I've had. So I suppose it could be a cold, or the flu, or something more serious. My own little boy recently had similar symptoms, plus a fever. Our pediatrician first said he had a stomach virus...and then when he got worse over the next couple of days, she had him get a blood test and x-rays. It turned out that he had pneumonia.
She put him on antibiotics and he's responded really well. But it just goes to show you: even a doctor with a lot of experience can be wrong on the first diagnosis. And sometimes what seems like a cold can be something a lot more serious.
So I'd strongly suggest that you talk to your mother and find some way to see a doctor.
Good luck!
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my nose is very sore and irritated from blowing it so much. what can i put on it to soothe it?
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First, get some of those tissues that have aloe and lotion in them - they'll keep the problem from getting worse.
Second, put any skin-care lotion on your nose - personally I like aloe, but almost anything should work. The point is to protect the skin and retain moisture. That increases the healing process.
Third, make sure to put extra lotion on your nose before you go to sleep. You should wake up feeling a lot better.
Fourth, stay hydrated. Keep a glass of water near you, and sip from it frequently. That will definitely help.
Last, if you have a humidifier, make sure it's clean and run it in your room when you're sleeping. Moisture in the air will help your nose feel better, heal quicker, and will help with your cold, too.
Oh, and take some aspirin or tylenol or other painkiller if the pain keeps you from sleeping - assuming, of course, that it's safe for you to take them and they don't conflict with any other medication that you may be taking.
Feel better soon!
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okay, well the thing is.
i have a really great boyfriend. we've been dating for aout 3 or 4 months now && i really like him. he told me a few nights ago that his dad has really bad, uncureable, stomach cancer. i dont know what to do. i've never dealt with dealth at all before, i've just never had too. so i dont know what to say to him. he never really brings it up because he doesnt want me to know hes upset. im also the only person who knows. i know it upsets him because him && his dad have always been close.
what are some things i could say or do that would console him??
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I'm sorry, but there really isn't anything much that you can do; this is just too big for you, or ANYONE to help him with.
That said, you can help by being supportive. If he wants to talk, listen; let him know that you're there for him. But don't bring up the issue if he doesn't, because it will take him time. Give him space if he asks for it.
There are books about dealing with grief and loss, of course, and you should be able to find some in your local library.
But all in all, the most you can do is simply to be loving and supportive. And be understanding if he wants time to himself; he may not be comfortable grieving or crying in front of you. Some guys still think that showing their emotions is a sign of weakness.
Good luck!
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i have severe agoraphobia so i cant get out. im getting help so i dont need advice about that, i really needs ideas though on what i can do while im stuck in the house all day everyday. ive been like this for 4 years so i get very depressed especially when im bored. i get bored of tv, computer, videos/dvds. if anyone can think of things to keep me ocupied and happy that would be fantastic thank you x (link)
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The best way that I've found to entertain myself under that sort of circumstance is to tap into your creativity. Games and TV and videos are all okay, but they're basically stagnant - that is, you watch them or play them or whatever, and when you're done with that all you've done is kill some time.
If you do something creative, on the other hand, you'll know you really got something done. It's great for giving you something to think about, something that you'll enjoy.
The thing is, you need to figure out where your creative interests lie. That may take some thought, and you may need to try a lot of different things. Painting. Drawing (on the computer or on paper). Sculpting. Crafts. Writing, fiction or non-fiction. Heck, even giving advice can be creative! :D
Personally, I've found that I get the most fun out of writing fiction. That may not work for you, but there has to be SOME sort of creative area that you enjoy, and quite possibly *several* areas. So experiment, and see what happens!
Oh, and don't set your expectations too high at first. Whatever you do doesn't have to be *perfect* - it just has to be fun. Don't assume that you're writing, or painting, or whatever it is you do with the goal of selling your stuff. Start by creating things for an audience of one: you. That way, you'll be able to really let yourself go and find out what works best for you.
Good luck!
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i have never had a crush on girls just boys i wanna have sex with boys. with girls the same and i fantasize about doing stuff to them tell me what is wrong with me this is the worse i have ever felt in my life. i rate high if u help me good (link)
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I'm not sure EXACTLY what you're asking; sorry, but your question is a little unclear. But it's a big mistake to worry about your sexuality. It is what it is, and worrying or feeling bad won't change that. If you're attracted to girls or to boys or to both, that's how you are - and you shouldn't feel bad about it.
(As long as you're not attracted to little kids or animals or something, of course. If THAT'S your problem, you should talk to a counselor or behavioral health specialist as soon as possible.)
I'm guessing that you're young. I know this issue seems huge to you right now, and it IS important. But you have to try not to worry about it. If some thought turns you on, it turns you on - that's just how it is. Don't worry, don't panic, just relax and learn what you can from your feelings. Fantasies are harmless, and guilt can only hurt you.
In any case, your sexuality is almost certainly still developing. Give yourself time, and as you mature you'll discover just what sort of a person you are - sexually, and in all kinds of ways. If you can learn to be proud of who and what you are (whatever that is), you'll be happy. You'll probably make other people happy, too.
And that's what matters. Best of luck.
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One of my best friends that I've known all of my life asked me a really weird question the other day. He asked me if I would give him head and I thought he was kidding so I started to laugh. And then he said "I'm serious." So I kind of looked at him with a blank stare. And I told him I don't know and he was like begging me to and I said I'd think about it. I just think it's kind of weird that he would ask ME to do that. What should I do? I know he doesn't like me as a girlfriend so I don't know why he asked me.
Another question I have is does oral and anal sex count as your "first time"? Or is it just regular? Because if it does count then I don't really want to because I'd like to lose my virginity to someone mor special.
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It's your life, and ultimately your decision. But personally, I'd say that oral and anal sex ARE sex. You probably shouldn't get sexually involved with someone that you don't love, or at least like a lot and find really attractive.
And if you're not sure if you want to do something, it's smart not to do it.
As for why he asked you...the truth is, teenage boys are horny. Horny beyond all belief. When sex enters the picture, 99% of all boys stop thinking rationally. I mean it - they literally stop thinking in any kind of sane way.
The sad truth is, girls mature emotionally much more quickly than boys do - but boys mature sexually much more quickly than GIRLS do. It's kind of a cruel trick by Mother Nature. And it means that girls need to be smart, to use that emotional maturity to protect themselves, and never let themselves be rushed or forced into doing something that they're not ready for.
Because boys generally don't appreciate it (although they'll swear up and down BEFORE that they will), don't respect the girls who oblige them, and will almost certainly keep looking for NEW girls to have sex with. I'm sorry, but that's basic biology.
You have good instincts. Wait until you really feel ready. It'll be much better that way.
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ok this is beyond sad but i am 13(f)and i still sorta pick my nose. i mean its not like DIGGING FOR GOLD but still.how do i stop this!?!? also i get alot of nose bleeds randomly(not when my finges are NEAR my nose.)
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I'm not sure if this is a troll question, but I'll give you a serious answer.
Everyone does it; it's a biological necessity. If you didn't, your nostrils would fill up and impair your breathing.
It's no accident that the human finger is just the right size to fit in a nostril, just as it's not a coincidence that even our little fingers are too big to actually enter our ear canals. These are evolutionary developments, survival factors; they allow us to keep breathing and to avoid destroying our eardrums.
Something funny: did you know that cats *lick* their nostrils clean? Look at a cat's nose sometime. Their nostrils are slitted, and the tips of their tongues fit perfectly in the slots. Yucky, but true.
It's socially unacceptable in most (but not all) human cultures to publicly pick your nose, though, so the answer is simple: do it in the bathroom. Make sure your hands are clean before you do it, or better still, use a tissue. Picking your nose with dirty hands is a great way to catch a lot of colds.
A Q-tip can also be a useful tool, particularly the very large safety ones that are made to use on babies.
As for nosebleeds, the most common treatment is cauterization. That can be somewhat painful, but it's usually a permanent solution.
However, you may be able to reduce the frequency of nosebleeds by having a humidifier on in your room when you sleep, particularly in winter. Winter air is extremely dry, and it dries out the mucous membranes of your nostrils and sinuses. A humidifier will correct that problem. Remember that it's important to read the maintenance instructions for the humidifier and follow them - a dirty humidifier can definitely cause health problems. They're usually not hard to clean.
Good luck!
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How do you know if you love your bf/gf or not? Becuase I have feelings for my boyfriend but I want to know whether it is love or just a crush (link)
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"Love" and "crush" are just words, attempts to describe human emotions with sounds. And each person's feelings are different.
NO ONE will ever know if what they feel is "love" is the same as anyone else feels. Ever. Ultimately we're all alone in our heads, and we can never compare feelings directly.
Even relatively old and experienced people like me don't really know what love is, to tell you the truth. And worrying about it really won't get you anywhere.
In other words, relax. Enjoy yourself, and don't do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable. Don't agonize over whether or not what you feel is love or a crush...it is what it is. Get what you can out of your relationship, learn what you can from it, and do your best to be happy and safe.
That's all that matters.
Good luck!
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on my internet exporer I have all those annoying Google toolbars, yahoo toolbars, aol toolbars, and I dont want them. I only want whats on the orinial Intnert explorer so how do I get rid of those toolbars? thanks (link)
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Well, you could go to View, Toolbars, and simply un-check the toolbars that you don't want to see any more.
Otherwise, follow Belladonna's advice and use the link she gave or do Add/Remove. Either should work just as well. And if you're sure that you'll never want any of those toolbars back, you might as well remove them completely.
Personally, I do find the Google toolbar useful, if only for the pop-up blocking.
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Hey everyone. I'm kind of stuck in a situation that I don't know what to do with, please help. Recently my friends have been noticing alot of changes in my mood, such as it changing every few minutes; Like from excited to depressed in 2 minutes. My friend's dad has Bipolar Disorder, and she says that I may have it too. Well I'm really tired of being like this, because I just want to be happy, without the feelings of sadness all of the time. I want to ask my parents if I can go see a doctor about this, but my parents never take me seriously. I'm 15 years old and they still treat me like a 10 year old. If I were to ask them then they would laugh in my face and say nothing was wrong with me; 'It's all in my head' would probably be a response. Can someone help me with my problem? I don't want to be in so much pain anymore, I want to be normal. Without any help then I can't live like I once did. What should I do? Thanks so much ahead of time. (link)
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You don't HAVE to live in pain, and your life can be much closer to normal than it is now.
Neither I nor anyone else here is qualified to diagnose your condition, of course. You really DO need to be seen by a psychiatrist for a professional evaluation.
You have two options. One is to try talking to your parents. I know that you feel that they won't take you seriously, and you may be right; but they may surprise you. So ask them to pick a time to have a serious conversation with you, no distractions, no side issues. And then tell them, as honestly as you can, how you've been feeling, how much you've been worrying, and ask them for help.
It's worth a try.
If they INSIST on not taking you seriously, your next step is to talk to a guidance counselor at school, or, if you prefer, to your doctor.
And try to understand: if they won't take you seriously, it's not because they don't care. Believe me, there's nothing in the world that a parent wants to hear LESS than that their child is suffering - particularly if the cause could be something genetic, as bipolar and depression are. I hope you never know what THAT feels like.
So they really won't *want* to take you seriously, because they don't want it to be true. But ignoring it won't make the problem goes away, and you need help. Make sure that they know that.
And if they absolutely CAN'T take it seriously, talk to a school counselor about this. They should be willing to talk to your parents, and help convince them.
I don't know if you have depression or bipolar; from what you've described, either is possible (or it could be something else entirely, or just a bad case of adolescent angst; as I said, I'm not a professional). If it IS depression or bipolar, though, the good news is that there are effective treatments out there, treatments which can give you back your life and happiness.
I'll be honest; working out the precise combination of medication and therapy that's right for you can take time. For some, a *lot* of time. But if you persevere, you WILL come through and get your life back.
And never feel ashamed or embarrassed about your illness. Depression and bipolar are the product of a serious neurochemical imbalance, and are as real as a broken arm. Just because they're not physically visible, some people tend to not take them seriously, to think that the problem is you or your personality - but it's not. You can't "think" yourself out of depression or bipolar, or make them go away by "changing your attitude", any more than you can think away a broken leg. And that's a fact.
I wish you the best of luck and a smooth recovery.
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I am new to this site and it seems infested with young teenagers asking about bands who care more about their image than their music. Since when do trends like black hair and girls jeans take precedence on what muscians are there for in the first place? Everyone is following a cookie cutter sound and it seems no one cares about throwing something fresh into the music community and that the only way to get noticed is to follow the crowd.
I guess what I'm asking is, are the cookie cutter image based bands just marketed well and forced upon youth, or are kids not being exposed to the real music enough for them to get into it? (link)
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An intelligent question. Well written, too. Thanks.
The truth is that the problem is a combination of both factors.
Commercial radio and the music business are controlled by a relatively small number of large companies; smaller labels have a very hard time getting their songs and bands out to the public. So there's little variety in the music that's available to teens.
And since they are mostly restricted to listening to the same pablum, they develop a TASTE for pablum. Which leads to a vicious circle: the music companies produce crap, so the kids learn to like crap, so the companies produce MORE crap, and round and round it goes.
But the situation isn't totally hopeless. We faced a similar situation in the 1950's, and rock & roll smashed the music establishment pretty thoroughly. True, in time rock itself BECAME the new establishment, and is even worse than the original entrenched system that it originally rebelled against. But at least there's hope: if one musical rebellion could succeed, then there's a chance that another one could.
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short back story, im in love with a friend. im 19m she is 18f
she talking to me, asking me on advice on whether or not she should break up with her boyfriend because she has feelings for another guy. what am i supposed to tell her? im generarly pretty good at giving advice in these sorts of situations but im worried anything that comes out of my mouth, or rather keyboard, will be serving my best intrest and not hers, and im not even sure how to do that. i just told her to see how things work out with her current bf and not to rush anything. any better advice i could give her? (link)
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I hate to say this, but she has already put you in the "friend" category. And as far as I know no male has EVER managed to break out of that category, once a female has placed him in it. It's the black hole of relationship-potential.
For your own self-protection, you need to detach yourself from her. Every minute you spend dealing with her is just going to hurt you more and more, and unless you're into masochism, it's not worth it. Cut the cord, or seriously loosen it, and get some distance to give yourself the time you need to get over her.
Eventually you'll find a girl who's interested in YOU. And she can ask HER unrequited platonic male friend for advice about her relationship with you.
Honestly, I don't know why women do this. It's like they're all subconsciously sadists - they pick out "nice guys" who they think of as a "brother" or best friend, and then spill their whole soap-opera love lives on them. It's sheer torture.
Don't put up with it. And don't worry about giving her the best advice. Just be noncommittal and get as much distance from her as you can.
Which, by the way, is the only POSSIBLE way I can imagine to have even the slightest chance of moving out the the "friends" category - if she feels you pulling away, there's a TINY chance that she'll reassess you. But I really, really wouldn't count on that. The odds are that she's a lost cause.
I'm sorry. Since you're in love with her, I know that this won't mean a lot to you, but believe me: in time, you'll certainly find the right girl for you.
Good luck!
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how should i ask a guy to homecoming?
we've been tiptoeing around the idea of going together for a while, and i figure i might as well just ask him already so i can keep life simple (link)
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You definitely have the right attitude - keep life simple whenever you can.
So just ASK him! You're already pretty sure that he'll say yes, and the worst that can happen is he'll say no. Either way, ask him and then you'll find out. It won't be the end of the world.
Don't make it a huge production; just say something like "So, do you want to go to Homecoming with me?" and see what he says.
Good luck!
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I've been getting constant nose bleeds for a week now. I've gotten them three times, and it's not just small ones either. They last for around 10 minutes, and I'm afraid I'm going to get anaemic. I can't see my doctor for another few days, but is there anything I can do until them to prevent them? What are the main causes?
16/f if it helps. Thanks very much. (link)
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The most likely main cause is one or more thin-walled blood vessels in your nose. The change of season may also be a contributing factor; the air is becoming drier, causing the membranes inside your nose to become less flexible and more likely to tear or crack.
You may be able to get some relief by using a humidifier, particularly in winter. The air in most American homes are actually drier than that of the Sahara desert during winter. That's the main reason that people are more likely to catch colds in winter: the dry air wreaks havoc on the membranes of your nostrils, leaving them much more vulnerable to infection. Cold weather also causes people to spend more time in closer proximity, which increases the chance for a cold to reach more victims.
You can use a saline nasal spray to moisturize your nostrils, or a number of over-the counter ointments. There's a list at this website, along with other useful information: http://www.entnet.org/healthinfo/nose/nosebleeds.cfm
The most effective treatment for frequent nosebleeds is cauterization. This effectively seals the vessel(s) that are prone to bleed - most often, the doctor burns the weak area with chemicals. I had that process done many years ago, and since then I haven't had more than two nosebleeds per year at most. And they've been mild ones.
But I'll be honest with you. Cauterization was one of the most painful experiences I've ever had. Perhaps my doctor was clumsy - I think he was - but the process was just UNBELIEVABLY painful for a minute or two.
I believe that cauterization of that sort is usually preceded by some sort of local topical anesthesia these days. I'd certainly recommend taking Tylenol 90 minutes before an appointment for cauterization.
However, cauterization is a very minor procedure, and you may not have advance warning from your doctor - s/he may simply cauterize you as soon as s/he sees the weak vessel. So you may want to prepare yourself with Tylenol in any case.
Good luck!
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i know this is not the best question to ask, but i was wondering if there is a racist word for turkish people. its not to diss a turkish friend of mine, its just that im turkish, and i was just wondering..
a lot of races have a racist name for them, and i was wondering if turkish people do too. all 5's. (link)
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As an Armenian, I'm sure that there's a perjorative word for "Turk". But I'd have to ask my father what it is, since he's from Istanbul. And that would just stir up bad memories.
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