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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!


I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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My bf's name is George and he's really hairy down there and when we have sex it rubs up against me like a rug burn when we're having sex I really want him to shave it off. What should do I do? (link)
I'm sure you won't like this advice much but if it is that much of a problem, don't shave yourself.

I really am not trying to be mean and hope you don't take it that way, but asking him to shave isn't the thing to do. Shaving the pubic area is a choice of course, hut he shouldn't be the one who has to make the change.

If you do not shave then I would say it could be an allergic reaction. :)


I got my blood pressure results from this machine but before I could check the normal numbers I had to go home. These are my results:

Systolic= 107
Diastolic= 060
Pulse= 093

Can someone tell me what systolic and diastolic means and give me the normal numbers for each of those 3 so I can see if my results are normal or not? thanks in advance (link)
Your BP is normal. Very good and so is your pulse.

The higher (systolic) number represents the pressure while the heart contracts to pump blood to the body.

The lower (diastolic) number represents the pressure when the heart relaxes between beats.

The systolic pressure is always stated first and the diastolic pressure second. For example: 118/76 (118 over 76); systolic = 118, diastolic = 76.

Blood pressure below 120 over 80 mmHg (millimeters of mercury) is considered optimal for adults. A systolic pressure of 120 to 139 mmHg or a diastolic pressure of 80 to 89 mmHg is considered "prehypertension" and needs to be watched carefully.

A blood pressure reading of 140 over 90 or higher is considered elevated (high).


Even though it's not quite a topic of advice-giving, shall we say, I think we should add a topic of discussion about the war...yea? Nay? Just a thought. (link)
It might be interesting but we are an advice only site. There are plenty of news type sites with forums and discussions on the war. :)


I've been having chest pain since September. I told my mom about it at the end of September and we decided it was a pulled muscle and nothing to worry about. So I believed it, and after about two weeks the pain went away. Then in the beginning of November I began feeling it again. I was worried that it was something more serious, I told my mom, we decided to see if it would go away again...well it didnt. In the beginning of December I told my mom I wanted a doctors appointment to find out what was wrong and she agreed. Well it is now the end of December and still no appointment. I reminded her again in the middle of the month and she said "oh its still there?", again a couple days later with the same reaction. I've been reminding her every four days now and she still says the same thing. In the meantime, I am being more freaked out about these pains in my chest to the point where I just dont want to go to sleep anymore I'm afraid I'll never wake up! I dont know what to do to get her to schedule this appointment she either "forgets" or "doesnt have time". I would do it myself except I dont know when she'd be available to get off work so its up to her. I try telling her but she doesnt care it seems and I'm going crazy thinking I'm going to die.

So how can I get her to schedule this appointment!? (link)
I hate to disagree but having worked at a doctors office I can tell you they will not treat you unless your mom at least goes in and signs an form saying it is OK.

Malpractice insurance is so high they won't even attempt to treat a minor child unless you are lying on the floor turning blue.

I suggest you bug her in the morning and you bug her in the evening until she does it. In the meantime, read this article and see if it eases some of your worries. :)

http://www.teengrowth.com/index.cfm?action=info_article&ID_article=1229&category=health&catdesc=Health&subdesc=Pain


I noticed today that my cervix is a very funny shape. Let's just say the head is tear drop shaped and the triangle part of the tear shape molds to my G-spot. It's odd... I was wondering if this is something abnormal about this, or if I should go get it checked out. Thanks for all your help in advance!!! (link)
Just so the one who answered between myself and Razhie don't think the adults on this site are bonkers I am providing a link to a picture of where your cervix is located. If you can see it yourself
then there might be a problem.

Doctors have to have special instruments to see it.
I honestly think you are meaning something else. Check out the picture and add info to your question if you would like to. :)

http://health.allrefer.com/health/cervix-pictures-images.html


what kind of birds make the best pets? im looking at small or medium birds, no large birds like parrots or anything. ive had multiple birds in the past, so i have experiance with brids. (link)
I have to vote for cockatiels. I have one and they are great. Parakeets are nice but the couple I have had didn't seem to live very long and were kinda mean tempered.

Both cockatiels I have had were hand fed when babies and had very nice personalities. Mine will hand around with me all day out of the cage if I let it.
Loves to go to the shower with whoever is in there!
Lots of fun. :)


alright. soo i've been peeing a ton lately. i usually go 4 or 5 times a day and lately ive been going 7+. I don't think I've been drinking excessive liquids. This has been going on for about 3 days. It doesn't burn when I pee or anything... I know that that's a urinary tract infection, I had that once before when I was a little kid. The only thing I can think of is that its the week before my period, but I don't think it'd make me pee this much, since I don't usually pee this much before my period.

So yeah... anyone have an idea whats wrong? I know that if it is a urinary tract infection you have to go to the doctor pretty fast or else it can turn into a kidney infection or something.

Ohh and idk if this relates but on Christmas I had these horrible pains in my stomach in the morning and I was like curled up in a ball and nauseus and idk why.. it kind of came back through the day but not as bad and not for as long. Since then I've been okay.

Thxx (link)
It could be because you are going to start your period. That can definitely cause it.

If you are more THIRSTY than usual, and that is causing you to drink more, I would have to ask if you have a family history of diabetes. If so, it may be a good idea to have your blood sugar checked.

This can also be accompanied by unusual weight loss.

If it continues you should see a doctor. Though I don't think the extra liquid is hurting you any. You really need to drink more than you do. :)


ok. if your so called "BEST FRIENDS" never called you, always stood you up with phone calls, and made you feel like you weren't their friend, what would you do? (link)
I'd find some new friends. :)


iam 34 years old i have to kides after 6 years from the last pregnancy i decid to have another baby . i had my last period at october 25 i made a pregnant test at dec 8 and iam pregnant at dec14 i had bledding for 3 dayes and the doctor told mye i lost my pregnancy , but until now dec30 i didnot got my period and iam not pregnant , so what is wrong with me . iam too old to have my period again? or that is normal after what happen?
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I started menopause (stopped having periods) at that age. If you are trying to have a baby make an appointment with your doctor soon and explain it to him/her.

They can tell if you are pre-menopausal with a blood test. If you are, the doctor might possibly be able to give you a shot to start your period.

Good luck. :)


I've been dating this guy for two months and he's always making me upset and then happy and then upset. It's always an emotional rollercoaster because I end up getting disappointed most of the time. We're both gay by the way. Anyway, for his birthday I bought him massage oil and bubble bath liquid from Bath and Body works and he turned it down telling me he should've told me what he wanted and been more specific. Lame right? So I kept the gift X_X. Now Christmas comes around and I ask for a wallet from Fossil since he doesn't "do suprises" he said that, "he would feel better knowing exactly what I wanted that way he wouldn't feel bad spending money on me." Lame again eh? So anyway, he texts me telling me he's at the mall at fossil so I call him and tell him what color I want. 2 days come along and he tells me that he actually didn't buy me the wallet because I sounded unsure on the phone. Truth be told I didn't really care THAT much but I still need a wallet since mine is getting stuffed... Lame again anyone? This is what he said me regarding his new gift to me. "Since neither of us know what we want for christmas how about we just spend time together?" Now I don't feel so bad about this since we hardly spend time together and since it's christmas break we haven't spent any time together for about a month. He goes, "I don't want to sound cheap since you already got me a gift but this is probably the best that I can do." Now hahah this just doesn't seem right... Anyway... I need help honestly. I've asked a ton of questions regarding whether or not I should keep him and most of them come to the conclusion as "no." But I do like him, and everytime that we ARE together it's fantastic but recently it just seems that he's not paying any attention to me and always playing games over me and we never talk since he's always playing World of Warcraft and his absence of attention is starting to make me lose interest in whatever it is that we have. We're not exclusively in a relationship since he's still in the closet but seriously... if he wants a relationship with me he needs to know how to have one... I've had many talks with him regarding "us" and all the questions that I ask him are answered with "I don't know =/" and now I just don't know if he's worth the stress and nights where I stay awake just wondering what I should do with him. I hate having to be angry about him and I ALWAYS have to comfort myself by saying to myself, "we're just friends" since we're obviously nothing more... This statement also confuses me since he keeps telling me to tell people that are interested in me that i'm "currently dating someone." Blah... Please help!@! and sorry it was so long I just needed to get all of this out... (link)
You need to let him know that unless he gets serious about the relationship then you are going to start accepting offers elsewhere.

You have already talked to him about your relationship but it doesn't seem he is getting the message. As with your last question...don't stay in a relationship that is causing you stress. You just don't need it. If you don't see someone for a month
you don't want to sit around watching them play games. Good grief, that's just rude.

I think you need to make sure you aren't being used.
If you are the only one around who knows he is gay that may indeed be the case here.

I hope it works out for you. :)


I've been dating this guy for 2 months now we're not in an exclusive relationship at least that I know of. He's in his first year of college and i'm in my senior year in high school. The big question that I have is, is it possible for a guy who's still in the closet to have an exclusive relationship with me? I've been really thinking about this and all the things that he does lead up the answer no. He's always doing stuff with his family because well he can't tell them that he's going to hang out with his date and he can't tell them that he's going to hang out with his friend since they don't know who I am. It's really frustrating and I really don't know whether or not I should still date him. (link)

I don't know why he would have a problem being exclusive. Guys are exclusive all the time.

Why is it a college age guy can't tell his parents he is hanging out with a friend? That's just crazy.

They aren't mind readers, he doesn't HAVE to tell them it is a date. They probably also aren't stupid, they may suspect something is up. If they mention anything it could be he needs to let them know. It would probably make his life easier if he didn't feel he had to sneak around.

I mean even if he feels they wouldn't approve of his lifestyle hiding it is stressful. People need less stress if they want to be happy. You too.

So if he won't let his parents meet you, and know you are his friend at least it will be very hard for you to continue as you are.

I wish you luck. :)


alright, this isnt an urgent questions, i thought it was kinda funny, and im curious. if a girl uses pumping lipgloss, and then makes out with a guy, or gives him oral sex, does whatever she puts her mouth on, make that part of the body tingle also, or no? (link)
Since the plumping is caused because it essentially causes irritation I would say yes.

It could also cause a severe allergic reaction. That would not be appreciated much by the boyfriend if it suddenly got a rash or hives. Use caution. :)


how effective are they?
is there a good chance that they can be wrong?
how long after becoming pregnant can pregnancy be detected? and the later you take it, is there a better possability that it will show?
help plz!! (link)
They make the tests pretty reliable these days.

There is always a chance of human error. Read the instructions and follow them exactly.

How soon you can use the test depends on the test you use. There are different kinds. Some detect it right away, they are also more expensive. Read the product label to be sure.

The longer you wait the better the results. Most people don't have that much patience though. :)


Does every girl eventually go on birth control?
I'm only fourteen, and I haven't disscussed it much. (I'm not sexually active, nor plan to be in the near future) But I read somewhere that since every girl gets birth control that they have many ways to take it (Pills, etc)

So is it true that every girl has to/does go on the pill? (link)
Every girl who has sex needs to be on birth control of some sort to prevent pregnancy. There are more options then the pill. What pill is best for you will be discussed by you and your doctor.

Here is a site on birth control that is very good.
Lots of useful info everywhere on the site if you would like to do some exploring.

http://www.coolnurse.com/birthcontrol.htm


any free websites for first time ipod users with little knowledge on how to use it?
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Here are a couple you may find useful. :)

http://www.ipodtips.com/

http://macs.about.com/od/ipod/iPod.htm

http://www.webuser.co.uk/specials/91791.html


my friend is in jail and i really want to go see him but i have no idea how...my parents would never let me go visit him but i have friends who are 18+. do i need someone to be 18 years or older to go with me? do i need to make an appointment? and how much trouble could i get in if i lied and told the officers i was his sister just to see him? (link)
A lot of jails won't let you in if you are not 18.
Its probably best to call ahead and find out if you can see him. I do think you will have to be accompanied by an adult. When you call ask about the rules because they can be pretty strict even with visitors.

Do not lie to them about who you are. They know everything about him and will know everything about the visitors too. :)



Hi-
I am a 30 yr old professional female, looking for advice. I slept with my friend's ex-crush several months ago. I am single, as is he. She is now married (for over 2 years) to a wonderful man and pregnant with their first child. She NEVER had a relationship with this man, but had a massive crush on him through high school and college. She is very happy in her marriage. She and I are not as close friends as we once were, but live in the same area and see each other here and there. This man's name comes up in conversation and I feel dishonest by not telling her the truth about what happened between us. It was just a one-night thing and I don't want to be selfish and tell her just to make myself feel better. However, she and I were such close friends and I feel like I am omitting something huge from mention by not telling her I slept with this guy. Plus if she finds out from someone else in the future (not me) it would be even worse (though this is not a likely scenario). Please help!! Thanks. (link)
You say you aren't as close anymore, but if you still consider her a friend then I think under certain conditions you should tell her.

Don't bring it up yourself, and don't just blurt out you slept with him! Tell her you went out with him.
If she asks for details...then say something.

Like you I think I would feel dishonest if I didn't
mention it when the subject comes up. Not to mention if she should find out elsewhere, and it can happen,
it would make you seem like you were lying for some reason.

She loves her husband this other guy is just a fantasy for her if that. :)


I just got the new internet explorer and the Tabs really bother me. Is there a way to get rid of it? (link)
My son had this problem. Seems it causes problems for some users in other ways as well.

The only way he got his back is by doing a system restore (if you have windows XP). It is very easy to do. You cannot download the older version because it will just tell you that a newer version is on your machine already.

Here is walk through on restoring to an earlier date.
Keep in mind you need to find a date on the calender it provides, that is a day your computer still had the old version. A tip...the further you go back the longer it takes to restore. So if it was a couple of days ago, just go back a couple of days. :)

Go To:
Start
All programs
PC Help and Tools
System Restore

A window will pop up and you will need to mark
'Restore my computer to an earlier time'
Click on 'next'
A calendar will be on next page. Choose date you want to restore to.
Click next and then next again on following page.

Your computer will shut down and you will be able to see the progress of restore. When it is done it will restart your computer and your IE should be
back. :)




What is some nonperscription drugs i can get for my back, i think it's fractured and it feels like i've been gettin stabbed in the back by a screwdriver, i've been goin through it about 2 weeks now, its only getting worse, i cant take this pain, any thing to get rid of the pain, stuff like ibuprophin and bayer aren't helping (link)
There are so many things it can be with a back. I think you need to make a trip to a doctor and find out what the problem is. He can give you something stronger than you can buy over the counter.

If the pain is really bad, a trip to the ER may be the way to go. Don't wait until Tuesday. :)


have you ever been to Cinnabon?

well how do you make their cinnabons? like the dough and filling.


i'm just looking for the same textured dough and the same tasting filling.


recipes will be appreciated!!! (link)
OOOOH! Haven't tried these but they look really yummy!

Here is the link to the recipe. It has printer friendly version available if you want to print it off. :)

http://allrecipes.com/recipe/clone-of-a-cinnabon/detail.aspx




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