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Do the female in the porn videos get orgasms or they just fake it
Based on the interviews I have read most of the time they fake the orgasm. Not because they are not enjoying themselves. Many times with some of their partners they are. Technical problems with the shoot have them starting and stopping. While the camera is repositioned or other technical problems are corrected. What is seen in the finished film is a spliced compilation of the different scenes.
Sometimes the male actor will lose his erection and another actress needs to help him reestablish his erection before the shooting can begin again. All this interferes with the females ability to orgasm and when the director tells her to orgasm she just fakes it. If there are no stopping of the filming and the male actor is good at what he is doing then it is possible for the female star not to have to fake her orgasm.
I am a 24 year old woman and last night I was in my bedroom watching movies and I thought I was home by myself but apparently I wasn't because I paused my movie to go into the kitchen to get some doughnuts and a sheriff beat on the window and I opened the door to see what that wanted and they asked me if my 20 year old cousin was hear because they had a warrant for his arrest and I said I don't know because I was in my room watching movies and then I turned around to look for my aunt because the officer asked to speak with my aunt so I went in to the computer room to go find her and I realized that my cousin that the officer asked for was in the computer room and i am like oh crap what do I do now because i have never been in this situation before until now and my cousin said shh.. don't tell them i am here so I went to the door to tell the officer that he was there and the officer asked me who I was talking to and I started shaking all over with fear and they said I thought you didn't know weather your cousin was here or not I said yes officer that true he said then who were you just talking to and to you not to tell us they were there and I started stuttering and they said it's your cousin isn't i just nodded and I asked if I was in trouble and the officer said he didn't know that he would have to investigate further so am i under investigation by the police will I wind up going to jail with my cousin or would they have arrested me then when they arrested my cousin am I going to jail ? If I do go to jail what would the charges be any answers to these questions would be greatly appreciated . Thanks. I am just really scared right now because I have a clean permanent record and I don't want that to change. I have never been in trouble with the law before and I don't want to start now .
You're probably fine. If the police were going to arrest you they would have done so at the time. The charges would have been harboring a fugitive and obstruction of justice. Being nervous is not a crime, neither is stuttering and not knowing what to say or do. The officer lead you into telling him what he needed to know.
You were asked to step outside for your own safety while they took your cousin into custody. The police never know what a suspect might do, what weapons they might have. You were a bystander whose present in the home could compromise your safety as well as theirs. Having you wait outside takes you out of the situation and gives them one less problem to contend with during the arrest.
As for the other information they asked you. It is all standard background information for the arrest report. After all you did witness the arrest and if your cousin makes any complaints about the arrest they will ask you what you saw or if you can verify your cousins complaint.
I really do not think you have anything to worry about.
I normally wouldn't be telling strangers on the internet this, but I'm worried about my future.
Right now, I'm living with my father who often begs me for money, thus making it difficult for me to save up to go back to college. I'm also on government supports because I'm autistic. My original plan was to save up, go back to school, get a real job, and never have to rely on government assistance again. But now I don't know if I'll ever be able to do it.
I'm also worried about what will happen if I ever live with a spouse in the future. In my home (Ontario, Canada), the government likes to punish disabiled people for finding love or getting married by taking their partner's earnings (if they aren't on disability) and subtracting it from their disability cheques-sometimes leaving those disabled people with no money and having to rely solely on their partner for support. My boyfriend and I love each other very much (we've been together for one year and two months) and want each other to be around for a long time. If we live together (because I don't want to lie and get in trouble with the government), I'm scared I won't be able to find work by then have us live in poverty. He knows I've been homeless once and lived in poverty in the past, and wants to be there to take care of me (he promised my mother he would after she left my father and I to live in another province). He also wants to make sure I never worry about money again, because of my housing/money situation. God bless him! And trust me, before disability I tried so many times work in my area, without a college education (I tried to study something before but dropped out because of financial issues) but it is very difficult. Especially for someone who's never had a hint of work or volunteering experience. I figured disability would help me get back to school but my father keeps on asking me for money because he is irresponsible and always has loans to pay off. So now I don't know if I'll ever be okay in the future. I often get anxiety attacks and having crying episodes because of my situation right now. And I'm afraid of my world falling apart again after working so hard to bring it back up.
I know you feel as a daughter you are obligated in some way to help your father with his financial problems. In fact you are not. By doing so you are enabling him to continue as he is giving him no reason to stand on his own two feet. There must be a reason you mom left him, his financial irresponsibility might be one of them. If your father was ill and needed a caretaker I might feel otherwise.
Your first responsibility as an adult is to make your own way in the world. This means to do as you have been trying to do which is get an education and find a good paying job. Not to rely on government aid for food and shelter. Government aid when needed should be looked at as short term assistance while you make a long term plan for financial responsibility.
You have the plan you need to follow it and let you father fend for himself. Like most people with a dependency, which is what his dependence on your giving him money is. He will not help himself for he has no reason to; he has not hit bottom yet. Until he does he has no reason to help himself.
IF you truly want what you are planning for then you will have to turn a deaf ear to him and allow him to sink or swim on his own. Follow your plan so you can have a happy life. Marry and have children if that is what your plan is.
As someone old enough to be your grandfather I think if your father is capable of working or living of whatever income he has. Then it is wrong of him to be dependent on you for his financial irresponsibility.
it makes me mad to think of those things i mean ive been asked several times if i was married or dating which im neither and im not exactly ready for marraige and i do not know if im going to date or not but i dont like those kind of questions thatb idiotic people have asked im just not obsessed with dating or marraige so how can you make people stop asking you those questions
This is a tough one for it is not something you are going to be able to stop people from asking, at least not the first time they ask it of you.
For the most part the people who ask this question are not being rude. They ask this question because they are interested in your well being. As a people and even most animals we seem to be happier when we are paired or mated with another. There are those among us though who are just as happy not to be paired to anyone specific person. You may be just that type of person.
Since as I said most people ask these types of questions out of sincere interest in your well being. I suggest you response be something to the effect; "At the moment I am happy being just who am right now. "I do not foresee marriage in my immediate future and as for dating I do so when it pleases me." "I enjoy my life just as it but thank you for asking."
In one sense you are responding with way to much information. In the other sense you are by doing so telling them politely they asked a question they should not have asked and if they read between the lines not to ask it again.
Admittedly some people are more dense then others and will ask again when next you meet. With those you may have to be more direct and say to them that you don't care for that question as it is invasive of your privacy.
If you continue to answer with the acceptable polite answer people will continue to ask you about your social life. As I said for most of those who ask it is out of genuine concern. Use the answer I have given you and put it into your own words. Your good friends should understand you don't want to be constantly asked about it and if anything changes in your life they will be the first to learn of it.
I'm thirteen and female. I have felt rather confused about who I am lately.
I'm going to start with the fact that I just can't stand to look like a girl. When I look in the mirror, I dislike what I see. It's almost like I'm looking at a stranger. I mean, what I see on the outside doesn't really match who I am on the inside.
I want to cut my hair short, but my parents would never let me, so a lot of times I have to hide my hair with the hood of my sweater. And I wear clothes from the guys' section because it makes me feel more like my true self.
If I am going to a formal event and my mom makes me wear a dress, it feels extremely wrong, and I get upset about it.
When I see guys, I sometimes get jealous that I'm not one of them. And if someone refers to me as a "girl" or a "lady," I get frustrated about it and feel depressed. I get upset that they think they know who I really am, and I wish I could be referred to as a guy instead.
And once someone thought I was a guy and not a girl, and it made me really happy.
What is making me feel like this? I'm just so confused. But then I'm only thirteen, and I guess I'm going to change a lot before I'm an adult. But this is bothering me so much and making me feel depressed, and I can't stop thinking about it.
If you have any advice, I would really appreciate it. And please don't judge me. I'm already insecure enough. . . .
First don't be depressed over what your are feeling right now for it is quite normal. I also understand why you feel insecure right now and you really should not be. I know both of these statements are easy to say but hard to do. Try just relaxing and being you for now, the you that you feel you need to be. Yes you may have to please mom by wearing a dress from time to time but this to is normal.
What is happening is you're having a gender identification problem. There are a lot of reasons as to why you are having this particular problem that are just to long to go into here. It also requires a two way conversation to identify why you are having this problem. I will say that in part it is being caused by puberty or it was triggered by puberty if you are just first starting to have this problem.
Now how to deal with this. You are going to have to tell your parents how you feel and ask them for professional help to sort through this. Neither your parent or I are qualified to help you with this. You need the help of a qualified psychologist who will work for you to identify just who you are gendered as.
Just as gay are born gay. It is possible for a man to be born in a female body or the other way around. Sort of transgendered if you want. Why this happens doctors are still trying to find out. Your chromosomes still show you as female but in every other way you identify as male and would be more comfortable in a males body.
If this is truly the way you feel then you are not a lesbian you are transgendered. Your parents cannot wish this away or force you to feel different by forcing you to dress as your gender appearance. It is also not a phase. This was the way you were born.
To understand who you are and to insure this is not just a hormonal problem of puberty takes professional help for you. Also for your parents for you are not a freak of nature you are their child and you need their love and support to get through this and find your true gender identity.
It is going to be hard to make you parents understand. They are not going to want to understand. At the moment mom probably sees you as a Tomboy, you are not. You have to make them understand and that may include enlisting the help of your doctor or pediatrician if you still see one. You could also ask to talk with your school psychologist and ask for his or her help in talking with your parents.
HI i am from Ethiopia and i have a bad odor coming from my buttock 2 years age and from day to day it is getting worthy. Now even when i walk and when i sit the odor comes out. Am embarrassed to sit and walk with friends and the people near to me.I thought it was only my imagination but anyone who is near can feel it. I used to take shower once a week and now i am taking shower once a day but no change at all.I don't know what to do.
I would say you need to see a doctor. Preferably a specialist called a Gastroenterologist. This is a doctor who specializes in the treatment of the gastrointestinal tract. Generally referred to as the GI tract and has an upper and lower portion.
Since the odor you are speaking of is coming from you buttock area it is possible that it emanates from your anus. If I am correct in my assumption, and I am not a doctor. Then there may be something wrong internally causing this odor, especially if it is constant and not just because you released some gas.(farting)
What could possibly be wrong I have no idea. The only way for something to emanate from your anus is down the digestive tract. Through the stomach and into your bowels and finally out your anus. My best guess is if there is a problem that is the cause of the odor it is in the lower GI tract. If it is not in the lower GI tract the Gastroenterologist will refer to an Internist for and upper GI series.
I cannot say what or where or if there is a problem requiring a doctor's attention. What I will say is your problem is not normal and should be checked out by a doctor. That you should not wait too long to see one. If there is a problem it could be serious and you may have already waited to long already.
I broke my virginity two weeks back now my nipples are sore and they pop out and every time when I eat I feel blotted ,I also have stamache pains and feel like I have hurtburn R alcers im not sure but I want to ask are these signs/symptoms of being pregnant??
The short answer to your question; yes, no and maybe. Not a really good answer I know but it is truthfully the only answer anyone can give you. The best thing to do is to get a home pregnancy test and follow the directions on the box.
My best guess is that you may not be pregnant. The problems you are having are over stressing out that you might be pregnant. Stress can do strange things to a person including causing you to miss your period. This is why the best way to find the answer to your Question is a home test.
Now the best time for a woman to get pregnant is between the 7th and 21st day of her menstrual cycle. There is a 3 day period with in this time period that a woman is most fertile. This is when an egg is ejected from your ovary. I'm told that some women can feel a cramping feeling when this happens. It is during this time when the egg is in the fallopian tube that it can be fertilized by a sperm. Sperm lives for 3 days with in your body.
If you know when your ovary ejects its egg then do the math. The results will give you the best idea as to whether or not you were fertile when you had sex.
If you're over 14 and going to remain sexually active and are not pregnant. You should be on birth control. You can ask your doctor for birth control without parental permission by virtue of a federal law called HIPPA. Your doctor will write the prescription if you ask or if you go to any free clinic.
The HIPPA law gives young people total confidentiality over their reproductive system if they are over 14. Your parents cannot access these medical records without your written permission and your doctor cannot tell them anything about your visits or treatment without your written permission. All you need do is tell your doctor you invoke your rights under HIPPA and they will take it from there.
Congress did not write this law to give young people free license to have sex. The right to birth control just happens to be a by product of the law. The law was written so young people would seek out a doctor if they had a problem concerning their reproductive system and were too embarrassed to speak to their parents about it. The confidentiality of the law was given so that young people would be open and honest with their doctor so the doctor could properly treat them.
Should you shoes to get birth control you should still use a condom as they are good at protecting from the transmission of many but not all STDS and the HIV/AIDS virus. Any partner who refuses to use a condom should be introduced to his thumb and its four friends for sexual gratification.
My mom married a much younger guy last year, and living with him has been awkward because he flirts with me when my mom's not around. Yesterday when my mom was at work I was sitting on the couch watching a movie with my little brother and sister, they were sitting on the floor. My step dad came and sat by me. He put his hands in between my thighs over my jeans and started touching my breasts. He did while my sister and brother were sitting on the floor with their backs to us and it was dark. When he did that I was scared . I told him to stop and he told me not to tell him to stop. My sister & brother were watching the loud movie, so they weren't paying attention to us on the couch. I tried pushing him away and moving. He kept on bothering me the whole time and I was scared to get up and when my mom got home I went in my room. I never feel comfortable around him. He'll put his hand on my waist, rub my stomach and get too close to me in front of my mom and it feels uncomfortable, and he's always saying "You're beautiful" My mom thinks he's playing around. And he looks at me with perverted eyes, all the time. i know my mom loves him so much and I know she wont believe me & she'll stay with him because he has money and we have nowhere else to go. She has stayed with him even though he beat her up before.
You are being sexually abused and you do not have to take it. There are people who will help you if you reach out to them. I am old enough to be your grandfather so please listen to the advice I am offering you.
As the others have told you. You can go to a trusted teacher, your school principal or any other trusted adult and ask them for help. If you pass a fire station or police station on the way to school you can go into either place and ask for help. Fire and police stations are safe havens for children.
Rubbing your breasts, rubbing your stomach and putting his hands between your thighs is sexual harassment. Once you have told him not to touch you in this manner he should stop. He should never have touched you in this manner in the first place as it is sexual abuse of a minor which makes him a pedophile.
There are two other things you can do to help yourself. One is to call an organization called RAINN. RAINN stands for; Rape, Abuse, Incest, National Network. The operate a 24/7 hotline with trained counselors who are there to help you. They will work with you to put you in touch with people in your town who will see to it you are safe. The hotline number is 1-800-656-Hope
The other is you can always call 911 if you feel unsafe. You do not need permission from anyone to call 911 and ask for help. Tell the call taker your step dad is sexually abusing you and you are scared. They will stay on the phone with you until the police and possibly the fire department arrive to protect you.
Once you make that call the police will have to come and check on you. Your step dad or your mom will not be able to turn them away. The police will have to decide if you are safe or not, as well as your siblings. In a situation such as yours if they are going to error they will do so on the side of your safety.
You should not wait to talk with someone about what is happening to you. Whether you call the police, talk to another trusted adult or call RAINN you need to do something before he tries more than just touching you.
I agree you should be scared because your safety is in jeopardy, so call the police, call RAINN or go talk to a friends parents who you trust.
i have 3 days using this pills and i hav had an unprotected sex.will i fall pregnent?
I'm not a doctor so I cannot be 100% sure. I seem to remember that the 1st month my wife was on the pill her doctor told us to use a condom as well when having sex as it takes time for the medication to build up in her system. Based on that advice I would say if you were fertile at the time you had unprotected sex you may be pregnant.
You could speak to your pharmacists about taking the plan B pill or try contacting your doctor to ask this question. THe sooner you take the plan B pill the more effective it is. It has been known to be effective up to 7 days after intercourse but is most effective within 72 hours.
Right after when my mensuration got stop i had sex without any protection. Later i ate contraceptive pill which was to be eaten one after 12hrs from eating the first one.
But i ate the second medicine 14hrs later. Then i had mensuration 10 days later again.
I did early pregnancy test also and the result was negative. But today i noticed that my nipples were a little bit coming out....
What shall i do???
I do not think your pregnant; I will explain why below. Your nipple reaction is most like the result of the increase in hormones from the plan B pill you took or stress from concern over possible pregnancy. Stress and the tricks it can cause mind to play on us can be horrific at times. You also say you had a period 10 days after you had sex. This cleaned out your womb so you should not be pregnant. If you are still concerned after reading this test again.
One other thing for you to know. Continues worry over this and the stress it brings could cause your next period to be late or missed altogether. This is quite common in women as stress of any kind.is a major cause for missing a period. Stress really does a number on the delicate balance if a woman's hormones thus it affects her menstrual cycle throwing her off cycle.
Now as to why you are probably not pregnant. You said you had unprotected sex right after your period stopped. For about 80% of women they are most fertile between the 7th and 21st day of their cycle. This is when they are most likely to ovulate and eject an egg into the fallopian tube where it can be fertilized. If you are one of the 80% of these women then it is almost impossible that you would be able to conceive. Not impossible but almost impossible.
Then you took the morning after of plan B pill. The extra two hours for the second pill probably had no effect on the affectedness of the pills as the Plan B pills have been found to work up to a week after intercourse.
While it is easy for me to say my advice is to relax and to stop stressing yourself out over this. The chances are probably 99% that you are not pregnant. If you continue to stress out over this you will most likely as I said above miss a period and you will stress out more for probably no reason.
If you are over 14 and since you are sexually active I have one more suggestion for you. By Federal Law called HIPPA you can see a doctor and ask for Birth Control medication without parental permission or knowledge. This law grants you complete medical privacy and confidentiality for anything related to your reproductive system. Your parents will never know of anything you and your doctor discuss or your doctor examines you for in regard to your reproductive system.
Congress did not pass this law to give young license to have sex. They did so for young people to seek out a doctor when need be for any problem or questions they had in regard to their reproductive system. So they could be totally honest with their doctor and receive the best medical care because of their honesty.
All you need to say to the doctor is you invoke your rights under HIPPA. This means mom cannot see any medical records which concern exams or treatment for any part of your reproductive system without your written consent to the doctor. It also means mom can not be in the exam room with you without your consent.
If you want you can also go to any free clinic to obtain birth control. Even so you should have your partner use a condom as it is effective at stopping the transmission of many STDS and the HIV/AIDS virus.
I'm a 21 year old female and I'm a server at a popular restaurant/sports bar. There's a dining area, then a separate room for the bar, then a bar top where the actual bartender works. When I wait on a table and they order any type of alcohol, I have to ring it in, then the bartender gets the order and makes the drink. Once it's ready, she puts it in a window for me to pick up and take to my table.
The problem is that she doesn't make the drinks very fast, causing my tables to get angry at ME because they have to wait so long on their drinks. Now, I understand when there is a dinner rush and we're busy and she has several drinks to make (after all, she makes the drinks for her bar customers, and every server's customers) In fact, she makes drinks fairly fast when we're busy because she HAS to. But when we're slow at 2pm on a Wednesday, she hangs out in the kitchen talking to other servers or managers, not even paying attention the drink orders.
With any other bartender, I just go tell them that I have a drink and politely ask them if they could go make it. But with this specific bartender, she gets mad if you ask her to do anything and she purposely waits longer. Even if she sees you put in an order, she doesn't find it rude to continue a conversation with another server and wait until SHE'S ready to make the drink. I don't understand how she's okay with purposely taking a long time to make drinks when she knows it makes our tables upset with us.
I would go tell a manager but they're all friends with her outside of work and the whole situation would blow up in my face. At one point, I even emailed corporate, in a very professional manner, stating how upset I was that she wasn't doing her job correctly, causing not only me, but ALL servers to suffer, and NOTHING was done about it. What do I do? I can't continue to have dissatisfied tables because she wants to slack off!
I think I know the restaurant where you work or at least the corporate name of it. If I'm correct they have a tip out policy where a percentage of your tips go to the bartender and the host/hostess.
You should remind this young lady that both you and her survive off of tips. If customers are upset with service the tip generally suffers. Now is her percentage is off the value of the check you have a problem for she gets her value regardless.
You did right by writing corporate. They in turn most likely wrote the manger. If what you say is correct they did nothing about it. If this is a Franchise location there is not much more you can do. IF it is a corporate location then if you wish you can write again. This time explaining that the managers and her are quite friendly outside of work. You could go on to say something to the effect that unless she out and out poisoned someone she would not face any type of disciplinary action for her behavior or work ethic.
Other than that the best thing you could do is find someplace else where you could earn the same or better money. In a perfect world managers would manage and not let outside influences interfere with how they do their jobs. Unfortunately this is not a perfect world.
I've been using the two months injection then changed to a pill because my husband was complaining about it. He said that the reason why he doesn't want to have sex more often is because of the injection im using. Can the injection causes my husband to have low sex drive if im the one using it and not him?
Since you have not given your ages it is somewhat harder to understand your question. I do though agree with Dragonflymagic in that this is a question better posed to a doctor.
One thing I am thinking about is psychosomatic reaction on the part of your husband. The mind can and does play horrible tricks on us from time to time. Perception is also a possibility in that if he perceives this to be then it is. For how we perceive things is real to us. I can also be totally wrong and this is just an excuse your husband is using for he has no other acceptable answer and no I do not think he is cheating on you.
It is very possible that there are other things causing your husbands sex drive to be off. Stress is a primary cause for many things including a loss of sex drive. Have you noticed signs of your husband being under more than a normal amount of stress either at work or home? An example would be if someone in his family was ill.
If you cannot identify any outside influences such as stress, a change in daily medication he may be taking or other things maybe a new job or position at work. Then I suggest you arrange for a complete physical for him. Here again not knowing your age, but if you are on birth control for birth control reasons I will assume you two are young. Then a yearly physical is something you two should both be having.
When you set up the appointment ask his doctor to screen him both for low testosterone and for depression. Screening for depressions is nothing more then questions the doctor asks during the physical. Depression is caused by stress. From these questions the doctor can tell if your husband is depressed or under a lot of stress. The screening for low-T as it is called is just part of the blood tests the doctor can order as part of each physical. Based on the results the doctor will be better able to treat you husband if there is a physical reason for the problem.
As your husbands wife you have a right to inform his doctor if you think something is wrong and that he may not say something to his doctor. My doctor has my wife monitoring me though there is a reason for it. I was disabled in a car accident. If my wife notices a change in me our doctor wants to know about it. Since changes happen slowly over time I may not notice it. The same is and could be true for your husband.
7years I have liked this guy, we met up, and spoke for those entire 7 years. everything was going great until 2 weeks ago. My sister slept with him in my bed! whilst my cousin was asleep in there!!. I am heartbroken and so confused. It started when I txt him, he was feeling down so I thought what the hell me, my sister and my mates were going for drinks so he could join us for a cheer up. So my sister knew how I felt I mean all I have done for those 7years is talked to him. She slept with him that night, and today they have gone out on a date behind my back instead of telling me the truth. Tears prick in my eyes every time I mention it. when I confronted her about that night she laughed and smirked at me as tears ran down my face. I have to live with her which makes it worse! I just need to know what to do?? because it is taking every ounce of me not to hit her. and what is confusing me is that I am not mad at him but I should be right?? help me please...
I'm a little confuse but I will get to that in a minute. As to who to be mad at; well as the saying goes it takes two to Tango. No one forced them to sleep with each other, it was a voluntary act on both of their parts.
What confuses me is how you can like someone for 7 years and not take the relationship to the next level. Meaning from talking to dating then on to a sexual level. The only logical answer I can come up with is you are much younger by as much as 7 years, then him. If this is true then you really have no qualms with either of them.
I say this for with such a large age difference there would have been no relationship there in the first place. Now 7 years later you may be old enough to go out drinking and move on to a relationship where it would be permissible as well as legal to have a sexual relationship. Still there is an age difference where he may not see you as someone he wants to date. He may still see you as the little kid or the kid sister who was always getting under foot.
What I'm saying is there is really not enough information here about you or him to give you a definitive reason for what happened. I can only make an educated guess based on my past experiences. when you can calm down and think about this rationally or even speak with your sister calmly. You may see this differently.
I LOVE ANIME!!! [Japanese cartoons]........ but I dont know anyone who I can really talk about it too.....it's starting to bother me.....got an idea?
Just for the heck of it I put ANIME CLUBS and the state I live in into a search engine. A whole list of clubs in the state and surrounding area were returned. With that information I would say you are definitely not alone in your love for ANIME.
I suggest you do as I did as well as look for online forums you can participate in. I believe if you follow this advice you will find a great many people to share your love for Anime with.
This all started 4 years ago when my father died. My parents had been married for 31 years. I was married at the time and the marriage was going south. It was an abusive relationship. When my mother moved in with me after my fathers death it was a good move. It gave me the stregnth to leave my now ex husband and my daughter and I were there to support her during her tough time. We leaned on eathother financially for a while. I got a better job and now am self sufficent. In the last few months things have gotten rocky. I have now found someone that I can see spending ther rest of my life with. We are taking things slow since we are both divorced. My mom started asking me "where are you going?, when will you be home? Are you going to eat?" then she started telling me how i could spend my money on my daughter. She thought since she paid about $250.00 in bills that she was entitled. Well, about a month and a half ago she decied to move and be near my brother and some of her friends. I was so happy. Finally my boyfriend and I could start working on us. Now she has decided to move back because she is not happy there either. She has a boyfriend here and she wants to hang out with him but not too much. I think she thinks its not ok because of my dad. We talked a few days ago and she said she didnt want to live with me and that she was going to move in with her BF. Last night she said she was moving back in with me!! Like the convo never happened. I dont want to hurt her but I doint want to live with her. I cant. She is too controlling. I am 35 and she is 68. She is in perfect health and so is her 74 yr old BF!! They both go to the gym everyday!! How can i tell her I dont want her to live with me without making her feel like no one wants her?
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I think the best way to handle this situation is the most direct way. You need not rehash any of the controlling ways she had before she moved out as this is not necessary.
What you tell her is something like this. Mom, I love you but you and I living together is not an option. I invited you into my home after dad passed because you needed me at the time and frankly I needed you and your strength to get my life in order. Things are different now. You're in good health and financially capable of living on your own. I am stronger now, have a better job and I am seeing someone I can see myself spending my life with.
If you were in ill health or financially capable of living on your own then things would be different and we would look at different living arrangements for you. Should you need a cosigner to get an apartment then I might be able to do that for you. Moving back in with me though is not right for either of us. We both need our own space and privacy.
Now of course you put all that into your own words. But the long and short of it is you are both adults. You both have your own lives and need your own private space. Your daughter does not need to see grandma spending the night with her BF or her BF spending the night with her, especially if you are working hard for her not to see you doing so.
You do not need your mother questioning your every move, how you spend your money or how you chose to raise your daughter. That is what was happening when she lived with you and will happen again if you allow her back in. You should avoid saying this unless it is a last resort to emphasize why you are saying no. You should be able to say no and rationalize it without going this far. If you can then I think even though mom might feel hurt it should not permanently damage your relationship with her for your reasons would be both sound and logical.
Good luck and stand your ground with mom for you are right to do so.
Ever since I started Highschool I've been kept on being bullied, sweared at, almost raped, and when I tell me teachers, they say "Say no!" This boy in year 11 keeps on raping me and saying "Let's have sex in the bathroom" and I scream and run. In primary school, there was a bunch of lez who kept trying to kiss me, and then the teachers in primary school was saying "they just trying to be your friend, playing around" but they once tried to pull my trouses down and I've been so nervous everyday that my attendance is like 10% please someone help me! D; I wanna learn, and have a good time, P.S I am a girl 14 years old
First: If the teachers are not protecting you then you, while in school go directly to the school principal. You should have also told your parents for they have a right to know you are being sexually harassed in school and nothing is being done about it. If your school has a Police resource Officer hool you can go directly to the Officer for help.
Second: You need to just what the definition of Rape is.
Rape: is when someone has actually forced you or attempted to force you to engage in a sexual act with them. This would be actual intercourse, oral sex, fingering you or touching you in sexual places without your permission.
Sexual Harassment: Is what you are describing. Attempting to kiss you without your permission, asking you to go into the bathroom for sex, being bullied or teased in a sexual manner is sexual harassment. This is illegal just as rape is.
Not knowing the difference between sexual harassment and rape could be why the teachers are ignoring your complaints. They should not be; as both are illegal and you deserve to be protected from both in or out of school.
Now that I've explained the difference you need to tell your parents what is happening. You need to tell them that you told the teachers you were being raped when in actuality you were being harassed and this may be why they ignored you. Your parents need to know this as it makes a difference in how they wish to proceed.
Once you have fully explained to your parents what is going one then they can decide to either call the police and make a police report allowing the police to investigate. Or they can call the principal and have a meeting with him or her and have the school investigate and handle to situation internally.
Most important is to understand what has and is happening to you at school. Sexual harassment and rape are not synonymous. They are both serious charges and need to be reported and corrected properly.
I work at an assisted living center in Utah and they do A LOT of illegal things in this facility. I'm just not comfortable with it. The nurse doesn't discard discontinued or expired meds and so residents end up taking them, they allow 2 people transfers into the facility as well as full term alzheimers patients who are violent which I thought was illegal since it's not a nursing home, its assisted living and they also treat their employees with extreme unfairness. I know treating employees unfair isn't illegal to an extent but is there a number I can call to not only report unfairness but another number I can call to report the illegal actions so state can come in and fix it? I dont want anyone to get in trouble but I see these residents suffer from it and I just dont feel comfortable holding it in anymore.
Every state treats assisted living centers differently. What bothers me the most is an assisted living center passing out medication, its not done in my state unless the center is attached to a nursing home.
In any case what you should do is contact the state or county health department with what you have observed. Using expired medication is not all that horrible depending on just how long they have been expired. The expiration date is more of a do not sell after date, or shelf life of the medication. After this date the medication will begin to lose its potency. The medication can still be taken for a month or two after the expiration date, in most cases without harm to the patient.
As to the other things you have observed; it is going to depend on how the facility is licensed and the laws and regulations governing assisted living centers in your state. Still if you have observations that you feel they are doing things that are harmful to the residents. Then you have an obligation to report it to the licensing authority. That should be the should be the state or local health department. At the very least they would be a good place to start.
I have PCOS and I'm trying to take care of it, but in themeantime I have to shave my face, neck, and upper part of my chest. I'm a girl. They're little hairs, not like men's. But I still have to shave, every day..maybe even twice. I'm tired of it but I don't have any money to pay for electrolysis or get it waxed every week. I'm hoping someone can tell me ways I can control it, or at least tell me how I can irritate my skin less so it won't be red. I feel unattractive and gross.
I wish I had an answer for you since besides being a hygiene problem. I am sure having facial hair that needs to be shaved is also an embarrassment.
I do though have a suggestion as to where an answer may come from. The cause of the problem is most likely the hormones in the medication you are taking. Now I am not a doctor and even if I were I could not make any type of determination based just on what you have written here. What I suggest is you talk with your prescribing doctor about this side effects of your current medication.
What you want to ask the doctor is:
1) is this normal for the treatment you are receiving?
2) If so Why?
3) Are there different medications that may be just as effective without this side effect?
4) If so what are the pros and cons of this other medication.
Regardless of your age, unless you are under 14, you have every right to question your doctor about how you are being treated and the different treatments available to you. If you are under 14 you may have to have a parent ask. You can and should be very much engaged in your own medical treatment. Long gone are the days of a doctor telling a patient; "trust me I know what is best for you."
If your doctor will not discuss with you the what and why of how you are being treated. Then seeking a second opinion from another doctor is in order. Insurance companies will pay for second opinion and even third opinions if need be.
When I need to see a new doctor, a specialist of some type. I always research then on the web. While I cannot find out just where they ranked in their class. I look to see what medical school they went to. Where they did their internship and residency. For specialists I also look to see where they did their fellowship and if they are Board Certified in their chosen field. I look for top medical schools and teaching hospitals. Those doctors that get there training at these hospitals generally are at the top of their class.
This generally mean I end up finding a bright young doctor who is still into the practice of medicine. Someone who is also looking to build their practice and is willing to search for answers.
I was disabled in an auto accident and have needed to seek out doctors to try and correct my injuries. While what I have told you is generally what I look for, I have also gotten lucky and found one of the top 5 neurosurgeons in the country to examine and treat me. You don't gain that ranking without years of practice, so it can go both ways. Though you have to do the research to find these doctors.
This is called being proactive in your own health care.
Im using trigestrel pills which have 7 red pills. I only get to see my period when im on the fourth red pill. Will I get pregnant if I have sex with my husband during the first 3 redppills?
While this is a question you should pose to your doctor the most probable answer is: Probably not.
The red pills are a form of placebo pill that are there to allow you to stay on track with you pills. They have less medication in them so that you get a period. This is why you get your period on the 4th day of the red pills. When you start back on the regular pills you period stops.
For 80% of women they are most fertile between the 7th and w1st day of their cycle. This is when your ovary should eject an egg for fertilization. Since it is during this time you are on the full strength of your birth control medication conception does not take place.
For the remaining 20% of women they can be fertile during any part of their cycle. This is why it is important to discuss this question with your doctor and find out just when you are fertile.
Knowing when is helpful to know even though the birth control medication does not stop working immediately upon cessation of the medication. When you want to start a family it will most likely take two to three months before the medication is totally out of your system and you can conceive.
I always read about girls getting crushes on their male teachers but I wonder if the same thing happened with boys and female teachers
All the time and probably more often than girls get crushes on male teachers. The reason is boys hormones are more out of control than girls hormones and at an earlier age.
I remember being madly in love with my 7th grade science teacher and every guy in my 8th grade math class. Then there was a 10th grade English teacher when I was in the 12th grade. Every guy in school had the hot's for her. She lived in town, we saw her at the pool in her two piece bathing suit and as seniors she was only 4 years older than most of us.
Are ardor for her was quickly cooled one day when she brought her fiancé, a Marine Lance Corporal in Full Dress Uniform, to school one day. She paraded him through the lunch room during the Senior and Junior lunch period. That was the end of the chasing after her.
So yes it is quite common. Thank you for bringing back some great memories.