|
humorist-workshop
What can I do I'm scared of my step dad and the things he does?
My mom married a much younger guy last year, and living with him has been awkward because he flirts with me when my mom's not around. Yesterday when my mom was at work I was sitting on the couch watching a movie with my little brother and sister, they were sitting on the floor. My step dad came and sat by me. He put his hands in between my thighs over my jeans and started touching my breasts. He did while my sister and brother were sitting on the floor with their backs to us and it was dark. When he did that I was scared . I told him to stop and he told me not to tell him to stop. My sister & brother were watching the loud movie, so they weren't paying attention to us on the couch. I tried pushing him away and moving. He kept on bothering me the whole time and I was scared to get up and when my mom got home I went in my room. I never feel comfortable around him. He'll put his hand on my waist, rub my stomach and get too close to me in front of my mom and it feels uncomfortable, and he's always saying "You're beautiful" My mom thinks he's playing around. And he looks at me with perverted eyes, all the time. i know my mom loves him so much and I know she wont believe me & she'll stay with him because he has money and we have nowhere else to go. She has stayed with him even though he beat her up before.
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Families?
This is abuse and if you are scared to speak with your mother you need to speak with an adult you do trust a teacher, counsler at your school, police friends parents, grandparents. Dont be scared. Be strong and get help for your self. Good luck.
]
You need to tell an adult because this can become very dangerous. Tell a teacher and if it gets worse tell the cops. This may be hard but try recording what he says to you or what he dose. You need to stop this before it gets worse. Please tell someone.
]
This is sexual abuse.
Talk to your mother, if she doesn't believe you and stays with him, she's not taking your safety into consideration, as well as your younger sister because she is also in danger.
You need to talk to another adult. Call the police, talk to a teacher, counselor, principal or any other trusted adult. They will help you.
Men like this should not be out doing this. Even if he and your mom split, there is a good chance he'll do the same to other girls and even beat their mothers and you don't want that.
One of the other previous advisers gave you a phone number to RAINN so you can also use that source.
Protect yourself and your sister and do the right thing. Talk to someone.
]
okay.. this is nott good.
you need to call child services and you have to stay with your little sister all the time becauuse he might be doing it too her tooo, and she might not being seeing it now..but she will eventually. If your mom wont listen to you.. there is always filming what happens.. take your phone and place it on something and record the whole thing and show it too her. She will probably be heart broken but think about your sister and brother.. and even yourself.
Sincerly,
Nobody :)
]
You are being sexually abused and you do not have to take it. There are people who will help you if you reach out to them. I am old enough to be your grandfather so please listen to the advice I am offering you.
As the others have told you. You can go to a trusted teacher, your school principal or any other trusted adult and ask them for help. If you pass a fire station or police station on the way to school you can go into either place and ask for help. Fire and police stations are safe havens for children.
Rubbing your breasts, rubbing your stomach and putting his hands between your thighs is sexual harassment. Once you have told him not to touch you in this manner he should stop. He should never have touched you in this manner in the first place as it is sexual abuse of a minor which makes him a pedophile.
There are two other things you can do to help yourself. One is to call an organization called RAINN. RAINN stands for; Rape, Abuse, Incest, National Network. The operate a 24/7 hotline with trained counselors who are there to help you. They will work with you to put you in touch with people in your town who will see to it you are safe. The hotline number is 1-800-656-Hope
The other is you can always call 911 if you feel unsafe. You do not need permission from anyone to call 911 and ask for help. Tell the call taker your step dad is sexually abusing you and you are scared. They will stay on the phone with you until the police and possibly the fire department arrive to protect you.
Once you make that call the police will have to come and check on you. Your step dad or your mom will not be able to turn them away. The police will have to decide if you are safe or not, as well as your siblings. In a situation such as yours if they are going to error they will do so on the side of your safety.
You should not wait to talk with someone about what is happening to you. Whether you call the police, talk to another trusted adult or call RAINN you need to do something before he tries more than just touching you.
I agree you should be scared because your safety is in jeopardy, so call the police, call RAINN or go talk to a friends parents who you trust.
]
If you mother wont help you, you need to find an adult who will.
Another relative, a teacher, a coach, someone at school you can talk to about what is happening.
Your stepdad is sexually abusing you (this isn't harassment, it's abuse) and it MUST stop. It has to stop now, because if it doesn't, someday he might turn his attention to your little sister, or even brother. Abusers like to be powerful, and as long as he has power over other people, he's going to abuse them.
If you are an American, you can call this hotline, at rainn.org: 1.800.656.4673, to get some advice and support from a professional if you aren't sure what to do next.
But the most important thing is, if your mom isn't protecting you and your siblings, you need to tell someone who will.
]
I'll start this of by saying that what your step dad is doing is wrong and can undergo sexual harassment.
You said that you've tried talking to your mum yet she totally ignores the problem (in another words she doesn't believe you). You could try to contact other family members and talk to them about your situation. If that however doesn't work out you need to sort this out yourself. Your mum wont believe you without proof so what you'll need to do is collect it. Whenever your step dad touches you again film him on a camera (set it up before-hand so that he doesn't know that he's being filmed). When your mum gets back show it to her (do it when your step dad isn't around). Oh and have a copy of the film (always comes in handy). You see when you show your mum that your step dad is sexually harassing you (don't be afraid to use this phrase) she should behave like a mother after all you should be her number priority.
PS: Tell your mum that money isn't everything and that there are more important things in life.
]
You should be your mother's number one priority over her second husband, not the other way around. Also the fact that she doesn't believe you makes the situation worse. That guy doesn't respect you or your mother if he's acting that way with you and it seems like he knows that your mother is only staying with him for his money so he takes advantage of you instead. I suggest that if you are a minor, you should talk to someone about it. Someone in legal matters. This is a very uncomfortable situation to be in.
]
More Questions: |