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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.I'm one of the very blessed.
I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.
Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.
Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.
I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.
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My boyfriend and i have been together for two months and he has been with my family on numerous occasions. He went to the airport with us to see off my cousin, he came over the house, and he came on the boat with the family as well. My boyfriend asked me to come over his house and i ignored the question by changing subjects fast (IT WORKED) I know he will ask again so id like to figure out if i have to force myself to go or not. Also he has asked me to come chill with his friends. My question is..since we only recently have seriously dated isnt it better to keep it between me and him rateher then let eachother meet the friends who by the way our very influential? also if im uncomfortable with going to his house isnt it okay for the begining of the relationship for us to avoide it? I met one of his friends today it was one of those quick meetings like hello nice to meet you bye things and i felt akward with it. I love my boyfriend very much thats why ive been commited for two months even though we didnt see eachother for a lil over a month. Am i being smart or immature? Is it okay if we avoid the chilling with friends for a lil bit more or am i being selfish? i havnt allowed my friends to meet him yet because i want to keep it between us so im not hypocritical in that sense. I do see that it may be unfair for me to chill at my hosue and not his but on the othrr hand hes more comfortable with going to my hosue then i am with going to his. HELP BEFORE HE ASKS AGAIN :)
The thing about it is, you will have to meet his friends and family eventually, why not get it over with?
That's a really good way to get to know him as well. Friends help show you where his interests lie, and family likes to tell stories about him.
If you are uncomfortable, give it a little more time, but I wouldn't give it much. If you love him like you say you do, you won't want to keep avoiding his invitations. That may push him away after a while.
hi, yea ok let me tell you how one of my best friends so and so is hooking up with sombody i really like...and its not like she doesnt know it, she does no how i feel about him and hes keeps like making out with him infront of me and everything....and it hurts me SO much. i really dont no what to say to her. She keeps saying, "o yea jus tell me anything and ill do wat i can to stop it." so yea what should i do?
haven
As I always say, I think it is important to be honest in your relationships. That means ALL relationships. Boyfriends, friends, parents, etc.
You need to tell her straight out how you feel about what she's doing to you. Let her know how it hurts you that she's dating someone you like. If you already told her, be sure to say, "Hey, don't do that crap in front of me. It isn't cool at all that you are smearing this right in my face."
If she is a real friend, she will stop blatantly hurting you. If she does change the way she goes about her display of affection with this guy, then let it go. Because if she's friend enough to respect how you feel, it's not worth letting a guy come between your friendship.
Also, you have to take into consideration her feelings. Maybe she really likes him and he really likes her. If she stops throwing it in your face out of respect for your feelings, you got to give her the same respect.
I have an 8 year old son who will be going into 3rd grade.
He played little league baseball this year and loved it.
He had his first football practice yesterday and he wasn't as thrilled about it. Today when it was time for practice he said he didn't want to go. Then when we got there, 1 hour into it he came off the field complaining that he felt like he was gonna throw up. I was concerned about the heat, it's really unusually hot here in upstate NY. But he looked ok, face color normal and he wasn't showing signs of heat exhaustion so I gave him a drink and made him go back out. Not even 5 minutes passed and he was complaining again. This time he refused to go back out and started crying.
So I took him home early and now he is just fine. I KNOW that he was faking it because he didn't want to play anymore.
My problem is, what should I do?
I don't want to push him into playing football if he really doesn't wanna play. But at the same time, he has only been to 2 practices and I feel like he should give it a fair chance before I let him quit. Plus we paid over $100 for him to be on this team.
Should I force him to play, for at least 2 weeks before letting him quit? Or should I just let him quit now?
Thanks for your help
Who's idea was it for him to play football?
If it was his idea, then he should stick it out for the season and not play anymore after that. That would teach him to be sure he wants to start something like that before you put out the cash for it. No since allowing him to learn to start something and never finish.
If it wasn't his idea, then I'd let him quit. Kids are very good at twisting your intentions, meaning- you don't want him to think he has to do things he don't want to do in order to not dissapoint you.
Also, if you do force him to play before letting him quit, wheather it be for 2 weeks or 2 days, he isn't likely to change his mind about the sport.
Thank You for answering my question. Your advice means alot to me. The reason why this meant so much to me when I saw that it look so normal. I mean he was an average looking person not bothering anyone. I was having a really bad day and wishing that something would happen to take my mind off my day and there he was. It does truly interest me and I wish that I would have stopped and talked to him. Anyways, you answered my question the best of all the answers and you took time to think about it. Thanks again
Well I'm glad to have been so helpful to you. And I'm glad it does intrest you.
The sad fact is, most people would walk by that guy on the street and either not give him a second glance or they would try to get as far away from him as possible like he's some kind of monster just because he is different.
You should be proud of yourself for seeing him as a fellow human being and caring about what's going on in his world. There aren't enough people out there like you!
You never know, maybe you will cross paths with him again and you will have another chance to speak with him. If you do, I'm sure he will appreciate the fact that you were kind enough to say hello.
Walking down a very busy street today, I saw a gentleman talking to himself and pausing to hear an answer. He was talking to himself but I truly believe, that he believed, there was someone there. Who can say that there wasn't? Could he be talking to the dead or to someone else that lives on a different plain then we do? Maybe, he is the "normal one" and we aren't because we can't see what he is seeing? Has anyone else ever thought of this theory before or am I not "normal"?
Well, your curiosity doesn't make you "not normal."
But I wouldn't say that this guy is necessarily insane or anything. He is just different than you or I mentally.
Yah, he could have been talking to dead people. Heck, he could have been talking to God for all we know. But no matter who it was, he was hearing someone in his own mind.
I don't think this makes him normal and you not or vise-verse. Talking to voices no one else can hear is normal to him, just as talking to your friends on the phone is normal to you.
I definitely think that it is something you could study about if it interests you. Maybe it is something that will inspire you to do things to help people considered "not normal" or "not sane".
I am wanting a sugar glider really really bad i love animals ive did reasearch and everything on them i dont know how to conince my mom to let me get one and im paying and everthing wat can i do. Oh and im 13 so if that helps i feel responsible enough but ive never had a pet so can anyone give suggestions on how to covince her. thankzzz
Well, I didn't know what you were talking about but when I looked them up I can definitely see why you want one!
The page I read says they are clean and inexpensive to care for. Have you mentioned this to her?
Have you tried to print the information you have researched so she could read on them herself?
But something to consider in this is do you live somewhere that allows pets?
Here is the site I checked out (and maybe you already have too), but I say the way you should try to approach this is to print all of this information and give it to your mom.
http://www.skinhorse.net/gliders/
i have a job and i usually work mornnings. And that means i have to wake up around 530am. I have a really loud alarm clock but im a hard sleeper and i dont hear it.
It usually has been going off for around 15 - 30 mintues before i actually hear it.
Dont tell me i need to go to bed earlier. i go to bed around 10 pm. And i cant put the alarm right next to my bed because ill end up turning it off.
Anything that will help me get up with the alarm?
Gee... that sounds all too familiar! I am the same way!
And I fully agree with you that going to bed earlier doesn't help, so you won't hear that from this chick. And yes, setting it next to the bed is never a good plan because the snooze button and the "off" switch are the enemy.
What I do is set my alarm to go off sooner than I need to get up. In your case, you would want to set it 15-30 minutes earlier. That gives you the time you need to hear it going off and have it actually wake you up.
My little 12 year old sis needs deodorant but she doesn't want to ask our parents to buy her some, she want to buy it herself. BUT she is embarrased cause she thinks handing deodorant to the employee at the drug store to buy when she's 12, the guy will think it's odd. I told her to don't worry and no one will care but she doesn't believe me at all, and I don't even think I believe myself. I don't want my sis to get embarrased or mad if they do think's its odd or give her a little giggle. I know they arent going to say anything but they might think it. So, please tell me, do you think the employees will do anything or thinks its odd if my 12 year old sis buys deodorant by herself? PLEASE PLEASE PLEASe don't say ask our parents, or for me to buy it for her cause I want her to do it.
First off, let her know that there is nothing embarrassing about buying deodorant. However it would be very embarrassing to go without and not smell quite right with life.
I PROMISE that no one will say anything or even think it. I spent most of my working career as a cashier over a period of 10 years, and I know that I never paid that close attention to kids buying deodorant, I was just there to take the money for it and make change. My job was to sell that deodorant, not think things like "Gee, lookit that girl buying deodorant" so re-assure her that she has nothing to be worried about in that department.
Besides, we have all been there before. Your parents have been there too (Shock and Disbelief!!) and they would have absolutely no problems with buying it for her.
If it could be a help to her, maybe you could go in with her and stand in line along side her so she doesn't feel so much like she's in the spotlight.
hey, is there any shampoos/conditioners and products that make your hair grow? i need places where i can go out and buy it tho, because im not going to order it from the internet.
-caitt
You know, my hair grows as slow as you could see cold molasses running across a flat surface.
I have never in my life found any kind of shampoo or the such to make it grow faster. I sure wish there was such a thing that really did work.
Yah, there is stuff like Rogaine and the like, but that is for baldness, and I would STRICKLY ADVISE you to STAY AWAY from such products!!!
So I'm sorry to tell you, that you will just have to be patient to have those lovely flowing locks, just as I am.
im 13/f and i weigh 135 pounds. am i fat? if it helps, i look like this:
http://i80.photobucket.com/albums/j182/Babiixbrunette/024.jpg
i will only rate if you are completely honest.
and be honest because i am trying to lose 10 pounds and i need to know if it's worth it
Well, I can honestly say DAMN! Wish I looked like you! I don't think you are the least bit fat. So don't go getting your self image twisted like that. Because, honestly, I am fat (but I don't want to show you my picture, I'm not that brave).
Now, if you think loosing 10 lbs is a good idea, you need to consider your height.
http://www.dietitian.com/ibw/ibw.html
Check out this site. It will give you your healthy body weight for your height. You can fill it all out but you can skip the questions with purple dots.
It gives you a weight range that will be healthy for you to maintain.
Just remember, it may be unhealthy for me to have too much weight, but it is equally as unhealthy if you were to be too much underweight.
how come advicenators has changed so much? a while ago.. people could ask anyone question they had. now there are all these rules and they really restrict what i am curious about. a lot of serious questions i have, have all been deleted. i dont understand this and i think it should change.
Well, you know this site is for ages starting at THIRTEEN!!!!
Because of this, you may think I'm a real bitch and I frankly don't give a rat's ass, but I sure don't think a thirteen year old needs to be reading the sexual material you seem to be obsessed with asking about.
From what DangerNerd said, your questions seem very inappropriate for an advice site that is viewable by young answer-seekers.
You know what? I'm glad that your questions have been deleted. I sure wouldn't want that kind of material available for my kid to read. Especially a kid who isn't of the legal age of consent.
Maybe you should try to use your Internet to find a sex advice site, because this isn't one of them.
As for you saying Advicenators has changed so much, I don't know about that because I've only been here a short spell, but if it has changed then I say BRAVO!
My name is Shannon, I'm female and I am 19 years old. I've recently started dating dating a guy who i have known for a while. He is a really nice guy but the only problem is, is he is too clingy. I dont wanna just stop datin this guy as this is the only problem. Ive spoken to him about it and he stopped it but i can gradually see it coming back. What should i do?
Well Shannon, I am a firm believer in being honest with how you feel.
Since that seems to be his only down-fall, I think you are right in continuing to date him.
So, if he starts to "cling" again, just remind him that though you really like being around him, you do still like to have some space.
Let him know that you don't mean to sound rude about it. It could be that he is so into you, that he can't help himself and don't realize he's being clingy and making you uncomfortable. Or it could be that he's that way because he doesn't know how else to be.
No matter what reason causes him to be clingy, it's not something that you guys can't work out. Just remember that your feelings are important to him, so let him know what's going on.
One of my pupils is bigger than the other. I've been to three different doctors and they don't ever say anything about it. What could it be?
I can't tell you what it is, but here are some sites I found that may give you some information.
When you went to the doctor, did you go specifically for your pupil sizes? If not, you should set an appointment for that reason. You may consider seeing an optometrist (eye doctor) because I think it should be something someone should check out and make sure there is no serious underlying cause.
http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/ency/article/003314.htm
http://www.shands.org/health/information/article/003314.htm
http://www.drkoop.com/ency/93/003314.html
I need a new dresser so my mom showed me a really cool site with lots of inexpensive furniture. She said that if I want a new dresser, I'd have to sell some of my old stuff on the same site. Here's the dilemma: I found a couch and a chair on this site that are $150 for both! They're made out of denim, and that's the theme for my room. I have about $120 so my mom would only have to lend me $30 and pick it up for me (it's only 20-30 minutes away). She said no and that I need to focus on the dresser. What should I do? Someone else will buy them soon.
Ok, so I know the courch and chair are cool and fit the theme of your room, but you said you NEED and dresser. So, I suggest that you use the money for the item you need, and get the items you want with money you save.
If the dresser isn't $120, then you already have a start on saving for your couch and chair set. If it's gone when you have the money to buy it, don't worry. I know there will be something out there you will like better.
I just bought a sage plant for cooking. The problem is I know nothing about gardening. How do I pot my new sage plant? I have searched online and had little luck.
Also does anyone have any tips, or know of some good sites? If I can keep my plant alive, I would like to buy other herbs. Any tips on herb gardens?
I do a little gardening, but not with herbs, so I don't have any good advice for you, but I did find a website that you may be interested in. It is step by step herb gardening. Hope it helps you.
http://www.backyardgardener.com/herb/
I am tired of looking at my plain white painted windowsill in my dorm. What's a plant that looks pretty but will not die if (more like when) I forget to water it, or leave it shut up in my cold room for a month while I am at home for break?
Hey, I know just the plant for you. It's called a "Snake Plant" aka "Mother-in-Law's Tounge"
They are very simple to care for and very hard to kill. So if you forget to water it for a few weeks or a month or two, it will still look like a healthy plant. They also thrive with or without much sunlight.
The reason it doesn't need a lot of water is because it is in the cactus family, but it is much easier to take care of than an accual cactus. They even look good, below is a link so you can kind of see what they look like.
http://www.flickr.com/search/?w=67567835@N00&q=snake+plant&m=text
Tonight my dad mistakenly caught part of the family garden on fire. Does it have a chance of coming back. If so, how do I take care of them(cucumbers, shuck peas, and watermelon). If you don't know don't answer. Also please try to use correct grammer or I'll mark low. If you tried then its fine.
No hard feelings
Jenni
Your garden will come back. Your soil will be fine because the fire won't burn the nutrients out of the soil. However, your plants that are only annual aren't likely to be saved if they were burnt.
Your fruit and vegetables might have a chance if they weren't damaged in the fire. If they were damaged, you will have to try to plant a new garden for late harvest. Then care for it as usual.
To look on the bright side, fire will burn up seeds that grow weeds, causing a little less work in keeping your garden clean.
can u plant flowers and plants beside each other in a garden?? or do the roots get all up on the flower? have u ever done this??
It all depends on the size of the roots on the plants. Generally, the smaller the plant, the smaller the root ball.
Say for example, you can plant daisy's 1-2 inches apart, but for mammoth sunflowers (that reach heights 6 feet) have to be planted at least 9" apart.
You can find out the distance to keep between plants either on the back of the seed pack or if you are buying starters, you should be able to find it on the tag that came with it. If not, call a nursery. They will tell you.
When planting multiple types of plants in a garden, like daisies and mammoth sunflowers, you would want to plant the daisies 9" from the sunflowers. The bigger the plant, the more water and soil nutrients it absorbs. If you plant the daisy 2" away from the sunflower, the sunflower will absorb all of the water and nutrients leaving the daisy with slim chances of survival.
So, I have a few LEGO peices I Sharpied back when I was dumb, and I wanna get rid of the marks now. Can anyone please tell me how to get rid of the marks? Like, what to use, how much of it, where to get it, etc.
Thanks,
-Fyce
PS: Here's the link to the type of sharpie.
http://www.sharpie.com/sanford/consumer/sharpie/productcatalog/tipfamilydetail.jhtml?attributeId=SNATT_SUP_9200006¤tType=SNTYPE004
Use hairspray to remove permanent marker from plastic. non- aerosol works best ("spritz") because you can pour it on to a cloth and scrub of the marker.
Ok, so my friend told me that her cousin told her that she was that she was anorexic and that she smokes and drinks. I'm afraid of her cousin who happens to be in my grade and was my bff hurting herself or dying. What should I do?
http://www.raderprograms.com/famfrnd.aspx
Here is a link from a website about anorexia. This my be helpful to you in how you can help her.
Anorexia is a serious disease. I don't know much about it to give you advice other than your friend needs help if she is anorexic, because, yes, it will kill her if she isn't treated. Her body needs nourishment to live.
But just remember, just like the drinking and smoking, she has to want to get help to get better. Be supportive to her, because she needs you.