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Football
I have an 8 year old son who will be going into 3rd grade.
He played little league baseball this year and loved it.
He had his first football practice yesterday and he wasn't as thrilled about it. Today when it was time for practice he said he didn't want to go. Then when we got there, 1 hour into it he came off the field complaining that he felt like he was gonna throw up. I was concerned about the heat, it's really unusually hot here in upstate NY. But he looked ok, face color normal and he wasn't showing signs of heat exhaustion so I gave him a drink and made him go back out. Not even 5 minutes passed and he was complaining again. This time he refused to go back out and started crying.
So I took him home early and now he is just fine. I KNOW that he was faking it because he didn't want to play anymore.
My problem is, what should I do?
I don't want to push him into playing football if he really doesn't wanna play. But at the same time, he has only been to 2 practices and I feel like he should give it a fair chance before I let him quit. Plus we paid over $100 for him to be on this team.
Should I force him to play, for at least 2 weeks before letting him quit? Or should I just let him quit now?
Thanks for your help
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Maybe you should take him out before games start and possibly get a refund of most of the money as opposed to later. he might be too young... football around here starts at about 5-6th grade. don't force him into doing it.. he'll end up quitting later. it might not be that he doesn't like the sport but maybe the other kids weren't nice and he doesn't like that & just doesn't want to go. maybe if its a league with all kinds of sports, let him try soccer out. it's less aggressive & he might like that better. <3
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well i believe that is wrong to force someone into doing something. it only makes things worse. and he's been to two practices which i believe is enough to make a choice. if your son is the changing type than you should suggest that he play another 2 weeks but if he is quick to the point and makes decisions fast than you should ask him what he wants to do. although i reccommend that you do not push him into playing if he doesn't want to.
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you probably shouldnt make him play. kids like to experment and if you make him play he'll resent you and not play to his full pontental and it wont be worth it. when i was younger i tried gymnastics for 3 months but now dont do it and your son probably just wanted to try it so i wouldnt make him play
hope i helped
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How hot was it out there? Where I live (NC)...according to the news, it was 98 degrees with a heat index of 115. That 115 number is for the people that are actually outside not just standing around, but playing, running or working. It's letting you know to be very careful. Possibly his problem WAS that it was just to hot for him. *(If)* your going to insist that he play, make sure he stays hydrated. Being that you paid so much for him to play, I would try to make him go to a couple more practice's though. He need's to understand that $100.00 dollars is not a small amount of money and that yall could have used that to pay bills if he was just going to quit. Tell him he has to go to like 3 more practice's and maybe by then, he will of gotten use to it more, the heat, and the other players and hopefully want to stay. When he's not doing football, is he usually indoors with the AC? If other that football, he's indoors where it's nice and cool that's probably why he doesn't want to do it.. Not because he's going to pass out but because he thinks it's to hot outside.
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Well, it really depends on where you want him to go with football. Football is a very difficult sport, a very aggressive sport, and a very expensive sport. If you're serious about it, and intend for him to go on to do it through high school and the whole bit, I highly reccomend pushing him harder, because that's what football is about. The entire northeastern hemisphere is facing a HUGE heat wave right now (it was 47 degrees yesterday here in Ottawa, Ontario) I bet he'll be loving it the second this heat passes over. Even if he misses a practice now and then if it's too hot, you can still just pass a ball around at home and keep him in the game. If you just want a hobby sport, try Soccer. Soccer is a great sport for all kids, it teaches dexterity and agility, and boosts endurance and speed greatly. Football does these things as well, but on a much higher scale. It's a fun sport, but some people aren't built for it. Once you reach Peewee, if you aren't a giant, then it's not reccomended. If you want a sport he can get attached too and isn't going to injure him greatly, or grow out of him, try Soccer or Basketball, something of that sort. I guarantee that football will help build a place for him in high school too, chicks dig football players ;)Football is a way of life, rather than a sport, and I guarantee that if it's not the way of life your son is in to, then it'll cause grief later on in life. Well, good luck, and enjoy the heat. Cheers
-Skentelbery-
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I know i'm not a parent or anything, but its easier for me to put myself in his place... being that i remember what it was like.
When i was that age, my parents supported me in all that i wanted to try, & willingly let me quit if i decided a week later that i despised it. Everything from gymnastics to soccer. I stuck with soccer for 3 years, but quit gymnastics in 3 days. My mom would always make sure that i was positive about my choice. & i understand that you spent a good chunk of money on this... but i wouldnt force him. When i was that young, i just thought that money was easy to obtain because Mommy & Daddy always seemed to have some.
So force him if you feel it must be done. I mean, who knows? He may end up changing his mind! But if you do want to keep him in it awhile longer... i would say not to force him any longer than 2 weeks. Probably less.
& maybe football just isnt his thing! You could just not force him & let him stick with just little league for the time-being. It's what i would do. If my parents would have forced me, I wouldnt have forgiven easily. Just talk it out with him. Tell him it's all right if its something he wants.
& try to find community teams that dont cost so much. 100$ is awfully expensive for a kids team! hope i helped!
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100 dollars is alot of money for a 3rd grade child to play football.. I mean i can see why you wouldn`t want to make him but you defiantly should make him atleast try;;I use to get like this when i played soccer Yes i wanted to quit && stuff but mainly it was because of the heat;;If he stays with it he`ll get use to the heat && just make sure he has alot of water but don`t make him drink alot during practice cuz most likely he`ll throw up [[I know from experience]] We he has games more in the fall he`ll be more okay because it won`t be as HOT!!
Just give him time && if his attitude doesn`t change about it within a few weeks don`t make him do it..
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I think that unless you told him up front, 'If we
spend money on the equipment you have to play the season', then it might not be a bad idea to let him quit. There is a big difference between
baseball and football and he may just not like football.
You should talk to him first though and find out exactly (tell him you won't be mad), why it is he doesn't want to play. It could very well be the heat. Maybe someone is picking on him. If it is something along those lines then maybe there is a way to help him keep playing.:)
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Who's idea was it for him to play football?
If it was his idea, then he should stick it out for the season and not play anymore after that. That would teach him to be sure he wants to start something like that before you put out the cash for it. No since allowing him to learn to start something and never finish.
If it wasn't his idea, then I'd let him quit. Kids are very good at twisting your intentions, meaning- you don't want him to think he has to do things he don't want to do in order to not dissapoint you.
Also, if you do force him to play before letting him quit, wheather it be for 2 weeks or 2 days, he isn't likely to change his mind about the sport.
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football's a tough sport. very intense training and depending on the coaches, little tolerance for complaining. because of your sons young age i would imagine that the coaches would be a lot more calm in their approach, but that doesn't always happen. what i would do is stay at his practices and see what exactly is going on and how intense the practices are. baseball is a totaly different sport than football, and a totaly different mind set. baseball also is a lot less of a physical stresser. i would continue to have im play, but it is not the type of sport that i would force him to stay into because of its intensity. i wouldnt let the money factor suade your desision. my brother started football when he was about 9 or 10 and he diddnt like it at first, he came home feeling sick, but he stuck with it and he is now on the highschool team, and he loves it, he also plays baseball and loves both sports, but he is more tired after football than baseball.
i would have him stick it out for a little while longer, but watch what the coaches are doing for practices, football isn't a sport for everyone, you have to watn to play it to be able to disapline yourself to go through the physical stress, but like i said this is probably not as intense, but training will only become more intense as he gets older.
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Defiantly do not FORCE him to play. My dad did that with my big brother and he hated him for it. Then he turned around and tried to push my younger brother into basketball.
Let him know that quitting is not something he should get used to and should always give things a try. Tell him that maybe if he sticks around, he'll end up liking it.
Ask him why he doesn't like playing football and why he never wants to go to practice. There could be plenty of valid reasons to why he doesn't like it. My brother didn't like running around in the heat, wearing all the pads, and being pushed to the ground. Or he might not think he's good at it. If this is the problem, offer to help him between practices.
After you talk to him and he truly just does not want to play, I think you should let him quit. And if he loves baseball, then good he can stick with that. You could also try getting him into basketball or soccer and see if he likes those sports.
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