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Since school started ive become friends with a guy, and i think i like him more than that. The other day after realizing my feelings for him were real..i finally admitted it...before id joke aroudn with my friends about how he was cute and things..and one of my friends willa agreed..i asked her if she liked him, but she said, not if you do. i thought that was really nice of her. Yestedday she wrote me a letter sayign she really likes him too. i felt like my stomach dried up. I find it odd how after i say i like him, she does too... she went to one of our mutual friends about it and this girl said id acted like a bitch about the whole thing. Should i continue to like him? afterall..i am the one that did all along...and me and this girl arent like..BEST friends.., everyone says theyd see me and him together more than her and him, and we have more inc ommon...what should i do? how do i show him i like him without beign too pushy before she ..throws herself at him? im not that kind of girl..i barely flirt..what do i do?

well you did like this boy before her so i don't think you should back down just because she says u should. I think you have the right to like this boys. i mean feelings can't be stopped. they just happen. so go ahead and ask him before she does. who knows he might like you back! u'll never find out unless you let him know ur feelings.

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heyy. does anyone know where (a store or a website) you can get good phones for nextel? besides, like nextel.com. thaanks!

well you can try ebay.com. that's where i get all mi phones from.

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Hello,
Okay where do I start?.. Umm well I've always been a very good student, in fact since the 7th grade I've been in Nt'l Junior HOnor Society. Up until this year, I've been exceedingly good in all of my classes, getting no less than an 80 in my classes. However, I've been regressing. In fact, I got a 73 on my progress report!! ANd I do my hoemwork every single day. I haven't really been paying attention as well as I used to but I just feel so0o out of it. I don't knwo what to do, because now that I'm in Hgih school I want to do REALLY well. I need help...anyone?!

Sincerely,
School Troubles
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well i understand the way you feel. i mean sometimes (most of the time for me) school work and studying is a drag. so i mix it up wit things i like to do. for example, i luvv playing games. so i usually make up kul study games to help me understand better. also, sometimes a person needs to interact with others to help them learn better. so it's a good idea to start a study group with your friends. you know get together and do homework and help each other and stuff. it always works. hope i helped ;)

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i just got out of a bad relationship with my ex. my new boyfriend is everything that my ex was and was not. and i love him to death. my ex didnt love me the way he said he did. he lied to me constantally. he left it up to me to keep in contact (he was 1000 miles away). just crap like that. the distance and other girls is basically what separated me and my ex. however, my current boyfriend, nick, is so amazing. i know that he would never do anything to hurt me. he is there for me. was there for me when i was breaking up with my ex. (really didnt want to break up with him cause he was my first love). nick is just amazing. however, i am beginning to see qualities in nick that drove me and my ex apart. and im beginning to wonder about me and nicks relationship. its not as strong as i would like it to be. i dont get to see nick as much as i would like to either. yea, he does live in the same city as me, but he doesnt go to my school. and thats beginning to play a part in my doubt. i really want to be able to trust him fully and completely. but, i cant get over this doubt. cant help but wonder if my ex is at fault for causing me to not be able to trust people. he hurt me so bad. anywho... how am i supposed to get over this doubt in my new relationship with nick?

well you need to ask yourself if Nick is anything like your ex was. i mean you did say that he wouldn't do anything to hurt you and he luvs u very much...so you should trust him. and if it's hurting you tat badly, you should talk to him. if he luvs u, he should be able to understand. and as far as the diff school problem goes, it doesn't matter if your in different schools..i mean me and mi bf are in different countries..but that doesn't affect our love 1 bit. as long as you two keep seeing each other, it shouldn't be a problem.

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15/f. soo my bf is 16 turnin 17 in feb. he doesnt have his license yet bc his mom made him wait to get his permit first and then wait again for his license. soo he was supposed to get it this summer but now he cant get it till decemberish. well, ive always gone out w/ guys 16-18 who could drive and come pick me up to go out and stuff. now that im with him and he cant drive, its like my mom CANT STAND IT. anytime i ask to go to his house or out with him somewhere, she gripes about how i should 'have a bf that can come get me' and 'she doesnt wanna run all over the country for me' [its like a 10-15 min drive.] soo im like well im sry it wasnt his fault he couldnt get his license i mean what are we supposed to do about that? so im turnin 16 on wednesday and gettin my license thursday so i was like 'just dont fuss so much and when i get my license ill drive my own self to go see him'. and i doubt im gettin a car so i was like i could just borrow your car if youre not usin it and go and she was like 'no im not just gonna let you use my car all the time!' soo what does she expect us to do then?? its not his fault he cant drive and when i drive she isnt gonna let me drive to see him so what does she want us to do, WALK to see each other? we go to diff schools and we only get to see each other once a week twice if we're lucky so its not like were always on the run. ive tried explainin that to her and its never any help! also she has no prob drivin to see her bf a couple times a week after work but then she yells and gripes if i wanna go out on a school nite for a lil bit but talkin to her is like it goes right in 1 ear and out the other.

well i dunno if this will work but it works for me all the time. you need to act like you reaaaally miss him and act sad in front of your mom. maybe she will then feel sorry and take you. but if not, you can always take the bus..or you can ask 1 of ur friends to take u...lolz this might not b the best advice givin buh i tried. He He :)

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Well.. normally Im a pretty outgoing, like laid-back kinda person.. not too laid-back, but I'm comfortable. Like around my family, and close friends. I'm really energetic and stuff, which is like the complete opposite of how I am in school. I dunno, but in school people usually see me as like a shy, quiet girl when my personality really isnt like that. like sometimes i feel like i shouldnt say some things, when its like my opinion.. i mean i raise my hand in class etc and im a good student, and i dont want to like fail or whatever, but i want to be as easygoing and more comfortable in school like i am in school and stuff, because sometimes it stops me from being friends with people and stuff when i know i'll get along with them and stuff. i guess it takes some time to know me.. and because of my softspoken and quietness in class, i got put in speech cause the teachers couldnt hear me when i could pronounce like all the words. i dont get it.. its like my voice kinda lowers and seems kinda dull and boring when i speak well sometimes, and like everyone in the class hears what i said except the teacher, of course. i mean sometimes i even pretty much shout it, and some kids like mumble and the teacher hears the mumble but apparently is deaf to me speaking?!? like i always have to repeat stuff. i mean seriously.. maybe i should just not care about what people think cuz sometimes i wonder if i say something like really weird i dont want to be labeled like that, when people like my friends really know me and wouldnt judge me like that. and ya i love myself and stuff but i dunno why i do that. i try to stop doing it and be like more outgoing every day, but sometimes i feel less like a kid and more.. like strict and junk, when i dont want to entirely be that way, and like be more flexible and stuff. i guess i'd like tips on how to be like.. more comfortable in school and stuff? or overall. thanks a junks for helping! =]

well in my opinion you just need to see school as a regular everyday thing. You know like communicate with other people. ask them for help give them help. You need to contact with other people and realize that everyone is just like you. everyone has their own fears. When you give an answer in class, you should be proud to say it. say it loud and proud. lolz i'm sounding sorta wierd rite now. Overall, you just need to communicate more and pretend that school is just like your home and your classmates are your sisters and brothers. the teacher...well what can i say, she probably just hates her job lolzz. hope i helped :):)

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hey,your background is reallly cute, whered ya get it?


Leigha

i went to google images and typed in pink sparkling background

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Okay, so at the camp I go to, there is this counselor who is the hottest, nicest, funiest guy ever with the cutest voice and everything. I started noticing him in like a crushing way the first year I went and by this year, it was like a full out obsession. He knows I like him in that way but we can't really do anything because 1.he's 18 (I'm not even 15) and 2. it is so crossing the counselor/camper line and 3. I won't even see him until next year. So it's just like a fun little obsession...while I'm there. But now I'm home and I still think about him ALOT. I still dream about him every night and I've been home for a week. How do I stop this madness?

By the way, please don't say get a boyfriend because I never officialy broke it off with my long distance one from camp (who was closer to my age).

well then if you already have a boyfriend then focus on him more then your counciler. focus on something you have insted of something you don't have and probably won't get.

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Well, before the "in" thing was prep. Right? Well, now everyone is like be "original." Now, Original is becoming UnOriginal. I really don`t know what to do. Because I meen I want to be myself, and stand out. Before I was PREPPREPPREPPREP. & then I decided I wanted to become original because I got sick of everything. But, now, everyone wants to be Original, and its like a new trend. Original is suppose to be original!! not a TREND. I really dont know what to do anymore. I just want to be myself. 14/f.


ps im a REALLY bad speller

well don't worry about everyone else. just be the true you. if orignal is what everyone wants to be then let them be. all you need to do is be yourself and set an example for those who want to be original. remember everything starts with you. you are the one that is gonna make a difference in life. so be yourself and don't worry about what's "in"

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I'm just not gettin guys right now. I used to, but now it's too confusing! When I'm lookin for a guy, just to see if there's anyone that's interesting, I get nothing. But when I'm not looking for anything, guys are always looking for me, if that makes any sense.
My friends have told me that I'm pretty and outgoing, so why can't I get a good guy for once?
My last boyfriend thought I was too fat. I'm 115 pounds! see for yourself:

http://www.mycrib.net/?pageid=mycrib.member.profile&ID=73187

So is it me, or am I just freaking out?

guys ae not something you can buy. it takes time to find the perfect one. you just have to keep trying. when you have found one that likes you for who you are and not what you look like...u have found the right guy.

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ok so i went out with this guy for like 2 days. then he broke up with me and my best friend told me to go ask him out for her. i really regret asking him cuz theyve been going out for 2 months now. i still really like him and he said that if him and my bff broke up he would probably go out with me again. but my best friend said that if i ever go out with him again she would hate me. im afraid that if i go out with him again that he'll break up with me again and break my heart in pieces. i dont know if i should go out with him again.
please help!!
thanks in advance. =)

well take a minute to realize...is this guy really the right one for you? if yes then you should take a chance to go out with him again. and if your best friend is really what she says she is then she won't get mad at you once she's broken up with him. once they break up...don't go for him right then and there. take a while for your friend to forget him or atleast get over him then take a chance. and if he does break your heart then just assume that he isn't good enough for you and he never was. there are plenty of guys in the world. there is always 1 that is perfect. in love, heartbreaks and breakups and get togethers are common so don't worry about it. just get over it if he dumps you again.

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The question is simple but the answer might be abit more complex! "Is life fair"? And please no answers lile "it's as fair as you make it"!!

life is fair if you give it a chance. life can be challenging and give you many turns and curves but if you go through it with a positive atittude..no matter how difficult and unfair life is...for you it will seem fair.

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I'm 15 and I'm completley new to makeup. Shocking, right? I don't really need it all that much but I kind of wanted to step up my look a little bit. Can somebody help me with colors to choose or something?

Hair color: Light Brown
Eye Color: Green Blue (hazel)
Skin Color: Light with a few freckles

I'd appreciate it so much :)

well my suggestion is to go to a salon and ask them. or maybe get a few makeovers and see which one suits you best.

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Hey guys :)

Okey, let me start off by saying thanx for taking a minute or so to help me.
This is the thing, I recently asked a question about having an interview with a person. And I have now had the interview, and I have all the questions..all I've got to do is put it all together. But I don't know how to start the interview in a humorous or atleast interesting way. I don't want to be like "I had the interview with "bla bla bla" and this is what he/she answered when I asked "bla bla bla" is there anyother way of starting it?

Thank you for any suggestions.

well there are many ways to start off. you can start it off by asking a question. that's my fav.

example:

if your interview was about difficulties in one's life...

have you ever wondered about some of the difficulties people face? well i've interviewd a person who's been having a lot of difficulties lately.

srry if it wasn't any help. i tried :)

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All In the past month or so, a lot of my friends are having all sorts of problems...and I feel like it's all being put on me. One of my friends is having family problems, and she got in a car accident yesterday(she is fine), and another friend is having boyfriend (not problems necissarly) troubles...
It's like I know that It's not jsut me, my friends have other friends who are helping them with their situations, but I'm still dealing with it all, even if i'm the only one.
What do y'all suggest I do? I don't want to not be able to help my friends, but if I hear of one more problem from anyone else that I'm not getting them from...I just don't know what I'll do.

well you need to relax and take the pressure off your shoulders. friends are always there for each other so try to make the best of each situation and most importantly...don't try to solve the problem by yourself. try to make them feel better and strong enough to handle their own problems.

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I really want boys to find me attractive.On myspace no boys ever leave me any picture comments, but they leave all of my friends comments even if they arn't really all that attractive. I have the personality, but I just need help finding a look for me. I want boys to notice me, and actually say I'm pretty. I'm thinking about changing my hair color. I'm a brunette right now, so I'm probably going to be a blonde. I'm prep and wear A&f and Hollister because I like the store so please no lectures. I need you guys to help my find a new look. I want to change my hair, (any popular hair styles would be appricated.) I want to wear make up that will bring out my features, like what kind of make up would make my eyes stand out more and appear bigger? I just want boys to actually think I'm SOMEWHAT attractive for once. What kinds of clothes should I wear to make guys think I have a nice body, but not appear slutty and what colors attract attention? So basically I need help to do with my hair, make up (especially eyes and lips) clothes, overall appearence and anything else that attracts guys. Any help would be appreciated!

well if you want a new look what you should do is go to a salon and ask them for tips and new latest looks. i've tried it before and it really works. ask them for good make up as well. they'll tell you.

hope i helped :)

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I'm a semi-popular cheerleader. I'm in a bunch of classes with some of my fellow cheerleaders who are really popular. I'm pretty good friends with a few, but I barely know the other ones. I really want to get in good with them, because other then them, the rest of the kids are seriously pokemon obsessed ners (no offence) and those just aren't my kind of people. I'm totally myself, but I don't want to look like a wanna bee, any tips?

well since you are really good friends with some of the populars then i guess it's ok. if you want to become more popular. then just act yourself. make yourself be noticed.

hope it helped :)

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Hey, I was just wondering if anyone knew some good like.. love/heartbreak songs. Anything you know of? It can be any type.. cliche/or not.
Thanksss! :]

well there are two songs that i think are really sad. it's unfaithful from rihanna and missing from evanescence

hope you liek them

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i have only made out with one person and im not sure if im good or not, im really self concious about that kind of stuff and like i dont want him to say "you suck" but like anyone have anytips that can help me be a better kisser?

well if you want to be a better kisser then keep trying. the more often you do it, the better you'll get at it. and if u feel that you are not doing a good job then maybe you are not comfortable with it. you need to relax and enjoy it for it to be better.

i tried :)

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does anybody know any sites i can legally download songs from, free?
greatly appreciated.

thank you.

bearshare.com

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