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I'm Johanna. I'll Come and Go. What can I say? I try.

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i have a real hard time with emotion because every time im "supposed" to be realy happy or sad i always have to fake it my parents have sent me to phyciatrists but that never helped because i could never talk while im there i mean i don't think i have a problem but for some reason everyone i've told thinks i do when josh rojhas died every one was pissed at me or acting like i was so weird because i didnt cry and i didn't even feel anything i was just wondering if theirs anything i could do so i wouldnt have to fake it thanx
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I don't think you have any problems at all. Everyone shows emotion in different ways. You don't sound like the type to start break out and crying right at school. Maybe you cry privately in your own room when your sad. Or if thats not the case, then maybe you just keep your feelings boxed up inside. There's nothing wrong with you, its just the way your are and you need to tell people to accept it. Do you write poems/ stuff in journals? If so, then that is your way of expression through writing. There are so many types of expressing emotions and you just have to realize what yours is.
I also think that you are looking for a deeper meaning in life. Kind of similar to how I feel. If you set goals for yourself and if you learn to appreciate everything in this world, even if its something as simple as something your parents tell you, you can just be happy knowing your alive. (I'm going with Mr. Rogers on that one lol)

♥ --Johanna

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My past relationship hurt me so bad, that all I want to do know is be cool with everyone. The only thing is a lot of boys want to go with me and I want to talk to them but everytime I think about the hurt that this last boy caused me that I don't want to go through it again. Can someone help me think of ways to get over it. Thank YOu

I know exactly how you feel. I don't really trust anyone anymore since none of my so called "realtionships" have really been so great....Well I'm not here to tell you about all my heartbreak tragedies. I'm here to help you. I think that you are right about needing sometime to just chill and take a break from relationship stress. I know you feel flattered that many guys want to go out with you, but that shouldn't make a difference. You need some time to just relax and have some "me" time. You can get to know these boys better, but try to look for friends rather than boyfriends. When you feel ready to date again, then go ahead. Just follow your instinct and you will know.

&hearts
-Johanna

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Ashlee taken care of. When you see this kind of thing by all means file abuse report.

We are having a zero tolerence attitude! Thanks for bringing it to our attention. :)

YG

:) glad she was taken care of. Thanks :)

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I've been researching cell phone plans for my brother and I.
I don't want to base my decision only on price but also on service.
So my question is what cell phone company has the best service?

I have a sprint PC because they have good signals and service, and you can get certain plans. My mom somehow got cell phone costs free for a month for my cell hpone because it was part of a plan. Hope I helped!

~Johanna

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Hey Johanna! I have a question on a kid at my skool. He is about to ask this girl out, but everybody hates him. He's real full of himself... What do I do?

Well, just give him a chance. I know everyone thinks hes a real snob right now, but sometimes you just have to wait and see what happens, you know? Sometimes people change too. If you're in Middle School of Junior High, alot of people can seem real stuck up around that age, but when you get older, Some people change. I think that the girl who he is asking out, should decide for herself whether she wants to go out with him or not. She should give him a chance, and then if things don't work out, well thats just the way it is. So if everyone is trying to discourage this girl and tell her not to go out with him, just tell her, Not to listen to what other people say, Do what she thinks is right.

I hope I helped.
~Johanna

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my friend bought liquer at school and now shes suspended for i dont even konw how long because they keep changing the amount of time but the thing is she told me that she was ganna do it and i didnt say any thing to her about it and i fell like i could have prevented it and whenshe gets back what if she tells me that she is going to do it agian what should i say if she tells me?

Its not your fault and i doubt you could of prevented it. She chose to drink it and no matter what you can or could of said to hear, shes still going to drink it. You can talk to her about it and tell her all the bad things like too much alcholhol could stunt her growth, and she could even get fined for it! Tell her if you two are friends, then she has to listen to you. But thats her choice whether she wants to do it again, not yours. You have to let her decide on her own.

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I Really like this kid and I've never met him but Im ganna maby meet him next week at a movie with my friends and he is in 8th grade and my dad dosent want me to date till im like 15 or sumthing and i cant tell mey dad im ganna go meet some one from online but i'm really confused cus idk if it is him that i love or what he loves we have sooo much in commen like we both love the same movie and the same kind of muisc and the same actress and I don't know what should i do?

Well its never a good idea to lie to your parents. My parents are like that about dating too, but parents have their way of knowing things...I sugguest talking to your dad or mom about when you are allowed to date and all of that great stuff...It could be really bad to meet someone from online but since you're going with friends it may be okay. If you really do decide to go, (because its up to you) then make sure you have alot of other people there with you. Never go to meet someone alone. It's a really tough decision and I can't make it for you, but do whatever you feel is best.

~Johanna

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my friends' mother isn't the nicest person in the world, she's verbally abusive and just slapped her across the face..now my friend is considering running away and i think she's overreacting..but i really don't know. is she overreacting? what should i say to convince her to stay? ..or what?

She's definitely not overreacting. You should just talk to her. be open minded and willing to listen to her. She needs someone to talk to righ now so you need to be her shoulder to lean on. If her mom physically hurts her again, you need to get help for her.

Check out this website for help:

http://www.childhelpusa.org/programs_hotline.htm

~Johanna

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Okay.... I have a big question and I dont know what to do.. sooo.. Okay. My mom has this problem that she wont let me date anyone thats 16 and older. I am 14 right now. I was melested when I was 12 by my brothers friend who was 18 at the time. So my mom is paranoid about me having older boyfriends. I think she needs to get through her mind that not ALL guys are the same. She thinks that older guys are more "experienced". So there is this guy. I told my mom alooot about him and I told her that he was a sophmore and he was 15. But then I found out that he was 16!! And like an idiot I told my mom. Now... I like him sooooo much!!!!!!!! He wants to ask me out. What should I say? I like him alot but the thing is is that Ill have to keep it a secret from my mom.

He sounds nice and he could be okay...but you never know about these kinds of guys. I think its okay to have a boyfriend whose like a year older than you. But alot of tims boys do try to date younger girls since they are 'less experienced" and would do whatever the guy told them too. Alot of girls feel "cooler" going out with an older guy which is why guys prefer younger girls rather than older girls or girls their age. But there are those rare older boys who are genuinely good people. I think you should talk to your mom. Tell her that you are fourteen, youre older than when you got molested, and youre wiser. This 16 year old boy you like is NOT the kid who molested you, hes a whole different person and he desserves a chance. Ask your mom if you can hang out with him in a group of friends and then see how he acts with you and I think you are old enough to tell whats right from wrong from there. :)

~Johanna

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ok what is the best kind of pet for a starting out couple who just moved in together and are planning on getting married? my fiance works days and i do too. we get home typically him at 5 me at 3. and we leave in the mornings at like 6. we both love all kinds of animals, and want to get a pet to share our lives with since we are not ready for kids yet. what kind of pet would be the best pet to get. we are not allergic to anything and if you are just going to say "cat" or "dog" please specify a breed and why so that we can be educated about it before we make our desicion. thank you so much and i promise to rate every answer i get!

Definitely go with a cat. Dogs are like babies, they require too much care and too many walks. Cats however, mind their own business and go off to be isolated in their own special place. I have three Tiger-stripe shorthair cats and one shorthair calico. There are long haired cats (longer fur) and short haired cats so if you think you can deal with the shedding of cats, keeping their litterboxes clean, feeding it, and taking it to the vet for check ups, then a cat is right for you. You might also want to buy a few cat books or google Cat care or Cat breeds for some more information.

I sugguest you adopt an older, more laid back cat since kittens are VERY hard to care for and you need ALOT of time to take care of a kitten. Try your local animal shelters or check out this website:

http://www.petadoptionnetwork.org/

And to be Sure that a cat is right for you, check out this website:

http://www.pethealthcare.co.uk/cats/findperfectcat/fpc_home.asp

and take this quiz:

http://www.pethealthcare.co.uk/cats/findperfectcat/fpc_questionnaire.asp

I hope I helped, If you have any further questions, drop them in my inbox! :)

~Johanna



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so any ways, i have this friend that i use to like, and he nos it. well i dont like him any more, but i piss him off really bad. what should i do?

Why do you piss him off really bad? If you're friends, you shouldn't TRY to make him mad. If he is just pissed because he knows you used to like him, then thats his problem. If he cant accept that the past is the past, then hes not a good friend. Just try to act like normal friends and if things don't work out, then you'll just have to remember that you can't be friends with anyone.

If you have any further questions, please drop one in my inbox. Hope I helped!

~Johanna

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Is it bad to like people shorter than you?

i like this guy, but im like at least a head and a half taller than him...we're like bffs and i dunno...would it be akward to date someone shorter than me? im 5' 5" and im only 12. hes like a month younger and like i said about a head and half shorter.

please tell me what you think! i will rate high if u at least try to answer!

Oh hi "anonymous." (lol) Well, who cares if he's shorter than you, if you really like him, looks shouldnt matter. Theres a kid who likes me whos a year older than me who is about six feet tall and I wonder how he could like someone so short, but then i realize, you shouldn't dislike someone for being short. It would be like disliking someone for having black hair. If you like him thats all that matters. Send him some signals but don't go all crazy-flirty on him because I happen to know hes a real laid back guy.

~Johanna

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my friend lost his phone last night at the homecoming dance and we couldnt find it... somebody answered at one point and then hung up...i called last night and this mornin and somebody ahd obviously turned it off... we checked with a lot of people last night, like all the chaperones or whatever... but no one had found it... is there anyway to find out where it is, or how to get it back?? please help! i really want to find it for him!! thanks

It depends how new the phone is. if it has a GPA tracking device, which most newer cell phones have, then you can call up the company and they might be able to locate it. If they can't, he'll probably have to de-activate the phone.

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can i please have a list on winter sports please. like options for me to play at my school..

7th grader, girl

xox

Basketball, Hockey, Ski and Snowboarding, Iceskating (your school probably wont have it) and any other indoor sports. You can probably go to your gym teachers or school guidance office to find out the ones offered at your school.

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ok so I'm like obsessed with this movie and my friends are all supertive and i tlk about it in skool and stuff but i get home and start talking about it to my sister and brother and stuff and they het really anoyed so i watch it and then they tell me to turn it off and if i don't they tell my dad and he threatens to take it away so i ahve to turn it off so then i go up stairs and try to watch it but they kik me out of ther to but i really wanna watch it and i like need to what should i do?

I completely understand, because I'm obsessed with any movie Johnny Depp is in. But just think of it this way, If you watch the movie way too much, you will get bored of it eventually. I'm sure theres other things you can talk about, with your friends and your family. Also, you should try to focus on your schoolwork and homework. But don't worry, coming from a person who is totally obsessed with things herself, its okay to be a little obsessed. :)

~Johanna

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I was using my other phone line and I wanted to pretend I was calling someone. So i thought i dialed the same number as that line i did that about 4 times and hung up. I know it was stupid. The person called back I apologized and explained I dialed the wrong number. I am scared will they be able to find me?

They could if they went to the police but it was no big deal and since you talked to them and said you were sorry, they know that you just made a mistake.They would have to be crazy to go to the police for something that small. Don't worry about it, you apologized and promised not to do it again. I called a random person at two o clock in the morning once and they called back but nothing happened, even though I was worried for a week that they would track them down. You made an honest mistake and you admitted to it, so don't worry about it. The person who got called has moved on, and so should you.

:)Love,
Johanna

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ok so i've known this kid keith for like a year or something, we never really thought of each other as more than friends but thats all changed now. ever since i met him i've heard about him hooking up with a bunch of my friends. after me & keith started talking more he started to tell me he liked me and stuff, and i always gave him a hard time saying that i was only gunna b another girl he made out with , so i didnt talk to him for months, i just started talking to him again and he tells me he changed and hes not like that anymoree...and explains a bunch of reasons why he has changed and why he wanted too. i believe him. i really do. and then me & him went to the movies and made out and all that good stuff.. NOTHING ELSE. well a couple days later one of my friends..we'll call her kim..well kim i guess had a 'thing' with keith as she explained. and as her friend...lets call her kenzee explained. well i called keith and he tells me that kim totally bitched him out and i told him she bitched me out too. and i ask him if he had a 'thing' with kim and he told me sorta, well he admits to me that he likes her but he tells me he likes me too. keith and kim both got into a fight because of me and kim tells me that i ruined everything and that i go around bragging about kissing 'gorgeous' keith in her words. which i didnt. so, about two days later after that (me&keith are still talking) keith leaves me a message while im at cheerleading practice saying in exact words..this: "hey *****, whats up..well i just called to say hi...and whats up..well ill talk to you later oh and me and kim are 'really' cool now. well talk to you later bye hun love you." so i totally freaked out with jealously of course..well who wouldnt? and i called him and i guess he just got off the phone with kim..well yeah im soo jealous its unbelievable im scared hes just using me as like a back up or something like that or he just wants two girls..i dont know well can someone give me advice on what i can do? please thankss...i'll rate.

Wow, he sounds exactly like this kid I went out with who was a year older than me. Boys like that just can't be tamed. They are never satisfied and they are always moving from one girl to the next. The kinds of girls who would go out with these kind of guys are girls with little self respect and well, sometimes they are just the sluttiest girls in school. They move along quickly from guy to guy and its just like this big screwed up rotation thing.

You don't want to become one of these girls who goes out with a boy when they already know he has like four other girlfriends. I've tried, it and its not worth it. You sound like a respectable girl so I would just say goodbye to this keith kid. If he hurts you emotionally like that, what good is it to be with him? You need to move on and just ignore him if he calls again. Don't call him back, don't instant message him. He doesn't desserve you, but there are alot more decent guys out there.

~Johanna

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Okay I really need help with this. In 7th grade, I always felt so alive. Then when I was in 8th grade, I still did but my energy/ fun and being active,hyper,outgoing started to decrease but it was still there. Now I'm in 9th and I just don't feel like I used too. I want to go back to my old self but everytime I try I just feel out of place. I want to feel more confident like I used too. I just don't know what to do and it is hard to explain. But I want to know if anyone has been in this situation and how they changed or if anyone has any advice? Thanks!

Well, let me tell you soemthin about 7th and 8th grade. They are the WILD years! Everyones hormones are screwed up and everyones emotions are like rollercoasters. Once you get to 9th grade, you may wind down and become more serious about things as your hormones balance out. You might be stresses about schoolwork or boyfriends and what not but just hang out with your friends and you should have fun. :)

-Johanna

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i got this shirt and it says "better forget it cause you'll never get it" ..is that a bad shirt, would people think im wierd?

I don't think it would be "bad" to wear. It's kind of funny & cute. Believe me! There are WAY worse shirts than that! Like girls at my school wear shirts that say "I shake it like a hoochie" and "Blondes do it better."

So if you like the shirt, Wear it. Who cares what other people think anyways.

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hi im 13 yrs old and i just started my period i have no one to talk to and i am running out of the supplies i got at 'the talk' i dont have a mom or any sisters or brothers .. just a dad...... how do i bring up this subject with a guy?

You could try making it really simple by saying, "Dad, I have to pick up some stuff at the store." Bur I know how you feel because I'm just plain embaressed to talk to anyone about that kind of stuff.

As for someone to talk to, maybe you can talk to a friend, or a friends mom? Even lady teachers can be easier to talk to that about rather than a guy. If you feel SO uncomfortable asking your dad to take you to the store, maybe you could go with a friend and it would feel less awkward.

Hope I helped!
~Johanna

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